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Not a bad idea, but as you said they is a lot of debris ect ,they will also be a lot of weed seeds ,so you could be making a lot of work.

You will have to cover all the heap with a plastic sheet seal it so air can not get in ,if damp it should produce some heat ,which should kill off the weed seeds ,or most of them, use molasses+ EM.

I would think you would need to cover it for at least 2 months.

What's EM?

I got it: effective microorganisms. Thanks.

Where do you get that?

I have an area that is roughly 25 yards in length, two yards wide, and in some places at least a yard deep of open ground, filled with leaves and debris from a variety of different trees, grass, sticks, etc., all organic materials. My goal is to compost all of this material...

The leaves on top are all dried up and brown, of course, but below that, toward the bottom especially, time, pressure, heat, moisture has broken most of it down in to very small particles. And at the very bottom, the stuff is turning black and slimy.

The only thing that is stopping most of it from turning into compost, as far as I can see, is the lack of water, heat, and bacteria. I can easily provide that by keeping the area wet and dousing it with a water/molasses mixture.

I don't need to worry about covering the pile. The pile is already so deep that the debris on top and in the middle will easily provide all the cover that is needed to keep everything in place, and to keep the heat down in the works. And workers will continue to pile more on top of it all, as the trees are trimmed regularly.

I was looking into buying a chipping machine to chop all of this stuff up and start composting it. But this further research has revealed to me that that would be an expensive, unnecessary mistake.

I can't see any reason why composting the debris right there on the ground, right where it sits already would not work. Can you? Any more-experienced hands on the forum who can help steer me in the right direction here?

I think I'm gonna go for it! I went to the tack store and got the molasses already! Starting tomorrow!

I have an area that is roughly 25 yards in length, two yards wide, and in some places at least a yard deep of open ground, filled with leaves and debris from a variety of different trees, grass, sticks, etc., all organic materials. My goal is to compost all of this material...

The leaves on top are all dried up and brown, of course, but below that, toward the bottom especially, time, pressure, heat, moisture has broken most of it down in to very small particles. And at the very bottom, the stuff is turning black and slimy.

The only thing that is stopping most of it from turning into compost, as far as I can see, is the lack of water, heat, and bacteria. I can easily provide that by keeping the area wet and dousing it with a water/molasses mixture.

I don't need to worry about covering the pile. The pile is already so deep that the debris on top and in the middle will easily provide all the cover that is needed to keep everything in place, and to keep the heat down in the works. And workers will continue to pile more on top of it all, as the trees are trimmed regularly.

I was looking into buying a chipping machine to chop all of this stuff up and start composting it. But this further research has revealed to me that that would be an expensive, unnecessary mistake.

I can't see any reason why composting the debris right there on the ground, right where it sits already would not work. Can you? Any more-experienced hands on the forum who can help steer me in the right direction here?

I think I'm gonna go for it! I went to the tack store and got the molasses already! Starting tomorrow!

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Cant believe what a load of bs...ive ben living in a comunal serup for 30 years and there is good and bad... u just see win or lose. U will win but will pay the price and lose wife and family if u think that people are objects to win or lose them. Icky relatives? There must be areason behind her dislike nd from the way u speak and act im pretty sure I can see why

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If your "communal setup" works, isn't that a win? Everyone wants to profit. Welcome to the really real world.

So sorry to hear that you won. Sounds like that's not what you wanted.

A horse has no udder, a cow can't whinny, up is down, and sideways is straight ahead.

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Yeah, my Lady Friend built our Thai hosts a house..Just go slow and ask Your Mrs. before any drastid action. My girl was a Phd..now deceased, liver probs. brought us to T. Land.. She said to me, 'You're so Controlling..its not all about money, we're here to LEARN!! Alohz

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Indeed! Learning is what it's all about!

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i skipped through lots of blablbalb....

and i cant help but wonder: when people marry, do they not know about the other person's culture? background? how far they are willing to go out on a limb and when to draw the line?

they didnt speak to you about your wedding anniversary? why should they? its not important to them. ihavent met thais yet that do that but i do run in the poorer circles. same as birthdays, if i want a birthday party, i do it. if not, there isnt one. hubby forgets that he has birthdays or wedding aniversaries. there is mothers day and fathers day. thats it.

as far as living within the family? thats called collective living and usually there are tacit rules that u probably dont know about. in my husband's family, the mother makes the decisions. if we give gifts, we give them to her and let her decide who gets what. its easier that way. we ahve an extra smartphone now, i suggested that we give it to the family... but to whom? then i told hubby to give it to his mother and she would decide. she herself wouldnt know how to work one. but hubby was glad with the suggestion.

hwo do u know what they really think about you?

if you want to get points across, you should try going through one of the major family members and not with force but with brains.

really, men think only with strenghth. ifu push a billy buck on the head he just pushes back. but if you put down some good food or bring in a nanny goat, he comes running real quick. much easier that way. obviously u lived with 'family all over the usa but not real close' so u dont know how ot work in a communal situation that someone else also mentioned here.

if it doesnt fit, find a reason to move out to somewhere nearby, and visit on weekends, and all wil save face. there are more ways to skin a cat than just doing it straight out.

Like I said already, in so many words, I have everything I need in America, bought and paid for. I don't need these people. I want my wife.

I agree, setting to work finding a place for me to live away from these premises is paramount.

And, as far as the goods go, everyone in the precious family all has cars and homes, bought and paid for with help from the sweat of my brow. Where's mine? If they want something, they go to Sister and get a helping hand and a handout. If I want something, I'm scoffed at and ignored. I've given mucho to the family. The family needs to ante-up now. My turn.

And ante-up they will. I'm not going away until they do.

Sister grinned and smirked at me as I packed my bag the other day and left. She could have cared less if she ever saw me again. In fact, she thought that was the case and was mighty glad of it. It's the cheap way out for her. And that's the only thing the family's good at when it comes to me: being cheap.

When I came back, the look on her face was one of grave disappointment, and the only thing out of her mouth was more scowling and yowling. I now know everything I need to know about Sister.

Why is it I am the only one who must adjust?

"Communal living?" I know what you mean about that. It doesn't work. I don't agree with it. And I have decided that we're not going that route anymore. I'll take what's mine and Wife's and move on, and Sister and the rest of them can have theirs, all they want, only no longer will they have any of it at my expense. What's wrong with that? Nothing. So much for "communal living", the old, great generalization and complete nonsense. There is no such thing as "the common good", nor can there be any such thing. Do your math.

Interesting thing I learned last night... I was at a dinner party with Wife and good friends, and they are aware of this problem with myself and Sister. My best friend was not sympathetic. He laughed at me, and told me this story about his sister. She owns a home directly behind his, keeps it spotlessly clean, visits it daily. But she lives and sleeps in his house. She runs her business out of his garage. She parks her car in his driveway, and he parks his truck in the street to make way for her. She hates his guts and does not speak to him, ever. He didn't even bat an eye at telling me this. He just casually stuffed another bite of food into his mouth and shrugged.

I am amazed at this behavior. Where I come from, Sister would be ever so grateful for my generosity in the first place, and if she showed me any disrespect whatsoever, Sister would be out on her ear, first thing. Where I come from, ignoring someone who is speaking directly to you, like they do here, is considered incredibly rude and offensive, and you might get your butt kicked or your face slapped for it. Do that in the workplace and you might even lose your job. At the very least you will be called out on the matter and confronted and corrected. Quick.

There's no reason in the world to be rude. Not in any "culture". Especially toward those who have done and who continue to do for you.

Sure, I did my homework on the "culture" as best I could before coming here. But reading about it in books and on the Internet is one thing, even learning the language is one thing, but being here and living it in real time is quite another.

If the "culture" of Thailand is so wonderful and this "communal" style of living is such a wonder to behold, I have to wonder how it is I see this beautiful place and these beautiful people on the daily news, falling to pieces with every day that passes.

Looks to me like much of Thailand needs to be rid of some aspects of their "culture" -- and grow up.

Oh, I know what you're thinking and what you're going to say: "Well, that's the way it is here, so if you don't like it, get out!"

Hmmmm... no, I don't think so. I see the Thai, and many other peoples of the world, flooding into 'my country' by the hundreds of thousands each month, doing as they darned well please, refusing to learn English, overstaying their welcome and laughing about it, committing crimes, starting businesses without permits, running wild, causing accidents because they don't know the rules and don't know how to drive in the first place. And they do it all without so much as a haughty, "How'd you do?"

No. I am not the least bit worried about conforming to the "culture" or getting in line behind other members of the family. Nor will I worry about them conforming to my way of doing things. I will just keep taking care of business, keep taking notes, and keep my eye on the ball, on reality, on that which is right and that which is wrong. And I will win.

Agreed.

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Agreed.

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You need to learn to read. You also need to get a life. I didn't recommend anyone. Nor would I.

They're all crazy. Every single one of them. Yours is no different. But we don't let that stop us, now, do we?

My wife is too much fun. Always has been, always will be. It's her sister I can live without. And I will make that happen in due time.

But we don't let their craziness stop us, now, do we?

I know lots of women. Lots. Single. No children. Looking for westerners. I can make the connections. The rest is up to them.

The girls always finish in the money. What's not to love?

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Thanks, CWM. Great comments you have there, worthy of every consideration.

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You won't have any problem finding girls in Thailand. Or in any land, for that matter.

You're going to have to be more specific. More specific stats on Uncle, and maybe even a picture might help.

I know lots of women looking for men. I could print out some general info and give it to some friends I know are looking. I am in the province of Nakhon Pathom. So, if Uncle has anything against women from around here, don't bother yourself.

Don't get too vital with the information, of course, but enough to get the general idea.

The resort I would recommend in this area is well within his price range, rural, incredibly beautiful, and meetings and dates can easily be arranged there.

I'm sure he wants only one woman (poor thing), but how many women does he want to meet? One per day? Two per day? How long will he stay?

Really? I did not know that. I will have to look into it. It will be one of my reading projects for today. Or if you're in Thailand and want to burn me a copy and mail it to me, I shall be happy to compensate you for that. I'm running a 32-bit machine.

With Puppy, I boot from a USB stick and run my whole show without a hard drive. I can even remove the USB stick and run Puppy from memory! Now, that's hard to beat!

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You sound like a lot of men, who are led around by their sensitive little prongs, dying to spurt and empty their blue balls onto the first female thing who is willing.

I am beyond wanting sex with anyone, not all that keen on female company at any time for any reason.

Old men chasing after sex is a little bit sad IMHO.

Cup of tea while sitting in the sun reading a book is about as exciting as it gets for me these days.

Sounds like you would be happier acting your age.

PS

Mutual pleasure!

No woman, of any age, wants sex with a 50 yo man for pleasure, she wants your money, that's what she wants.

"I am beyond wanting sex with anyone, not all that keen on female company at any time for any reason." Sounds pretty pathetic to me. To each his own. Enjoy.

"Old men chasing after sex is a little bit sad IMHO." As I have demonstrated, "chasing after sex" is not necessary.

"Cup of tea while sitting in the sun reading a book is about as exciting as it gets for me these days." Is this a boast, or a complaint? If you wish for more, you can certainly get up off your tail and go get it. "Chase after it", if you will. There's nothing like a good chase. I remain certain you watch a lot of them on television and read them in your books. I've never been a good spectator. Thinking and action -- that's the life for me!

"Sounds like you would be happier acting your age." If sitting around, growing a fat, soft belly, brittle bones, ugly hairs, a bad attitude, and reading lots of drivel is "acting my age", then you can rest assured I want nothing to do with acting my age. Whatever that's supposed to mean.

Mutual pleasure indeed. I find it sad that you don't want the company of women for fear of them only wanting your money. Look who needs to start acting his age. Of course they only want your money. What else did you think they ever wanted? And what is wrong with them wanting your money? Since when is getting money not a pleasure? I laugh my head off at all these hot, good looking young men with no money trying to get "love" and attention from women who only want their money. I whip out a wad of baht, and the ladies pick ugly, old me every time. Youngster goes home with his prong in his hand.

Tell all the women you meet you have no money. See where that gets you. See what kind of "love" you end up with there. And do come back to this thread and tell us all about it.

You make fun of money, and imply it's not important. You make fun of women who love for money, and imply they're not important. You make a mockery of sex, and imply it's not important. You're unkind. You're very rude. You sound bitter and angry at the facts of life.

Sounds to me like you need to get off the books, get yourself cleaned up, get dressed, and go out and get laid once in a while. I think it would do you good. If you're really lucky, you might find a girl who will not charge you for the sex. Personally, I hope you do. It might make you a nicer person.

You sound like a lot of men, who are led around by their sensitive little prongs, dying to spurt and empty their blue balls onto the first female thing who is willing.

I am beyond wanting sex with anyone, not all that keen on female company at any time for any reason.

Old men chasing after sex is a little bit sad IMHO.

Cup of tea while sitting in the sun reading a book is about as exciting as it gets for me these days.

Sounds like you would be happier acting your age.

PS

Mutual pleasure!

No woman, of any age, wants sex with a 50 yo man for pleasure, she wants your money, that's what she wants.

And what's wrong with her wanting my money? Isn't getting money a pleasure? Isn't that what she wants? Isn't that what I want? Why can't everybody have what they want? What's the hangup, fella? I don't want her to care about me, I want her to screw me, and screw me well. It's there for the taking, what's the fuss you're making? I am not the least bit concerned about what she wants from me. When I walk into a store to buy goods, I have no concern about what the proprietor thinks of me or if they care about me or not. My concern is that she gives me what I want for my money. With women, that can indeed be a challenge.

"Cup of tea while sitting in the sun reading a book is about as exciting as it gets for me these days." Are you boasting or complaining?

If acting my age means growing a fat, soft belly, mushy limbs, brittle bones, and sitting around reading drivel, instead of writing, creating, moving, changing, growing, having the company of beautiful women, and doing whatever I darn well please -- you can rest assured that I want nothing to do with "acting my age" Whatever that is supposed to mean.

That piece was Tweeted by Softpedia earlier today. Just thought I'd pass it along. It is one of the Linux distros I have not tried, but mean to.

I prefer the minimalist distros for my personal use. Puppy Linux, and <deleted> Small Linux help me rule my digital world. The machine I am on right now is running Puppy Linux Precise Puppy 5.7.1 http://puppylinux.com/download/

Yikes, the title for D-A-M-N Small Linux was auto-deleted, AKA DSL. Enjoy. http://damnsmalllinux.org/

That piece was Tweeted by Softpedia earlier today. Just thought I'd pass it along. It is one of the Linux distros I have not tried, but mean to.

I prefer the minimalist distros for my personal use. Puppy Linux, and Damn Small Linux help me rule my digital world. The machine I am on right now is running Puppy Linux Precise Puppy 5.7.1 http://puppylinux.com/download/

The best moment in a relationship is when you first meet a girl and have sex.

After that it's downhill all the way, with only the steepness of the hill changing.

Time to climb a new hill.

I don't find this to be true at all. I have always found the sex gets better and better the more you do it with someone. Of course, it peaks at some point and it gets to be business as usual, but business as usual is good, too. Fantastically wonderful, matter of fact. I love business as usual.

I usually find first time sex with a woman I am attracted to a little awkward the first couple of times. And if the mutual attraction holds past the first couple of times, desire increases, and then we both have to look out! Cos' things are about to get really good!

You sound like a lot of men, who are led around by their sensitive little prongs, dying to spurt and empty their blue balls onto the first female thing who is willing.

I know what you're going through. Often, even now, at the tender age of 49, I still find myself sometimes having to ejaculate three times per day. That's just my nature. It's just the way I'm built. Everyone is different. Everyone's needs are not the same.

If Wife isn't available, I can go to another reliable partner. If no one is available, I can take care of it myself. No problems getting the juice out here, my friend. I will always find a way to get the job done, when nature calls.

"Climb a hill"? Sounds like a lot of nonsense to me. I climb ditches for a couple of hours per day when doing my workouts. Is that what you mean? I love the workouts my legs get from ditch climbing. I'd climb hills, but there aren't any around here where I live.

Women aren't for conquering. They're not goals I have to reach. They're not game. They're just people, like everyone else. And everyone is struggling to make his or her way through this world. I find it best to be kind and polite. I tell them the truth in plain words, though not nasty words however. If they find that offensive, that reveals something about them, not me. Any woman not mature enough to have an intelligible conversation with me about sex, when appropriate, is likely not a woman I want to talk to at all, for any reason. I don't need to climb up and over anyone, or lie to them to get into their pants. Waste my time. Those are all games bashful teenagers play.

I have never looked at it the way you do. I have always seen it as a mutual pleasure thing. I want it. She wants it. And if that is not the case, we don't have anything to talk about, really.

Prostitutes are great, too. But it is just as hard to find a good, solid, clean, drug-free, drama free, professional, reliable working girl who knows how to get the job done right and who can be there when you need her. Those lovers cost lots of money. I don't mind spending the money. But they are also few and far between.

Sex isn't as easy as climbing a hill. There is no comparison, matter of fact. Sex is too bloody important and too bloody wonderful to waste it playing silly games.

You answered your own question..Living apart my be the only thing to save your relationship if it's worth saving? Only you can answer that...In the mean-time, you should welcome an opportunity to move to the States or elsewhere like NZ as a needed break from Thailand and the so-called family. But if I moved, might not come back...

I am sorry but so many western male - Thai female relationships are driven by money. This part about everyone loving everyone else is a little delusional or wishful thinking.. It was always about money and nothing else as you have discovered...

If you can afford to re-locate for a period of time, do it...

CB

New Zealand? Never been there. I am due for a trip and was planning another to Hong Kong this afternoon. I absolutely love Hong Kong! Never thought of going to New Zealand. What's it like? Have you ever been there? Do tell me more, please.

http://linux.softpedia.com/get/System/Operating-Systems/Linux-Distributions/Arch-Linux-864.shtml#top

Do try the new UBUNTU Tahr distro that is now released? soon to be released? I'm not sure which. But what I do know about it is that I have read all the reviews, it is solid as a rock, and it is being touted as the replacement for the soon-to-be-deceased Windows XP.

Why they want to put a stop to Windows XP is beyond me. It's one of the most stable operating systems Microsucks has ever put out and it is my favorite Windows ever (and you are hearing that from a guy who hates Windows with a passion!). Stupid to end XP. Great little system.

Your wife, no matter how inept she is with computers, will have no problems learning and using UBUNTU, even from scratch, without having to wean herself off Windows. I am inept with computers at best, and even I started with Linux from nothing, never even having seen it before, fresh off the store shelf. I stuck the disc into the drive, installed it, encrypted my drive for security, and was off and running literally in minutes -- and wiping Windows clean off my drive forever -- and I haven't looked back even for a second.

Linux MINT will be another distro she can start with just as easily as UBUNTU. In fact, MINT is an offshoot of UBUNTU, only it's a lot better than UBUNTU. I love MINT!

Puppy Linux Precise Puppy 5.7.1

My second choice is openSUSE.

Third choice is Linux MINT.

I run Puppy off a 4 gig USB stick with my old DELL Latitude D531. It's all I need.

Not long ago, I thought I needed to get on the ball and up into the 21st century and buy a newer, 64-bit machine to compute with. But I have learned as of late that that is all a load of hogwash. What do I need a new computer to write and look at Web pages for? I don't. I have everything I need right here, at a nominal cost, and hassle free. I love it.

A movie? A book? Good ideas.

I suppose I'd better stop writing then, since even people who seem to hate it are reading all the way through and loving it. I'm giving my whole story away before I've even made my first buck! This will not do!

blah blah blah blah.....why are you a write for soap operas in thailand.....or better yet....why not just take your own life and put a stop to the money train.

The family loves you as much as any walking wallet.....hope you figured it out by now....your wife included.

I am always completely stupefied by foreigners who think they can find money by throwing around money....

I've never been involved in a soap opera before. I've always kept to myself. This is my first one. Which is, no doubt, the reason for my shock and surprise. I can't believe this crap is happening. And when someone says, "I can't believe it", when those words come out of your mouth, it means only one thing: I wish this were not true. So true. I wish none of this were true. I wish I could just grab up Wife and tuck her under my arm and walk the hell out of here. They can have it all. I don't care. But that is much easier said than done.

Talking about the situation on the forum in words is very therapeutic for me, and much more productive than picking Sister up over my head and heaving her into the lagoon and walking out of here. I am surprised at and do sympathize with other men who have been in similar situations. Some of them have had it much worse and much tougher than I. My heart goes out to you all, and I hope things work out for you.

Most of my problems here are emotional, not financial. I am hurt and confused (though having made a huge effort over the past several days to understand all of this and get through it is, to my credit, the gutsiest thing I could possibly do right now). Walking out of here will be easy. Walking away and doing nothing is for losers. I will win this. I'm not going anywhere until I do. I've always lived a fast, adventurous lifestyle. I am introverted and keep away from other people. I always do my own thing, independent of others. And so when I must deal with others, I'm afraid I am a bit inept. Sometimes, for me anyway, running into a person is like running into a wall. Thanks in part, to this forum, and all the cool comments, yes, even the nasty ones, I am learning. I am growing.

I am better than they are. I am Apache by nature. I know how to hide and wait, to keep still, to keep looking out at them while they cannot see me at all. I am incredibly patient. I will wear them all out with my indifference. They will exhaust themselves physically and emotionally trying to figure out what I am all about. I can live off of apples and tepid tea until the cows come home. They think they are brilliant strategists with their straight faces and their lauhging, insidious comments toward me. But it is I who knows that it is the straight face that reveals much more than any other. They've all been read like a book. They've all been written into my book. I own them. The way of the monkey is to play the fool. While you laugh at and fear his antics, he bites you from behind. Unmask his overblown ego, and you expose a coward, hiding as a monkey, or a boss, or a matriarch, or a sister.

But, at the same time, this is their property, their home. If Sister came to my hut in America for a visit, for example, and started in the way she does here, I would probably try to make her feel at home. I would even go as far as to make her feel like the boss. But she has failed to treat me with any respect, while I have done nothing to deserve this treatment. All I have ever done is be kind to her and help her and her family get where they wanted to go. She has rejected me at every turn since my arrival here. That will not go unnoticed. I have done nothing to deserve this treatment. Nor am I her victim.

I am last on my wife's list each day, true enough, but at the same time, she is a very busy person, with many other people making demands on her. I am a big boy and can take care of myself. I don't need much. She appreciates that. She appreciates that because she knows Sister and son and the rest of the family, are completely dependent on her person and her talents. Were it not for Wife's persistence and personality--the family would have no business together at all. She depends on me a lot for back-up. She needs someone on her side. Were it not for me, there would be no one on her side. I take care of a ton of her dirty work without complaint. I don't mind. That is my talent. I got two big, quick, powerful hands, and I'm not afraid to get them dirty or bloody. I get a kick out of the straight-faced, phony, soft-spoken, perfect "Thai gentlemen" who come here sniffing around after her, empty-handed of course, looking for a place to rest on their haunches and have an easy life while being carried on her back. She does not need another person riding her back. I am here to watch her back and see to it that does not happen. But family is family. Even if they are just a bunch of overgrown, spoiled little children. She will do for them. But that is her choice. She puts herself in that position. They only difference is that now I no longer willing to help her do for them. She is not torn between I and them. I would never put her in that position, like they would do to her in a heartbeat. I will just walk away, no hassles, no regrets, no debts.

Thus, I don't make any demands here. I ask for nothing. I want nothing. I don't care what they do here. I have no interest. That's another thing Sister can't stand about me. I do not envy her. I do not kiss her butt and ask for things, like her family and workers do. She would like for me to be a beggar with a begging bowl and bow down and ask for some crumbs. No. I pay my own way. I do as I please, independent of everyone. I do not need her. I am not indebted to her. She can't figure out how to get the advantage over me. She cannot figure out how to get the angle on me. She does not realize that there is no angle. I am not susceptible to her way of doing things. I will not fall victim to her. This she cannot stand. I have found that one of the ways of this country is corruption. This corruption is ingrained in the very psyche and into the social fabric of these people. It is, literally, their way of life. Same with the Chinese, for another example.

As far as money goes, it's not like I don't have my home and property in America, too. I do. All of it is in my name. All of it is free and clear. No debts, no obligations, except the bloody taxes, of course. Wife contributed much to that cause over the years. It's not like I am wandering around Thailand destitute and screwed over, like some of the comments here imply. But, like I said, so long as their money isn't my money, my money isn't their money either. Screw you, family. If we're all going to drink from the same well, everyone needs to ante-up. You talk the talk, but you don't walk the walk. You want me to do as you say, but not as you do. To hell with you. Screw that noise. Wife is smart and understands this. Overgrown, spoiled, childlike Sister does not. To her mind, she's the boss, and that's it, right or wrong, make or break it, win or lose, everybody needs to mind her. She's got another thing coming. She's out of her mind.

I don't throw money around. I invest it. I invested in Wife. I'm not bad with money, but it just so happens that she's a little better and more productive with it than I am. I don't have a problem with that. Nor do I understand why some of the Western men who think they have been taken in by these sly Thai female devils would want it any other way. Did your woman not take control of the finances and make something of them for all to share in? And what is wrong with that? Let her do what she does best. That's all she's asking. Yeah, sometimes they take a little more, sometimes a lot more than they should, but that goes with the territory. Oh, well.

My wife? Spoiled brat, yes, she is. But that is my fault as much as it is hers. I do enable her sometimes. Like some of the comments here have said, it takes two to tangle. I'm crazy, I'm adventurous, a businessman willing to take a calculated risk any day of the week -- I'm not stupid.

I have learned more about these people and this country in the short time I have been here than most people who come here will learn in ten years. And I've done it without even learning the language "fluently".

I don't go to bars. I don't "raise a Chang" to anything. I don't have my brain cells soaked in alcohol or get led around by my prick by bar girls. That's not an option for me. Sorry to disappoint all of you.

Yes I think divorce would be the way to go. She seems to be pulled between her family and you. Sad situation but I believe you are in a hopeless situation. Unless you want to start giving them money again it won't get any better. Run.

Right. Woke up this morning with all this stuff on my mind again. It occurs to me this is the way to go. Wife is married to her family, not I.

Giving them money again, for any reason, even if the business went south and they were all living in a bamboo hut on the side of the road... No. They get nothing more.

A lot of posters here seem to have the impression that I am like any other westerner, who came here to the Magic Kingdom looking for a sweetheart. Not even close.

I met my wife in the US. We lived there for many years, with she going back and forth for visits and building the family business. I visited a few times throughout the years, and everyone was cordial and friendly every time, very loving and welcoming. I mean, they didn't kiss my butt or anything like that, but they were always nice folks.

Once the family business took off and was successful, I stopped all the money. That made everyone angry. They simply could not understand why I would do such a thing. And I simply did not understand why they were upset and didn't understand. I mean, the business is a success! You're making good money and the place thrives on its own. What do you need more money for?

I got on an airplane with Wife in 2011 to come here and get an answer to that very question.

When I got here, Sister's husband was drunk every night, whacking golf balls every day, and sleeping past noon. Wife's son was sitting at his $1,000.00 computer all day long, playing video games. Hired hands were doing all the work, and getting paid more than any other hired hands in the village.

No. You don't need any more of my money. You need to keep your eye on the ball and keep your business growing. I've helped you and asked for nothing in return, but to leave Wife and I alone to get on with our lives. Then I went home, thinking that is what they would do.

Fast-forward to today. I came here a couple of months ago, fixing to live here with Wife. When I arrived, I had to wonder, where are all the nice people I once knew?

But cave in and give them what they want I will not. I don't care how much they hate me. Screw 'em. I laugh my head off at them every time I sit in the cafe and order another meal they have to pay for, figuring just how I am going to make my exit.

I think it's safe to say, I am going to have to say goodbye to my wife. Crap. I don't want that. But what can I do? Everyone leaves me no choice.