BOlopez

no no no

 i think its the thai wife who is conditioned into"i need a freakin house syndrome",  honey  we buy house now with your money!  we see what happens later!

the system is against you.

why do you want to fight

no wonder you guys get in so much trubble.............carry on sir! i cant imagine enjoying life if one is worried if their sweetie is planning to redistribute welth.

if you worried about these bad thai wimmin may i suggest you rent .

is it some kind of ego boost to own property in a country that doesnt want you to?

As has been stated above since it is a matter of plain observation that most Farangs married to Thai women started their relationship with a financial transaction, then people will make that assumption on the basis of probability.

A farang married to a Thai has two options on this:

Dismiss the opinions of others

Don't introduce your Thai wife here on ThaiVisa

The latter is advisable anyway, but particularly so if you can't bring yourself to manage the former.

As for what Thais thnk - Keep in mind that they on the one hand can see traits of behaviour in other Thais that we Farangs are blind to - They read other Thais like an open book. So they might be making an observation that the Farang who's been with his partner for years has never been able to make.

They might also be a tad green with envy - Especially if a number of trinkets and designer handbags etc have been affixed to disguise the what they can plainly see.

Maybe if you live in Pattaya or other tourist areas but I think if you go to " normal " places in Thailand then you will find that most relationships do not start with a financial transaction. In normal areas you generally get normal people.

can you give examples of normal areas .   thailand is one big bar!

Jesus who cares if he loves his fuc_king kids or not ... the issue is ebay/paypal can just randomly STEAL ALL YOUR SHIT?!  

None of us advising the OP to go home ever said he didn't love his kids.  But this man's situation cannot be only about money, independent from his other responsibilities in life.  If he was young, single, childless, debt free, etc., it would be one thing.  He's not.  His lack of money most likely will affect his children in the near or distant future.  If he continues to live here without any income, how will he continue to support his children at home?  He needs to think about putting his family first.

I really don't mind the critiques. I fully understand that all the facts are not present in the original post which i thought to be too long as it already stands. I intended to fill it in blank spots as i go, just to clarify points for the readers.

My children are well supported, i give up my house and a S**tload of cash for their well being. I basically left myself almost broke so that i could provide for their future.

My arrangements coming here were that i am returning to the UK in November to sort out a few things and have some time with the kids before returning here for another spell. I could (at one time) webcam with them on msn, and we could interact well. There was absolutely no indication other than my children's love for me. I can't believe for a moment that all of a sudden, they would all three decide to cut me out.

As for my ex... she is an habitual slut. My kids would complain tome that she would have a different man in her bed every week, this was not good for my kids to see. That is the sort of person she is.. i had to step in when my 8 year old daughter complained to me that one guy who would drive 80 miles after work every day to get there, was constantly following my daughter around the house and sitting next to her and cuddling her all the time, and emailing her like 3 times daily. Whilst paying no heed to the other 2 kids, and not even as much attention to their mum. When i read these emails.. it screamed out pedophile to me... How would most men react to that???

So obviously i stirred up a load of trouble till she dumped this creep.. the consequences were, that i was barred from seeing my kids for months afterwards. A small price to pay in my opinion to guarantee the safety of my daughter.

You see..... There are always extenuating circumstances to all my actions. I have been through a heck of a bad time. I needed this fresh start. My new project WILL eventually be started, and it WILL make a lot of money, and that is all part of my long term plan to rejuvenate my future and give my kids a really good upbringing. When they are 16 they will no longer be in their mother's care. i will have them, and 2 of them have already stated this as what they want. That is what my ex hates.. because once she loses the kids to me, then she will have no financial support. She may even have to get her first job ever.

you are one sorry fella pal!   so your daughter has 8 years to fend off paedophiles,  while you w your korat honey.

ALL THESE THREADS HAVE A SIMILIAR THEME.   THE MEN BLAME EVERYONE BUT THEMSELVES.

... I have literally 1,000 baht to my name ...

1,000 baht is more than 166 Mama noodles at 6 baht each - that's over 5 months of food to survive on...

Look after your 1,000 baht carefully and you can see this problem out

Simon

oh lord!

you really need to knoe the hole story.  simple people are mesmerized by shiny things .  looks can be deceiving....is it paid for?

I think it all depends on the type of lifestyle you have as well. The educated, white skinned hi so types are basically city, or urban, types anyway. If that's what floats your boat then so be it. If you're an outdoors type, like I am, then the urban, white skinned hi so's aren't going to be to keen on hanging out on the beach getting a sun tan, jumping into sea, in a bikini, for a swim or riding around on the back of a motor bike. I got a 23 year gal from Udon Thani (never asked what she did before I met her and no doubt she's probably spent time in a bar) who is comfortable with all of that. She likes the beach, doesn't mind getting a tan and jumps into the sea all the time for a swim. It's all about finding what what fits, or works, for each individual. It's all about compatibility. No point having someone that doesn't like doing the things you like doing, it just aint gonna work. Any Thai woman that likes Thai soapies is immediately on my shit list as well lol.

You know what you want and go for it. Good on you!

In reality most Thai girls are incompatible with most foreigners due to cultural, religious and language barriers. Couple that with the reason most Thai girls shack up with foreigners and visa versa and the answer becomes clear - DON'T DO IT!

Sadly, you're right. That's why I maintain that any foriegner that lives in the LOS is better off remaining single. Just do what you want to do (as I do) and usually you find someone that gets interested. I do a lot of surfing in Phuket and samui and I always find some beach babe to hang out with me. I think they get surprised cause I don't drink or hang out in bars very much at all. Just stay healthy, hang out on the beach, surf, eat seafood and sleep good every night. I don't get attached. I just tell them that I'm doing what I want to do and if you want to tag along then that's cool. It seems to work

sounds good to me.         seems too many are trying to save the proverbial farmers daughter.................IT DOESNT WORK.       they think if they give money and security to girl all is good, you just cant buy love!

Well said. In nearly all cases, when I've asked a bar girl why they do it for a job, the reply I get is "Don't like it but have to". A lot of them are very conscious that they're looked down on by the rest of Thai society. I know one girl who, in the morning when she departs, covers herself up with a jacket, removes all her make up and changes into  flat soled shoes for the trip home on the sky train. What does that tell you? It tells you that they're aware that what they're doing is no good but financial pressure from their families, mainly, pushes them into it. Does ly 24 hours to hang out with them.anyone seriously think that a poorly educated girl, from the Nth East, can get by, in this day and age in Thailand on the rubbish wages that factories and building sites pay? The answer of course is no. Before we codemn people as being evil for what they do let's open our narrow minds and look at the bigger picture <deleted>.

udder hoggwash!

a lot of girls- maybe 50%- like or love their hooking ways.  if they didnt like it their performance would show and guys wouldnt fly hours and hours to be with them.

 actually i think many dudes need to justify why they give so they spout reasons that are downright hard to believe  ,  when deep down inside they know its the only way to survive  life with the village people. 

Which Thai village do you actually live in?

It isn't the one I live in.

never been near a village . im an intellectual type just pontificating.

cant speak language, have way more money than most,  cant see village people just accepting whites without compensation to do so .

just wondering.  why do you need a name to repor illegal activities?

in thailand 2 equals gETTING  married is the ABNORMAL.   A MILLIONAIRE  farang marrying a  peasent is normal

Some farangs do it but I wouldn't recommend the risk.  We're talking about a market here and not an indoor exhibition.

The old guy a Suan Lum...every evening.

Various on KSR

More and more Nepalese in Pratunam (not really farang though)

Turkish guy selling kebabs at Jatujak

you have a very broad definition of farang!

Ok Ok, if we are talking Caucasian only, then the only regular chap at a market is the old guy at Suan Lum who sits and sells with his wife.  The most visible is the "kheg khao" Turk at JJ and as it's food that he sells, as greasy and 'orrible as it might be, curious Thais buy it.  If the OP wants to work with his gf selling stuff at a market he'll just be mocked a bit by other traders.  Thai customers will assume what he's selling is more expensive, they may be nervous about language and will hesitate to come close.

maybe the old guys gets away with it becoz he just sits,  doesnt actually do anything .unless you need a permit to sit in selling area too .

Some farangs do it but I wouldn't recommend the risk.  We're talking about a market here and not an indoor exhibition.

The old guy a Suan Lum...every evening.

Various on KSR

More and more Nepalese in Pratunam (not really farang though)

Turkish guy selling kebabs at Jatujak

you have a very broad definition of farang!

next ?   i assume the farang selling has a direct finincial interest in the operation,   are they making any money.    maybe no one cares becoz they not doing any sales.

I have seen farangs selling in markets. Does he need a work permit, YES. Do they? You call the shot and you take the chance.

which market?   id like to see this farang...............do thais actually buy from them, i would think it would be a disadvantage to have farang salesman.

I have been al over Thailand and never seen any Farang selling at markets. I would assume it was a job reserved for Thai's  

ditto!   ive never seena farang  anywhere selling anything.   

actually i think many dudes need to justify why they give so they spout reasons that are downright hard to believe , when deep down inside they know its the only way to survive life with the village people.

Give to your local temple and school. Help those in dire need and the elderly.

Chok Dee

this giving concept,,,,,,,,,,can you explain more clearly. whats the definition of dire need?  they a ll seem to be in dire need........do i give baht to all of them? same same for elderly?

you have spent over $270,000 of your own money in your start-up. $15,000 x 18 months =$270,000.

what on earth did you find so appealing about your wife? shes happy with 10 k baht a month.

financially you so far apart it doesnt make any sense....................and then she threaten divorce over 590 internet monthly bill.

since when do guys who can afford to invest over $270,000 in a start up deal with the typical northeast girls. i dont get it!