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7 minutes ago, thequietman said:Very set in their ways, so get upset when you disagree with their point of view.
Walking on egg shells when I visit, which is not often. ????
YES...Absolutely. And if you try and discuss things you like to do and they never did it, they seem offended and take the stance you are just bragging when the intent is to see what the person likes to do or has done. Its a weird dynamic. What you hope to say is "Hey I used to Jet Ski in the states and they go "Yeah I did too". Then you might connect and plan a weekend out on an island and rent wave runners and play around while the wives or GF's call us crazy foreigners. ????
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I think one of the challenges (at least for me) is finding the "balance" I had in the states. What I mean by that is I had friends and buddies ages 30 to 55 or so. So we would go do various activities or get togethers whether a sports game, camping, motorcycle riding, boating, weekends to Vegas, motors sports events or just big house parties etc. The discussions topics were all over the place which made it refreshing and fun.
Here the vast majority of foreigners are old, many have ailments which limits their capabilities to do things, many are whiners and complain leading to discussions that are extremely boring. Others I have met in various business venues have typically been drunken loud mouths after a few beers. When it comes to younger Thai people I associate with at work, they have very very limited interests and honestly do not have disposable income to go off and do different things that I grew up doing and still like to do. So establishing that "Balance", if you will, is extremely difficult. Plus if you toss in that many people you meet here are from other countries you find quickly you have absolutely zero in common with them and you just can't relate to what they did in their home country.
I frequently tell other expats that say they want to move abroad for a job like I am doing. It is a key point one should consider, especially if you are social, hobby driven, active type. At this time I find I do most of my stuff alone and do enjoy it. You make it what it is. My wife is very supportive and has enjoyed trying some and now likes many.
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Honestly, I do not feel either emotion (Positive or Negative) reading TVF. Its just content. Now I do not read the news sections as I do not typically follow any news anywhere. Its all garbage IMHO.
That said, I find TVF a reasonably good information source when you are looking for something specific or want to join in on some occasional banter in a few threads.
Short of that, I am too busy to sit around reading forum material. Much better things to do quite frankly.
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To the OP, Nowadays honestly it really boils down to personal preference, all these trucks are made well and tend to last a long time. There are loyalist to brands and rightfully so.
I think items to consider are;
- Service reviews of the dealership in your local area.
- Ergonomics in the cab (This is what differentiates most nowadays)
- Comfort and features.
- Exterior styling is personal preference so get what you like.
As for me, early on I was a Chevrolet loyalist in the states, owned quite a few. However their quality took a nose dive and I wanted a reliable smaller truck and switched to the Toyota Tacoma and never went back. Moving here full time for work I purchased a Toyota Hilux and have not been disappointed at all. Now in fairness I always modify my vehicles and having a Toyota makes it that much easier. Aftermarket parts are abundant.
Good Luck
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45 minutes ago, Robert Tyrrell said:
There are MANY !! Nice and affordable locations in Thailand ELSEWHERE!! COMMON SENSE PEOPLE COMMON SENSE !!
Yep and that is always the issue. Many lack common sense and did a move on a whim.
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1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:
I never noticed an increase in "riff raff" over my many, many years visiting and living in LOS. Just who are those "riff raff"?
Just the sheer number of tourists would increase the problems. As I travel around Thailand frequently and take in dinners with visiting colleagues on business I am seeing more drunks, hearing more loud and rude foreigners from of all walks of life. Chinese tourists have taken over many locations and have little regard for basic common etiquette and smoke, spit, blow snot out of their nose and over run places thinking they own the place.
As for Pattaya specifically, that area is what it is and because of it, it makes a lot of the news with foreigners doing stupid stuff ( stabbings, robberies, attacks, suicide, motorcycle accidents, drunk fights, scams, homelessness etc.) Just go pull up a bar chair and watch what walks, staggers on by on any given evening. Its free interesting entertainment that's for sure. As I have said before unfortunately its those behaviors that paint a picture that all foreigners are out of control which probably started the push to weed out foreigners by simply being diligent and enforcing the old laws that were being overlooked.
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5 hours ago, starky said:
How is it Thailand's fault that the baht is strong? Or their fault all these blokes expect eke out a living on their subsistence wage. And why would anyone live somewhere they can't afford to live or even support their family. Maybe you should boot off if you can't raise a lousy 400000 a year! Jesus that's embarrassing. And did so many really think that exchange rates never change and you would be able to live here supporting a family forever on a few thousand a year? What a ridiculous concept. Well actually you can if you live like a Thai in a shack in the jungle and eat sticky rice and som Tam with you missus you could probably stay here forever. Good luck!
To your point (which I agree with mind you), It all boils down to planning. I would suspect that many moved here on a whim with little money back in a time that things were a lot less stringent and the baht was weak so their money worked for them. But as noted, times change. You couple that with the increased riff raff that washes up here I do not blame the Thai govt for putting stakes in the ground and start enforcing rules. Is it uncomfortable....Sure. I left the states as I was tired of being over governed for everything. Here the requirements are minimal. For the folks that moved way out in rural Thailand that have to travel far to check in that again all goes back to long term planning. Location is everything.
For me, living here has been great and I have been here for quite a few years. Its not perfect but its easy.
To the OP, while I drop by TVF from time to time honestly the best approach is use it as a tool for things you need help with then go on about your day. If you make this or any other forum your daily entertainment you will quickly find that most people typically use forums to voice grievances and like to deflect issues to everyone else but themselves for the choices they made. Plus I have also noticed that the majority of the posters that complain are later on in years. so its the "Bitch because I am bored" program.
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51 minutes ago, Pilotman said:
Not really a tough crowd, just a few bitter old men, who have made lots of wrong decisions in their lives and wouldn't be happy anywhere. Leave them to stew in their own unhappiness. A small part of the reason for posting this morning was to hack them off.
Well that too. Ones outlook on life is clearly based on ones choices. The usual suspects always chime in. ????
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And off we go.....
Nice post Pilotman. Enjoy. Tough crowd on TVF. Positive threads on this site don't go over to well.
I got up, took a walk on beach. Stopped for a Iced green tea. Working on Motorcycle today. Later nice dinner with my wife then some NCAAF football,
Life is good.
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1 hour ago, holy cow cm said:All this article is coming from is the recent story of a pretty in the Thai news who was drugged.
Absolutely right. Most of those "Pretties" walking around work a simple job during the day and then Freelance at night. They want the money to buy high end products and post on FB so their friends will envy them. They never say what they did to get it all.
Its how it all works here.
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15 hours ago, mickey rat said:
Perhaps you think she had it coming?
Not all. In fact its sad but as I said, private parties, hired talent, drugs, alcohol and whatever else. I am just saying that I am not surprised.
Again while we can only go by the news reported, I seriously doubt based on the fact she took money to be an escort talent hostess does not line with the comments that she didn't drink or do drugs. However there are many naive young Thai girls here that will do anything for the latest Apple phone, a nice purse so they can post on their FB page "Look at me now".
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Come on. This type of private party activity happens all the time here. While I can only speak hypothetically based on the story posted, she clearly was hired as an escort type for the party. Something went wrong as many of them do and that's that. Drugs, alcohol and private parties...
Sad outcome for the gal for sure but good luck getting it all figured out. The fact that the Thai people are gripped by it is honestly surprising.
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I have to say, there are some threads that get started here that are just utterly odd.
Hopefully the OP can get it all figured it with the 8 pages of responses....????
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17 hours ago, NCC1701A said:i stay with people who have a younger mind set. i had to tell a lifelong friend to stop with the old folks jokes because they don't apply to me.
i am 64 and go dancing in clubs in Bangkok and all my girlfriends are half my age and that really helps.
motorcycle trip all over Thailand coming up oct, nov dec.
if you don't like my illusion or delusion please keep it to yourself.
I live with the same mindset for the most part. I have a very nice mixed balance of friends with varying ages 30 to 55 but no one older then me. I found that the expat guys I met or know my age or older seem to have various limitations both physically and mentally. Plus most I have zero in common with. I find that many foreigners here live remote and become removed and secluded and then do very little activity wise. In general I think many of them show up on TVF and are the grumpy argumentative types.
Physically speaking we all "age" differently and the actual number does not matter. Its about ones states of mind, capabilities and willing to stay active on engage in new hobbies to replace the ones they can no longer do. While having younger Thai women might have input on some and how they feel, it has none on me, older or younger. I am a very active guy and find that one issue here is quite a few Thai folks do not have disposable income to take on hobbies. so they work and wait for the weekend to sleep. With the older expat, its not about disposable income, its about what they want to do, or not as the case may be. It is very difficult to meet like minded expats, thus I do not associate much with them.
Do not worry about aging. Live and do what you like. We all will die and that is the reality. Worrying about it or waiting on it is depressing (and a common mental state of mind many trap themselves into) and a waste of valuable time
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While this thread has headed off course like most do, the OP was an interesting read. Moving back because you have to is likely not enjoyable versus moving back on your own terms. I completely understand the children education aspect of expats that return back in hopes of offering a better educational path for their children.
The challenge with these threads are due to why we are all here. Clearly different reasons and why one came are not going to be the same as others.
For me, I think moving back to the states would be very challenging just based on the fact that I can be retired here comfortably where back in the states I'd have to be gainfully employed just to support basic housing costs. My wife would also have to go back to work because being retired here is far different then being retired in the states and she would lose her mind sitting in a small neighborhood with no land.
We do not have children and will not so we are not saddled with that decision of stay or go for them. While many have posted costs comparing various places, the bottom-line is where are you happy? I find that so many dive deep into a few issues and blow them far out of control but I respect that what I find noise others will find it to be a total deal breaker.
All I can say is while I visit the states once a year with my wife for a month or so, I have no desire to ever return. Sure some things are cheaper and better in the states but those usually come with other more significant costs. My wife and I have a nice home (owned and no property tax) in a nice area up northern Thailand, the few immigration changes are noise and in all my years here I have never had an issue with people or police. I have been living here in in both a retired state and employed state and both have been very enjoyable.
Again this all boils down to what one wants to fixate on. The half glass full/empty point of view. You make it what it is. I know all the working expats that I associate with love living here.
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4 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:
LOL. There must be dozens of threads about that very subject on TVF.
The number one rule of life is "EVERYTHING CHANGES" ( and usually when it's most inconvenient ).
IMO the real question isn't whether the government is anti farangs, but why they would be? If we can answer that, we can have a good stab at predicting the future for us.
I don't doubt that they are making it harder, and have been doing so for decades, not a few months.
While I don't think they are going to turf every farang out, I wouldn't be marrying a Thai, buying any property in LOS, nor would I be keeping all my money in a Thai bank.
Like the Boy Scouts say "be prepared".
Sums it up very well. Everything changes. If you are not adaptable then this will be problematic.
My take on it all is this. Do they want westerners/foreigners out...YES!!...but.....Only the riff raff that create loads of bad press, problems for the police and cannot viably sustain themselves. I do not blame them. When I lived in the states I was always bothered by immigrants that were in trouble with the law or freeloading. Why should Thai people not make changes to their system to do the same? Yes there will be some collateral damage where some that have lived close to the edge will be caught up in the clean up. No system change goes off perfectly.
But all of this BS people spew that Thais want westerners out is really nonsense IMHO. If you are aligned, meet the requirements you will have no issues.
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On 9/8/2019 at 5:39 PM, GinBoy2 said:This is a terrible thread, that expose some of the worst of the male species.
Maybe I'm just an idealist, but I married my wife for love, we weren't in Thailand at the time, and are roughly the same age, she's 6 years younger than me.
But the idea that you treat your 'wife' like you would a car, or a TV and when it gets too old you dump it for a new model, is in my mind is morally repugnant
I agree. I think its clear what has washed up here in Thailand. Many of these online personalities appear like they were not well socialized, could not meet women in their home country or struggle to have a meaningful relationship.
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On 9/8/2019 at 3:19 PM, bkk6060 said:
For me, 30 years younger is the minimum. More then that is better.
I do not know how you do it. Generally speaking the overall maturity of young Thai women is marginal at best. They typically have little, to No worldy experience or knowledge. are on their phones all the time, and can't hold a descent conversation. I'd lose my mind, be like raising a child.
Of course is you are 70 and she is 40 then maybe, but if you are 50 and she is 20.. Good Luck.
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10 minutes ago, 55Jay said:
I consider Toyota a quality brand. However, the brand new Toyota SUV we bought here, assembled in Rayong, Thailand, doesn't feel the same build and assembly quality as the ones we drive in the US, or even ones I've owned in the Middle East. So, it's a Toyota, but it's not quite up to snuff, IMO
I absolutely concur 55jay but I do not think its from a lack of product quality. Its based on numerous additional safety compliance mandates from the US DOT and different consumer requirements. I had a Toyota Tacoma 4x4 in the US before I moved here. I bought a new Toyota Revo as soon as I arrived. I did some research and found that the Tacoma weighed 500 +lbs more. So I asked a friend to look at things. What I found was that the US consumer demands a car be very quiet in the cab. Thus they add lots of sound deadening under the hood, headliner, along the firewall, under the carpet and in the doors. It was a fun webcam call with my friend as we compared real time. The point is that all the sound deadening material gives a much more "sound" feel when driving because it so much more quiet. I know in my Hilux Revo I hear a lot more road noise making it feel like it is cheaper.
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3 hours ago, LivinLOS said:
This is one of the things that gradually has worn on me over the years, to the point where I really debate the overall quality of life aspects.
Interesting that ones quality of life would be driven by the things they can buy. Not a bad thing, just funny to read. But I get it ????
But to the OPs point, It can be a challenge to find items we want to the level of quality we expect that we grew accustomed to from where ever lived previously. I have on numerous occasions had to buy a few things and just laughed how poor the quality was or is. I have never purchased clothing in Thailand as I learned a long time back, it is poor cotton quality, cut wrong. Same with bedding and bathing towels. I typically made trips to the US for business and always brought back suitcases with items.
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1 hour ago, kenk24 said:Yes. I think you are spot on... the people who do not have visa or GF or culture problems do not tend to post...
Its people like us Kenk24 that respond to help to offer another POV. I really have zero issues living here and have not since my arrival. I have maybe started 3 posts in all my years on TVF and most I think were in the Motorcycle section.
I usually try and contribute and give a different perspective. I do not care for the behavior of the people who post all the negative stuff in the news webfact stuff looking for likes. Its silly. They should post the news and they be locked from comments IMHO
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1 hour ago, Berkshire said:
I'm not sure you get my meaning. Sure most of these poor Thai girls believe that they would have a better opportunity to improve their financial situation in the USA. But many of them don't think they can compete with American females on the attractiveness side. How many times have Thai women told you that "farang women are so beautiful?" It's because they watch a few American movies and think that all American women look like that. Obviously they've never been to a Walmart. If they only knew that these gorgeous American women they see in the movies are a tiny minority.
OH Yeah, I absolutely agree. Its funny currently (At least in California) that many men only want to date pretty Asian women, (Vietnamese, Filipinos, Chinese etc) and the western women hate it, just like they do here when they walk around. The difference in the states is these Asian women are super picky, have extremely high expectations. A business colleague friend of mine started using a dating website as he was just to busy to get out and meet someone. It was one of the expensive dating sites. The women put down very specific age range, expected the man to be fit, some even specified education and minimum salary. I just laughed.....
A company I worked at years ago there was a large number of guys that had Asian mail order brides and it was quite a interesting site at the annual company Holiday party. Many were just like some expats here. There wives said little, some couldn't even speak English.
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38 minutes ago, Berkshire said:
You're probably right. Some of these young, attractive, but poor/uneducated Thai females would be a huge hit in the west. If they only knew....
Ohhh they know, they just can't get a VISA to get out. The consulate takes one look at their assets, job and education and pull the plug.
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12 hours ago, BobbyL said:
This x100. It would be interesting to know how old the OP is, because if he is unfortunately a rough looking older guy than his options are all but limited to bar girls.
In my experience of nearly 6 years and friends of mine, if you're a youngish guy (25 - 35) with decent looks, confidence, charm and a good job (not your 30k TEFL boys) then you can pull in some fantastic Thai women.
I don't use the term 'hi - so' as I feel that is something that should be saved for the wealthiest few percent which are culturally and economically way above the normal Western man living here.
However, your normal middle class Thai woman with a good education, good family and good career prospects are there for the taking in Bangkok. I had a few before and then ultimately married one, but I am still envious of some of my single mates out there messing around with some absolute stunning women who are worlds apart from the bar girls in Khon Kaen or Chumpon.
I await the usual replies of, ''But all Thai women / women in general want your money.''
Well said. It all comes down to what one is looking for or wants to associate with. I see absolutely gorgeous women every day all the time in BKK. All business professionals. Dressed very well. Speak fluent English and are quite confident. I can say it sure beats what the western counterparts look like. And to your point they don't want or need your money. Most of them do very well for themselves and usually their parents are well off. In all my years here I have never met a woman that wanted me for money. When I first started dating a few they all had their own cars, condos and on numerous occasions would pay for dinner even after I insisted. Some know about the perception and they want to prove it not to be the case. My now wife was that way. Hell she wasn't even sure she wanted to date a foreigner. She said early on that when people see a westerner with a Thai women most generally assume it's about money or she is a hooker. To her point in most cases she is right. Many probably shy away from it due to that. Why subject yourself to the grief.
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Seven thousand Chinese go to Koh Larn: But what happened to Bali Hai port?
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Yes, that's the bait... the accommodations. The hook? Because while they took a hit on the accommodation margins they got it all back and then some overcharging for tours, food, entertainment, activities you name it. So while they may go back to China saying they got cheap rooms, they surely will not tell them how much it cost to go to that fake "floating market" on hiway 3 or the silly dolphin show or the big seafood buffets.