Robininbkk

Man, dating in Thailand is pretty straight-forward. You just gotta keep it real and understand nothing is as it seems to be. Does that makes sense to you? Yes? ok, good. You will be alright.

Moreover, just come to Thailand and go shopping, at the designated areas...

''To take care'' someone means generally the same all over the world. Except in Italian sicilian ways. Anyhow, since this is a Thailand centric forum. When a Thai woman says she want you to take care her, it all depends on what kind of women she is.

If she is an issan bargirl - ''In exchange of use of my body sexually and be your girlfriend/wife, you need to provide enough money to support me, my family, my buffalo's, chickens and banana trees. And don't forget the 1MIL Sinsod''

If she is a ''normal'' working class girl - ''I want you to take care of me financially. Plus when we marry I want to have babies and you need to send me money every month when you are not in Thailand, And don't forget to make me look good in front of my family and friends.

If she is a partygirl - ''I want you to send me money every month and I will be yours alone(555:P). But I will be partying every night and hook up with with other guys and giks with your money. And don't forget I have an expensive lifestyle, I am a pretty girl and have many giks to support''

If she is a hi-so wannabe/Maxim model/carshow model - ''take care of me sexually and make me look good, cuz you are a good looking and rich farang, buy me alot of gifts and take me out to fancy places so we can be seen. And don't forget to send me money every month if you want me to be yours alone (555:P) cuz I have an expensive lifestyle, being a model and such''

Who cares what kind of flag one wears? It's just a painted symbol. Yes sure, to some it has a meaning, to some it does not. I'm pretty sure to the non-american citizens it doesn't mean jack shit, they wear it because it looks cool, you know, USA ''Amerika'' is soo coool and makes one ''hi-so'' ... same shit with people making selfies holding and drinking a starbuck frappuchino... It is only a certain micro level group of people with a certain level of intellect. Case closed.

First off lets do a little analysis......Since "Scarpolo's" limited experience in Thailand has mostly to do with dating for a few months a "high-end" soapy Prostitute and since this is his post it would seem to be geared toward sex trade women....

Just how many Thai women are involved in the Sex trade? A little research shows that although the number varies according to various polls.....200,000 to 300,000 is probably a good estimate. Population of Thailand is about 67 million with about half being women.....Sooooo 33.5 million women! So .006 percent of Thai Women work in the Sex industry and Scarpo's interaction with that segment.....Well obviously WAY LESS

My point is that after 6 months in Thailand with limited interaction .....the generalizations made by the OP ......well preposterous !!!

So as said before......Post read.....moving on

I read that two out of three Thai men use prostitutes in some way, whether they are Mia Nois, from bars, or streetwalkers etc. If that is anywhere near true, then how many prostitutes are really in Thailand? I am not against prostitution as long as no one is getting hurt in any way. No one has any right to tell anyone what they can or can't do with their own bodies.

Firstly, define ''prostitution''

An office worker ''good girl'' could have a debt that needs to be taken care of immediately and the fastest way is to rent her body out. She might do this for a week or month part-time and after she collected enough money to pay her debts, she will then stop doing it.

Then, is she called an ex prostitute?

I would say all women are whores, whenever it suits them. Most simple philosophical truth out there. Only a few understands. Have been hidden by feminist movement to safe face, so most men don't realize this.

PS, save your political correct reactions.

Excellent salesmanship by the girl here. First she built a connection, then she made the irressistible one time offer at the time you were your weakest. These girls waste their time selling sex. If they had any kind of drive, they could have made excellent sales reps in other business.

Other businesses might not be so lucrative as plowing and hunting for sugar daddies.

The OP tossed out 4 girls in a month, so I guess that makes him a tosser by profession. (Sorry, couldn`t resist it).

Over the years attitudes towards relationships have changed dramatically in Thailand.

I have been with my Thai wife over 30 years; both in our 50s now and the ways of thinking were completely different in the days when we first met.

These days I just don`t feel that Thai women make good wife/girlfriend partners anymore and best not to become too deeply involved with them.

Down my way there is a Thai family. The guy has a very attractive daughter in her late 30s. She is not and has never been a bar girl but has her own business as an exporter of antique goods. All sounds good and would appear as an ideal catch for any discerning farang. But this woman is something like the black widow spider. Over the years she has had a string of profiles on dating websites. She always aims for farang guys in theyre 50s and early 60s because she believes that guys in this age group are more likely to have money and be more desperate for a younger female companion. After the first couple of dates she invites the farangs to meet her family, than the process for extracting these men of a lot of money begins, with stories that she requires money for her ailing business, the father needs a stomach operation and so on. Within the last 2 years the parents have had a new home built, new vehicles purchased and so on with the monies obtained by scamming these farangs. It is well known by the locals how this family have acquired their newfound wealth. There was one particular German man that we know gave this woman almost 1.5 million baht before she dumped him. My wife and I have said; one day this woman is going to choose the wrong victim and end up dead.

Many of the Thai women can now be compared with their counterparts in the West, where basically all they want is a child and to accumulate wealth for a comfortable life later on without a male partner. I am not in anyway intentionally denigrating Thai women, my point is that it`s a sign of the times and whatever you do, has to be done at your own risk and discretion, or in other words, tread carefully out there, it can be dangerous world where you stand to lose everything, even your life in some cases.

And you dont feel that due to internet and a more closely connected world, flying long distances becoming so common, that the quality, reason and attitudes of the western men of all ages coming here looking for young women have also not changed in the 30yrs since you met your wife?

Beetlejuice speaks the truth and I believe it. I've seen it, and actually esperienced these farang scamming black widows, though I never lost a penny to them.

You can meet them on Thailovelinks and many other dating sites where there are alot of farang potentials. Also on Soi 11 Sukhumvit, where the more wealthy farangs hang out in the clubs.

Only read your OP.

Question, did you use a condom or bare?

If you did bare, then she might think that you really really like her, so much, willing to take care of her financially, and for accesing her golden muffin.

It's their illogical nature that keeps me coming to Thailand, besides the women and the food and the beaches. Their own little ''kindergarten style of logic'' is plain gold, pure entertainment. Thailand is the most unique in this regard. No else in the world would one have constant free comedy entertainment.

You didn't notice that unless you speak thai, the conversation doesn't go much beyond where to eat your next meal, did you?

Thai at Heart, I respect your personal observation, but you can never generalize.

There are many couples in Thailand that can have proper conversations and discuss anything and everything.

Thai people do learn English.

Farangs seldom bother to learn Thai.

This assumed your missus speaks passable English. When I first arrived in thailand, a while ago, in the place I was, there was one girl who spoke English passably, and she learnt it in a coastal resort swinging her thing.

It was learn thai, or satay aloan. I would recommend it. It broadens the selection pool rather massively and I wouldn't have met my wife of 13 years without it. That said, she also talks about her next meal, straight after eating, occasionally.

Good point - I wouldn't have met my wife of 13 years too if I hadn't learned Thai

Your wife was 13 years when you met her. Ok...

You didn't notice that unless you speak thai, the conversation doesn't go much beyond where to eat your next meal, did you?

Thai at Heart, I respect your personal observation, but you can never generalize.

There are many couples in Thailand that can have proper conversations and discuss anything and everything.

Thai people do learn English.

Farangs seldom bother to learn Thai.

This assumed your missus speaks passable English. When I first arrived in thailand, a while ago, in the place I was, there was one girl who spoke English passably, and she learnt it in a coastal resort swinging her thing.

It was learn thai, or satay aloan. I would recommend it. It broadens the selection pool rather massively and I wouldn't have met my wife of 13 years without it. That said, she also talks about her next meal, straight after eating, occasionally.

Good point - I wouldn't have met my wife of 13 years too if I hadn't learned Thai

Your wife was 13 years when you met her. Ok...

Is it still Thailand related? If yes, then the quality of sex must be part of the whole package, for me.

All I do is win, I have tiger blood.

This topic is hilarious and entertaining.

OP title reads something like ''dating a young Thai girl and why I love Thailand for this''

Well. Yes. I only date Thai ladies younger than me, the older ones does not gives me advantageous wits over the young Thai girls, physically as well as mentally.

Physically, this is a no brainer, I am a man, and a man by nature likes young looking women. Mentally, older Thai ladies does not equals to being more mature, still as childlish. Maybe the ones 45+ are mature.

Sure I love Thailand in the sense that there are so many young beautiful available women around. I am having a hard time organising my dating schedule.

I mean, you're in your 70s, right?

The amount of different posting names he has used?

The amount of his ''paid love''?

There is nothing wrong with paying shit for women.

But something is very wrong if paying is the only means to have a relationship with women or to sustain it. Now, I am not judging men who does, just a reaction to those who believe that is the norm in general. Let's not generalize , shall we, everybody is different.

In Thailand, when you are a farang and she is a Thai women with kids, it is standard to have the farang have her kids as part of the whole deal. I understand that ''your friend'' does not want to be responsible for her kids future, financially. That's the first mistake you made, is to be a women with kids and ex bf/husband (bagage). So you should consider to dumb her and find a single lady, with no bagage.

As for the father of her kids, did you confirmed what she is telling you? that he is a cop? Most of the time these type of ladies tells you this to make you scared. To have some sort of leverage over you.

If you are serious about her and want to continue this relationship, thenyou should firstly check everything she's telling you is real or not. Starting with the cop father. It's real easy, all you need is his name, rank and department.

I really dislike this presumption of the Thais that all farangs are super duper hyper billionaires, like they see on television, and sees them nothing more than an ATM machine. It is because of the likes of the OP this image of farangs keeps validated in the minds of Thais and keeps treating us that way. These farangs keep throwing money around just because ''it is so much cheaper than back home''... foolish. Please educate yourself about local economics/micro economics. Overpaying locally is just plain stupid IMHO. Would you overpay in your homecountry? the hell you would, you rather cheap out on most things, cause that is the smart thing to do, so why being stupid in Thailand?...

Another thing is, the power of pussy. It is powerful anywhere in the world, but at least it is super cheap in Thailand, compared to western countries, and it's availability is in much greater quantity. So it has less power here, but farangs still have this ingrained in their minds that the pussy hold power over them, the power of pussy is strong in the West,. There is so much fish here, why would you be affraid to lose one?...

So the farang keeps overpaying, even for pussy, overpaying for what a particular pussy is worth. Examplem, paying millions in sinsot to marry a brown skinned ex bargirl with 2 children from her past marriage with a Thai guy... This is a classic, with many similar and variations and one of the most imprtant one why Thais think we are so stupid. We westerners do not grasp the concept of Asian culture.

Wake up man, this ain't the West, where you must do everything your wife wants, to have sex. If she doesn't respect you and your money, then get another one who does, there is plenty nice women out there, so don't be afrraid to ditch this one.

So your Thai step daughter asks for a bike, and then an Iphone... Would she do the same if you were a Thai step father? No way.

Licenses and insurences are a joke here. Don't even bother, you are both not physically in the same place or even near to check it.

You have only 2 options really. Do it or don't do it. Comply to what your stepdaughter wants and get more happy time from wife or don't comply and get withdrawal of sex from your wife.

I feel sad for the OP. Trapped in the US of A system. Just figured there is a better place out there.

And That's all what the OP wants, that's what we all want, happiness, right?

Good luck to ya anyway and wish you the best.

Funny fact as well is that most farang pay for the girls that the Thai men gets for free...

The old delusional men who say women do not objectify guys have no idea at all.

You should see the stuff 18-21 year old girls are spamming on my facebook everyday. They even take photos of random guys at the beach and guys walking around the street then drool over it with their friends.

Why do you think Twilight is so popular? What about Adam Levine?

Of cause no one has ever objectified you, so of cause this doesn't exist in your alternate reality of life..

So true. You hit the sweet spot. Most Thailand (s)expats won't like what you're saying, so expect a hell barrage from them lol.

Humans are optical beings, regardless of being female or male. We make sense of the things we see, because that is the most logical, feelings counts too, but that can be played by other factors.

Why farangs get so easily offended? It's the ''land of smiles'' so they say. So keep smiling. Take shit lightheartedly. Any other way will get you ony discomfort and agony. Just think of them as little 5 year olds, and treat them like that. In your western country, you would take no offence if a 5 year old gives u their childish .... do you?

First off all, there is no such thing as moral here. The term ''moral'' is a western thing. Asians, and particularly Thais, do not have this concept of moral like we Westerners do. Wait, I am wrong, Asians do have morals, but not the same way Westerners have ie. not about age. There is no moral or principle about that.

It's more about he type of girl than it is about the age of the girl you are dating with that's causing you discomfort. The ''drama'' type. The ''mia farang'' type and the classic ''I want to be saved by a farang in a wifebeater armor'' type.

Get a decent girl and you will have no bullshit about exes and past trivialities from her.