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Are you retarded? This is second to the "my girlfriend works in a massage in Pattaya, but she's a virgin and doesn't do happy endings". Your gf is a hooker....either for money or attention. You have 2 choice, go check out the naked party or have one at your house while she's gone.

This is getting out of hand here.... Shes not a hooker. Maybe becasue I used the words "naked party"... The parties are just normal house parties, but they have a backyard private pool.... The guys and girls get drunk then get in the pool and they end up naked. There are no hookers at the parties. Its not old white men and Isaan girls who are paid to come to the house.... These are all 20 something dudes and 20 something year old girls who just come to this guys house for an awesome party.

Some of you guys live in such a small little bubble and dont realize that not every Thai girl is a hooker. Like I said, I am 99% sure shes having sex with no one at these parties, shes just a spectator. The problem I have with it is she is lying or misleading, or withholding information about the parties shes going to.... She obviously doesnt want me to know shes going to pool parties where everyone ends up drunk and naked in the pool....

when i read stuff like this i often wonder: how do people who spill their guts with their personal stuff and hope to receive 'HELP' on this forum deal with real life and real problems? like paying your power bill or buy beer at the right time at lotus. man, grow up!

if you want a female who does not cheat on you, buy a dog.

I'm obviously not here looking for life changing advice. This is venting.... I also dont care if it is my personal stuff.... I (probably) dont know any of you and if you saw me walking down the street, you would have no idea it was me who created the topic.

Just venting here.... I already knew I have to break up with her before creating the topic.

Yea, breaking up I think is the only way out. Such a shame. We have a week long Laos trip planned (and paid for) next week too. Maybe we do that then I end it right after.

I know for a fact she really loves me.... And I am 99% she shes not cheating on me. Shes basically living with me 5-6 days a week. I really dont think shes banging any of the dudes here.... I think the girls who are going are her friends, (and dating some of the dudes) and she has gotten to know all of the guys over the years.... And I can totally picture her sitting on the sidelines just drinking and watching.... But surely the guys are coming to her, playing with her, whatever... naked.... I just cant deal with that, and the stupid excuse of "they are just my friends"....

Anyways, I'm pretty convinced its over. The hard part now is just breaking up and actually going through with it.

I really really dont want to break up with her....

How come you found out now, all about this?

We were talking about having a pool party, then she said she went to a pool party last weekend with her high school friends.... then I just kept asking more and more questions.....

What kind of own "pool party" did you have in mind ? What kind of guests --who would be in the pool together with your Thai girlfriend-- were you hoping for?

She grew up in the West and doesn't mind wearing a bikini on the beach or at semi-public pools, does she?

Well the pool party we were planning was just at my moban pool, just daytime, food drinks, whatever. She didnt grow up in the west... Shes a Bangkok girl. And no, she doesnt wear a bikini, she is all thai style at the beach.

I really really dont want to break up with her....

How come you found out now, all about this?

We were talking about having a pool party, then she said she went to a pool party last weekend with her high school friends.... then I just kept asking more and more questions.....

Yea, I never asked her to go to any of the future parties with her, and that isnt really something I would want to do with a girlfriend.... Thats more of a single thing haha (or on my nights out without her)... My problem isnt that she is not taking me.... Its that shes partying with naked dudes since she was 18 and I was believing she was a pretty good Thai girl who liked to party, which Im ok with.

To the guy who brought up the trust thing, That is my main thought here too, you hit it on the head man. How do I trust anything now? If she says she wants to go party with her friends on a Friday night.... Ive always been "ok".... now its like.... "wait a minute" which she can easily make up any lie.

I mean, the relationship is done now right? What she has done is completely unacceptable.... Shes been partying with naked dudes the whole year we have been together and lying about it. These guys are all her friends, no way shes going to cut off contact with all of them (even though she says she will) and I dont want to get into spy games with her, secretly following her around and stuff just to eventually find out what I already know. The trust here is completely gone.

I really really dont want to break up with her.... Outside of finding this out the other day, our relationship has been fantastic, shes super fun, cute, funny.... We have traveled together and met each others families.... Right now I just cant see how I can handle know she has done this to me, and knowing she has been doing it for years and years, and all of the obvious inappropriate things she has obviously done with these guys (or they have done to her) which she denies but has had to of happened.... I dont think im capable of getting over it.

When I found out I kind of half-assed broke up with her.... which led to her crying uncontrollably and hugging me and begging me to stay with her.... telling me shes sorry and she will never do it again... Classic Thai style. But I just cant get it off my mind.... I am just not cool with the fact that she has seen tons of dudes naked.... I know lots of guys dont care about this at all.

Little background.... I am a normal guy, I dont like girly bars, Ive never had a dirty massage, I dont visit the Nana plazas and its likes. All of the girls Ive dated have been normal girls (ex. university students, office employees)....

Ive been dating my 22 year old girlfriend for about a year (I'm 29) and I really love her. I am really fair with her, I let her go out with her friends and have fun anytime she asks, because I trust her, and she lets me do the same.

She frequently "goes to a house party with her high school friends" which Ive always thought is exactly as it sounds.... and ive kind of questioned her about it before, which she just tells me its just sitting around drinking, chatting, playing games.

Anyways, I found out yesterday the house she is going to is a popular DJ's house (a white guy) here in Bangkok, its a pool house, and hes throwing these massive naked parties.... Its almost all white guys.... She goes there with 1 thai girlfriend, everyone else is Thai girls and white guys.... She tells me she just sits by the pool and drinks while everyone else gets naked and parties.... She justifies it to be by saying things like "What can I do, they get naked" "but they dont like me" "I dont want to see them naked, I just want to drink" "They are all just my friends".... She denies ever getting naked or being involved with any of the guys.

I really dont know what to do.... She has obviously been lying to me about this the whole time.... and what makes it worse is shes been going to this party pretty regularly since she was 18 years old, she knows all of them quite well, and ive heard her talk about these guys in general conversation before.... I just never knew she gets drunk and parties with them naked. Another thing that bothers me is Ive never been invited to one of these parties, so I dont know if shes hiding me, or hiding the fact that she goes or what....

I posed the question to her "Are you ok if im friends with a bunch of thai girls and they come to my house and party with me naked.... just friends" Obviously her answer was no.

Now I dont know what I should do. Cant get it off my mind.... I really do love her, and this came completely out of the blue for me..... I dont want to be with a Thai girl who has been partying with DJ's and their white friends naked since she was 18 years old..... I'm really not ok with it.... But I really dont want to break up. I told her she has to cut all communication with all of those people, which she put up a fight about (because they are her friends) but she ultimately agreed to do. But I feel like she will just keep going to these parties and just making up a different lie.... I REALLY dont want to be the boyfriend who says "You are either with me, or you are at home".

What would you do?

He didnt leave thailand because doesnt have 20,000 baht to pay his overstay

That offer isn't worth it in Bangkok, not with the added restriction of having to stay within the school/buildings throughout the entire day. You didn't mention the contact hours, but I'm assume they're either normal (18-22) or high( 23+), and with the mentioned "5 days holiday per year", are they then not going to give you holidays during the October & Summer holidays? If so, you're missing out on 2 1/2 - 3 months of holidays.

Most of the jobs which I've seen advertised in Isaan pay the same, or more, than what that job does (I'm unsure about how fussy they'd be re: degrees though). Most of these schools would also allow for a much more relaxed working environment (less professional, but more relaxed), in an area with a much lower cost of living. But of course, if you like Bangkok, then it's each to their own, but I'd figure schools in Bangkok should pay more.

Awesome, a real response!!

Yes, they are giving me the Thai holidays off.. Paid. Which I think is a pretty good benefit considering I dont have a degree, my other friends without degrees are not getting the long holidays as paid time off. The 5 days I mentioned are my personal vacation days. They said when this contract is over in a few months, at the end of this school year, my salary would be much higher on the next contract.

Teaching hours would be around 20-22 (they said it would be around 22 50 minute classes per week).

I agree though, I thought the salary is quite low. I think I should find out if its negotiable... I was telling my girlfriend I know someone in Isaan without a degree making 35k, and tons of others in Chiang Mai (where I used to live) making 30-40k without degrees. I think I'll tell them I'll take 40 or I'll take my talents elsewhere. I'm not really in dire need of a job right now.

I am 100% aware of the visa situation going on in Thailand. I have been here for 2 years, just new to Bangkok. I am only asking about the job offer.

Sure, but the terms of the job offer (as there is no work permit) mean that you'll be working in Thailand illegally, should you accept the job. And all you're worried about is the salary!

This job offer only sets you up to potentially being a criminal - probably not the wisest career move.

I wish you the best of luck.

I am aware.... I am also aware than 90% of all the other English teachers here, as well as internet workers and restaurant owners are also illegal...

And yes, this school is one of the top international schools in Thailand. Not joking here or making things up... My GF has a family member who holds a high position in the school.

Haha, are you serious, or joking?

I'm a good looking guy man (obviously a sucker as well for responding haha).

I was trying to see if someone is going to a night club... Music, drinking, dancing, chat with girls. More of my style than the whole Soi Cowboy type thing.

I am 100% aware of the visa situation going on in Thailand. I have been here for 2 years, just new to Bangkok. I am only asking about the job offer.

I'm new in Bangkok, just moved here from Chiang Mai.... Dont really know my way around.. at all. 

I'm 29 years old, just wondering if anyone around my age is going to hit a club tonight, maybe we could meet up. I make an awesome wing man and like to party haha.

You obviously know nothing about Asia, you also clearly didn't read inside the parentheses. Thanks for trying to respond with something useful though

A little about myself, I am young, professional looking, tall, athletic build, blonde hair.... No degree. (I shouldnt have to mention this, but I do at the same time).

The school, who I wont mention, is one of the best, most recognized international schools in Thailand, with many, huge campuses.

Working hours are 7:30-4, teaching English around 25 hours per week. Free lunch, have to be in the building at all times.

No work permit (since I have no degree).

Salary is 30,000 baht, 5 paid vacation days a year, and I get all the holidays.

Is this a good offer for me? I was honestly expecting more... Especially since this is Bangkok... Especially after seeing some of the other farang teachers.

I also know I can make 30,000 outside of Bangkok, so I feel like the salary should be much higher here. They offer 35,000 starting for degree holders.

Should I take it? Should I ask for more money? Should I hold out for a higher paying job?

I would just like to hear some opinions.

If ive forgotten to mention anything here, just mention it and I will fill in more details.

Hey, just looking for a little advice here. My parents and I are going to make an over night trip to Mae Sai and Tachileik.... My plan is to buy the pass to cross the boarder for 500 baht... then spend the night there in Tachileik. Can you stay a night with the 500 baht visa?

Also, I tried to look up places to stay in Tachileik but cant find anything on the internet. Anyone have any recommendations?

Thank you.

Well teaching would be my job... but I want to keep my lifestyle. I want to move because Ive been here more than a year, its great, Ive had/have fun here... But I'm obviously not teaching in Asia for the money... Is anyone? I'm here to travel.... And this is part of my research before I make a big move with the next year of my life. I'm just information gathering.... Teaching is teaching.... I can adapt to this very easily anywhere in Asia. Its the lifestyle that will very. If I can live a good life and have fun in China, I will go. If people come on here and tell me how awful China is, how the girls hate white guys, how there is no party scene, how the food is awful, how the accommodation is awful... I wont go. Maybe I'll move my search to Vietnam, Cambodia, Burma... Thailand is my first Asian experience... And I love it.

What do they mean "Most famous festival in Chiang Mai"....

Also, how do you even answer this question? What is the correct answer?

That is like asking an America what is the most famous holiday in America.

Or asking a tourist in America what is the most famous holiday... If its Christmas time they will say Christmas, if its Easter, they will say Easter... 4th of July, the same...

Seems like really pointless content and a waste of time... They could have come up with much more interesting question for the poll.

I also agree... 15000-30,000 baht per day is quite high, I HIGHLY doubt it. I would say less than 10% are spending that... You would have to be in a 5 star hotel, which there isnt many around, eat at the 5 star hotel restaurants, drink wine, rent a car, and do karaoke every day here to spend that much money. I bet most people are in the 5000 baht range... 500-1000 baht guest house, 300 baht food, 300-1000 baht alcohol, 500 baht shopping.

What I'm really looking for is fun... I love it here in Chiang Mai. I like the party scene, I like the town, I like my friends, I like the girls.... But I'm adventurous... I want to see the world you know? So I basically want this same life style.... I want a good party scene, cool people... And, most importantly, hot girls who are interested in me.... I'm not wanting to move to China to get rich... I just want to maintain a lifestyle.... I want to be able to go party 2 or 3 times a week, live in a decent place, and eat decent food when I want.

Any bars in the Loi Kroh area showing the fight tomorrow morning?

So you were making 41,000 and that was low end??? That is quite shocking for me... From the forums Ive read about working as a teacher in China.... Most people are quite happy with 12,000... And Ive never actually read of anyone making over 25,000, that would be EXTREMELY well qualified. This is why I was in the belief that 12,000 was quite good.... A lot of people I see post salaries of around 9,000 or 10,000 and are happy. I'll have to do more research for sure!

From what Ive heard... 12000 is quite good, and much higher than the general population...

How about the girls? As approachable as the Thai girls?

Ive got a job offer in China for 12,000 RMB(?) per month in a big city... Im a pretty young guy, I enjoy my free time at clubs and chasing women.... Currently in Chiang Mai. Just wondering if its just as fun in China? I really love the clubs here in Chiang Mai, live bands, everyone just having a good time, really chill, and of course, most girls are very approachable. Ive been searching the web but cant find much info. The job is great, just around 50 working hours per month, the salary is also quite high.... But, like most of you, were not teaching in Thailand because of the money.... Its our way of living here. What do you guys think? The location is Shenzhen.