It’s gone! I’ve had a Thai friend want a sizeable sum for a venture too, I refused, she got the money from someone else, and you guessed it, 100% was instantly history! A German friend of mine sent his long term thai girlfriend money for a house. She continued to say she was doing house repairs so hadn’t moved in yet, thinking she would get more money. My friend arrived in Thailand. The girlfriend, said she would take him to the house after they had a holiday and did some travelling. Long story short, the truth came out, it had to, there was no house, she pocketed all the money! As people have said, if you can’t afford to lose the money, then do not lend it to anyone, especially a Thai woman! Once it’s given, it’s a gift! No paper trail, or contract, then no money back! But yes, good luck.