farang254

This is my first time posting. Been living In bkk for 3 years as a
teacher, from the US. Have a story about a girl I was dating. I would
love some feedback.

I met this thai girl in June on a dating website. We talked for awhile
on whatsapp, then she stopped talking to me cause she said she had a
bf. I would randomly try to talk to her still and see if she wanted
to meet up.

Finally in December we decided to meet at Terminal 21. We decided to get
dinner. When I met her she was with a super gay Thai guy and she has
already eaten dinner. I felt annoyed already. Within 5 minutes she
had asked me if I was interested In her gay friend. She seemed rude
so I was about to just walk away within 5 minutes. I stayed instead,
we got coffee, I paid for all.

We then got talking, she seemed uncomfortable at first but then seemed

to be interested in me (Flirty hitting). At this time I wasn't sure
if she was still dating her bf, but it came up later that she was.
Finally her gay friend left and we stayed and talked for a few hours.
She told me how bad her farang bf was, she caught him cheating 4
times and he didn't treat her well, and that she was too weak to
leave him but wanted to. As we talked I honestly thought I could see
myself really dating her. Not just playing with her, like I had done
with all other Thai girls in the past.

The next day she wanted to meet. We got lunch and she came back to my

place, only kissed. The next day we slept together. It was great. We
hung out for a few more weeks. Shes only 21, in uni, and was living
in the dorms. Her bf was 32. I'm 27.

On new years eve I get a call from her. She tells me her bf found out we

were hanging out and he broke up with her. She had to get her stuff
out of his condo. I find out that shes actually living with him. So,
she stays at my place for a week, then moves in with her police
brother. None of her family knew she was living with him, they
thought she was still living in the dorm.

So we go on to date and develop a somewhat serious relationship. I never

felt back about the ex bf stuff because he cheated first, and in my
eyes the relationship is ruined when someone cheats.

2-3 months in she tells me she wants to be alone. Likes me a lot but

needs to be happy on her own. A week goes by, she said she was
stupid, wants to be with me. (But she actually went back to her ex
and asked him to take her back, he said no: he was her first farang
love). So I say OK. Things are awesome for next about 2 months. She
seems to be a good gf, staying with me most nights of the week

This is now where things get crazy!

I booked a ticket for songkran to go abroad for a week (booked before
knew her) so I was going alone. She was a little worried I would
cheat, which I wasn't going to and actually didn't. I was in love
with this girl and never even wanted to cheat.

I arrive at my hotel abroad, get text from my buddy who lives at my gfs
ex bfs condo saying he might have just seen her there, I ask , she
was wearing green high heels. I right away sent a whatsapp to my gf
and she swears it wasn't her. I ask her to swear on her nieces life,
she goes onto swear on her entire families life, including hers, that
it wasn't her. I feel weird all week on holiday but try to trust her.
(Things had been going so great with her, I should just trust)

So,I come to find out it was for sure her at my buddies condo. Wont go
into detail how. Find out shes sleeping with him still. I ask her and
she starts crying, saying it was a huge mistake, saying she loves me
and wants to marry me and will never see him again. I try to forgive
because im crazy about this girl.

Sunday April 21 I get back to bkk. She picks me up at airport. Go hang out

at my place, eat, she sleeps over, and we talk all night. She tells
me how sorry she feels and how stupid she was and how im the best bf
ever and she will never cheat on me again. I believe her and forgive.

Monday I go to work, and don't see her all day or night. Tuesday I see a pic

of her on fbook, and she has her sleepover purse bag which she brings
to mine when she sleeps over. I freak out, after work I go over,
confront her, and she said she just had extra clothes cause she went
to RCA with friends. I say OK, relax. She goes to bathroom, and a
text comes in. it says “Hey are you still at my hotel? Coming back
now”. I go apesh!tt. She tells me she drank too much and her friend
and her stayed at this hotel and that she kissed but thats all. Still
angry I want to break up, I then grab phone later and see that this
guy has been fbook messaging her too. I get upset ask her <deleted>, she
admits she slept with him twice when I was abroad, so she literally
now has slept with me,ex, and another new guy in a week. During all
this shes crying, telling me she loves me, and how great I am. In the
meantime, I punch a hole in the wall of her bedroom lol.

The worst part was I then saw the fbook times when she was messaging this

guy to meet Monday. They met and slept together first time meeting,
met on fbook. Then spent all day Monday before going to RCA, she got
a wax first, which I paid for. She was making plans Sunday night
when she was with me, after telling me she loves me and will never
hurt me again. I have said goodbye and haven't talked since Tuesday
Yesterday she probably called 5 times and sent me like 300 texts
saying sorry, I love you, I want to marry you, ill never cheat again,
you are the best thing that has ever happened to me. I haven't
responded to any of them

Im still in shock that she did this to me, ive met her family numerous

times, and she tells me they really like me. Thought I had a future
with her, but it must have been all lies from day 1. I just don't
understand, I wasn't giving her money. Id pay for everything but I
wasn't paying out of the A$$.

I don't think ill ever trust a Thai girl, or any girl again. I was so

good to her, never cheated. Sorry for the long message

I would love to hear your thoughts please!!!