bangkokfanatic

The friends responded to a call for help.....How many does it take to kill a disabled man?

And if you've watched the video... he obviously needed help to catch the disabled one-legged man who was hopping away trying to save his own life. Poor guy knew what was coming.

The OP has seems to have come to terms with the realisation that ALL females will do this to some degree at least. Women like to talk (about everything) & men will rain silent. Such behaviour wouldn't be tolerated between males - it's friendship ruining stuff.

A good example of the differences in our brains is to watch 2 males move furniture -not much said and the movements are mostly intuitive - it's how our brains are wired.

Try the same with a man & a woman - man expects wife to "know how it should be done" & wife expects man "to talk about it before he just starts moving this way or that". Don't get me started on double kayaks - they are not called divorce boats for nothing!

There are usually two words that sorts this - "Yes dear!" - and then just do your own thing.

Unlike many above I have learnt that a happy wife gets me a happy life - and she's happiest when she THINKS I am paying attention to her emotional communication.

In Australia women have a higher chance of being killed by their partners than anyone else - about 1 per week.

Given the number of members here who wouldn't intervene in a "domestic" I'm not surprised.

I don't care under what circumstances-men don't have a right to hit women & I'm just dead against pretending you didn't see anything & ignoring it. It was just that sort of gutless attitude by people who knew that enabled my father to get away with it for so long & has framed my dislike of those without balls

The two times in my life I have been a witness & stepped in the cowards have slunk away like dogs.

Despite the 5 year relationship, the land & house, the Toyota & my stepson now really progressing at a private school & our own 3 year old daughter it still comes down to - if I can't "take care" then it will falter. Yes it is love. But economic necessity will outweigh love from any Thai woman.

I was in Pantip 2 days ago and the place looks like many of the vendors had already left thankfully taking those "lovely" foreign salespeople (you know the ones who have no permit to work as salespeople in Thailand) with them. Once those locusts moved in the place became totally unfriendly and pushy. It was never paradise but the last few years had seen it plummet.

It is obvious what the problem is. In Australia it would be Bundaberg Rum. In Thailand -

10 years ago Pantip was great. But now anywhere else is better.

You can make the place pretty but the simple fact is that almost none of the salespeople are from Thailand anymore. Why the Police don't walk in and cart the majority of the salespeople away for working without a visa is beyond me. They are obviously earning some "tea money".

My usual response to those introduced touts who virtually yell at you as you walk past is to ignore them - occasionally they get a "[edited] off back to [edited]" out of the corner of my mouth... If I wanted to go to Mumbai to buy computer parts I would get on a plane - I don't expect this in Bangkok. No more Pantip for me...

Reminds me of the dive group who were off Kupang, Indonesia about 15 years ago. They were enjoying the crystal clear water... until hey saw all of this stuff come drifting down to the bottom... turns out it was all of their bags & gear... the stuff that didn't float. Followed by their dive boat itself!

The Captain had gone to sleep and hadn't noticed the boat was filling fast until it was too late!

That looks like a Krait. Venomous.

I seriously dislike people who kills snakes.

I wonder if your attitude would change if you found a cobra in your house? And would you take into account the safety of your infant daughter and toddler step-son who had to be ushered outside?

Our home is on a large rural block just outside Thep Sathit - but just 250m from our neighbour's bird aviaries. I'm convinced the aviaries (and the menagerie of other animals the neighbours keep such as monkeys) attract snakes. The last snake the neighbours despatched was a massive python that had gorged itself on a few of their pets. They couldn't get it out of the cage and it was angry.

Whilst I have kept pythons as pets in Australia, they were caged. These cobras have come in from the bush which extends to within 15m from our home.

Sorry if I make you are angry - but it's our kids lives before wildlife...

Pity the woman... We don't know her past or how she became to be a smuggler. ...... What has this "War on Drugs" accomplished but to punish the poor. Drugs aren't evil, governments are.

I'm sorry to disagree but as a person who deals with drug addicts - mostly "ice" addicts on a daily basis I think this is a completely ignorant statement. Meth and "ice", or crystal meth particularly, is highly addictive.

The vast majority of addicts are young people - under 30, and in the prime of their lives. Many start off their addiction due to peer pressure, many also first start whilst intoxicated as nightclubs. Common-sense is dulled, at first, by alcohol. Cheap meth is followed up by an often quick trip into ice. Within weeks the weekend party scene stretches into the whole week. Money and self-esteem disappears.

Then comes the lies and deception to family and friends to get money to feed the habit. Crime - robberies, further drug-dealing or house-breaking, eventually become a necessity for most. Very few are ever able to break this addiction without serious help and intervention. The mental & physical harm the addicts do to themselves is shocking. Just follow this to see some comparative photos - http://www.thegooddrugsguide.com/gallery/before-and-after-drug-abuse/crystal-meth-abuse/index.htm

Pity this drug mule? I don't. I see the results wreaked on others by people like her too frequently.

It is people like this woman who carry this drug so that a cheap supply is maintained gathering more and more into the terrible soul-destroying web our young get sucked into. Just so she can make a quick buck!

She made a very conscious decision to wreak havoc on others - and now is just paying the price that they otherwise would have.

.......You will eventually get a grilling anyway with your constant comings and goings. They were right to be suspicious - that's their job - and you made your excuses, which they accepted, and no further action was taken. Relax.

I fly in & out of Thailand on average about 10 times per year, most often only staying for 10-14 days, as I have a partner, & now a baby daughter, a few hours out of BKK.

I have copies of my daughter's Thai & Aussie passport & birth certificate etc. & my partner's details with me in case of just such a grilling. When travelling together we have been told to enter & exit through the Thai passport queue together so I presume there are Thai Immigration records of the family connection.

I am not interested in retiring yet or obtaining a Thai residential visa as I've never stayed more than 28 days in the last few years. I work in Oz whilst the family also fly in & out of Oz on Tourist visas (except of course our daughter who holds dual citizenship). My partner isn't particularly interested in being in Oz full-time until our daughter needs to start school.

Should I expect this perfect arrangement to come crashing down when an IO starts to question my frequent flyer status?

C'mon guys, it's not their fault, Western women are just "bigger-boned"....

Lets see all the greedy little piggy's sniffing out their share, so much for stopping corruption.

If the police and immigration did their job maybe the number of illegal overstays would be lower

Yep... you can see exactly the type they mean running their gaggle of girls (who they've flown in from overseas) between Soi 3 and 11 on Sukhumvit Road on any late evening - just across from the Police box. And if I can recognise the same faces month in, month out, then so can the cops... and those dudes certainly don't even look Asian to me. And as for the same Russian hookers who hang in that area... give me a break, they can't not be noticed by the cops...

This reads as a simplistic, evasive smear campaign. ..... As with all farang in the Land of Smiles 98% are of positive benefit to the Kingdom, 1% are neutral, and 1% a problem (a small problem, in the overall scheme of things). .....

Pick the Sukhumvit area for a clean-up - It would be interesting to know how many Nigerians are in jail in Thailand for drug offences... and they are plentiful in that area. Even one of them dealing drugs hand-in-hand with Police protection is too many.

Seems like a very high estimate to me. However if true, the Immigration and BIB should

work together to "round up these criminals".

... And deport & ban forever...

Maybe the murderer drives a Ferrari & is an heir to a prominent energy drink Company? Probably out on bail & in Singapore for business? Did they pay off the right girl's family?

14 year-old Thai girl, 10 year-old Aussie girl or 4 year-old Thai boy - Gen X, Y & Z. All the same - they will play one parent off against the other to get what they perceive as a "need". I'm back on Oz & watched a kid grow up opposite from when he was born. He is a spoilt little shit, given everything from birth by parents with attitude. Now at 17 he sneaks down to the park 100m away to smoke dope with his loser mates. So he & his mates get their licence. Mum & Dad give him a Subaru WRX 2 weeks later! I expect to see the funeral notice within 12 months. You can't help kids unless you put in the time & effort, not just throw cash at them.

As a parent I applaud the OP for thinking carefully about it. I would have bought the cheaper phone however - Charged it, put a SIM in it & left it on the table. The psychology of temptation.....

Trust someone NOT to take advantage of your mistake in Thailand? Of course you can't trust them. Nor can you trust anyone not to take advantage of free cash in Australia, USA, UK, Vietnam, India, Canada, Mexico, Spain, Germany, Sweden, etc etc......

Hi there,

Anyone here ever successfully cohabitated with their ex-wife for the sake of the kids?

From amongst my mates this has only been done once, the two of them are in the same house but barely talk.

My situation is that my kids live with me, the wife is having a hard time being away from them, and the youngest misses her a lot. So, the wife has come up with a plan to co-parent until the youngest grows up a bit.

So just asking if anyone has had any experience with this, good or bad.

Thanks.

On a side note; most of our marriage problems stem from her, she went through big changes at menopause.

If yo go down that road be VERY careful. If in Oz the Family Law Act now covers defacto relationships & you could find yourself dividing assets AGAIN!

Get it in writing & do NOT get into bed with her again!

.....women can be extremely devious, sneaky and cold-hearted.

After 25 years of marriage my UK wife planned a divorce for over a year without me knowing, then it was too late.

This could, and does, happen to men all over the world, regardless of their nationality, or of their wifes nationality.

I planned a divorce from my wife in 2 seconds - the moment that, after 7 years, she told me she'd lied & never wanted a family only a career & money.

Thanks to her I am now having the joy of watching my 6 month old daughter scoot around in a walker...

Move on & move up....

maybe I've Been lucky but I've just been stopped once in 12 years....

Maybe I've been unlucky, but I've just been stopped 365 times in one year.

Our town has a regular police block every day on my way to work. Yes, it's a huge traffic bottleneck and there are few detours available.

After 10 years of this, they know me by sight, but still have to stop, show them my registration, license, and tax tab. I just build it into my regular timetable/routine. They're just waiting for the day I forget one of the three, and they can nab me for the obligatory 200-400B. T.I.T.

Have you considered by purpose to forget one of the items pay the 200 baht and maybe be left alone for perhaps a year?

In my little slice of paradise paying Tea Money will only get you a week!

....... But after a while I started to get irritated as wife's sister would do wash and laundry for her and daughter, but never helped clean the rest of the house, would cook and leave everything dirty for my wife to clean up. One evening I had a quiet conversation with my wife and told her that her sister either had to start helping around here, or she couldn't live here any more. Much to my surprise, my wife said she had been thinking the same thing..... She told me that she would "handle it".

..... there was a not so polite, one way conversation from my wife to her sister, which ended with sister storming back upstairs. I asked my wife what she had said, as back then I didn't understand a word of Thai, and she informed me that she had told her sister she was tired of her sister's lazy, disrespectful attitude, and that either she start helping to keep this house clean, or get out. Sister and daughter were gone the next day. ...... if I had said anything it would have caused problems in the family, but since she is pretty much the "matriarch" of the family, it was her "right" to do so, and that no one would question it.....

Change "sister" for "young brother" and you have my situation exactly. We live in 12 acres in Chaiyaphum province and have the extended family living in another house 40m away. After a blow-up over washing dishes followed by young brother parking the truck in our carport (which he'd been told not to happen under any circumstances) my GF told them to get out. ALL of them, including her own mother (who stupidly sided with young brother)!

They packed up & sat in the carport of the other house for 4 days as they had no-where to go. GF waited until they came with tail between legs. She rules the roost & made it very clear that's how it was going to stay.

Things have gone very quiet now and everybody pitches in. I certainly agree though - when it comes to the inter-Thai family dynamics it does seem better for farangs to remain 2 steps behind the wife. We tend to put our size 12 feet in it!

Your own 5 year old is much more important to you than your wife's uncle's daughter.

You defended your family and your wife should be rightfully proud you did.

Well said!

... and you should take the opportunity to calmly sit down with wifey & carefully explain that to her, including making her understand that your kids are the most important asset that the two of you have together....

What exactly is the supposed reason for adding insecticide to moonshine? I'm trying to wrap my head around that one.

They add it so you get the added benefit of not having to worry about getting Dengue fever when you are drinking yourself to death... you can't drink as much when you have Dengue..

Back in BKK again in a week - and I just know that Miss Bangkok will pester me for another 2 baht of gold. At least it's cheaper - the ex-wife used to demand diamonds....