frozenpuck

Who knew you could get the death penalty for staying at an alternative guesthouse out in the middle of the ocean. Go figure.

I was reading a thai attorney website and it states the following:

If married to Thai spouse

If a foreign employee is married to a Thai citizen, he/she is then entitled to apply for a work permit under privileged conditions from the Department of Employment. For such work permit, only two (2) Thai staff need to be employed for this foreigner.

There is no requirement for a non-immigrant-B-visa in connection with such work permit, the non-immigrant-O-visa is sufficient.

has anyone heard of this? or actually utilized it?

My son has lived in Thailand ,the UK and back here in Thailand ,worked hard in School and is now in university ,must admit he alwayays goes to his mum first but we have a good relationship and he is not lazy ,but loves games on the internet more than reading or anything else ,all in all a normal teenager

Man I wish he would go back to Thailand. But, and this might sound funny, he's afraid he might be stuck in the military if he returns. I dont think its possible because hes a Canadian citizen now but never the less. Just another sign of his laziness and total lack of accountability.

Majority of teenage kids are pretty lazy. Nationality makes no real difference.

Thing is mate you married her, which means you take on her son also, lazy sod or not. True? Mothers will always defend their children, and similar stories are everywhere on here.

If you lived in Thailand, the kid would still be living in your house right ,doing exactly the same thing.

Yes i did after her insisting he was a great kid and excellent student, but i must admit i had my doubts after meeting him a couple of times but went with it anyway. Like I say, the heart always speaks the loudest and i really wanted it to work out.

If we lived in Thailand it would be much much easier to walk away, or, ship him off to one of the inlaws for a small monthly fee. But regardless he is over legal edge so his days are numbered.

OP: I had a similar experience with my wife's son (Australia); failed school etc. In the end the difference was my wife's reaction who said wait untill he's 18 to see if his attitude changes. His attitude did not change & wife told him he was creating too much discord in the family house, shape up or ship out; he moved out - wife stayed in regular contact with him, I did not.

Five years later he approached me, without his mothers presence, sincerely apologised and said when he was younger was immature, disrespectful and flatly wrong behaviour, now we have a good relationship. I hope your stepson eventually emotional matures and harmony returns to your family.

Nice to see one of the rare happy endings, I think maybe you are one of the lucky ones. Once he is out of the house I dont expect we will ever speak or see each other again. And I'm ok with that.

when i read this,,

and he says they soon get into the married law,,,,as in they can take the house like it or lump it,,,

that is why my friends if your going to be taking your wife and kigs to your own country,,,PLEASE DO A PRE-NOP, BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED,

take that barganing power away from them, its your house your money that you have worked hard for,,,,

@kannot,

i agree with everything you say about boys in thailand, spoilt lazy sods,,

and im not thai bashing ive just lived here long enough to know the score about thai boys,,well most of them, ill change it to that, most thai boys

Absolutely very important, and if they dont want to sign then the red lights not flags should be flashing brightly. After a few years of this nonsense I asked for a post nup. Which she signed after i agreed to giving a decent percentage of the house. When I presented her with this she showed her kid and he was the one protesting saying "why are you signing this?"

As a rule, culturally, I experience Canadians as being the most polite and nicest of all other Western cultures. They aren't typically confrontational.

I don't know about the OP at all but it's possible this is an issue.

OP, maybe you should hire an American or a Brit or an Aussie to kick his ass.

haha yes there needs to be some humour in here somewhere, thanks!

I would make her choose. You, or getting the kid a job and contributing.

At least the problem will end and you will know where you stand.

Have been living in Thailand for a few decades and am married also.

The successful marriages between male foreigners and Thai women that I have seen, all have one thing in common. The man is indisputably the boss and makes all important decisions and is hugely respected by the Thai wife.

For some reason, when married to a Thai lady, I have found that if you don't control the wife, she ends up controlling you and thus disrespected. Definitely not PC, but, still the truth from my observations, none-the-less.....

That time is coming very soon. I'm coming to Thailand for a break from this madness and when I return he is out. I think you are correct and when the son sees you bending he knows he can do the same. Hindsight.

Why didn't you have a kid with her????

He's her legacy he has to take care of her when she's old the Thai mother son relationship is very strong.

The only real option open to you is to try to get him married off but his mother will want him to become a monk before that happens.

See it in Thailand all the time Thai kids won't do anything just sponge off their family for as long as possible.

Didnt have a kid with her because I didnt want to be stuck in Canada, but I guess that didnt matter. I didnt realize how strong that relationship would be where the Mom is completley blind when it comes to their kids actions, or non actions (ie. laying around like a piece of deadwood).

"realization" I mean

"She is intelligent, reasonable, reliable..."

You just finished explaining that she is none of these.

She and her son are the partnership and you are the outsider. You've been had in the long game.

You're right. I've come to the realiation that when push comes to shove with her kid I will lose, and he knows it.

She is intelligent, reasonable, reliable, hard working and overall has all the great qualities a man could ever ask for.except when it comes to her kid. ........the last 2 words, change them by......ME, and it is correct.

Good luck.

Yes then the blinders come on. Thanks.

Note to self. Only date women with no kids.

Very wise before you become emotionally involved.

Great, thanks guys. Googling the flame tree It does look the same.

I was wondering if anyone could identify these flowers for me. I did some watercolour paintings of them and it would be nice to know what it is I painted.

Thanks

Why is the death 'mysterious'? The horny bastard had his way with her then she either killed herself or he drowned her! Stupid report.

And there lies the mystery. Did he kill her? Or did she die fleeing? Or did she die by being in distress and killing herself? A mystery.

Why are they wearing the PDRC wrist bands? Suthep was ranting awhile back that he had the red support.

Actually that is the Thai flag taken hostage by Suthep. It is the colors of ALL people of Thailand not just one group who claims it as their own.

Today I went through the BTS gates with a few shopping bags after tapping my card for entry. I always go through as quickly as possible because I have been hit/assaulted by those dangerous barriers twice before already. Today it wasnt even a second before it snapped shut on me again with enough force to break a small womens or childs femur. Luckily I am a large guy and it only left large bruises on both sides of my leg.

I now realize it read my bags as one person and thought I was a second person trying to slip through and thus slammed shut. Very, very dangerous if it slams shut on pregnant ladies stomach or crushes a small childs head. I've witnessed one other lady have her hips slammed on as well as she grimaced rubbing her hip.

Has anyone else been assaulted by these things??? I would suggest keeping your bags close to your body so that it doesnt read as a second person, and go through as fast as you can.

well I,ve got the 7mbps and no it is no where even close to 7. I am tempted to buy the 21 or 42 but I have a feeling that will be a waste of money as have the last 2 options I have tried. 12 years of trying to get a decent connection in Thailand and still trying......truly amazing.

Actually I do look away Grumpyoldman as quickly as possible but there's another one where I look away to, and then another, and another... and so on.

And if this thread is so tiresome for you why didnt YOU just look away.

And thanks for the correction on the typo, like you've never made a typo before. Talk about starting your Sunday morning off with a **********.

Went to Kata and Nai Harn beaches for the first time in 3 years and even though I know this place is growing fast I was shocked at how crowded they are. However the real sore point for me is the the obscene lack of clothing on the older farang walking around. The young people for the most part are wearing longer shorts or the ladies tasteful bikinis. But it seems the older they get the less they put on.

Quite frankly it's disgusting having a 60 70 or 80 something walking in front of you with butt floss speedo and everything else hanging and flapping in the wind including the little pouch they hold the little grapes and banana in. For gaaawd sakes people have a little dignity and wrap yourself in sarong or put on some longer shorts when your walking around. Sorry buts impossible to avoid seeing this when theres thousands of these "liberators" walking around right in front of you. Not to mention its completely disrespectful to the Thai way of thinking (you dont see any Thai seniors walking around topless or in butt floss).

awesome, I'm going to head Koh Samui way so will check it out, thanks for the reply.

I want to practice my underwater photography skills but cant afford to get on a tour or dive boat every day (once a week would be more like it). However I would like to get in as much underwater shooting as possible.

I'll be arriving late Jan./11 and staying for 3 months.

Any suggestions for an area I can rent a place AND get in some great snorkeling/diving without it breaking the bank.

Thanks

Hopefully we will see through the 2 polls if that is in fact true BangTaoBoy. However if for example more people on the Phuket poll choose Koh Samui that would be a pretty good indicator that Koh Samui is better for overall living. People in Phuket or Koh Samui may aslo feel the other is better but are unable to move due to family, business ect. Overall you are probably right but I still feel its interesting and worthwhile to have the poll on both local forums.