manolo706

The "LB" can't be entirely to blame. Actually, it's all the fault of the foreigner in many cases.

LOVE is NOT:

a] something that you can switch on & off like a light.

b] a monetary obligation.

c] something that creates/causes pain.

EMOTIONS are:

a] something you can switch on & off.

b] sometimes things that can blindly lead to monetary obligations.

c] things that can allow the individual to create their own pain.

Sure, culture shock is real and intense here. Better to take things lightly, control emotions and allways protect your back. Basic rules to be happy. Eden doesn't exist

I experienced myself trying to be with a lady bar to marry and have baby. I know Thailand for more than 20 years and I married already a thai lady for 12 years in the past. I had never like bar before meet this LB and now I should say I hate much more than ever. I don't blame the LB, they do what they have to do for themselves and family. I blame more the family which influence the girl to choose the most stupid guy with the most money (jaleousy little but true). I didn't spend much money for her, I think not enough for her family for sure. I didn't buy anything but send small money every month during a year. She didn't ask me money during a year, I sent from myself only 6.000 baths a month, very few! She tried to work in farm and she did it, surprised! but this for only 6 months after that she was back to her bar, without telling me of course. I knew many people in that place (Koh Chang) so I heard the truth quickly. Then the problems started. Welcome to the glaucous bar world ;-). I endured to meet her "friends" (customers and LB) during a month. Before she didn't drink and was very quiet and that time in her bar place she was allways drunk and behave like a slut (what she was in fact). She asked me money everyday. I knew her for more than a year and stayed really with her 3 months in Thailand and my love collapsed roughly at that time. I have got so many headaches trying to understand what happened to her. Maybe a revenge?! In fact I'm still not sure today, but anyway this is not my world and I'm happy to be out.

The lesson is : NEVER fall in love with a LB. This gives you more chance to meet a good girl, lol!! These girls have pressure from family, drinking problems most of the time, psychological troubles (would you have sex with different men everyday for years?). Their surrounding bring them to behave like that too (LB friends and customers). They are out of the real life and it's very difficult for them to get back to reality after that.

Once again! I don't blame them (it's funny to drink with sexy girls around you, right?) but think very very carefully before to care a LB! it's most of the time the worst choice of life!!

The story is so much more longer but it's quite a good summary. I should add one last think : I knew at the first day I met her that it would be impossible but love sometimes knock at your door in an unexpected way. Stupid, no?