thailotus

Think this will go nowhere. Thanks.

Singapore is fantastic.

The hotels though, for around the $35 are usually the ones that also have pay by the hour. If you are fine with that, there should be no problem. Though for comfort I would definitely have a shorter stay and pay for nicer accommodation.

The bars and nightlife are fabulous & I have enjoyed myself immensely in S'pore. Highly recommend it!

Hello Everyone,

Sorry for the long silence.

Another question you may be able to answer.

What (if any) are the defacto laws like in Thailand? What happens to unregistered couples when they break up? How are their assets divided?

Who on earth use soap bars in this century? Only seriously backward and oldfashioned people. Everyone else uses liquid soap. Sheesh

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Then I must be backward & old fashioned!

Liquid soaps are expensive & don't last as long - I love the squeaky clean feeling I get from bar soap.

Thank you so much for all your responses. It looks like something I'll have to carefully investigate.

If there is anyone else here who has actually opened up an English school, please share your experiences. I'd be very interested.

Cheers for now,

thailotus

Schools need to be certified and licensed by the Ministery of Education.

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Even private English schools?

Thank you so much for your response. It has piqued my interest even more.

When hiring from the universities, are you hiring native English teachers?

I am throwing around a number of ideas in my head regarding potential business start-up concepts in Thailand. One is to start an English school. Has anyone here opened up one or know of someone who has? What kind of licence would I need (I'm Aussie). Can I start the business without a Thai national as a partner? What kind of start-up capital would I be looking at?

Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions would be most appreciated.

Oh, I'm thinking of starting up in BKK.

Cheers!

Has anyone tried the Foreign Services Institute intensive Thai Course? It looks expensive so I don't want to fork out on something I'm not happy with. Any comments/reviews from those who've used it would be great.

Cheers,

Thailotus

Hi Everyone,

Is there an online white pages to look up Thai phone numbers?

Cheers,

Thailotus

Abbas, check this out...

http://www.askmen.com/dating/index.html

Guys, let's not get too personal here. I don't think abbas is a troll. I just think he's confused - and when it comes to matters of the heart, haven't many of us been there? The most sensible people I know turn to jelly if it involves their love life.

abbas, having said the above, people may appear mistrusting as your posts come accross as naive. If you are crazy about this girl and you don't mind her using you, then by all means, go ahead. I think somehow though, you have a deep down feeling - maybe even bordering on resentment (or at least it eventually will turn to resentment) and you know in your heart that this is not the right situation.

One day you may just meet the angel of your dreams so don't get stuck with someone who doesn't appreciate you, love you and want you. It may be too late by then...

Why do people keep such ugly dogs?

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Obviously you've never had one. Great animals and very loyal to boot.

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Every time you hear about someone being mauled, invariably it involves a pitbull or rottweiller. Only last week we had a toddler almost killed. I'll stick to sweet, safe dogs thanks.

Why do people keep such ugly dogs?

well Ravisher please do explain what you just mumered.

And thailotus your responce was the most interesting. well i have no financial problem if you have read what i said earliar that i am afraid that she would not love me till her xboyfriend is out of her head. she knows he left her broke her heart but i guess she loves him still ahhh well if you guys have any other advice i am all ears.

thank you all for your reply anyway.

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My best advice (if you really do want advice) is that you start doing the Rules. Make yourself busy, have a social life (yes, without her) and don't act needy. Even stop calling for a while. Then by her reaction to this, you'll know whether she truly wants you (or a bill payer). I don't advocate playing games, but I do think you need to look after number 1 - and that's you.

Affairs of the heart can be full of angst - by why make it harder by pursuing someone who says she can't stop thinking of someone else?

How do you know if someone is a troll? I'm confused!

Hi, just a quick response as I'm about to retire for the evening.

Firstly, I must lay my cards on the table and say that I am very traditional. Once I marry, I will not work full-time as I believe "my" duty will be the family. Having said that however, this lady is not your wife - she's your girlfriend. So, until you make her your wife she should be looking after her own finances (unless you two are living as man and wife?). That's not to say you can't assist her if you are so willing, but you should not be seen as her bank account - I can definitely tell you that ain't love.

If you do want to help her, involve her in your finances so she realises that money does not grow on trees and that the both of you will have to budget. This is part of a normal, healthy relationship. Sending yourself broke is not helping you or her.

For a woman to respect you, you need to respect yourself. Unless you are made of money, this woman needs to respect your financial situation. Unfortunately in our consumerist society, many young women (not to mention men) are all too often lured into materialism and do not respect the value of money.

Tell her that you can no longer continue going down this path and I suggest that the both of you get some financial education and advice - FAST!

Oh wonderful! Thank you so much.

Thanks for the quick reply.

I didn't send the parcel by EMS - just ordinary international parcel post.

Hi Everyone!

What times are post offices in the CBD areas of BKK open until? Is it 8pm?

Also, if sent a large parcel, does the receiver have to collect it from the post office?

Many thanks!!

Gentleman, what's all this talk of divorce/lawyers etc? If you are good, loving husbands, why on earth would a woman want a divorce? Presuming of course, you married a decent woman and you are a decent man to her.

I think we place too much emphisis on possible divorces and not enough on just finding someone we truly love and who loves us in equal measure. And then nurturing that love.

And Lookingforwife, there are many good lasses to be found in the States. You can't honestly tell me that with such a huge population, there can't be one decent woman out there. Men who run to Asian countries to find wives usually have some sought of issue/s that are a turn off for their own local women. I'm not suggesting there is anything wrong with you (and by the way, your photo wasn't that bad!) but just don't think you will find nirvana in another distant land.

My own darling is Thai but I can tell you, I didn't go to Thailand to search for a man. We just happened to meet (we left everything to the angels) and now we're blissfully happy. Have faith, develop yourself and love will come.

Hi Bina,

Thank you for your kind words. Unfortunately my grandparents have now passed on the the pain in my other relatives is too fresh (and ongoing) to bring it up too much. Some of them have turned to religion for solace and others just pour their energy into their career or children.

I have a Thai friend who is involved with a married man. He's intending to divorce his wife to be with her. She's only young but hopelessly in love. I just can't condemn her (or him) when I see how they feel for one another. Maybe I'm too big a softie! As I said before, sometimes we marry for the wrong reasons and we just don't realise the consequences. Talking about commitment is hopeless when there is no love in the beginning. Love and commitment should go hand in hand.

I can't agree with Siamruby. What she is holding on to is only a semblance of what a true relationship is. Why short change yourself? Letting him have so much freedom is giving him the green light to behave badly and indignantly. Trust and open communication would be a more emotionally productive and would give rise to a deeper level of love and honesty.

Just my few baht worth.

I've been the recipient of flirtatious looks from men (right in front of their women!). One woman actually slapped her boyfriend when he turned around to look at me. Although I found her behaviour just as unacceptable, I don't condone men acting like this at all. It just shows he has no respect for his supposedly significant other. And no, I don't flirt or stare at men (not my style) but some of these men make their behaviour so obvious you can't help but notice when it's being directed at you.

If your man flirts, my advice is to find a man who loves you and only you. Never settle for second best. If you do, you'll be wasting precious years wondering what's wrong with you and spending countless dollars/Baht on therapy when in the ultimate end, it's him and his lack of love, respect and honour for you.

Another thing, I've found men who behave like this are usually childish, have low self-esteem (needing a ego boost constantly) or are very high powered and think they own the world (and all the women contained within!).

The outcome is fantastic. But yes, I'd be a bit concerned too about the repercussions. Still, it's important to stand up for one's rights. Good on you.

I love farang girls who love Thailand.

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I love Thailand, but I'm taken by a beautiful Thai man from BKK.