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    Thai Girls Blog's

    in Ladies in Thailand

    Posted

    Well. This is the story, very short:

    - I convinced my girlfriend to open a Blog as I think it would be great to read a thai girl's view. We always have to guess so...

    - She accepted (reclutantly, you know, not polite to say what you think)

    - Here is the blog:

    http:// www. tripleklek. com

    so far there are a few posts about our travels in India and Laos, but if you have some input I am sure she would react.

    Have a look and tell me what you think!

    It would also be nice if you could leave a nice comment, she would be very happy!

    Control Level After Marriage

    in Family and Children

    Posted

    Thanks all, your help is very much appreciated!

    Is the THB60,000 and one baht of gold a sinsot, or is it just inplaceof a letter/wedding etc, at this time?

    It's a guarantee. If I don't marry her they keep it. If I do, they will give it back.

    If I don't have the money the letter will do for the moment. But it must be said that the parents don't like the "engagement to be free" solution (understandable), the point to marriage.

    then come to terms with your own doubts and fears before commiting yourself.

    You are right. I guess. But coming to terms needs time and knowledge of each others. It is in both's interest to do that step at the right time.

    You see, the thing is we keep hearing this "my culture" thing. I am very respectful of cultures. I may even say I do not belong fully to any culture having travelled 80% of my time since I was 18.

    That is to say, don't take me as the western who wants the whole world to be western.

    BUT, what about my culture? Or, better, what about our western culture? Don't we have one? Or many? Is it LESS valuable than theirs?

    Don't we have thousands of years of history down here in Europe? Are we really a wild bunch just because we speak loudly and say what we mean?

    Yes, the rule is "respect the culture of the country you are in". Well, I am not in Thailand. I am sometimes in Thailand, sometimes in Italy, sometimes somewhere else.

    They may say: "your girlfriend is thai, you have to do as thais do"

    So, I may say to her: "your boyfriend in western, you have to do as westerns do".

    Right? No.

    I think we should find a middle way. Maybe if the boyfriend is a farang, some rules should not apply, as much as we do bend to some local requirements.

    I know I am talking to windmills, a traditional culture as the Thai is beautiful maybe BECAUSE it is traditional and strict. I don't know, just thinking while writing.

    I just feel that breaking up would be unjust (and sad, very sad), and getting married too early because of cultural requirements too.

    We should be able to talk things out, but I guess the big problem is always what the neighbours will say. And this, in every culture of the world, is wrong.

    Control Level After Marriage

    in Family and Children

    Posted

    Hi all!

    I'll be short, romance is business here :o

    - My girlfriend can't do much without her parents agreeing.

    - If she does something without consensun anyway they loose face and that's not good

    - I am stuck in Europe (family matters :D) and would like her to come over.

    - Two options:

    a) Engagement. Father doesn't like that. I must give 60.000 bath and 1 bath of gold and/or sign a letter that I will marry her within a certain time.

    :D Marry her. That would solve all problems and she'd be free and we could walk away happily.

    Not pretending to be in a original situation, my question is:

    Is is true that after marriage the family has no more saying in the new family matters? She tells me yes, but we all have learned that "yes" today may be "no" tomorrow and that an explanation for that sudden change is not something you should ask for, you don't understand my culture, you ruined my life and so on...:D

    Guys, give some light to a friend in the warm fog of thai culture....

    Luca

    P.S.

    - No bar girl, has a real job.

    - Known her for almost two years

    - Yes, I am deadly scared of marriage under every latitude and I don't know why.

    Crackdown On Massage Parlours

    in Thailand News

    Posted

    These may make some sense, but the truth is, stamping out Thai customs to become Westernized doesn't make anyone happy. What is the real goal? Christianity? Sexual repressive societies work harder no doubt? The age of Protestantism/Puritanism however, is over. The West just can' t understand that their culture is already dead, and the east thinks it can imitate its way to success.

    Wow, looks like going with prostitutes is a liberating act and not expoitation of poverty.

    Whatever it is, it's nice to know that at least you felt you needed some kind of moral justification.

    When You Have A Problem With Your Residence

    in Real Estate, Housing, House and Land Ownership

    Posted · Edited by lucadg

    Thanks all guys, you gave me a lot of good information.

    Today I have to pay my rent and it doesn't feel so good when you know you don't get what you paid for.

    I cant; move to another room as the only free ones are right in front of a major construction site: even worse.

    It's actually hard to adjust to this way to do things. At least in Europe you could shout to the owners till you feel better. Probably wouldn't help anywa but..

    Here is just smiles and low voices and a lot of frustration.

    Thanks, I'll keep you posted!

    Luca

    When You Have A Problem With Your Residence

    in Real Estate, Housing, House and Land Ownership

    Posted

    Well, that' the story in two words:

    - I rented a room for a year in a Residence in the Victory Monument Area (won't say where for now) for 9000 bath a month.

    - After I moved in I realized that there was a strange, constant noise on the last floor. No problem in the day, VERY annoying in the night.

    - I reported to reception: smiles, "ok, I'll check with my boss", etcc...

    - No news for one day

    - I reported again: smiles, "ok, I'll check with my boss", etcc...

    - No news.

    - I got the boss: smiles, "ok, I'll check with the techniian", etcc...

    - The boss: "it's the water pump, we'll se what we can do"

    - No news.

    - I go to the boss and ask: "it's the water pump, we'll se what we can do"

    - Ok, repeat the above steps ten times in a period of 2 months.

    I am sure you all know what it feels in these situations...

    In the meantime a new noise came out. It took towo weeks to the technician to find out that it was the air-conditioner of the room next to me wichh was installed IN the room. My walls tremble.

    Now,

    - I can't get angry

    - I can't shout

    - I can't sleep well

    what can I do?

    I was thinking to reduce my rent and say "fix it and I'll pay the whole rent" or just not pay and say "fix it and I'll pay you".

    Or send a letter with that information.

    I am quite unaware of Thai ways here. I am willing to try the polite/legal way, at first.

    Can you help not to go to prison for smashing the pump :o ?

    Seafood Fried Rice > Picture Gallery

    in Thai Food

    Posted · Edited by lucadg

    I forgot to say: read the comments clicking on pics. They are in Italian but the ingredients are in English too.

    And, it's my thai girlfriend cooking, not me :o

    She says this is a simple version for beginners, you can be flexible on ingredients, according to taste.

    Thailand Tsunami Relief Fund Donations

    in Thailand News

    Posted

    Hi everybody,

    i am in Phuket and have about 1000 euro (50.000 bath) in my pocket.

    I got these as donations from family. friends and website visitors.

    I promised them I will give the money DIRECTLY to people in need, not to organizations.

    Doing so I hope I can create a tie between donors and victims, so it may continue later on.

    Well, it's just my first day here, but IT IS NOT EASY.

    Why? because I need to be 100% sure that I am giving the money to somebody who really needs it.

    I.E.

    - this guy in Rawai beach repairing the boat. Is he the owner or just working for somebody?

    - This guy repairing the shop. Does he really needs the money or he can recover in a few months. And again, is he the owner?

    and so on...I guess nobody would refuse some help and everybody needs it, but my duty is to give it to the desperate ones.

    I need real people you know, who need help.

    Or places to go to give help.

    Any suggestion would be appreciated, MUCH better if you know somebosdu personally!

    Write me at [email protected]

    Bye

    Luca

    Expats Who Want To Help Out In Phuket

    in Thailand News

    Posted

    I'll go to Phuket and probably Phi Phi on the 11t of January to bring some money I ve been collecting directly to some affected people / families.

    - I am trying to create a direct contact between my Italian donors and the people I give the money to, hoping a direct relationship results in continued help in the future. We all know what happens when TV stops talking about things.

    Can anybody help me indicating people who may need financial help? I know unfortunatelly there are many, but that could help spare precious time and getting relief where it is most needed. I promised my donors to give the money directly to the people who will use it, so no associations or temples. Nothing wrong with them, but it would be impersonal.

    - If anybody needs me to do something on site, look for somebody or something like that, I ll try to help. Just drop me a line on

    [email protected] and I ll see what I can do. As I said time is precious, so I'll give priority to requests which are clear and precise and do not require extra emails. I apologise in advance for those people who'll seek my help and I won't be able to.

    Love

    Luca

    http://www.tripfoto.com

    http://www.tripluca.com

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