15 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

A little jealousy is normal, especially if you don't want to lose what you have, and care about your partner, but making jealousy happen isn't a good idea. Women don't think like we do in many ways, and she can say one thing and mean another. If she did this with her Thai past lovers, how would you feel? Just saying.

I haven't a clue who she chit chats with on FB msgr.    She has no desire to talk with her ex, not a good divorce.

 

Only male friends (2) she wanted to hang out with when we're O&A are gay.  We're actually together almost 24/7, as unlike many couples, we actually like each other.

 

She's almost as anti social as I am 

1 hour ago, bunnydrops said:

I have had to mourn most of those who would have mourned for me.

Happens quite a lot when you are over eighty.

17 hours ago, sipi said:

Would anybody care?

All members on AN 🤣

3 hours ago, wombat said:

I'd be someone else's problem 

Actually that is the only thing that remotely bothers me. Really, it shouldn't, but it does.

3 hours ago, Thingamabob said:

Thais don't mourn much, and many believe in an after-life. 

Virtually all believe in reincarnation, present company included.

Regarding mourning, sure they do.  My wife mourns the death of her 7 year old son she lost 35 years ago, just like I mourn my 18 year old daughter I lost 28 years ago.  To this day.  They just don't do it in the morbid manner that Westerners do.  They offer their deceased blessing and merit pretty consistently throughout their own lifetimes at Buddhist temples.

If you KNEW you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do today?

 

What would I do?

 

Not sure, but as I speak I think I would prepare myself by listening to some very calming music!

 

For me, no point in going out on the town - might get run over by a tuktuk!

8 minutes ago, ChrisKC said:

If you KNEW you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do today?

Wrap up loose ends, contact a Tibetan Buddhist nun I know, and prepare to give up this body and move my consciousness to a better incarnation where I can more fully work the Dhamma for the betterment of all sentient beings.  Too many distractions early in this lifetime and didn't come across my spiritual mentor until late in life.

There ya go.  Not quite what the average AseanNow member has in mind, 'eh? 

3 hours ago, connda said:

Actually that is the only thing that remotely bothers me. Really, it shouldn't, but it does.

no need to worry, you wont. ☻👣

3 hours ago, connda said:

Virtually all believe in reincarnation, present company included.

Regarding mourning, sure they do.  My wife mourns the death of her 7 year old son she lost 35 years ago, just like I mourn my 18 year old daughter I lost 28 years ago.  To this day.  They just don't do it in the morbid manner that Westerners do.  They offer their deceased blessing and merit pretty consistently throughout their own lifetimes at Buddhist temples.

Thais do not mourn in the western sense. They do, however, revere close relatives who have passed away.

33 minutes ago, wombat said:

no need to worry, you wont. ☻👣

Actually? Exactly!

 

7 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

Thais do not mourn in the western sense.

That is true.

For some, Dead tomoz means they would be unable to whine and moan about the booze ban on Wednesday.

3 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

For some, Dead tomoz means they would be unable to whine and moan about the booze ban on Wednesday.

Stock up tomorrow kids!  Then live for the day (worry about the hangover the following day).  Well, unless you OD, then you just exemplified this post!  

21 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I hope there would be a minute of silence in this forum. 

Done; if you let us know, when you are dead.

22 hours ago, sipi said:

Would anybody care?

Probably someone will, when my lifelong retirement pension cease...

23 hours ago, sipi said:

Would anybody care?

 

Why would I care? It's not like I will be around anymore!

19 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Let us know the date, and I am sure we will oblige.

This was the absolute greatest reply.  Still laughing.  Even Oscar Wilde could not have made a better response.  😂

12 hours ago, connda said:

Wrap up loose ends, contact a Tibetan Buddhist nun I know, and prepare to give up this body and move my consciousness to a better incarnation where I can more fully work the Dhamma for the betterment of all sentient beings.  Too many distractions early in this lifetime and didn't come across my spiritual mentor until late in life.

There ya go.  Not quite what the average AseanNow member has in mind, 'eh? 

Just curious why you chose a mentor from the Tibetan tradition when actually living in a country following the Theravada tradition.

My limited reading leads me to believe the differences are somewhat trivial. I therefore focus on Theravada as it just feels more aligned with the country I love.

On 2/10/2025 at 9:40 AM, connda said:

Virtually all believe in reincarnation, present company included.

Regarding mourning, sure they do.  My wife mourns the death of her 7 year old son she lost 35 years ago, just like I mourn my 18 year old daughter I lost 28 years ago.  To this day.  They just don't do it in the morbid manner that Westerners do.  They offer their deceased blessing and merit pretty consistently throughout their own lifetimes at Buddhist temples.

Yes, we remember our loved ones in various ways and the Thais have varying degrees of mourning and varying times and many locals are Buddhists and many do not need to go to the Temples all of the time but respect it for sure.
IMHO it is what one does throughout the year that matters and yes I went to a Thai funeral yesterday and think it was 2 days only but sometimes disturbing in that the final part of the deceased  being transferred to the coffin.
Often it is only the family but have observed it like yesterday before a trolly goes around the temple.
Also though of course a very sad occasion  and personally for myself I would want it to be a celebration of life.

Yes,  both my parents Anniversary coming up in a few  days time although different years and one  45 years and my Mother 20 years ago but always remember them on these dates but also throughout the year.

It is important and yes not particularly religious myself but believe there is something up there and yes we all have genes handed down to us.
Nothing is worse than parents losing their children and yes have had 3 experiences of this and of course, some families get wiped out in say an accident and  just could not even comprehend this.

In a nutshell would like to think and hope people would continue to celebrate my life and also talk about myself and often.
Yes, my surname would still be with my wife and have no chidren of my own but as everyone knows we treat our Grandchildren as our own children and would hope they would remember me but who knows!!!
 

On 2/9/2025 at 4:05 PM, sipi said:

Would anybody care?

 

Only the mrs caring about how to get her hands on the money!

The Ex wife would probably dance from happiness, funny how you can feed, clothe and house a woman for 20  years and then they could not care less. My eldest daughter might be sad for 10 minutes.

 

One gal in Philippines would be unhappy, one in Thailand would cry. My mother would be insconsolable, my father too.

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

The Ex wife would probably dance from happiness, funny how you can feed, clothe and house a woman for 20  years and then they could not care less. My eldest daughter might be sad for 10 minutes.

 

One gal in Philippines would be unhappy, one in Thailand would cry. My mother would be insconsolable, my father too.

If your mom and dad would be grieving, how often do you manage to see them while living in Asia? 

 

 

If I die tomorrow I'd see more happy people than now alive.

 

Makes me feel good to bring happiness...

7 hours ago, Hummin said:

If your mom and dad would be grieving, how often do you manage to see them while living in Asia? 

 

 

 

I was just back home in August last year. One a year only.

If I died today. I certainly wouldn't care. 

Wife and kids, that's about it.

 

I keep to myself and haven't talk to family in years.

Why would you care of you are dead tomorrow? You would be gone and whatever happens after that would be either from your pre-planning it or the government controlling it. Regardless, you are dead and it would be too late to worry if someone will miss you or not or if someone will take care of what needs to be done with your carcass. 

On 2/10/2025 at 9:45 AM, ChrisKC said:

If you KNEW you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do today?

Delete my browsing history.

On 2/9/2025 at 4:26 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

I hope there would be a minute of silence in this forum. 

No chance.