lenk

I find it extraordinary that self-respecting farang would leave their home country to come to live in Thailand if they only have enough money to live in a 2500 baht box.  I mean, why do it?  It can't be for the lifestyle.  It can't be quality of life.

If you have no money, ok . .stay where you are and use welfare, rather than be dragged into a poverty spiral in Thailand.  I would never live here unless I can do it on my terms and in relative luxury?

So is it for the girls?  That is flawed too.  You're not going to get much respect from women when they discover you are farang kee nok.

Seems very sad to me.

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Some might say it’s almost as sad as your judgmental, elitist, narrow-minded, condescending attitude…

not that I would, mind you… but some would

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best ignore these sad cases I'd say.

I live in Bang-Na, got a similar 60SQM 2 bedroom 1 bathroom condo in a nice compound with security pool etc. Bought it for 850K or 14,000 Baht SQM2. OK a bit out of town but some people have silly ideas what they're places are worth.

For 5 million you should be able to get 150M2 in early Sukhumvit I reckon.

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you're not wrong about that. been looking around on the net for a place for ages and am getting absolutely nowhere. quite irritating to see these rediculous rents people are asking for their glorified boxes. I keep hearing of people finding these bargains like you have but I'll be stuffed if I could one myself. if you know of any places please let me know. will be much appreciated. don't mind moving out of town a bit. cheers

Hi,

Looking for short rental (1-2 month contracts) apartments for

under 9,000Baht near the mall Bangkapi or Central Ladprao.

I need to have TV and refreg including furniture available.

It should not be a hotel, but more like a service or non-

service apartment

Thank you

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My ex lives in a newish house with air con for 7k a month in Bangkapi near the mall, so 9k should get you somthing very good-peter

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any chance of finding out where I could get a house like this for 7k a month?

hi,

been looking at purchasing a condo but am not sure what the interest rates are and if it's possible for expats to get finance. any info on this would be much appreciated.

cheers

she has a relentless thirst for money and will not back off until she's licked every bit of flesh clean off the bone. now she's pregnant and I feel she has got me well and truly over the barrel. help! can someone throw me a lifebuoy?

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Lenk,

you haven't answered one question we have asked you.

No wonder peeps are taking the piss..

OP to clear the air you need to clarify a nunber of things:

Do you live in Thailand?

Does she live in Thailand?

Do you live together?

Do you work in Thailand?

Does she work in Thailand?

Does she have any other children?

Were you living togther when she fell preganant?

Have you confirmed she is pregnant?  et al.....

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Answer to questions:

Yes..been living here for the past 5 years

Yes..with me

Yes..am working here

No..she hasn't got a job

No kids

Yes..kind of..she still keeps paying rent for her other apartment she used to share with friends as a safety net

Yes..she's been to the hospital

Difficult one to deal with, have to know a few things like buying houses in Thailand..laws relating to all this, etc.

this thread is cracking me up today........ 

every time there is some really really dumb guy who gets a girl pregnant (like, dont u know how to protect your future???........) and then cries about money etc....

and it could be thailand or anywhere else: and then asks people on a forum for help...

the options are always the same:

1. skip out

2. pay off

3. stick it out

i didnt hear the word 'love' , life partner, etc..... just, money money etc...

Jeff put it best:

If for one minute you don't think these ladies are smart, your in for a semseter in Water Buffalo University, thats only fair I had mine.

The tradgedy in this case is there may be a child involved, or may not be, time will tell. Is it his or not that is another chapter. Lets see you have unprotected sex with a girl and you wonder why you have problem. Hmm!!! which Semester is the in Water Buffalo University, I missed that one.

You know if you choose to roll the dice, you can win or you can lose. Win is great but it doesn't keep coming up winners, eventually you have to lose. So why cry now surely you must have known this when you stepped up to the table.

When it comes to the money, pay what is reasonable, that is in your control not hers it is your money. If there is a child and it is yours and this seems to have came from relationship beyond a one nighter in a bar. I could care less what you give the girl, but you darn sure owe your child be a man and pay up and be prepared to do that for a very long time.

Last thought , don't repeat this Semester

samram:

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hey...this is my issue not yours. why are you getting all worked up? "but you darn sure owe your child be a man and pay up and be prepared to do that for a very long time." ...I don't have a problem with that but things aren't as black and white. I'm quite happy to take on that responsibility but there is a limit as to how much I can provide. The demands that she places upon me go beyond all reason. I'm trying my best to put money aside for the welfare of both mother and child but to her, a new mobile phone is more important or a weekend with her mum, brothers, sisters, cousins, newphews..pet dogs etc. at my expense. I've tried to set her up in a little business selling clothes in a market stall. Being too ###### lazy to work, she gave her stock to a woman running a stall next to hers to do the selling for her for a fraction of the return she would get if she were to sell them herself. This was before she was pregnant. Obvious result, she lost the lot and doesn't seem to care and even keeps giving money to this woman everytime she pleads poverty. This is just one scenario. Like I've said, I'm trying to do my best but money is a constant battle.

"i didnt hear the word 'love' , life partner, etc..... just, money money etc... "...the fact is, money is the major issue. I'd like to know myself where love comes into it. love..."love"..."life long partner"...I wish

You were very very lucky

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yep possibly but it's worth a shot if you don't want to take the driving test's

should have made it a little clearer, I did also have the other necisarry stuff, a Non-Im visa and a letter from British Embassey stating residence, they accepted the photocard licence instead of a IDP and didn't need to get it translated!

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what if your licence has expired? I have an Australian drivers licence which expired 5 months ago. Been making enquiries about getting it renewed from here but chances look pretty grim and I don't fancy spending 30,000baht going back to Aust. just to renew licence. I may have to unless there are alternatives, like Koa San Road licences. Are they any good or are they not worth the risk?

I have been told that if my Thai lady legally marries me, she cannot purchase property (ie own) in Thailand for one year. Has anyone heard of this?? Also, how do banks and financial institutions view the lending of money to her, if she has a foreign husband? Is the husband's income taken into consideration, if she were to obtain a property loan? I am referring to both of us residing in Thailand. Thanks.

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Law changed some years ago, although I don't know where the 1 year came from!

No problem now, except you have to sign to say you have no claim on the property. She can get a mortgage based on her and/or your income.

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Just wondering if it would be possible for a Thai girlfriend or wife to get a home loan if she hasn't got a job? would they grant her a loan if you offered to pay the monthly payments?

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Yes it's possible if you have monthly income. When I went to bank they required my pension statement showing monthly income, plus 3 months bank statements. Only give maximum of 70% mortgage however. You are then the guarantor however, and if she does not pay you are responsible, even if you split up.

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I'm not on a pension but have been working here for nearly five years..got work permit..etc...got a reasonably well paid job (for Thailand anyway..over 50,000) but no assets as in property back home..will they accept me as guarantor? got a strong feeling they won't. my contracts are only for a year at a time.

I have been told that if my Thai lady legally marries me, she cannot purchase property (ie own) in Thailand for one year. Has anyone heard of this?? Also, how do banks and financial institutions view the lending of money to her, if she has a foreign husband? Is the husband's income taken into consideration, if she were to obtain a property loan? I am referring to both of us residing in Thailand. Thanks.

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Law changed some years ago, although I don't know where the 1 year came from!

No problem now, except you have to sign to say you have no claim on the property. She can get a mortgage based on her and/or your income.

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Just wondering if it would be possible for a Thai girlfriend or wife to get a home loan if she hasn't got a job? would they grant her a loan if you offered to pay the monthly payments?

First, sorry for my poor english and being stupid person.

I met this 24 girl recently, who works as accountant in thai company

in ladprao, I believe i'm the first foreigner she ever met, as she

also says so. She is the nicest thai girl i ever met in Los.

But this girl is creating problems for me, every time i am doing somthing

or giving hints for break up, she shows lot of tears, and i don't want to dump

her before she finds new boyfriend, because otherwise it's hard for her

to foregt me as i can see.

I was thinking if i could introduce her to what's going on in sukhumvit,

but i change my mind, because rare chance of finding a decent man

in sukhumvit and risk of becoming a hooker later.

Any idea how i can make her end up with a nice guy? Please serious

replies only.

Thank you

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tell you what...let's swap girlfriends. it's really strange...people are never satisfied even when they are on a good thing and I'm one of those people. I had a really nice girlfriend too but found her extrememly boring and it took lots of work to send her on her merry way. no such thing..she was hurt a lot and I felt like a right old b..tard for doing that to her. never again. now I've gone to the other extreme...I've got myself a handful. checkout..the heading "money grabbing pregnant girlfriend"...cheers

I guess I'm old-fashioned.  My view is that if he got this girl pregnant, he has a duty to support her and the child.  Instead, he paints a picture of him being exploited and taken for a ride.

If you want to come here and take advantage of the easy sex, then you better be mature enough to take the consequences.

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I'm with you bendix! Still don't know what he gives, but it will be far less than he would be forced to give if he "pleaded guilty to faulty rubber" in farangland

Also message for would be trolls." You make yourself look more like a troll by having to mention Isaan in any post, thus allowing in all the hard done by Isaan relationship experts"

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well done..I guess you know it all and are one of those hardened ones who prey on the really desparate girls on sukumvit road at 5 ..6 in the morning for freebies just so they could brag about it to their mates the next day. thanks, but I'd appreciate some constructive advice here, not put downs.

I guess I'm old-fashioned.  My view is that if he got this girl pregnant, he has a duty to support her and the child.  Instead, he paints a picture of him being exploited and taken for a ride.

If you want to come here and take advantage of the easy sex, then you better be mature enough to take the consequences.

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mate, jumping the gun a bit there aren't you? firstly...I didn't say I was being exploited nor am I implying that I am. I simply want to know what the deal is here with these women. I just read 'Thailand Fever" and it's given me some insight regarding relationships and money. Please don't get me wrong..I like the idea of having a kid but I just don't want to be taken for a ride as many foreigners do when it comes to having relationships with bar girls. I know this woman has got an unreasonable appetite for money but that seems to be justified from what I've read in 'Thailand Fever". It may be the case that she's just doing what every Thai woman does and that's to have their lovers splurge money on them, their family and friends to show how much you love her. Who knows. I'm just doing my best to understand the situation and to save my neck should the whole thing be a fake.

thanks for your thoughts on this everyone but I'm still not quite sure what to do. what i'd like to do and what I'm capable of doing are two different things. read 'private dancer'...can't slot every Isan woman in the same category. I mean she can't squeeze blood out of a stone and I'm not rich by any means. she knows that. so, what's her agenda? surely not the 10,000 baht a month I'm giving her. what could the worst senario possibly be I wonder? I just think it's just going to be one ###### of a head spinner and that I need to get rid of her as all my friends have said to do a long time ago but how? 1. I'd feel like an absolute ar..hole for dumping her...especially now. 2. she could cause havoc like going to where I work and getting me the boot. 3. she could have me done in. paranoia plus going on here.

Why does she have you over a barrel?

Just because she is demanding, you don't have to meekly go along with her.

A relationship is supposed to be a 2 way street - not a female dictatorship!

Explain that you can only afford so much and that she will have to live within your means. You can't get blood out of a stone!

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You're right. She can take it or lump it. She doesn't realize how lucky she is being a woman from Isan without any education and to be getting money every month without having to work for it and twice as much as what most Thais get for slaving away 7 days a week, 30 days a month. I should give her a ###### good kick in the butt.

This one often works, tell her either you have a huge Tax Bill to pay and if you don't you will have to go to Jail, or just you have "Bad Luck" with business.

Or just set a monthly limit. Tell her you can only pay her XX,xxx Baht a month. If she spends more than that Som-num-na.

Thanks for the advice. Am giving her a monthly allowance but she runs out of cash half way through the month and expects more. I'll just have to learn to say 'no'.

she has a relentless thirst for money and will not back off until she's licked every bit of flesh clean off the bone. now she's pregnant and I feel she has got me well and truly over the barrel. help! can someone throw me a lifebuoy?

I have an old beater of a jeep.. Nearly never use the thing..

Only shopping / supermarket runs.. Let the real insurance expire and just tax and gov insurance of 2k or so a year..

Thinking of selling it..

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Hi,

Been seriously thinking about a car but can't handle the thought of anything new and expensive. Always owned old bombs. Very interested in your jeep. Please get back to me with details. Cheers Len. [email protected] 05 1503688

Yea, and try and do somthing about it.

They will be happy to inform you of their, brother the cop or best friend at Immigration or.... just make your life miserable.

Ya got to learn to take a few losses once in a while.

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been here for 5 years and and the losses never seem to cease. rather than just sit on my arse and do nothing like the thais do, I have to do what I can to survive. and you're right, sometimes the odds are just too much against you as maybe in this situation.

my neighbour..young american guy just moved out. he got back just 6,000 baht out the 22,500 baht deposit that he paid. really nice block...kept the place clean. absolute daylight robbery and the same is going to happen to me when i move I bet.

does anyone know if there is any kind of protection for tenants against rip off landlords in bangkok? they seem to be running a muck ripping people off and getting away with it.