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Hi Folks,

I wanted to hear from people about their experiences dealing with Muang Thai Insurance. Why I want to know is I have a policy with them but it one of the types that are kind of insurance disguised as a savings account. Want to know about dealing with them for a payoff of the policy if it becomes necessary. My account is like this.

I pay 28,000 Baht a year. The term is for 20 years. I started it 7 years ago. I've made 7 payments. 13 more to go. It is supposed to work like this. If I die before the 20 years is up, say for example next year, my wife gets 500,000. if I die in an accident or on a holiday like Fathers Day(cruel irony. Yes we have a kid which is why I did this) she gets 1,000,000. If I make it to the 20 years, we get all that we put in and about 50,000 in interest.

Had anybody heard about friends or other people with a similar plan/policy and how did it turn out for them? Any problems? I was told they are pretty large and dependable. True or not? Should I worry about my wife having problems getting a pay out? Are they like any other insurance company helll bent on not paying out money? I recently asked them for a printout of what I have paid and the balance etc and they said they didn't do that. This kind of sent up a red flag for me Why would they not let me see this on paper?

If anyone has personally dealt with them or knows something about them, I would appreciate hearing about it.

Thank you

HI everybody,

I apologize for not looking far back very far in the archieve for this forum.I'm sure this topic has been covered.

I would love to hear from people about leasing a car in Thailand. What I would love to know is.....

1. Can you lease a car in Thailand?

2. Is it worth it?

3. Is it just better to buy?

4. If you can lease, where is the best place to go? I would prefer a Toyota as I've always done well with them. Currently driving an Altis that we are borrowing from my sister in law and she will be taking it back soon.

5. What kind of terms should I expect to get?

Also I am leaning towards a Vios if I buy or lease. I woud appreciate any feedback from people who own one currently or have owned one in the past.

Thanks in advance for any and all help. Hope everyone is having a good Fathers Day weekend.

Thanks for the thoughts guys...I am defnitely going to aim for the pre school starting in May...at the end of the day if we cant provide some semblance of structure then school is a good foundation block to start from.

As for the coming home from work and spending time with our Son it is that part that is driving me insane. I love spending time with him and the time we spend together on the weekend is really the only time he gets out of the house. But when I get home at 6;30 what I would like to happen is that I spend quality focused time with him and what I see as mormal back in the west (and what I would like) is something like this:

6:30 - Play time together.

7:15 bath and story time

8pm sleep

8pm to 10:30 relax with wife and unwind

What hapens due to lack of structure is that I get home and 6;30 and he is running around or feeding or playing or bathing or sleeping (yes he sometimes doesnt even wake up from afternoon nap until 6:30pm) it is anyones guess. Then it is basically chaos for the rest of the evening until 10pm at which point he may or may not sleep and because he is now so used to sleeping with us that he wont sleep unless we are in the bed with him! So basically due to lack of structure and poor parenting I have no time to relax and unwind (or my wife either). EVERYONE I know in the UK does it the right way so the kid has discipline and also so they have a routine and time for themselves.

I fear my wife (as is common here) just takes the easy way out without being able to think of the future and possible consequences. Give him the ipad now, or let him sleep for 4 hours, or chase him around with food to save 5 minutes of pain without any possible way of conceiving of the idea that the 5 minutes less pain causes 4 hours of pain later!!

Anyway, many thanks for the comments and he is starting school on 12th May...

I COMPLETELY understand as I think you just said exactly what has happened(happens) to me, except I don't go away for work but still get home at 6 most nights after leaving at 7am. Here is as Americans say, "my two cents". First I would say some of the responders are focusing on your "lack of" taking part in the parenting and less on what I thought was your main point which is her parenting skills. It is easier for people to say you aren't doing something. Maybe they have been in Thailand too long and have adopted the nothing is wrong with what any Thai does attitude. Anyway, I would say they are wrong and right as my experience tells me some of the other posters have good ideas as well. Second YES put your foot down for this very reason. My wife was/is the exact same way. The electronic stuff must go NOW. I suspect you are right in thinking that because she is sitting around doing nothing except the basics all day, you child is not getting enough interaction. This interaction is where structure and most importantly LANGUAGE acquisition comes from. My son is still in the process of being able to speak because his mom while being very loving, didn't spend time doing things the typical mom will do, escpecially verbal interaction. He is much more active and yes also doesn't sleep till 10. But most importantly his ability to socialize has been hampered and attention span as he started playing games on mommy's iPad and phone and that led to me coming down in the mornings or home in the evening to find them both on their respective electronic devices.(He is 5 now) Yes school will help. We only started our son last year but there has been improvement. Your proposed schedule is EXACTLY what I do. All my time is with him once I get home including reading to him which thankfully he enjoys and is now able to read, They are right, she probably won't change so getting him and school and taking away the electronic things and buying her books in Thai to read to your kid is what you need to do. I've seen a big improvement in the last 3 months since I said no more electronic gadgets for him at all or the wife if he is at home. I no longer even use the computer unless he is asleep. Although are wives are good, loving girls the Thai non-structure way I think is why we see some of the spoiled pu chai actions and you only have to look at their "leaders" on both sides to see what a non structured up bringing will get you. But that is a different topic for a different day. Put the foot down, explain your reasons, and spend all the time you can with him/her when you aren't at work. I'm a bit tired, sorry if I seemed to ramble on a bit. Take care

Sorry for the late reply. I am very glad I posted the question here, as I got a lot of great information from the members and monitors. So thanks everyone for taking the time to reply and help. I will try not to anger the grammar or punctuation police LOL. I am embarrassed by error and definitely guilty of laziness in proof-reading haha. Everybody have a good rest of the week.

" Usual story I think I am American and his mother is Thai. Yes we are "married" and have been for almost six years. We haven't done the full legal marriage."

Besides the marriage issue, what's up with your statement, "I think I am American"?

Don't you know?

My appolgies for forgetting the period after think.

I should have said "It's the usual story I think.

Hello everyone. First post I apologize if this is in the wrong forum. I assume this has been covered before so please bear with me. I want to know what I need to do to get my son an American passport. Usual story I think I am American and his mother is Thai. Yes we are "married" and have been for almost six years. We haven't done the full legal marriage. Our son is five and I want to be able to take him travelling and maybe see some of his family in the States in the future. Have a Thai birth certificate and there won't be any problems with his mom signing any papers that are necessary as she would like him to possibly visit there or be able to be educated there. My questions are:

Will I need to go through a different process since he is already five years old? Have I blown it by not immediately declaring his as my son at the Embassy or something along those lines? Is he eligible for a US Passport? If so what should my next step be? What is the cost? What papers would I need to present? I would hope to find out everything possible so any documents I need I will prepare and go to the Embassy and hopefully get it done as quickly as possible. No rush on time or anything but of course the sooner, the better. All information and help is greatly appreciated. Hope everyone survived Songkran unscathed. Thank you.

Thanks for the comments above ... but frankly ... none of is what I am looking for.

So you are only looking for answers that confirm what you want to do anyway.

Geeze ... how straightforward do you have to with some people ...

I've said this twice thus far ...

Now, before this goes any further ... I'm only interested in hearing replies from couples who have 1/2 Thai/Western Kids.

When I wrote that quoted line (which has been taken out of context) ... none of the replies then had been from ... couples who have identified themselves as having 1/2 Thai/Western Kids.

Again ... both my partner and I have an open mind on the issue.

I also expected better of those who 'liked' your comment.

Maybe I am too much of an optimist ... but I thought that on this Forum, we did our best to help the members ... not judge them ...

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Here is an answer from the male half of a Thai/Western marriage with a son. We didn't do it. Now admittedly I didn't really look into it. I myself am circumsized. Now igorning the locker room asthetics, we plan on staying here and my understanding was Thais don't do it. As for other cultures to be honest I am not sure who does or why. Another reason we didn't do it is as I started to think "yes or no" I couldn't have imagined finding someone who could do it without great injury to our son and I would not want him to suffer even at such a young age where is is more likely to "forget" it. I think as far as any problems that might arise from the "extra" skin, wouldn't that be just a question of teaching him to properly clean in the folds of skin? Now our son is five and unless he asks for it(doubtful) it isn't going to be done. Other than adding some "personality" to his friend, I don't see much benefit of doing it. Why cause any pain to your child if you have a choice not to? Hope this helps.

just tell her youll keep the money in your account for the future of you two and possibly your children,

i dont think shell be to botherd about that,

jake,

ps if she,s not ok with that run

Well said LOL. She sounds like she is not a virgin etc and has not family who needs money since mom already found a rich farrang. Say I don't want to do it and see how much she "loves" you. Pigeonjakes take is spot on.

It's completely legal and pre-dates Obama.

He's right. This is straight up Patriot Act stuff, but in your case was DEFINITELY more pedophile related. Because of your age and if you were travelling alone and stayed in Thailand a long time, its par for the course. Before I moved here I would come every 3 months or so and I would say 3 of the 8 times I came, I got the same treatment. Add that Ito the fact I didn't have a short consevative hair cut, not blonde hair blue eyed, and well was here 4 times a year, I wasn't surprised I got the treatment. After the first time it didn't bother me. I had nothing to hide and I expected it. I just talked to them as they were going through my stuff and wondering why I had 2 big packs of Mama LOL LOL Can't you buy Top Ramen here? Ignorance is bliss

Maybe they believe we all have indestructible Buddha nature inside us anyway.

Maybe they are an emotionally destructive family?

Who knows?

You can't change them in anyway can you?

All you can really do is deal with the family situation the best you can and do what's you think is right for your kids.

Destructive....yes...but hard to believe all of the inlaws are like that and dont see it is bringing the kids nothing.

Tried for around 9 months but see no change....hence my topic.

Right for kids is, get them away from the emotional destructive environment they are in....tried this month.....to no avail......

You have to be proactive. The fact is so many kids here get raised without fathers, a lot seem to think its OK and they don't see how(in my opinion) some problems with the people running around Thailand is because they had no father or even father figure. Its all mai pen arai and what is is what is. The other sad fact is there is rarely a "logical disucssion" to be had about such matters. You can't hope for them to understand or believe you want to be part of their lives as 99% of Thai guys bail as soon as the test comes back positive. So yes, do talk about withholding money until you get the time with them you want. You probably would be best served by going through legal channels is there are any for fathers who actually want to be involved in their kids lives even if the are not with mom any more. To get a better answer you need to answser some of the other questions about her family and yes her line of work. Why does mom need to work and not be there if you are supporting them enough? If you are not able to, thats OK as long as you are doing all you can. Get "legal" custody or some rights declared(again if that is possbile here. I worry its not as again Logic etc. Not used to a man wanting to be in their kids lives) so you get visitation. If your ex is a simple girl then a logical discussion probably won't work with her but you have to try anyway. She is the key, the others will have to do what she tells them to do as she is their mother. So if you come and say I want to take all three of them with me for a week and mom says OK then you are set and that time needs to be spent telling all of them no matter what, I am your dad and want to be in your lives. After some time they will hopefully lose some of the poison no doubt being poured in their ears by sisters and other relatives. Start the legal stuff behind the scenes. I hope you have copies of birth certicficates etc, I believe I have heard that there is a legal way(money money) of declaring yourself as the father and I think this might make it easier to just get to court etc and get legal visitation etc. Get a cheap Nokia and since it costs nothing to receive calls, try to call everyday. Kids figure stuff out and if the relatives are conspiring against you, eventually your actions will show the kids that the words used towards you don't match your actions.

I've been asking around. Abac is the most famous private international university in thailand. Well known for business course. Mahidol is the top 3 local university in thailand. Teaching styles, i'm not sure about it.

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Remember, well known means just that, well known. It doesn't mean it's good. ABAC is essentially the university that a lot of lazy rich kids who didn't do well enough to get into the Big 3 (Chula, Thammasat and Mahidol) go to as a last resort because they can buy their way in. Also, many things here have a "great repuation" that isn't warranted. You need to do the proper research to make sure what works best for you. There is another topic in this forum that talks more about the quality of the education here that might be helpful also. In the end if you plan on staying in Thailand and a Thai degree will get you the job, it doesn't matter the quality of the degree. As long as they take it the important thing. Just don't think your Thai degree will take you anywhere outside of Thailand. Chula the "top" university here, only finished 220 out of the best universities in Asia.

Assoc Prof Samphan Phanphruk, who heads the National Institute of Educational Testing Service (NIETS), yesterday said some students scored zero on the English, mathematics and physics test

​I've tried to get a copy for the P.6 tests from last Saturday,. but no way. Got the O-net from last year for M.3 and I'm certain that most Thai English teacher would fail these questions as well.

A kid at our school had 98 out of possible 100 in her pre O-net. The two questions where she was "wrong", was the test itself, made in Thailand by Thais. I would have taken the same answers, as the girl was correct.

They should let the Thai English teachers make the test first and then compare the results with the students' results. That would be breathtaking.-

I went through the english part of the onet with my son last year and my daughter this year. Many of the questions have no correct answer so I told them to try and pick the one that is closest to the correct answer. Some of the answers were so close that picking the one that is closest to being correct is a toss up.

They really need a native english speaker to revamp these tests.

Great idea. You know how well Thais like asking for help from Westerners. I mean that would "make sense" And rarely does the thing that makes sense get done here sadly, especially when it comes to education. The test is quite the joke. The problem is what we think is closest to the right answer must go against what a Thai thinks is the right answer. A complete toss up. Last year there was a question about what you should do when you felt "an urge" about the opposite sex. As best we could tell the answer was either B go play sports or E talk to a monk about it. No wonder people here get angry so easy. I"ve just stopped worrying about it and telling my M6 students, hurry and grow up so some of you smarter ones can be part of the MOE and stop this nonsense. It will take another 15 years or so before all the "older" generation is out and maybe some sensible decisions start being made there. KIds having to take subjects in school like Chemistry and Physics that they have NO interest in does not help at all either. Oh sorry, I was using logic. Forget I said that.

You shouldn't directly tell her about your situation.You shoudl give her a truthful explanation.Show her that you've given it some thought, and offer her some facts to back it up. Don't be aggressive or combative. When explaining the reasons for a breakup, don't talk about other relationships. Your relationship is your own, and breaking up isn't about comparing your relationship to anyone else's. You should offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions.Unless you've decided that it's absolutely the best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm.

You did read the part about his girlfriend being Thai right? 90% of Thai girls wouldn't care if you gave it some thought. Yes, its the land of smiles but it is also the land of seething anger, contridictions and lack of ability to think logically, ratiionally and carry on a real conversation without just shutting down when they don't understand or can't answer your question. 6 out of 10 times you ask a question here the answer will be "mai roo" The only question he will hear is how much money are you going to give me to leave.

You shouldn't directly tell her about your situation.You shoudl give her a truthful explanation.Show her that you've given it some thought, and offer her some facts to back it up. Don't be aggressive or combative. When explaining the reasons for a breakup, don't talk about other relationships. Your relationship is your own, and breaking up isn't about comparing your relationship to anyone else's. You should offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions.Unless you've decided that it's absolutely the best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm.

You did read the part about his girlfriend being Thai right? 90% of Thai girls wouldn't care if you gave it some thought. Yes, its the land of smiles but it is also the land of seething anger, contridictions and lack of ability to think logically, ratiionally and carry on a real conversation without just shutting down when they don't understand or can't answer your question. 6 out of 10 times you ask a question here the answer will be "mai roo" The only question he will here is how much money are you going to give me to leave.

You shouldn't directly tell her about your situation.You shoudl give her a truthful explanation.Show her that you've given it some thought, and offer her some facts to back it up. Don't be aggressive or combative. When explaining the reasons for a breakup, don't talk about other relationships. Your relationship is your own, and breaking up isn't about comparing your relationship to anyone else's. You should offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions.Unless you've decided that it's absolutely the best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm.

You did read the part about his girlfriend being Thai right? 90% of Thai girls wouldn't care if you gave it some thought. Yes, its the land of smiles but it is also the land of seething anger, contridictions and ability to think logically, ratiionally and carry one a real conversation without just shutting down when they don't understand or can't answer your question. 6 out of 10 times you ask a question here the answer will be "mai roo" The only question he will here is how much money are you going to give me to leave.

Yeah, stop being a wuss and carry on looking for the love of your life. Life's too short.

Thank you. I'm alone here in los except for some Thai friends . May be time to change to plan b. Thanks guys.

It's just a fact. Your story is as old as the dawn in Thailand. Wooloomooloo said it best. I would suggest a trip to the Phils. You run into the same issues there but not as strong and you can find a girl who really wants to take care of you and will be happy with your attention and fewer paid bills and you won't have to buy gold or a buffalo. If you really want "love" or a "relatioship" based on feelings, not your wallet, this might be the wrong place for you. You can find them but you gotta look high and low and probably have another or two experiences like this one. Try online sites first so you can vet the person you are talking to more. The answers to certain questions will tell you: digger or real. More passion in Pinoy women I have found, Good luck. Move on now.

Yeah, stop being a wuss and carry on looking for the love of your life. Life's too short.

Thank you. I'm alone here in los except for some Thai friends . May be time to change to plan b. Thanks guys.

It's just a fact. Your story is as old as the dawn in Thailand. Wooloomooloo said it best. I would suggest a trip to the Phils. You run into the same issues there but not as strong and you can find a girl who really wants to take care of you and will be happy with your attention and fewer paid bills and you won't have to buy gold or a buffalo. If you really want "love" or a "relatioship" based on feelings, not your wallet, this might be the wrong place for you. You can find them but you gotta look high and low and probably have another or two experiences like this one. Try online sites first so you can vet the person you are talking to more. The answers to certain questions will tell you: digger or real. More passion in Pinoy women I have found, Good luck. Move on now.

Then there is the other side of the coin. A Thai wife married to a Thai man will cheat with a farang. I'm no "hunk" by any means, but have been hit on by attractive Thai women about 40 yo or so who are married. Never took them up on it. I like breathing in and out.

Happens with me too..and always will happen specially with farangs..in any country, but here, to date a married woman is a suicide adventure, for both lovers. In western culture, infidelity is a path to divorce, here is a part of marriage. Anyway.....I posted this question because I saw many Thai men talking freely about affairs, even charming other women, in front of their wives....and doing things that I cannot comment here..I was invited many times by professional Thai married men to go out with them to karaoke bars full of prostitutes.....and with wives knowledge. I come back home alone..them...the next day.

Thailand is the #1 country in the world when HIV is contracted by wives and children because spouse behavior.

I think that is a down side of their culture.

They put up with it more when you take care of them well(financially) its all tied to that and yes some acceptance of what is part of the culture. Why to you think there are so many karoke bars and massage places here? For the married guys. Mia noi anyone(if you can afford one) No thanks, one wife is enough.

First of all, she says you can't marry and live in a rental house and that's thai culture. That's not thai culture, that's her mindset and her explanation for requesting 3-4 mill. Do NOT be fooled by that. Thais always pull the 'thai culture' card because they know that foreigners don't know anything about it(even if they think they do)so they will probably believe it. Don't be one of those who have believed it and later regretted.

She nas not introduced you to her parents yet and is reluctant to do so until you prove it that you can provide her. Again, she has just proved it that she is full of sh_t. If a woman truly loves you, she is going to be happy and proud to introduce you to her parents. When she comes up with pathetic excuses like this one, she just makes it clear that her main motivation is money instead of love.

Besides, you have posted this here and need advice. That is because you are in doubt. Deep within you doubt that you should do it. So I suggest you to listen to that voice and find yourself a real woman. You have not got married yet but this relationship is already all about money. Get me a car, buy me a house etc...and after I might introduce you to my parents. Is this for real? Leave that mess and find a woman that truly loves you. There are plenty out there. You are going to find her.

This is the best and truest response to this. Very few Thai women really want love, they want security. The comment about the meeting of the parents says the most and is true. She already said it's about money. What more do you need to know. I suggest the Phils next time. Same issues but I have found a little less of this "money measuring your love"

She has two kids to a previous relationship. I think my mate will be fine but suspect strongly she will be mightily peeved. No-one (friend included) knows that much about her - ok he's met family in village and said kids. But unsure of any unsavory connections. My fear is for any retribution to him, seen that before in LOS and Pats, so am keen to avoid this as much as poss.

People splitting up is normal. If no history of something "unsavory", assume that they will part without retribution. Representations about Thailand, especially in terms of relationships between Western men and Thai women, in this forum ought to be treated with caution. Also sporting tattoos is not an indication of anything (unless they are distinct prison tattoos), if this worries you.

In general, of course splitting up is always best be done amicably.

I would dare say that tattoos are far from the "fashionable" things they have become/are in the west. They are still quite taboo and carry social stigmas, but the beauty of them is its easy to know somebody(Thai) if they have a tattoo. A girl 95% chance she is/was a bar girl. A guy? same percentage he's a gangster type. Yes there are exceptions but the percentage of them is miniscule. The two kids was a clue. It might get ugly. Trying the I have no more money is safest but she might refuse to leave and of course Thai vs. farrang the police won't help get her out. Just tell him to tread carefully, stay out of the way and if he survives, ask more questions next time. Thais luckily are terrible liars.

Did you ever come here to meet her? 6 months of chat. Very nice and all that, but if she is a girl who wants a relationship she is gonna look to someone else who will visit and show what he is made of! Otherwise she is wasting her time and the years are clicking by I suspect.

Yes, i suspect this is the case too to be honest. She is 28 and has a kid too and I believe she desperately is looking for a farang, because her facebook page is full of farang guys.

Ive met her for only 2 weeks and I planned another visit next year, but i guess that's too much waiting on her part + she doesn't have any guarantee that we will be together forever. I dont judge her for meeting other farangs, i actually told her that I understand her situation and that I wont be mad at all if she found another one. (to be honest, i was also reluctant to stay with her after i found that she had a kid)

If she's gone, then she's gone but what happened to a proper goodbye ?

Welcome to Thailand. Here it is the "path of least resistance" Which is to say nothing. This is common not only for relationships, but in general everyday life, combined with the "mai pen arai" lifestyle. Here today, gone tomorrow, little emotional investment is the way here. Don't even think about getting into a "discussion" or have a dialogue with a Thai. Witness the recent political stuff. Go Pinoy if you want a GF. Similar things happen there, but I think a bit less and at least they will occassionally tell you off or say why they are bailing on you LOL

yes racism is alive and well , it is a very brave post you made , well done mate ,,,,, i often say to my wife , now i know what the blacks have been struggling against for centuries , i get a reminder daily in LOS and i am white ...the common Thai mentality is if you have black skin, u must be a farmer and have no education therefore you are below us ... when posed the question, well the most powerful man in the world the President of the USA is black , how do u explain that ? too hard .....

I feel for you ,i am ashamed of the Thai people for being so ignorant and god knows how they will fit in with the other 9 ASEAN countries .... remember its not you that has the problem ...

goodluck dont give up man !!

thanks so much..life is even harder when you are a black man..but trust me, i am not giving up, we are not giving up, and definitely no right thinking human being is giving up on this..because we all share humanity

It's great you are not giving up. And Cdmtdm is as my British friends say "spot on". The sad fact is do not expect it to change in this lifetime for either of us.This ingrained in their culture and stems from similar beliefs in China. You can't hope for change in something that is part of 1000 years of history. The light skin, dark skin thing expecially. Your best example is the current political nonsense. It's basically class warfare. Yes there is corruption Duhhhhh we all know that, but look at the history. This happens everytime someone not part of the Bangkok elite(tending to be light skinned) don't have control. Every election has been dismissed or tossed out by a coup. It's BKK versus the rest of the country(more or less) and outside BKK is where the non white skin is. Also having taught here for some time I do know similar commments about your job being able to be taken at any time is true. No matter how much better qualified you are. A "farrang" will never be part of the hiring process except at International Schools. And even then they can be overrulled as they have to cater to their rich customers, er I mean students. The ignorance and nationalism and drive to not lose face are things that will only change, much like a flat plane in North America one day became the Grand Canyon.

Our boy is 50/50 Aussie and Thai and 2 1/2, he speaks his own language which I nor my wife understand. he uses gestures rather than words of any kind and my wife is getting worried about his speech development. He is a clever little boy, just not communication with words yet? Should we be worried, I think it will just happen but she doesn't.

We live in Pattaya so if we need to seek advice is there any recommendations?

BTW - We speak to him in English mainly although he has older full Thai sisters who speak to him in Thai.

Hi,

I am new and wanted to know how things have gone for you since I have the exact same concerns/problems you are having. I would love to hear back from you and hope everything is going well on your end. Thanks. I left a rather long post on here as well right after your post I didn't know how to reply directly LOL. Take care

Just got read your post and my young fella is now 3 1/2 and his language skills in both English and Thai are progressing well.

It is like the light has come on and while it is repetitious he is adding extra words to his sentences (with prompting) and his speech is becoming very clear in both languages.

He is in pre-school 5 days a week and his confidence to try and communicate is growing.

He too can cite the English alphabet and count to 20 and back, but I think sometimes an overload of information takes a while for them to sort it all out.

We have stated to yes more Thai in the house and this has helped.

I am confident he will adapt in time as I'm confident your child will also. My son does speak quickly and that is because he mirrors my accent I guess?

My only advice/suggestion is be patient, they will process when the light switches on and it will.

Cheers.

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Good to hear about your son. I appreciate the reply. I do keep telling myself there is going to be that "lightbulb" moment, and he has had a few for sure. Seeing as how Thai and English are in the top five for learning difficulty.(general consensus, nothing scientific) considering the huge differences in sentence structure, grammar and a few other things, I would think it will take time. For others in my situation I would suggest that part of the problem on my part was not really trying to get him going in English as my biggest concern was his Thai. I feared learning both at the same time would slow him down so I only used my Thai around him for quite a while and finally said I can't worry about it, if he speaks English first, so be it. Now he is progressing nicely and mom is getting frustrated as he has an obvious afinity for English and speaks English to her instead of Thai. I also would say dad does English and leave the Thai to the experts and as you said, in time it will come. I'd be happy to hear more from anyone else out there.

Cheers.

Our boy is 50/50 Aussie and Thai and 2 1/2, he speaks his own language which I nor my wife understand. he uses gestures rather than words of any kind and my wife is getting worried about his speech development. He is a clever little boy, just not communication with words yet? Should we be worried, I think it will just happen but she doesn't.

We live in Pattaya so if we need to seek advice is there any recommendations?

BTW - We speak to him in English mainly although he has older full Thai sisters who speak to him in Thai.

Hi,

I am new and wanted to know how things have gone for you since I have the exact same concerns/problems you are having. I would love to hear back from you and hope everything is going well on your end. Thanks. I left a rather long post on here as well right after your post I didn't know how to reply directly LOL. Take care

Senior Member,

I am new here and came because I have the same concerns as you and was wondering if you have gotten any more information. Or are there any more comments out there. My son is almost 5. American dad and Thai mom. Our son is not putting phrases and sentences together yet. He knows both alphabets and talks more English than Thai. My suspicion is because my wife and I speak English together that is why he knows more and seems to prefer it But still, conversations don't really take place. He can read and write English, Dr Seuss books etc, but still no "conversations" per se. My worry has always been his Thai since we live in Thailand and had no plans on going to the US.(but with recent events......) So this is not about most of the previous posts who raised their kids in England or spent time in the US or who have insisted on English only. That doesn't make sense to me considering we live in Thailnd and we want him to be able to socialize with all kids and the ones who lives here speak Thai. He is in a school but we put him in the Thai program. It's private so he does have English there as well. Do people out there in my situation think its just a question of when it will happen. Or should I be concerned about the non conversation. it's been a year how are things for you Senior Member. All thoughts and comments are welcome. Kap kun mak kub