Mark1969

Any expats here who are not approached by Thai people much in daily life but still live in a densely populated area? Please post tips on how you behave, interact or not, etc. Things I can do if I just want to be left alone in peace. I can avoid foreigners most of the time with avoidance body language, but the cues don't seem to work with Thai's. I can't seem to get rid of Thai's "coming at me". I have tried various things, like no eye contact, just not responding, responding politely but superficially, not smiling, looking at the phone, etc but nothing seems to work particularly well consistently. Even tried some new age visualization aura shielding stuff. The best technique so far is staring at the phone and not responding, but I can't do that all the time. Trying to avoid people is actually making it worse...?? Sorry if the post seems a tad anti-social...

Befriend/Contact his friends on Facebook.

The only problem with that is the happiest and most content guys I have known in Thailand don't integrate at all. My old neighbor ate exclusively at expat places and never set foot in a local market. He hung out at expat places and befriended only other english speaking tourists mostly. It somehow shields them from the weirdness and energetic problems of the locals. Call it a longterm vacation mindset if you will. In fact, I envied my neighbor for his ability to maintain a back home attitude here and not need or want to integrate. He had a knack for keeping true to what he was. He only dated other foreigners also, not Thai's. He did not last long here though, eventually relocating back to the USA.

It's extremely rare for a foreigner to eat at those places, even though the food is perfectly healthy. I don't think I have ever seen another foreigner in there. 99% are too busy paying 150 baht for the fish & chips at cheap charlies bar.

I guess there are still virgins out there for me. I will let you know how it goes. Thanks for the support.

Most women I have access to have done it before. I don't get too many first timers.

Most people don't have emergency funds. They spend it all and don't downgrade in time. Probably nobody at Nirun has much of an emergency fund. Flybird, probably not at all. It's hand to mouth, scraping by. Big C Pattaya Klang food court stuff.

That's odd for him to hang around. If it were me and I saw another guy there I would just leave and work it out with the woman later on. Not stand around in the house, unless it was my condo. He could have been drunk though, you never know.

I can't wait to get out of here. Good luck.

Makes me wonder how the guy knew she was at home??? We were on the town, so how did he know to return to the room if she never answered the phone. I guess it could have been coincidence and he just tried the residence, but on a Saturday night most people would figure she was out somewhere.

If you are at someone else's residence it gives you an advantage because if anything happens you know where they live. There would be a passport on file with juristic, etc. If they are in your home and there is a ripoff or problem the visitor can simply skip out and disappear. I think most hookers would only goto a clients room and not use their own place. If it had happened at a short time room it probably would have been far more dangerous because everyone could just skip out (unless they required ID).

Where I'm from in the USA you can actually take people home you meet at bars without it becoming a crime scene. It's called a one night stand. What happened here is I forgot I was in Thailand for awhile and in a place with a lot of problems and vultures (Pattaya).

It was slider latched from the inside, so he can't enter. He had to be let in. Like I said before, it was initially left unlocked and I later latched it and locked it.

Yes it does. How do I get out if he is at the door? The only option is to refuse to open the door or open it, find out what he wants and try to get tid of him. Unfortunately, you have to open the door to do that.

I don't like going to cheap hotels though... They feel dirty. I also don't particularly like other people around when we are going in (go figure)...

I liked VT Residence 2 because it's low density and near the market and an easy walk to food and the beach. I opted for central pattaya however, since Jomtein was not enough for me to do an annual lease. VT7 is a great location for walkers. It's right on the beach. VT 5&2B are to far for walkers in my opinion long term. 2A is Ok. Map inspections don't really work for these places for some reason. It's looks like they are close, but when you get there the reality of a long boring walk out in the heat seems different somehow. I actually did the google streetview thing when getting airbnb's there and it looked great, but the reality was very different. The Jomtein Condotel just up the street was difficult. Long walks down beach road for food everyday. Could not wait to get out of there.

I have lived at those locations and the walk gets tiresome. I was also a mountain biker and avid rower so I'm not in a wheelchair. Anyone renting there needs to show up and walk out and ask themselves if they want to do that every day.

Pretty easy to do. Nirun for 10k and 800 baht a day spending money. Any emergencies and your f@cked though.

One interesting thing, is that I closed the sliding lock and locked the front door at some point later on which were left unlocked. I discovered this awhile after we got there. If they had been left open the guy would have just come in without warning and I would not have made it into the bathroom. It makes me wonder whether it was a setup with him coming in and stealing my wallet and phone while we were in the bedroom. I don't think so though. I did not get a bad vibe from the lady and she did not try to unlock it later on.

He was using her phone. It came through on her whatsapp. I was hoping my number was not displayed on there, but not sure. Blocked now. I did not have my face on the profile fortunately, so he does not really know what I look like (probably) around town since I exited pretty quickly. I also did not see his face, it was just a big body lunging on the other side of the room and someone falling. The thai lady yelled and ran to him when he fell and I just ran out.

It may have even been his condo. He kept knocking like he was entitled entry, not like she invited him in. The door had a slider latch so it needed to be opened from the inside. She also fumbled with the lock going in which is not normal when it's your condo.

He's trying, but the room is too small and he is drinking too much. The food is not the very best. Any advice?

That's true, but I still have needs.

The guy was a farang. An english speaking westerner. He also sent me messages using her phone after I left, saying don't come back, etc.

What lesson do you think is there? Only meet at my room? Only meet people who have no other men around?