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You seem to have gone completely off the rails again. Lashing out and abusive. The real @fredwiggy As to your explanation, in bold, the question on the other thread was: If you strip it back and answer without any fluff, would you honestly have ended up living in Thailand long term if you had zero interest in the women? Your answer: No. Always wanted to visit for culture, beaches, food, see a few temples, Kanchanaburi and the area history, hill tribes and a few other sites. You have a strange relationship with the truth. For you, it's the thing that you want people to believe about you...rather than the actual truth. You want to paint a pretty picture over the ugly truth.

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Why is it that you try to deflect with usernames all the time? Shouldn't you be backing up your statements with "facts and experience"? Please link to even a single post of mine that contains a lie or an exaggeration. I can link to a lie of yours, in seconds. No one is falling for anything with me. They have seen your behaviour for themselves. You are obviously used to bluffing and gaslighting. It's obvious that you cannot cope when challenged and so become abusive. I maintain that you are a fraud.

Where you the one on the phone with @fredwiggy ? 😊

Indeed I make educated guesses based on your behaviour over time. You lie, manipulate and gaslight in the hope of creating the image that you want people to see. Like your blatant lie in the other thread that you aren't in Thailand because of the women. The way that you wish to see yourself and the reality of what you are, do not match. Not even close.

Where have I stated that someone is "beneath my thinking"? Please link to the post. I'm guessing, like every other time that I have challenged you to provide proof, you'll deflect on to something else. It is true that no one here matters to me other than on a conversational basis. What would you expect? So you admit to having thoughts of me being inferior? 😊 That's a way of making yourself feel superior, isn't it? 😊 Almost every one of your posts is littered with abuse, for which you blame me 😊 That is what abusers do. They blame the victim for making them abuse them. Blaming external 'reasons' for their own bad behaviour. It's you who makes yourself out to be the victim in your every story. Tricky narcissist women against poor innocent fredwiggy 😊 You're a sick puppy, fred. Talking about deflection...how about an answer to my earlier question? What about the posters who agreed with my assertion that you don't acknowledge your own flaws?

Another of your mad rants that involves a lot of assumptions. You know, the thing that you say that you don't ever do. You lie and you gaslight. I just highlighted another of your blatant lies in another thread. See you there.

Nothing at all to do with the women for me initially. Arrived to get as far away from my 'crazy' girlfriend as I could. There was a sigh of relief, knowing that she couldn't afford a ticket. There were enough backpacking foreign girls around to keep me busy.

Whoh there boy! You were just telling us that before you landed, you lined up a woman online and then hooked up with the hotel worker when you arrived. You have to stop the constant virtue signalling and try telling the truth.

How do you know that I think I'm superior? Are you assuming? What we both know is that you don't like the thought of me being superior. That's what really irks a narcissist, isn't it?

Here again you are trying to be smart, but no one is understanding what you are getting at. I've told you post after post that you writing is heavy reading. Mostly gobbledegook to me. I think the reason for it is that you have issues with trust. Allow me to serve you an example.: This thread for instance...how many times have you expressed the sentiment that you don't believe it is true? I would say a minimum of five times already. Because of this, you cannot be consistent. Sometimes you are writing tentatively, not sure if it's true or not so don't want to make a fool of yourself. For a short time confident and being more forthright and shortly afterwards not sure if you believe it again. All of your waverings affect how and what you post. Your lack of trust means that you choose to react badly to any perceived criticism. After all, it must be bad, right? They must be jealous. That is your mind. You take up a stance of not trusting, then think you are super smart and have figured it out...only there was nothing to figure out and by your not trusting, you grab the wrong end of the stick. I don't think like that at all. I am who I am. If you think me superior, those are your thoughts. Have you ever seen me write that I am superior? I've seen you and fred boasting about yourselves, constantly. The reason why you react badly is because you want to be number one. The biggest victim or winner...whatever. Whereas, I don't care about such things at all. It's all in your head and you are trying to project it on to me. I write what I think is true. There's no rivalry nor malice at all. There's no competition.

It's also poor that you cannot improve...

Erm...at least two other people on this thread alone, other than myself, have told you already. But obviously it falls on deaf ears. Instead you want us to know what a good man you are. Both yourself and @Hummin are similar in that regard. Neither of you seem to understand what is happening and you both react badly to perceived criticism. What I actually wrote is that you don't take your own faults into account when you are judging the behaviour of others. So if you are the type that never concedes because you think that you are always right or that you are too arrogant to admit that you are wrong, that's going to have a serious effect on any partner. Their behaviour towards you may likely deteriorate over time. Of course you blame her, because you cannot conceive the way that you are treating her is totally unacceptable. Because for you, your behaviour is perfect. No one can tell you otherwise. Forget about whether I am talking about you in particular. Cab you understand the concept at all? Considering your self proclaimed expertise with psychology, it hard to believe that you are unable to grasp such a simple concept.

I have to admit...that I just glazed over after just the first paragraph. It just seems another example of either you either being unable to express yourself properly or just that you are trying to come over as smart, but failing to connect with anyone. When will your brain allow you to accept that it's just a matter of sharing perspectives? You waste so much energy on deciding whether to believe this or that. I have no reason to disbelieve him. For exactly the same reason why I believe that you are a real person. I just say what I see. If it hurts you, you need to think about why. My perspective is mine. My perception based on my intelligence. Why would you get mad over what someone else sees?

Are you suggesting that I didn't provide evidence nor prove my case? What about the posters who agreed with my assertion that you don't acknowledge your own flaws?

That fits the definition of trapped.

I'm not in your situation, so I'm not trapped. But you complain about the country in which you live and often talk about wanting to be in your home country. So you are stuck in a place where you don't want to be.

Perspectives, fred. For me, that would be trapped. Get it now? Getting mad over someone else's perspective is pure folly. All you and @Hummin have demonstrated, is that you cannot handle different perspectives without becoming defensive and abusive.

So you are trapped.

I don't think anyone here understands what you are going on about. You are just angry and stressed out, so cannot write in a way that makes much sense.

I know lots. But often not necessary to reveal anything. Why don't you get started by offering him some good advice?

I have to say, your posts are really hard to read. Trying to understand what you are going on about. Your use of language. I don't have any issues. It's you with the issues, can you not see that? In my life, we can discuss and fix any issue. But if you have someone unwilling to listen, who suggests that the problem is solely on one side, it's not going to work, is it? I literally have no idea why you joined the thread with your ranting and abuse. You were obviously stressed and upset. That's your problem. I'm not upset. I'm used to dealing with difficult people.

Your posts are useless. Go away and compose some music 😊

This may be interesting. What is it that you have that you think that I do not have? I have a loving relationship for life, without having to pay for her and her whole family. Is that something that I should crave? I have a genuinely happy and healthy life, without having to plaster pictures of it all over the forum. Would you feel better if I posted my views and the food that I eat? I can tell you that they will more than rival anything that you have posted. But that's not my style. When have I ever stated that you and fred aren't 'good men'? That, again, is your own ego at play. If someone criticises one aspect of your life, you become so outraged and offended, that you cannot discuss anything else. If you do that here, you do that in your relationships. Is that too difficult for you to grasp? It's not about me. It's about you. I don't have a problem with people being honest about me. But I'm not going to listen to some raging narcissist, am I? Behave normally. Discuss normally and exchange perspectives. Arrogant narcissists cannot do that. They defend everything. There was no attack against you, so why did you join to try to attack me? I see two mental weaklings trying to throw mud that misses the mark.

Are you going to at least try to post something on-topic?