harlander

Mighty Mouse

No fear of flying, we have taken internal flights together.

Her last words were something like, 'sorry I don't think I will be happy in England', with a tear streaked face.

She has no email. All our comminications have been through telephone, SMS and writen letter. I believe that she still has her sim (although no tel) so have been sending messages in the hope that she is using her sim in someone elses phone.

I have come to trust her sister and keep hoping everytime I go to their house that there's a big yell of 'Suprise', but...

udon

Thanks for your words - I can only hope at the moment, and I seem to be running out of that. If she thinks that she has wronged me in some way then I can see why she has not been in touch with me, but to be ignoring her own family, I cannot understand.

Thetyim

No baby involved.

Obviously I would love to have her back. Even if she no longer loves me, I still genuinely love her. That said I would not want a relationship that is one way, and would never make anyone do anything that they don't want to do. I think at the time this is probably why I let her go so easily at the airport. I could see how upset she was and didn't think that it was right to insist that she come. Naturally now I wish I could re-live that day and would have stayed behind to make sure she was/is alright.

britmaveric rio666uk

All I can say is that I didn't have a contingency plan for when my heart had just been ripped out about 2 minutes before check-in. It's easy to think after the event, but when you're not thinking straight, what is normally rational goes out the window.

I've asked myself exactly the same questions over and over again since then. Why didn't I chase after her? Why didn't I make sure that she was going back to her family? Why didn't I make sure she phoned them? Why didn't I make sure that she had enough money? Even after I checked in, why didn't I go looking for her? I've been beating my head against a brick wall since I got home.

bino

The flight that I booked was with KLM. KLM do not use a ticketing system any more and it's perfectly acceptable to turn up at the check-in desk with only your passport. The tickets themselves were non transferable, no refund, no changes.

We have checked with the police, who apparently suspected me of people trafficing for a short period and they confirmed (about 2 weeks ago) that the passport has not been used.

Knowing what my wife is like, I really cannot see her 2-timing me (maybe I am naive) and considering that her sister is married to my best friend, I cannot see her coming to England and not wanting to see her sister.

I have also considered that her sister might not be telling me the whole truth, but have come to trust her over the 2.5 years that I have known her. She also wants to return to Thailand to search for her sister at her own expense, so do think that she is genuine in what she is telling me.

Mighty Mouse

I do know who the friend is, but do not have an address and she appears to have stopped using her old sim. My wife gave her phone to her monther at the airport.

We do not have a joint bank account. She has been working in hair-dressing, but I am informed that she has not gone back to her old job. I have been sending her money, but do not want to do this now in the hope that when her money runs out she will need to contact her family.

We did not have an argument, although she had not been her usual 'bouncy' self all day, but I thought that she was just very nervous. At the time I thought that she got 'cold feet' because she had just said goodbye to her family. I am satisfied that she was happy and intended to come - She could have purposely failed the entrance interview, which would mean she could not travel. She was also genuinely happy after getting the visa.

Her family has reported her disappearance to the police, but they seem to be un-interested. She does have a fiance visa to enter the UK for the next 2 years. We married in August and applied for the visa at that time, but due to delays at the embassy we had to wait until November, so I returned to support the visa and bring her home.

Fortunately I am still on good terms with her family and they are trying to trace her, but...

I do appreciate any support and advice that anyone has/can offer.

Thetyim

"She will not desert her family she will return eventually" - Thanks this is re-assuring. I was thinking that Songkran would probably be the most likely time for her to go home, but it will be a nightmare wait for me and her family.

dr_Pat_Pong

I am currently back in England - I want to come back to Thailand to look for her but I think that I would be struggling to find her if everyone spoke perfect English.

Thanks to everyone for your replies.

On 17 November I was due to travel back from Bangkok to England with my wife having just obtained a visa. Unfortunately at the airport my wife got 'cold feet' and left me. At this point I assumed that she would return to her family who had only recently left us at the airport, however she has not been seen by anyone since.

I know that this is not a forum for posting missing persons so will not go into details.

I would dearly love for her to return to her family, so at least I would know that she is alright. Having spent 3 of the last 5 days with at her family's farm, I know that she deeply loves her family, so am gravely concerned that she has not contacted them.

My best friend has been married to her sister for 2 years and I keep constant contact with her. She re-assures me that my wife was truely happy before her disappearance and looking forward to coming to England. She also tells me that her family really love me, hence the mystery.

I am led to believe that her 'best friend' was rather upset after getting the visa and put some kind of emotional strain on my wife because she was being left alone. I believe that the 2 are together now.

Is it common for a girl to disappear after leaving her husband?

Is my wife likely to return home eventually? How long?

Because my wife's family love me, is my wife likely to feel shamed, so she cannot contact her family?

Is there anything I can do to find her?

I don't know if anyone has any similar experience that they may wish to share.

Thanks

Harlander