5 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Until they hit 40, and by the time they're 50, if they aren't an exercise and healthy eating person, they look 10 years older. More women work out in the west by a huge margin, even if the population is comprised of fatter people there. it's slowly catching up here, as the obesity and overweight rates in Thailand have been slowly creeping up because of the influx of western junk food. Give it 20 more years and the percentage will be much higher.

Most western women can't cook unless they are old. Younger ones are hopeless.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

Most western women can't cook unless they are old. Younger ones are hopeless.

Most western women do cook, as they're mostly from European and Asian ancestry, where cooking is done by both men and women. I've never known a western woman of over 25 that didn't cook. Younger than that and most are still at home, slowly learning cooking as they know most men they'll marry won't be doing much cooking. If your mom didn't cook, know the rest of them do. In New Jersey where I grew up, Italian, Polish, Irish, and all other European nationalities had the women, and men, cooking all the meals. The Asian areas had the women mostly doing the cooking, but men were also into it in a large amount.

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Most western women do cook, as they're mostly from European and Asian ancestry, where cooking is done by both men and women. I've never known a western woman of over 25 that didn't cook. Younger than that and most are still at home, slowly learning cooking as they know most men they'll marry won't be doing much cooking. If your mom didn't cook, know the rest of them do. In New Jersey where I grew up, Italian, Polish, Irish, and all other European nationalities had the women, and men, cooking all the meals. The Asian areas had the women mostly doing the cooking, but men were also into it in a large amount.

So you love western women but moved to Thailand. Makes no sense.

Just now, Harrisfan said:

So you love western women but moved to Thailand. Makes no sense.

I love all types of women. Thai to me are about the most pretty. I came here on vacation and found a looker that turned out to be nuts. IT happens to millions.

8 hours ago, hopelessthailover said:

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on my current situation.

Background:
I’ve been with my Thai girlfriend (from Patong) for 2 years. I’ve supported her significantly and we’ve been very close—I was with her in Jan, and she even asked when I’m returning (planned for Sept). I’ve been her emotional rock, often staying on video calls while she sleeps. She met my friends and my friends family.

I've met her friends, she used to say I love you even in front of friends, there was no real fight to cause the trigger

Last weds she told me she hurt her foot video called me and we chatted I helped her out, we messaged a bit more everything was normal. On thursday I reached out and said good morning but never got a reply by friday she blocked me for no reason. There was no argument or a trigger to cause the block

The Situation:
She recently told me while I was in phuket 2 weeks ago she needed 60,000 THB for surgery (doctor coming from BKK to Phuket). I gave her 20,000 THB to start.
Shortly after I can see she went to singapore. Last time I went she claimed she’s staying at a "friend's condo" for a holiday, I even gave her money last time and she was so appreciative almost cried etc.

The Red Flags:

• My assumption is that she arrived in Singapore, she blocked me on everything.

• She is still posting on social media, her latest shows a love heart emoji in the distance.

• She is still wearing the jewelry I gave her in her posts.

• I sent her 5,000 THB last Friday while blocked; she accepted the money.

• A mutual friend messaged her; she didn't block him, but she didn't reply either.

• The surgery is supposedly scheduled for Jan 31st (this Saturday).

My Conflict:
I haven’t reached out since last Saturday (5 days of total silence). I’m worried she’s found someone else or has multiple sponsors, but I also wonder if she’s just in "work mode" to raise the remaining 40,000 THB for her surgery and blocked me to avoid the "guilt" or drama of me seeing her in that environment.

I’m struggling with the urge to reach out.
Does this sound like a standard "Singapore working holiday" where she’ll unblock me once she’s back in Patong, or am I being ghosted for good?

Appreciate your advice, I'm a hopeless "nice" guy

A counter block is required.. Never to be removed.

1 hour ago, hopelessthailover said:

th thai girl from Thailand so it's been a big learning expe

31 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Most western women can't cook unless they are old. Younger ones are hopeless.

In the old days, restaurants hardly even existed.

Now there is Uber Eats.

No need for a woman to cook every day.

Just now, save the frogs said:

In the old days, restaurants hardly even existed.

Now there is Uber Eats.

No need for a woman to cook every day.

Yeah society has changed

39 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

In the old days, restaurants hardly even existed.

Now there is Uber Eats.

No need for a woman to cook every day.

As society progresses ???, people get more lazy, but there will always be countless people who love to cook, both men and women. I saw my dad doing a lot of the cooking when I was very young, and then my brother while he was still in the house, so it came second nature to me.

I did the majority of the cooking in my marriages, and still to this day, unless I go to my girlfriends house, where she does most of it, and where I get legitimate Thai food I like.

There will always be those who like to go out to eat, and when you take a woman out, she appreciates it as she doesn't have to cook, if she's the primary chef in the house. One thing for sure, the best pizza will always be in restaurants. Unless of course you have the proper oven, and know all of the tricks and have the best ingredients.

Just now, fredwiggy said:

As society progresses ???, people get more lazy, but there will always be countless people who love to cook, both men and women. I saw my dad doing a lot of the cooking when I was very young, and then my brother while he was still in the house, so it came second nature to me.

I did the majority of the cooking in my marriages, and still to this day, unless I go to my girlfriends house, where she does most of it, and where I get legitimate Thai food I like.

There will always be those who like to go out to eat, and when you take a woman out, she appreciates it as she doesn't have to cook, if she's the primary chef in the house. One thing for sure, the best pizza will always be in restaurants. Unless of course you have the proper oven, and know all of the tricks and have the best ingredients.

Food in Isaan is normally fish and somtam. Awful most of it.

1 hour ago, khunphil said:

Why would you need advice from strangers about how to handle your life ???? Any question about love relationship should be directed to your mother, as she knows apparently more than you, or only to yourself.
Just realize that even if she comes back, this will happen again.

1 - don't run after a girl, except if you think you are so ugly, poor and stupid and she is so cute, clever and rich, that this is the woman no to loose !
2 - Line, block, unblock, show reception icon or not, can be easily faked.
3 - if she comes back, this will happen again, and if not, she will make your life miserable and YOU will try to get away, blocking her message, inventing stories, when you will find a genuine one !
Be a man, you are not 18 anymore.
Good luck

Thank you for the hard truths much appreciated it's just a bit raw and eventually I'll process it all and know what you all are trying to say

8 hours ago, BangkokHank said:

The objective in these relationships is to be the suckEE rather than the suckER.

I feel offended.

Shes NOT from Patong..she works in a bar there.

In Thailand, never buy full time. Always rent...ST or LT !!!...and avoid bringing them back to your place if you live a swanky villa or fashionable condo. You'll risk to end up as a target or as prey for her brothers and cousins and family for your ca$h.

1 hour ago, Sigmund said:

You'll risk to end up as a target or as prey for her brothers and cousins and family for your ca$h.

And don’t forget her Thai boyfriend who poses as one her brothers. He’ll also want his pound of flesh for renting his girlfriend out to you.

14 hours ago, hopelessthailover said:

I must admit you are right, I haven't fully accepted when I should
Yes the block is what is making me keep thinking the whole thing, I feel it's so personal and yeah I would be lying if i didn't want her to unblock

I can also say it's not because I'm rushing to get her dying love back etc, it's more how did she just throw 3 years time and energy without even just saying a message... i.e I found someone else etc then block, or wait until I pay more money for the surgery then block why was it such an immediate thing?

I cannot answer those questions with certainty. There are many possible reasons, and her actual reasons may not even be logical, but the simplest explanation is usually the right one. Her actions suggest she did not view the past three years as a shared emotional investment in the way you did, nor did she feel any obligation to explain herself. From her perspective, the arrangement ended when it no longer served her. The block feels personal because it removes the possibility of closure, but it is more likely about avoidance of confrontation than intent. The specific reason matters less than what her behavior shows, which is a lack of concern for your feelings. Focusing on why will not give you clarity and will only keep you attached, and at this point that should not be your objective. The reality is that she ended it cleanly and early compared to many similar situations that end a lot worse. You may not see it this way yet, but in practical terms you got off lightly. Many bargirl romances end far more tragically. If anything, you should be thankful she did not take far more money or cause much greater harm, as many others in your position are often not so fortunate. She did you a favor by ending it when she did, and you should actually be hopeful she does not reappear soon looking to rinse you for more cash. The healthiest thing you can do now is accept what her actions are telling you, move on, and don't look back.

6 minutes ago, Terrance8812 said:

I cannot answer those questions with certainty. There are many possible reasons, and her actual reasons may not even be logical, but the simplest explanation is usually the right one. Her actions suggest she did not view the past three years as a shared emotional investment in the way you did, nor did she feel any obligation to explain herself. From her perspective, the arrangement ended when it no longer served her. The block feels personal because it removes the possibility of closure, but it is more likely about avoidance of confrontation than intent. The specific reason matters less than what her behavior shows, which is a lack of concern for your feelings. Focusing on why will not give you clarity and will only keep you attached, and at this point that should not be your objective. The reality is that she ended it cleanly and early compared to many similar situations that end a lot worse. You may not see it this way yet, but in practical terms you got off lightly. Many bargirl romances end far more tragically. If anything, you should be thankful she did not take far more money or cause much greater harm, as many others in your position are often not so fortunate. She did you a favor by ending it when she did, and you should actually be hopeful she does not reappear soon looking to rinse you for more cash. The healthiest thing you can do now is accept what her actions are telling you, move on, and don't look back.

Terry the expert on bargirls.

1 hour ago, Terrance8812 said:

I cannot answer those questions with certainty. There are many possible reasons, and her actual reasons may not even be logical, but the simplest explanation is usually the right one. Her actions suggest she did not view the past three years as a shared emotional investment in the way you did, nor did she feel any obligation to explain herself. From her perspective, the arrangement ended when it no longer served her. The block feels personal because it removes the possibility of closure, but it is more likely about avoidance of confrontation than intent. The specific reason matters less than what her behavior shows, which is a lack of concern for your feelings. Focusing on why will not give you clarity and will only keep you attached, and at this point that should not be your objective. The reality is that she ended it cleanly and early compared to many similar situations that end a lot worse. You may not see it this way yet, but in practical terms you got off lightly. Many bargirl romances end far more tragically. If anything, you should be thankful she did not take far more money or cause much greater harm, as many others in your position are often not so fortunate. She did you a favor by ending it when she did, and you should actually be hopeful she does not reappear soon looking to rinse you for more cash. The healthiest thing you can do now is accept what her actions are telling you, move on, and don't look back.

Thank you for the response much appreciated, you are probably spot on, as I said cos it's so early there is always the hope you will unblock and I can get an answer, even though I really don't need it that's what my brain is thinking right now. If she has been so cold in blocking don't think she has a reason to reappear (again as much as I hope she would right this second cos of my hurt, just being honest) but as you said is probably a good thing.

Simplest and best solution:

Block her (permanently), rent another.

Singapore you say. She is definitely there for high level executive meetings with top bankers and petroleum companies. Don’t worry, she will be back to Phuket soon and unblock you. She just didn’t need any distractions while she strikes all of these multi million dollar deals.

23 hours ago, hopelessthailover said:

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on my current situation.

Background:
I’ve been with my Thai girlfriend (from Patong) for 2 years. I’ve supported her significantly and we’ve been very close—I was with her in Jan, and she even asked when I’m returning (planned for Sept). I’ve been her emotional rock, often staying on video calls while she sleeps. She met my friends and my friends family.

I've met her friends, she used to say I love you even in front of friends, there was no real fight to cause the trigger

Last weds she told me she hurt her foot video called me and we chatted I helped her out, we messaged a bit more everything was normal. On thursday I reached out and said good morning but never got a reply by friday she blocked me for no reason. There was no argument or a trigger to cause the block

The Situation:
She recently told me while I was in phuket 2 weeks ago she needed 60,000 THB for surgery (doctor coming from BKK to Phuket). I gave her 20,000 THB to start.
Shortly after I can see she went to singapore. Last time I went she claimed she’s staying at a "friend's condo" for a holiday, I even gave her money last time and she was so appreciative almost cried etc.

The Red Flags:

• My assumption is that she arrived in Singapore, she blocked me on everything.

• She is still posting on social media, her latest shows a love heart emoji in the distance.

• She is still wearing the jewelry I gave her in her posts.

• I sent her 5,000 THB last Friday while blocked; she accepted the money.

• A mutual friend messaged her; she didn't block him, but she didn't reply either.

• The surgery is supposedly scheduled for Jan 31st (this Saturday).

My Conflict:
I haven’t reached out since last Saturday (5 days of total silence). I’m worried she’s found someone else or has multiple sponsors, but I also wonder if she’s just in "work mode" to raise the remaining 40,000 THB for her surgery and blocked me to avoid the "guilt" or drama of me seeing her in that environment.

I’m struggling with the urge to reach out.
Does this sound like a standard "Singapore working holiday" where she’ll unblock me once she’s back in Patong, or am I being ghosted for good?

Appreciate your advice, I'm a hopeless "nice" guy

Send her 200,000 baht and tell her how much you love her, or grow a set of balls and move on

Have you heard the term SIMP?

Story makes little sense. If you hurt your foot you don't go traveling where you need to move around a lot on your foot. (Airports with long concourses, cramped airline seats, up and down stairs, hauling a suitcase with injured foot.) If it's bad enough to require a 60,000 baht surgery she would be limiting her movements to prevent further injury.

Good riddance; hopefully you learnt something out of this story. Latter being repeated hundred thousands of times on a yearly basis in Thailand.
Look forward and keep your wallet closed, unless you want to be the perpetual ATM machine ......

On 1/29/2026 at 8:46 AM, hopelessthailover said:

On 1/29/2026 at 8:46 AM, hopelessthailover said:

she used to say I love you even in front of friends

Prostitutes in Thailand are --very different. They make every customer feel that he is very special! Be happy that you didn't lose all your money, which many others have. Next time don't fall in love with a bar girl - it worked for me.

1 hour ago, Homburg said:

Simple and best solution:

Block her (permanently), rent another.

Yeah that's the real solution, it's just getting there ... need to get over the fact I still want her to unblock because I'm a whimp right now

11 minutes ago, Xonax said:

Prostitutes in Thailand are --very different. They make every customer feel that he is very special! Be happy that you didn't lose all your money, which many others have. Next time don't fall in love with a bar girl - it worked for me.

You are right but she wasn't a bar girl when I met her, maybe just don't fall in love in general

42 minutes ago, J Branche said:

Story makes little sense. If you hurt your foot you don't go traveling where you need to move around a lot on your foot. (Airports with long concourses, cramped airline seats, up and down stairs, hauling a suitcase with injured foot.) If it's bad enough to require a 60,000 baht surgery she would be limiting her movements to prevent further injury.

Basically one of her toes got bloody, maybe small shoes etc she had to bandage it up
Just like you I thought maybe that was just a cover story, but in one of the photos in singapore you can see her toe is bandaged

1 hour ago, Grumpy one said:

Send her 200,000 baht and tell her how much you love her, or grow a set of balls and move on

She would just accept and not care, could be wrong but at this point trust is has gone out the window hahah

49 minutes ago, 1duckyboy said:

Have you heard the term SIMP?

No what does it imply?