You and your Thai Wife of 20 years.

[Thingamabob]

On 10/2/2024 at 10:28 PM, swissie said:

Let's suppose you married your Thai Wife when you were around 40 years old. The both of you are now 20 years older, living in Thailand.

Always assuming you are still together, what made it last? Your and your wifes physical atrraction has not increased over the years.

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

Happily married to a Thai lady for 40 years. The glue is being close friends, and some mutual interests.

[PETERTHEEATER]

I have married only once in May 1975 and that is to my Thai wife. Our 50th anniversary is next year. We have two successful children, married with kids. We courted for two years before I proposed so have really been together more than fifty years. Fact is we both felt 'right' at our first meeting. To use the old cliche, we are made for each other. Two distinct personalities each supporting the faults of the other. Companionship in retirement and old age. Until death do us part.

[rwill]

Been married over 40 years now.  Having common interests helps a lot.  Find someone that enjoys doing the same things you enjoy.

[newbee2022]

On 10/2/2024 at 10:28 PM, swissie said:

Let's suppose you married your Thai Wife when you were around 40 years old. The both of you are now 20 years older, living in Thailand.

Always assuming you are still together, what made it last? Your and your wifes physical atrraction has not increased over the years.

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

[Bundooman]

On 10/2/2024 at 11:14 PM, worgeordie said:

I have been with my Thai  "Wife" for 36 years , just got around to marrying her last month, as the

divorce came through from my British wife ,I only really done it ,as not sure how long I have left, 

and thought it would be easier for her to sort out things when I do pop off.

 

She is a really great wife ,Trustworthy ,Honest,hard worker , a saver, not a spender,does not tell lies, even when I want

her too,does not smoke, drink,or gamble ,except flutter on lottery ,everything you would want in a wife ,maybe not as exciting

as some of you'd would like , but they are the ones that would steal everything you have and not leave you a pot to piss in ,

over the years have heard many stories of men  who have lost the lot, consider myself very lucky ....

 

regards  worgeordie

I agree 100%. 

Are we married to the same woman?

[thecyclist]

On 10/3/2024 at 7:25 AM, bkk6060 said:

If both 40 when married, now she is 60?

Sorry, after 40 or so, Thai women don't look very good in my opinion.  Many fail to take care of themselves and some seem to get round looking face and head not sure why.  Some call it potatoe head.  Not all Thai and don't want to be demeaning, just what I have noticed.  I am sure they are still lovable, but definitely not for me.  30 years younger at the minimum is acceptable. 

More is better.

Totally agree. They don't age well. They start losing their looks, often rapidly, at around 28 to 30.

With lots of makeup they might still look OK up to the age of 40.

Without the face mask the cut-off is 35.

There are farang women and Latinas that still look hot at 45 to 50 - Salma Hayek, Penelope Cruz, Christina Hendricks come to mind. I have yet to come across a Thai woman of that age that I found really physically attractive. 

[SAFETY FIRST]

On 10/2/2024 at 10:34 PM, Celsius said:

My current wife is Chinese, so she does not beg for money. 

What nationalities beg for money? 

 

[thaiowl]

Met in 1988. I was her first boyfriend. She's never had a drink or a cigarette and is very Buddhist. Got married in 1991. We've had our moments but mutual companionship and friendship go a long way.

[Cardano]

On 10/2/2024 at 10:28 PM, swissie said:

Let's suppose you married your Thai Wife when you were around 40 years old. The both of you are now 20 years older, living in Thailand.

Always assuming you are still together, what made it last? Your and your wifes physical atrraction has not increased over the years.

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

Same glue that holds any marriage together anywhere in the world, why are you trying to imply that Thailand is different?

[john donson]

On 10/2/2024 at 10:34 PM, Celsius said:

I changed 3 wives and I am proud of this fact. My current wife is Chinese, so she does not beg for money. I married 4 years ago, so I will return to this thread in 20 years.

 

she is also a crypto millionaire like you ?

[rimmae2]

14 hours ago, thecyclist said:

Totally agree. They don't age well. They start losing their looks, often rapidly, at around 28 to 30.

With lots of makeup they might still look OK up to the age of 40.

Without the face mask the cut-off is 35.

There are farang women and Latinas that still look hot at 45 to 50 - Salma Hayek, Penelope Cruz, Christina Hendricks come to mind. I have yet to come across a Thai woman of that age that I found really physically attractive. 

Have you met any females in the age range you mention who are actively keeping fit and not sitting in bars? Try yoga, have a private yoga class with one of the many 30-40 something teachers that my wife and I know, run in a Bangkok park at the weekend. You will meet real women and a high percentage of them are single and have never been married. Latter appplies in the banking and legal sector, careers with donors, etc.

[KhunLA]

2 minutes ago, rimmae2 said:

Have you met any females in the age range you mention who are actively keeping fit and not sitting in bars? Try yoga, have a private yoga class with one of the many 30-40 something teachers that my wife and I know, run in a Bangkok park at the weekend. You will meet real women and a high percentage of them are single and have never been married. Latter appplies in the banking and legal sector, careers with donors, etc.

Most women I know, along with the wife, which I stated somewhere, still 'smokin' hot', along with her peers, 45-50 yrs old.  None bar gals, or even bother with the bar scene.

 

When I was playing single dad here, non P4P bar hopping, and Thai establishments had plenty of babes in the 30-50 age bracket.   

 

Not all folks are heffers when they their 40s, worldwide, even the USA, contrary to the spin of everyone is obese in USA.

[Old Croc]

This thread is a troll.

The OP has no interest in other member's long-term marriages nor their reasons for staying together.  The fact that he hasn't bothered to follow up confirms it.

People stay in marriage for many reasons in every country. What this one-dimensional character is actually implying, is why would you marry a local and stay together for many years when they get less attractive as they age. You can buy younger, better-looking versions for sex as I do. 

[Blueman1]

On 10/3/2024 at 7:17 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

>20 years together, not married.

I am/was her first boyfriend ever. I guess that helped.

I work mostly at home, so I have time for her, and I am not away all day. I guess that also helps.

She was and is most of the time a nice girl. Some years ago, she started with annoying nagging. I told her to stop. She didn't. I told her to visit her family or (female) friend for a while because I won't accept this nagging any longer. So, she stayed with a friend up country for two month and then begged me to come back. No nagging anymore.

Since then, no problems anymore - except some mornings when she is hangry. It seems this is something I have to accept.

We are happy together and I guess we will stay together forever.

So, she stayed with a friend up country for two month and then begged me to come back. No nagging anymore.........555 ! 555 !

[newnative]

23 hours ago, Purdey said:

After 30 years it is the companionship that is most appreciated.

Same with my Thai spouse and myself, also with 30 years together.

[thecyclist]

6 hours ago, rimmae2 said:

Have you met any females in the age range you mention who are actively keeping fit and not sitting in bars? Try yoga, have a private yoga class with one of the many 30-40 something teachers that my wife and I know, run in a Bangkok park at the weekend. You will meet real women and a high percentage of them are single and have never been married. Latter appplies in the banking and legal sector, careers with donors, etc.

Yes, I have.I ran in Benjakritti and Benjasiri park for decades. Agree, if they are very active - gym, jogging, etc, eat healthily, then in the 30 to 40 bracket there are still some attractive. Over 40 not so much. 

Of course, most of  the bargirls are over the hill at 30. 

[swissie]

On 10/9/2024 at 2:20 PM, Cardano said:

Same glue that holds any marriage together anywhere in the world, why are you trying to imply that Thailand is different?

A possible difference could be that "western women" increasingly earn their own money, therefore less need to marry a "wallet". As opposed to a large part of the Thai female population.

 

[swissie]

14 hours ago, Old Croc said:

This thread is a troll.

The OP has no interest in other member's long-term marriages nor their reasons for staying together.  The fact that he hasn't bothered to follow up confirms it.

People stay in marriage for many reasons in every country. What this one-dimensional character is actually implying, is why would you marry a local and stay together for many years when they get less attractive as they age. You can buy younger, better-looking versions for sex as I do. 

Dear Dr. Watson,
your conclusions are not correct, but I admire your effort. Greetings, Sherlock Holmes.

[helloagain]

On 10/2/2024 at 10:28 PM, swissie said:

Let's suppose you married your Thai Wife when you were around 40 years old. The both of you are now 20 years older, living in Thailand.

Always assuming you are still together, what made it last? Your and your wifes physical atrraction has not increased over the years.

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

I've known my thai wife 20y married 18.5y. There's only 1 reason that makes it last.....real love. We still hold hands when we sleep ever since she first asked when we first sleept together. 

[Cardano]

17 hours ago, swissie said:

A possible difference could be that "western women" increasingly earn their own money, therefore less need to marry a "wallet". As opposed to a large part of the Thai female population.

 

Aha now we see where you're coming from, kind of a small minded misogynistic attitude towards Thai women.

[GinBoy2]

On 10/10/2024 at 7:39 PM, helloagain said:

I've known my thai wife 20y married 18.5y. There's only 1 reason that makes it last.....real love. We still hold hands when we sleep ever since she first asked when we first sleept together. 

I say familiarity has a lot to do with longevity.

 

None of us have the body we had 20, 30 years ago, and as for sex, same thing  not the horn dogs we were back then.

 

But you become comfortable with another person in your life. You can laugh at the same things, enjoy the grandkids, you can even fart and think it's funny.

 

So going the distance is getting past initial sexual attraction and moving to a longer much more sustainable relationship

[HonkieH]

Married for 26 years and still together . Second time for yours truly but first for the better half.

3 kids together, now separate bedrooms and basically having separate lives but the love is still there.

Too smart, too ambitious and demanding. Anyway that's my story.

[BigStar]

3 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

I say familiarity has a lot to do with longevity.

 

Or not. A little familiarity can make you realize you shouldn't have jumped into that so quickly. 🙂 

 

 

 

 

3 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

So going the distance is getting past initial sexual attraction and moving to a longer much more sustainable relationship

 

Yep, that's what it is. But IMO (this may unpopular) it's best to develop a friendship first, taking your time about acting on any sexual attraction or letting it develop later on. Otherwise, after the passion dies down, you may not have much else to keep you together. If a friendship is unlikely or even impossible, best to know ASAP before getting further involved.

 

Women will often try to play the sex card early just to discourage your getting to know them well before you commit. That in itself is a warning sign. Sometimes hard to resist, true.

 

[GinBoy2]

3 hours ago, BigStar said:

 

Or not. A little familiarity can make you realize you shouldn't have jumped into that so quickly. 🙂 

 

 

 

 

 

Yep, that's what it is. But IMO (this may unpopular) it's best to develop a friendship first, taking your time about acting on any sexual attraction or letting it develop later on. Otherwise, after the passion dies down, you may not have much else to keep you together. If a friendship is unlikely or even impossible, best to know ASAP before getting further involved.

 

Women will often try to play the sex card early just to discourage your getting to know them well before you commit. That in itself is a warning sign. Sometimes hard to resist, true.

 

I'd go with that. I worked with my wife for a about a year before we started all the naughtiness. So we were friends before the 'naughtiness' started

 

Maybe I'm just simplistic but for me at least it's the feeling of being comfortable around someone that makes things last.

 

You are there if they are sick, you can hang out in your underwear, maybe it's just the 'no need to perform' you can just be you

 

And maybe one size doesn't fit all but the above scenario seems to have worked for us

[thecyclist]

On 10/9/2024 at 5:44 PM, SAFETY FIRST said:

What nationalities beg for money? 

 

Not the Thais, they demand money. 

[cjinchiangrai]

On 10/2/2024 at 10:28 PM, swissie said:

Let's suppose you married your Thai Wife when you were around 40 years old. The both of you are now 20 years older, living in Thailand.

Always assuming you are still together, what made it last? Your and your wifes physical atrraction has not increased over the years.

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

The understanding that we will take care of each other, no matter what. What vows did you make?

 

We have not made twenty years yet but are well n the way. My promise has also been to only promise what I am committed to carry out, and then do it.

[Sigmund]

If there is not to much of an age gap like those 50 years olds sporting around their 25 year old rent-a weeks....if there is not to much of an age gap and you are around all day long to keep an eye on her, chances are good. If not, dont go any further and only rent by the hour, the week or by the month..as you like,

[swissie]

On 10/11/2024 at 12:16 PM, Cardano said:

Aha now we see where you're coming from, kind of a small minded misogynistic attitude towards Thai women.

Twist it and turn it as you may. I have spoken the truth. The decision who to marry is still vastly different between a modern day "western woman" and a Thai "flower of the Isaan".

[Cardano]

15 hours ago, swissie said:

Twist it and turn it as you may. I have spoken the truth. The decision who to marry is still vastly different between a modern day "western woman" and a Thai "flower of the Isaan".

With that mentality I suggest you stay in your western world.