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Seriously, they're still doing this? 

Was a nice breath of fresh air to never be rejected a taxi ride since the pandemic broke out. And to have every taxi driver not be an <deleted> and not talk too much. 

What's the point of playing this theater of "look at us, we're good people"?

15 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

I kind of get the hierarchy circles....  but don’t quite see the same ‘distribution’ in my life or that of some of my friends. 

 

1) The Inner Circle - One of my closest friends is a Thai guy I’ve known for over 20 years, we know a lot about each other. A couple of my Western friends here also have Thai male friends they are extremely close with. Our friendships overlap and while we are each individually in this inner circle, it doesn’t quite extend to the ‘friend of a friend’.

I also see that friends of mine are truly loved and cared for by their Thai In-Laws in an incredible manner. While there is a good and healthy mutual respect I don’t think I quite have this with my in-laws, but I see that a couple of friends of mine who are married do.

The older we become the harder it is for people to fall into this category, trust takes time.

This primary circle is primarily one of absolute trust.

 

2) The Second Circle - (I definitely agree with this) I have a lot of friends I would place in this second circle, a lot of them are Thai, met through friends, sports or hobbies, some are closer than others. Extended family are also in this ’second circle’ as a friends of my Wife who know me etc... It's easy for friends to ’stay’ in this circle for years. 

 

 

3) The Third Circle - Those who Thai’s treat with indifference - its why Thai’s can seem so rude sometimes. It's not deliberate, its just they really don’t care. 

 

 

Just keep in mind that we don't know everything that happens in other people's lives. If your friend tells you ABC, it doesn't always mean ABC. There might be something he is not telling you, namely DEF. Maybe he is only saying ABC to make him look good. While it's not impossible, I'm quite skeptical when someone says they are so accepted, loved, and everythign is 100% peachy with their thai families. Could be a blatant lie, could also be denial. Could also be just a rose-tinted pair of glasses many men here have when it comes to thai ladies.

why do you care? Who are you to them and who are they to you? There are people to whom money is not everything. There are people who don;t need to buy sex every other week. There are people who don;t need to constantly take ladies out for drinks or constantly pay their girlfriends' bills. 

I've received a cocktail that was 75% sugar. At Saxophone bar by Victory Monument. 

The guy making it must've poured syrup while yapping with his mouth, not realizing how much he put in. 

I sent it back, asking them to make me a new one, because it was too sweet. I spoke Thai. My friend (chinese) also helped me speak Thai - heard Thais can understand chinese accent better than farang accent. 

They brought me the drink, and after tasting it, turned out they only added more lime juice. So now it was sickeningly sweet and sickeningly sour. Undrinkable. Had I finished that drink, they would have to call me an ambulance. Gave to my friend to make sure I wasn't being a Karen, she also couldn't drink it. 

When the bill came, I refused to pay. They called the manager, and I explained everything. I gave them a chance to make me a new one, and they fcked it up even more. I won't pay for something I can't even drink. The manager was understanding. But no apology. Whatever. 

It is in Asian cultures to avoid confrontations. Even if it means you suffer like an idiot. Personally I think it's so dumb (I'm Asian, but I hate this about my fellow people). 

One positive thing about the Thai's fear of confrontation is: if you're finding yourself unable to get them to cooperate, be really headstrong about it. Refuse to leave until they do what you think they should do as service providers. Give you your right. They would rather comply rather than fight you. - keep in mind this doesn't apply to girlie bars or the kind of services that are used to old drunk farangs thinking they are God's gift to thai women. 

On 7/1/2020 at 1:10 PM, 4MyEgo said:

Find a new girlfriend, one that can cook like a boss and knows how to make you want eat her dessert after every meal ????

 

cause someone who looks liek that cooks... riiiight. Get off the fantasy world and back to earth, cowboy. 

His food vlogs are entertaining, but they're all way too enthusiastic and positive, that I'm having trouble taking him seriously. He lives in bangkok and he's still raving about absolutely EVERYTHING? Really? No one is that positive. If they are being genuine, that is... 

you need to understand their culture. There's a hierarchy in their circle of relations with people. 

The "inner circle" consist of people they've known since forever: family and school friends who they grew up with. These are the only people who get to see the real them. 

The middle circle or the "polite circle" consist of friends they've met recently. E.g. coworkers, adult friends (this includes you, the farang. Eventhough you're her husband etc, you will never be able to enter the inner circle, simply because you didn't know her since Adam.) They are very polite and friendly with people in this circle but as you said, you'll never get them to open up. 

Then there's the outer circle, which are strangers. They don't give a rat's ass about strangers. If you've seen how ignorant thais can be when driving or even walking, and don't move away even if they're about to bump into you, it's because of this. 

Source: a cultural expert who lived in thailand for about 30 years and married to one for 20 (not me). When he explained this to me, it all made sense. 

how many sob stories does one need to hear in order to learn that one should not trust a thai partner with one's money?

Maybe an anonymous phone call and a short stay in jail would do her some good. 

WOW. 

1. What you're looking for is a blow-up doll. Fulfills all of your criteria: speaks zero English, not afraid of the sun, doesn't need to live with other people and can stay in an isolated dessert with nothing to do but sit next to you, will weather hardships without complaining, and is only there to serve your needs.

2. No woman, regardless of nationality, is going to ever be tempted to live like that. Believe me (I'm a woman). Think again. Why should a woman accept your offer? What do they have to gain from it? A life in an isolated hot desert where you have to hunt for food? Geez, maybe when I've lost all my marbles I'll be your wife (I'm Indonesian but too bad my English is too good for what you are looking for). But even then, I'd rather choose an isolated cabin in the woods. And preferably with a guy who is my equal. No asian woman is going to welcome scorching heat every single day without escape.

3. You sound like you have a yellow fever (more like a "golden brown" fever)..... 

4. Everything you wrote is about what YOU want. What can you offer her? Why should any woman on earth want to do all of that with you? Sounds pretty selfish, no? Sounds to me like all you want is a simple dumb farm girl who doesn't want money or a better life (yeah, good luck finding that...) to wait on you hand and feet in the scorching heat of the dry desert with zero social life and zero entertainment.... Attractive offer.... 

On 6/10/2020 at 1:22 PM, tandor said:

..ever watched CSI..get off the grass!..i have done this job as a real time career..and yes animal and insect larvae etc can assist to a certain extent, but you do not know when they arrived or left..this body wasn't mummified or preserved in any way it was covered with some fronds.

that's why it's not exact science... I used the word ESTIMATE. Cause nobody can pinpoint the exact time, one can only estimate. 

On 6/10/2020 at 5:09 AM, faraday said:

It doesn't prove any point.

 

It's about survival.

after the survival part is over, it's about indulgence. And laziness. Why scrub toilets for meager salary when you can just lie in bed like a dead fish and get thousands within hours? Who cares about self-respect?

9 hours ago, tandor said:

(Medical and forensic teams determined that she had been dead for between 14 and 17 days.) 

       What a ridiculous thing to state...an impossibility...they would be better saying between the date of her supposed disappearance and the date she was discovered.

Extensive microscopy work from slides and blood and fluid analysis would have to be done which could take up to 6 weeks, before any time frame could even be 'guessed'.

 

Have you never watched CSI shows? You can estimate time of death based on how further along decomposition is, which also is affected by temperature and humidity, as well as insect and animal activity. You don't need to analyze blood and fluids or wait for toxicology to tell when the person died. Especially in cases where the body is mummified or is further along in the decomposition process, there might not be any blood or fluids left to analyze. 

4 hours ago, madmen said:

This is welcome news for Bangokians . What a pity the 2 bitter and cranky old men above immediately lay the boot in

typical ThaiVisa, no? 

I scam you.... You scam me.... We're a happy FA-MI-LY! 

That's just how the world rolls. Just a week ago there was a brit who was scammed by a thai woman by idk how many million baht... Sounds like your everyday story at the bar. This is non-newsworthy material. 

Just a reminder: If you can help, don't donate food. Donating money is the best. You don't know what their needs are. There are enough people donating food. Maybe what they need is rent so they don't become homeless. Maybe they need to buy antidepressants or insulin, maybe they need to buy baby formula. Give them the resources and let them make the decision for themselves. It is also highly empowering for the receivers compared to having people assume that as long as they have food, they'd live. 

Quarantine those who congregate. 14 days locked up. How would they like that?

20 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Because she wasn't like that when we married them, and we don't change wives like bargirls.

doesn't seem like a habit one can just pick up... more like a habit that is ingrained in the deepest part of the personality, that she has maybe managed to hide from you. Heard SOME women are really good at deceiving their partners for years and the men are just too blind or dumb to see he's being deceived. 

I just wonder: why do you guys put up with this? 

I used to do this when I was, like, 11. I don't do this anymore, especially if you live together. It's very childish. 

many of you are forgetting the cultural factor. The face-saving aspect. If you cheat or do anything that could lead to cheating, they are losing their face. In front of you, and in front of their friends and family when you guys later break up (this will explain the lies as well, the "I want to break up with him, but he said he will kill himself if I leave him")... 

So. The fear of losing face creates a sense of panic, which then heightens the adrenalin and with that also heightens the "dangerous" aspect. 

48 minutes ago, frantick said:

I believe in personal responsibility. If you want to cover up or hibernate for fear of infection, up to you. I'll take my chances.

 

The common flu causes death. Did you cover up prior to covid-19? If you didn't and you were near other people while contagious, you could've killed someone.

you'll take your chances? Great. What a brave warrior you are. While you are taking your chances, you are spreading the disease on to others, without even knowing you have it. It's not about YOU and only YOU, it's about other human beings too. Be a decent human being and go hibernate and cover yourself. Don't be a jerk. If everyone is sick, hospitals are so not ready for the amount of people that need treatment. Is that what you want? 

7 minutes ago, frantick said:

Really? I'll ask you the same question.

 

The common flu causes death. Did you cover up prior to covid-19? If you didn't and you were near other people while contagious, you could've killed someone.

1. Most of us have already developed an immune system against the common flu. The Rona is 100% new and unknown. Which makes them scarier than the common flu. 

2. Someone infected with the flu will show symptoms within 2-3 days. After that, they will probably take some meds and/or stay home, thereby stopping the spread. Rona takes 14 days for people to show symptoms. There are also those who are asymptomatic, but can also spread to other people. 

Read more before you speak. Or watch youtube, if that's your jam. Plenty of doctors speak up there. Please, save your own face. 

The more people not respecting social distancing, the longer this sh*t is gonna be. So yes, I will snitch. Because what they are doign concerns public health, including mine. (and by public health I also mean mental health)