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Can't really say, I live in the U.S, right now and feel like an expat with all of the illegal immigrants, coming in. Thailand was once my dream, but right now it just doesn't make sense. The

thai wife is pretty happy, but is home sick, at times. Just not willing to pull up roots right now, and sell the home which has just what we need. We can pretty much grow what we need as for Thai vegetables, or such things. Just my thoughts....

Yes I too saw it form outside my home last night.

Quite a difference between this and a shooting star though, as The National Astronomical Research Institute have stated it have might been ?????

They are called meteors, quite common in the United States.

Not exactly hell .......

Total overreaction on your part based on your inexperience.

You want special stuff done, you get an agreement in writing, then don't pay or move in until it's done.

Nobody made you hand the table over to a random woman with a key.

What part is an overreaction? The fact that I do not feel comfortable when groups of people are entering my room while I'm sleeping or the fact that I think I should get my deposit refunded when my lease states that I should? Or you also think it's okay for furniture to be removed from a place you've rented after you're already living there?

I understand I should have got the washer/dryer, table replacement, room cleaning, in writing. It is my mistake to trust someone... But like I said, I have rented lots of places before and never imagined that I would be blatantly lied to. I'm a nice guy... so yes it's stupid for me to think that people will placy nice back in return.

For me, not being able to shower, wash my clothes, and have people entering without permission is my idea of "hell"... And even if it's not hell it's reason enough that that I felt I had no choice to leave, even if only for the fact that other people have access to the room. I mean... cmon the owner says she didn't know I lived there and I had been there a week already? I was there with the agent when she was talking to the owner on the phone. But it's unclear who the owner even is since I am refused all details!

In Thailand never trust, always get it in writing

I think they would be better settled in some prosperous country in the middle east .

That would be my thought, if their home country can never handle it, I would think that they have a problem... But I really do not think it is my problem to fix other countries problems, I have enough of my own from illegal immigrants. So how are all of these Somalians getting into Thailand? And yes illegally? Or is NATO backing it with cash? I believe each nation should have sovereignty... So maybe in Thailand it is called foreigners...

It is ok with me, he probably died with a smile on his face..... Happy cummings, and goings.... Not up to me...

No they won't , but you can be damn sure Medicare will go up.... Wow what a system.....

Funny world isn't it? Guess it depends on where you live. Old school had up to 15 children, new school 1.5 to two? I have watched it over the years.... But it happened in only one generation...

So what do you say?

Personally? I think it is bad to hold a child for ransom... It is wrong, but hey what can I say... That is not the kind of game that I would play. Maybe let them handle it, and see how it works out....

Second is that you made the child together, if she has no respect, then forget it. Have you done DNA tests? Where do you live in Thailand?

The rice paddys are dead and dry in many parts of the country (like here).

A terribly bad harvest ahead.

Will become worse and worse for many.

Only chance is the escape from Thailand to make money "overseas" be it legal or not.

So why are you buying her daughter a house?

Good then marry her... No Sinsod...

Don't do it.

She isn't a piece of meat to be bought and sold.

No need for marriage, just live together.

I totally agree.

We do just live together, but she wants children very soon and says it would upset her mother very much so, to have children outside of marriage.

Don't do it.

She isn't a piece of meat to be bought and sold.

No need for marriage, just live together.

It's you wage, control the use of it.

No money for her debts.

No money for her family.

Pay all household bills yourself.

Give her a small amount of spending money each day.

Don't let her find your bank book or ATM card.

Then let her threaten away.

No need to move out, no need to lose anything.

My thoughts exactly, and I live in the United States.... And yes with a Thai wife.... She is silently learning the meaning of life... Your job is not save her family, hold onto the kid and move ahead.

Remember it is a transition, and if you do not take control, that is your problem..... My advice is to know where you are going, and where you will end up! You need to stand your ground, be a father, and believe me it will turn around...

I am not a dick, just a human being......

Yes, the visibilty is quite bad this morning. Past few days were clear, surprised when I looked out over Kata this morning to see so much haze. And it seems to be worse now, 4 hours later.

I'm down in KL today...

This is the view from the office...

I can smell and taste the smoke... It's disgusting that Indonesia allows this to happen.

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I'd suggest, "The Mystery of Shemita" kind of gave me peace.... But then it depends where ones' mind is.....

If she(the mother) is "old school", then she (the daughter) may well be already "spoken for" and her parents have arranged for her to be with someone else, it is a possibility. She doesnt want her knowing she is with you and the fruit from the tree has been spoiled, and that her parents would then lose face to the other family, especially if they are "hi-so" or think they are.

Just an option to consider.

Thank you

I consider the whole ideal is absolutely correct... A very true observation, been there and have done that. Is it all about losing face? Or money... This has been going on for years in Thailand... So I guess

old school = bend over. You can buy virginity at any price? Just a thought.... The reality is, how old is ,"Old School?" Wow I could tell some people some real stories! And yes it happens within the Thai community also.... Just a thought... Sorry can't put an emoticon to this one....

Option 1

Mum knows her real Thai husband and would tell on her.

You are only number two (or three ........)

Option 2

Mum thinks white men are scum, and would disinherit daughter if she found out.

Option 3

You seem so screwed up about anyone's relationship---that you are incapable of giving any decent advice ..........

Once again a duh response, can you go a little more in depth?

Thailand is different in all parts of the country.... Hey, have fun.....

Ah, personally I do not know what part of Thailand that you are living in, hey give us a clue..... So I guess 3 months is a long relationship... Have you met the father? If she says she is old school, then meet the father also. Remember do not let your little head do all the thinking.... And yes there are relationships, but then again there is trust.... Guess it just depends on where they are from... Sometimes mothers are the bargainers from my experience... And also do not know where you met her? More history would be helpful. One can never ask an open question, without a little reality!

Sorry just my thoughts....

It can be A profitable life.I knew of girls that were n the business during the Vietnam war at Udonthani.They invested their money

And today they are living quite well.

But I do believe most of them live for the moment and end up self destructing.

Very true statement, all in all they were looking for a way to make life better, some did and some did not... Some had business sense, and others nonsense.

Fire up the bar-b-que Ma Ma !

Either that or get ready to make some Issan fish sauce......

I don't know because we cant believe anything that is said by the police or military.

My thoughts exactly! Thailand? I am so over you!

Is this how they get the money to pay themselves rewards and get on tv?

Dunno, I guess image is everything.... Thailand is corrupt, any questions?

It as been this way for years, so please tell me what is new? Double standards/double price? One for the Thai's , and another for the falong.... Kyoto agreement, is a part of it. That is why I decided not to retire in Thailand, although I do love its' people. Thailand really needs to get it's head out of its' *** . It surely will not help the common people there. Sorry my name is not Ben Dover.... Thailand needs to come into compliance with the rest of the world....