sidjameson

I'm in my early 50s. Physically healthy, exercise, eat healthy, don't smoke, very moderate drinker.

Yet I would say my libido has decreased around 70% or even 80% since my peak. Explicitly I ejaculate 75% less in a week than I once did. This has been a slow continual trend. Almost a smooth line downwards from mid twenties to now.

I don't lose erections. I just have much less in the tank so to speak.

One other thing. These days the nerve endings just don't seem to work so well. That's everywhere really. I used to feel more pleasure down below. But also boiling water can splash on my hand while cooking and I barely notice it. I once would scream like a baby. Lol 

If other members have been thru the same and have found some way to turn back time I'd love to know.

Personal experience with any herbal supplements?

Anyone older experienced this and has seen it plateau on a bottom? I worry that if I extrapolate into the future I will be a desert by the time I am 60!

28 minutes ago, Jingthing said:

 

 

From my POV Cambodia is too "wild west" for my taste and I think it's still not advanced enough in health care. Of course their retirement visa process is indeed wonderfully easy and cheap compared to Thailand. 

 

As far as need for hot weather, well, I don't need it. I do hate very cold weather but my ideal is one of those "year long spring" climates such as in the Paisa region (Medellin but I've rejected that as too bubbly and high crime / Coffee axis cities (Armenia, Pereira, Manizales) / Bucaramanga areas of Colombia and the central colonial cities of Mexico such as  (especially) Queretaro, Guadalajara, and Guanajuato. 

 

 

A priority for me is never needing a car or bike. That makes cities like Porto and Lisbon with excellent public transportation attractive. 

 

Another downside is psychological. It's a little embarrassing and irrational but I find the sound of European Portuguese to be unpleasant. 

 

 

 

 

I am in complete agreement with your comments. Therefore hope you don't mind saying where in Thailand you find more suitable? Especially living without car and bike.

12 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Gaining wisdom is a positive change. Words can have the power of missiles. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. Just as sometimes the entire truth is not required. 

Sometimes you prefer to not know the whole truth?

22 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Getting towards retirement age have been contemplating retiring to Thailand for the past 25 years .

 

Now I'm re considering.

A number of things have happened since to make me think again.

 

But before I get onto that I saw another post which again put it in my thoughts 

The poster wrote similar to "saw bored lonely old farsang men sitting outside chunky monkey Bar "

 

Which made me think ...are these farangs any happier now they made their move to Thailand / Pattaya?

 

I'm working full time at the moment in Australia..I live in my own apartment alone in City close to everything ...have no family. Have 2 good friends only have a secure job which I worked for last 30 years ...

 

So I start dreaming over the last few years if I moved to Pattaya how wonderful it will be .....but in reality ...

 

I will rent a 1 bedroom condo

I don't drink or smoke 

I guess every morning go to gym...

The rest of the day I guess chase bar girls 

 

Chasing bar girls is like saying going to the supermarket and chasing apples. 

51 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I've never found their previous occupation made any difference to their lack of morals, honour, loyalty or gratitude.

But at least the (ex?) hookers didn't refuse me sex.

On the other hand the liberal application of alcohol and cannabis helps me forget my anger and disappointment.

Maybe you should give it a go ...........

Have you ever thought that finding a woman who is as lovely and virtuous as your daughter (absolutely no sarcasm intended) might be a better way to go?

35 minutes ago, Dazinoz said:

Drink booze. Never have and never will try drugs (maybe I should). And it was an ex hooker that had my kid. 

Is there ever such a thing as an ex hooker?

9 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

I agree to some extent. However, if I had alot more money, I would likely live two to three months a year on the Southern coast of Turkey, a few months of the year in Spain, a month or so in the US, travel around a bit, and then spend two to three months a year here. 

Remove the US and thru Airbnb that life can be had very nice!y for US20k a year all in.

On 06/03/2019 at 6:38 PM, A1Str8 said:

All this never try to take the bar out of the girl is nonsense. I have seen many, i mean many, that were eager to leave with a man like you(based on your description), nice looking, well dressed, etc and never look back.

The girlfriend of hers phoned her immediately when you showed up and she wasnt there, because Kate obviously told her friend, that wow, i really like this guy. Thats why they gave her the intel right away, your guy is here. If she wasnt into you, that would have never happened. You gotta watch the subtle signs, which they think you dont notice.
Of course, do not by any means trust her and think that oh yeah, she loves me. But you already know that. But if you like her and she clearly likes you, why not see where it goes. You just have to get clear with yourself from the beginning: you wont make fool moves! as in no money to her family, no moving to isaan, nothing goes under her name, not giving her large amounts of money, not believing everything she says and not letting her control any aspect of your life.
Here is how their brain works: if he is nice with me i am nice with him. if he gives me some money, i will be still forced to go with other guys. if he gives me more dough, then i wont have to. i can stop being a bar girl. if he leaves me, i will go back to the bar. if he cheats on me, i will take revenge. Pretty simple.
All you have to do is clearly let her know by your actions and words the next time you meet her, that you are not one of these clowns that she can take advantage of. Have fun with her, get to know her  but keep a keen eye on her. Never mind what she says. By their actions you shall know them.
And who cares if she is a slut. Every girl is, i know from experience. They just wont say it ,like these girls do. And what would you do if you were in their shoes? You either work at 7-11 and never make ends meet or use the only asset you were given and go with guys.
Its actually quite easy to see, whether she is the type of bar girl, that would leave this job behind, the moment she gets a chance or the one that has no aspirations and is totally hopeless. Watch her behaviour. How does she conduct herself? Watch the things she does for others. Is she a shrewd little thing or a pleasant one to be around? Does she do drugs? A lot of them do. If yes, run. She wont quit. Its actually so simple to read people, especially women, because they are more emotional by design. Which is easy to read. 

Though a fair bit of truth in this post. Question is, why would you possibly choose a bar girl to have a relationship with? You're in Thailand <deleted>. Young guys can find a girl who is at least a slightly better bet within a day or two. 

Why back Burnley to win the premier League when you can back Man city? 

I'm in the UK and mulling over a permanent move to Bangkok.

The air quality is a big issue for me.

I really don't know much, but have the idea air purifiers work for ones apartment and N95 masks work outside.

Absurd proposition for living I know!

So how much would keeping a 30m2 apartment cost upfront and running?

Are there reusable masks and what do they end up costing in the long run?

I don't need perfection but want to feel I'm not inviting an old age needing a ventilator.

Thanks for the replies.

This isn't a scam to get money from me. I'm sure of that. ( Caveat that nobody can be sure of anything )

Gf owed the money before she met me. It's 330,000bht and it's on top of other loans. 

She knows I won't bail her out.

She owed the money long time already. It was verbal, year ago she signed paper to say she owed it. Paper gives impression it's interest free now but will turn into interest if not paid.

She won't dump me, I know that.

She was awful with money before I met her. But has been very responsible for the last 5 years. But the past is overwhelming her.

She wants to pay it back. 

7 hours ago, Thaifly88 said:

Transferwise borderless account is the way to go. You can keep multiple currencies for any amount you want. Send your British Pounds or Euro’s to Transferwise and then do conversions within the app to the currencies you require. When you want to use the money you then need to transfer it to a bank in Thailand (or wherever). 
You can keep any amount of money in Transferwise, large or small. 

And any charges for transfer bht from TW borderless account into Thai Bank? From either TW or the Thai Bank?

3 hours ago, SS1 said:

 

+1 for TransferWise Borderless. Perfect solution to OP's problem and actually a brilliant service. You can also get a debit card for it if you've got a residential address in one of the supported countries. You can hold multiple currencies and transfer funds to Thailand when needed at excellent rates. You can also transfer money easily from Thailand to your borderless account if needed, using the K-bank app. 

Is there anyway to avoid the Thai Bank extortionate ATM fee with this account?

Ask him how much he pays in rent (or would if he was renting not owning the house he lives in.

Half that amount. Add what he spends a month where he is to that total.

Add a few 1000 bht a month for health insurance costs.

That total will give him a good idea of what Bangkok will cost to live his idea of a comfortable life.

On 11/17/2020 at 1:39 PM, bwpage3 said:

When I first visited Thailand in 1984, I thought it was heaven.

 

Fast forward to 2020, it is hard to believe how far downhill Thailand has gone.

 

It is money or nothing. All about the money

Seriously, since 1984, which has gone further downhill, Thailand or you?

You came here young and you found Thais treated you well.

You are now over 50 and find Thais aren't interested all that much in you except for your wallet.

That happens all over the world and in any decade.

58 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

 

Well, here I are, relaxed and content, sound mind amongst the village people, money in the bank and investments to keep me going till my heart stops, I mean how much is enough, I retired at 55 and can honestly say earning a 6 figure salary didn't make me happy, what makes me happy is knowing I don't have to work another day in my life, not that I have millions in the bank or investments.

 

The sound of a beachfront house on a Thai island sounds nice, but out of my league, I will keep doing the hotel thing until I get rich in my next life ????

 

But you are rich. You have the things money can buy. Status as one of the wealthiest in the village. Security that you can afford health care. Knowledge your money won't run out. A sexual partner I presume that you wouldn't have if you didn't have money. And comfort without any of life's hassles.

You're effectively saying, "yes, I'm in the rope 5% of the global rich, hmm probably the top 2% and it brings me happiness" doesn't sound that far away from what Thaibeachlovers is saying.

9 hours ago, BritManToo said:

You may be descended from monkeys, but I'm descended from super intelligent aliens that crash landed on the earth thousands of years ago.

Are you a golgafrinchim? I wouldn't call them advanced.

20 minutes ago, Pedrogaz said:

, we cannot, and should not open the borders as inconvenient as quarantine is.

 

Funniest thing I've read in a while. .....You really think it's "we" and not "they"????

16 hours ago, possum1931 said:

Bad for business?? What about public service? No one expects any company to operate on a loss, but they could cut their enormous profits a bit.

Which insurance company? I will buy their stock.

1 hour ago, ThailandRyan said:

Lumpini has a trailer parked which shows the AQI PM 2.5 readings.  When I jogged this evening it showed 15, I just finished and  I live about .25km away from the Park and my Pm 2.5 meter reads 5 right now outside.  Of course in the house with the air purifier running its at 1. 

Thanks for that.

May I ask, how much is the air purifier? Clean air in the apartment all year would tempt me to live in bk fulltime.

Is it expensive to run?

8 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Who are you talking to?

I lived in a marvellous hotel with AC, fan, hot water shower, cable tv, weekly clean and linen change all for 15,000 a month, and food needn't cost more than 5,000 a month to eat well.

 

If anyone can't afford 20,000 a month to live on they probably can't afford to live in LOS.

Do you mind saying where that hotel was?

Anybody have some good data?

I love jogging there, but I know how bad exercise is if the air is bad.

I'd like to think Lumpini has its own micro climate, but I fear I'm wishful thinking.

21 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Smaller portions are good for your health.

Just think about all the future hospital bills you'll be saving by losing that extra weight.

 

Most of my money is spent on

the house, my mortgage has gone down over the last 8 years, although I still pay the same 11k/month.

the woman, that's been 10k/month for the past 10 years (different women, same price).

my daughter school and university .... that expense goes next year ..... big saving.

Can't say I've ever spent much from my budget on food, it's such a trivial expense.

On ignore for your next post that has nothing to do with Thailand or this discussion.

Fantastic budgeting. 

Do you think if you were to try and get something acceptable for your bed in 2020 you could find something new for 10k?