2 minutes ago, khunPer said:

Thanks for your reply – seems like you are serious.

In my experience, if it might help: Many – perhaps most – Thai ladies see a man as a provider. I've several times hear a Thai lady say: "If a man cannot provide, why do I need him?" Look at the Thai-Farang relationship as relationships/marriages was in "old times" in the West, where the man/husband provided for the family.

When a Thai lady mention a cost of something, it's often supposed to be a polite request for the supporting man to pay; not to be followed up by something like "do you pay or not?" – i.e., if you dont pay I'll find another way (man) – she probably find another way, anyway...

From my experience – and this is my advise – I realized: Don't fall in love with a Thai girl, it hurts too much when you find out the way relationship works. Rather, look at it as a business-agreement: If the man can provide for her, she will return with care and love – if doesn't matter if it's true, as long as it's performed to an Academy Reward – many Thai girls learn from mum that a "good man" (husband) is a man that can provide, then love for him comes later...

I appreciate your words, you are right in terms of looking for a provider.

When I went in jan, I did pay her rent I did offer money, she went to edc the week after I left sent her a little more etc. I know you are all thinking she scammed etc but some of these things were realities of her life. She wasn't currently working etc

So she couldn't say I wasn't providing, sure if the situation was give me the 60,000 and I didn't provide nothing while I was there or when I got back then yes, she can move on and find what she needs, but I did provide and I did give what she wanted and she would of probably got the rest this week anyway from me etc but it was like such a swift block that she didn't even take any of that into account. Maybe seeing the money straight in her face from someone else was too god for her

On 1/29/2026 at 9:22 AM, hopelessthailover said:

When I was there in Jan, she told me a doctor will fly in to phuket to do sexyline there was a clinic "The Klinique"
The earliest she could get an appointment was 31st Jan

She went to singapore because her friend has a condo there that studies university. But obviously she is probably doing a "Singapore Run" to try and get the money, even though I said I would of helped her out. She just quit her job about 2 weeks ago wanted to get a "normal" job in phuket, like hotel etc

So it wasn't like she wasn't getting what she wanted, but obviously my feeling is she met another guy in singapore and decided to block me to get money
I doubt she will unblock me?

So, in your detailed OP, you forgot to mention she is a sex worker. "She just quit her job about 2 weeks ago", wanting to get a "normal" job?

She's not your girlfriend and never has been.

On 1/29/2026 at 9:11 AM, wil iam not said:

Hope you get to see the new boobies.

"Sexy Line" is a cosmetic procedure involving liposuction to get rid of abdominal fat - nothing to do with boobies.

Time to face the fact that you have been scammed.

Sorry to say that.

Push her out of your mind and move on.

You are still young. There heaps of good women here.

Or better still. Have a look at Vietnam.

And be more careful next time.

All the best.

11 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

So, in your detailed OP, you forgot to mention she is a sex worker. "She just quit her job about 2 weeks ago", wanting to get a "normal" job?

She's not your girlfriend and never has been.

No she worked at like one of the clubs as a hostess serving drinks etc

Then she worked at a small bar serving drinks type place but she wanted to find a normal job in the sense of like hotel work or something along those lines

10 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

"Sexy Line" is a cosmetic procedure involving liposuction to get rid of abdominal fat - nothing to do with boobies.

She already done her boobies last year

This girl has low esteem always thinks she needs to do better and look more beautiful

48 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

Definitely has a bigger wallet now you are right about that. I don't want to post her pic I'm not that type of guy and I know you will say it's a cop out.
Small girl, goes to illuzion, early 20s, long blonde hair (extension), has a few tatts

The last word says it all.

3 minutes ago, norfolkandchance said:

The last word says it all.

I'd say "early 20s" says it all. Even good girls in Thailand have at least a tatt or two. Some tattoos are known to promote good luck.

5 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

I'd say "early 20s" says it all. Even good girls in Thailand have at least a tatt or two. Some tattoos are known to promote good luck.

There all good girls.

3 minutes ago, norfolkandchance said:

There all good girls.

Maybe they're all good girls to you. That's usually the way newcomers think.

On 1/29/2026 at 9:42 AM, hopelessthailover said:

It was serious, it was my first real relationship with a girl in thailand
I guess in a way I thought I was really helping her out, she introduced me to her friends, she even came on trips with my friends family in thailand. She wanted to come to Australia there was definitely at least in my mind something more than just a wind up etc

Of course I'm not naive to know that while I'm not there she would of probably been seeing others etc, but she would ask when I was going to come back etc
What really hurt was I was there 2 weeks ago and I even on the Weds she video called me etc and by friday you block just out of the blue which she had never done to me before, I just can't get over that part why do that knowing I could of giving you money by 31sts surely she could of stuck it out 1 more week and then destroy me it just felt so harsh

"I'm not naive" - sorry brother but that is exactly what you have been.

1 hour ago, hopelessthailover said:

Yep because I'm too nice of a guy that tries to the good in people which is a bad flaw of mine

There were the little things that I thought she did that may of made me think it was better than what it was. Telling me sit straight, coming on trips with my friends family (no exciting stuff), wanting to visit my country, letting me visit her private place, trying to find a normal job

All these things probably mean nothing now

Not exactly. She may had genuine feelings at the time but she always knew that this was something fleeting. Hard to gasp for many but it happens.

15 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

Maybe they're all good girls to you. That's usually the way newcomers think.

I missed out the sarcasm alert.

On 1/29/2026 at 8:46 AM, hopelessthailover said:

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on my current situation.

Background:
I’ve been with my Thai girlfriend (from Patong) for 2 years. I’ve supported her significantly and we’ve been very close—I was with her in Jan, and she even asked when I’m returning (planned for Sept). I’ve been her emotional rock, often staying on video calls while she sleeps. She met my friends and my friends family.

I've met her friends, she used to say I love you even in front of friends, there was no real fight to cause the trigger

Last weds she told me she hurt her foot video called me and we chatted I helped her out, we messaged a bit more everything was normal. On thursday I reached out and said good morning but never got a reply by friday she blocked me for no reason. There was no argument or a trigger to cause the block

The Situation:
She recently told me while I was in phuket 2 weeks ago she needed 60,000 THB for surgery (doctor coming from BKK to Phuket). I gave her 20,000 THB to start.
Shortly after I can see she went to singapore. Last time I went she claimed she’s staying at a "friend's condo" for a holiday, I even gave her money last time and she was so appreciative almost cried etc.

The Red Flags:

• My assumption is that she arrived in Singapore, she blocked me on everything.

• She is still posting on social media, her latest shows a love heart emoji in the distance.

• She is still wearing the jewelry I gave her in her posts.

• I sent her 5,000 THB last Friday while blocked; she accepted the money.

• A mutual friend messaged her; she didn't block him, but she didn't reply either.

• The surgery is supposedly scheduled for Jan 31st (this Saturday).

My Conflict:
I haven’t reached out since last Saturday (5 days of total silence). I’m worried she’s found someone else or has multiple sponsors, but I also wonder if she’s just in "work mode" to raise the remaining 40,000 THB for her surgery and blocked me to avoid the "guilt" or drama of me seeing her in that environment.

I’m struggling with the urge to reach out.
Does this sound like a standard "Singapore working holiday" where she’ll unblock me once she’s back in Patong, or am I being ghosted for good?

Appreciate your advice, I'm a hopeless "nice" guy

Is this you Cameroni ????

There are lots of fish in the ocean....

Be aware that you were not the only man in her love life. Let her go, jump on another flower

Advice always comes too late, and even then it's usually ignored.

Still, FWIW, next chick you look for (on Thai dating sites) ,

do NOT go for a woman in her 20's. DO go for a woman in her late thirties, early forties, ideally without children or at least with one only, of an advanced age (18 or better).

Also, stay away from obvious implants (in the tit dept, not the mouth) and (my own favourite) stay away from any kind of tattoo.

With my Thai wife, we both subscribe to a notion of love in which "I take care you, you take care me"....it's lasted and got better and better during 13 years.

On 1/29/2026 at 9:30 AM, hopelessthailover said:

Yeah I definitely made some mistakes, trying to move on, just felt the block was so harsh considering I was there in jan, and we talk every day not even give me a message hurts

Well there you go! Now she’s met someone who wants what you wanted from her! Are you a closet gay? Or just too scared to make a “move “ ?? Women like action between the sheets here too, maybe you are just an easy ATM machine!

4 minutes ago, zepplin said:

Well there you go! Now she’s met someone who wants what you wanted from her! Are you a closet gay? Or just too scared to make a “move “ ?? Women like action between the sheets here too, maybe you are just an easy ATM machine!

haha definitely not gay heheh
What move do I possibly have left

8 minutes ago, Leopold Bloom said:

Advice always comes too late, and even then it's usually ignored.

Still, FWIW, next chick you look for (on Thai dating sites) ,

do NOT go for a woman in her 20's. DO go for a woman in her late thirties, early forties, ideally without children or at least with one only, of an advanced age (18 or better).

Also, stay away from obvious implants (in the tit dept, not the mouth) and (my own favourite) stay away from any kind of tattoo.

With my Thai wife, we both subscribe to a notion of love in which "I take care, you take care me"....it's lasted and got better and better during 13 years.

What is the notion about people with tatts? They are just bad?

52 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

Is this you Cameroni ????

who is this person obviously had a similar story?

1 hour ago, Redacce said:

Not exactly. She may had genuine feelings at the time but she always knew that this was something fleeting. Hard to gasp for many but it happens.

Yeah maybe it ran it's course or saw that she didn't get everything she wanted

7 hours ago, Homburg said:

Simplest and best solution:

Block her (permanently), rent another.

absolutely, if you're in the game of paying a lady to be your girlfriend it really won't take you long to find another one. and everything will be rosy. until it isn't.

3 hours ago, hopelessthailover said:

Small girl, goes to illuzion, early 20s, long blonde hair (extension), has a few tatts

I know her ! (sorry, cannot resist)

54 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

What is the notion about people with tatts? They are just bad?

In Thailand, they're usually worn by sex workers. Not all, but a large majority. In the west, all types have them, and although some might not like them and label the wearers, if they aren't gang members, you cannot judge them.

On 1/29/2026 at 8:46 AM, hopelessthailover said:

she needed 60,000 THB for surgery (doctor coming from BKK to Phuket). I gave her 20,000 THB to start.
Shortly after I can see she went to singapore.

Normal routine - welcome to scamming Thailand!

56 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

who is this person obviously had a similar story?

Thai girl was shameless post

7 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

In the west, all types have them, and although some might not like them and label the wearers, if they aren't gang members, you cannot judge them.

I think in Thailand there are 2 distinct groups that tend to gravitate towards one another.

Women with tattoos seem to like guys with tattoos and women who don't probably don't like guys with tattoos, generally.

Based on my limited observations.

I've been asked if I have tattoos and I think it was a turn-off to the girls when I said I didn't.

7 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

I think in Thailand there are 2 distinct groups that tend to gravitate towards one another.

Women with tattoos seem to like guys with tattoos and women who don't probably don't like guys with tattoos, generally.

Based on my limited observations.

I've been asked if I have tattoos and I think it was a turn-off to the girls when I said I didn't.

The men who find wives and girlfriends in tourist areas find girls with tattoos the majority of the time, unless they're newcomers there. True, some girls like men with tattoos but i was responding to the OP's question about women with tattoos. Just like facial hair. Some like it, some hate it.

11 hours ago, Terrance8812 said:

I cannot answer those questions with certainty. There are many possible reasons, and her actual reasons may not even be logical, but the simplest explanation is usually the right one. Her actions suggest she did not view the past three years as a shared emotional investment in the way you did, nor did she feel any obligation to explain herself. From her perspective, the arrangement ended when it no longer served her. The block feels personal because it removes the possibility of closure, but it is more likely about avoidance of confrontation than intent. The specific reason matters less than what her behavior shows, which is a lack of concern for your feelings. Focusing on why will not give you clarity and will only keep you attached, and at this point that should not be your objective. The reality is that she ended it cleanly and early compared to many similar situations that end a lot worse. You may not see it this way yet, but in practical terms you got off lightly. Many bargirl romances end far more tragically. If anything, you should be thankful she did not take far more money or cause much greater harm, as many others in your position are often not so fortunate. She did you a favor by ending it when she did, and you should actually be hopeful she does not reappear soon looking to rinse you for more cash. The healthiest thing you can do now is accept what her actions are telling you, move on, and don't look back.

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