Disco

Hey All

I have moved to Bangkok (from the Southern Islands) to find a good lawyer, this has not been the case so far (in Bangkok) as have only found more of the same that got me in this situation in the 1st place ie greed and corruption....

Have been done by Thai husband for a HUGE AMOUNT OF MONEY after 10 years because:

a: the local boyz have been removed and the big boyz are know in the game

b: apparently said husband developed v bad gambiling habit behind my back blah, blah blah (and then the rest)

c: he's a <deleted> and if he had just divorced me we could have got 50% of business each and both come out of this OK....

Yes I know some of you will give me a v hard time, but like you I worked hard developing my business in the western world and married a nice person...it just doesn't alllwayz work out like that (as some of you know allready)....

Please no harsh words cos wot ever you say I've told myself thousands of time allready...

Just a good ref for a good lawyer in Bangkok would be really, really nice

If there is anything left that is....

I attended Basic I at Chula a year ago... and lasted 3 of the 5 weeks. I'm no spring chicken. The seven others in my group were Oriental 20- and 30-somethings, and one Czech. Most had previous Thai language instruction. They don't call it Intensive Thai for nothing!

'20- and 30-somethings' that sounds better to me....I taught myself to read basic Thai years ago but have forgotten most of it, same with my verbal skills, although I can still understand a considerable amount. I have deceided to start on the basic 1 course, to make sure I'm not to overwhelmed by it. I believe that if I'm going to study, I might as well do it full on. Not sure how long I will be able to keep up though, hoping for about the 1st 5 levels for now, but having said that I'm not a natural at languages so we will have to see....

LAST

Dont know about Attendees from Thai Visa, but in my apartment block (Evergreen PLace) there is about 20-25 students from Overseas that study at Chula for a semester (?) all different nationalities but mainly American, prob around the late teens early 20's age group

O my Buddha Prudent Rabbit "late teens early 20's age group" I know I look good for my age, but really aint gonna get away with that age bracket!!!

As far as i know, some ladies will not wear their ring for various reasons. Most cos the ring is seen as valuable and they may be scared of having it stolen. Your right as in most countries its impolite to ask about a ladies martial situation, same here.

Hard one to answer about how to broach the subject. I have found the fun and excitement of courting normal thai girls (no offence to anyone with a bargirl, i just don't know of a better way to illustrate my point) very enjoyable.

I have found an excellent way to meet many people. Start to learn thai from a children's book, when you need help ask any thai girl you like and they will help. It's a great ice breaker and quite innocent (well that's up to you and the lady). If you really fancy someone, it is normal to have a friend tell them as it save face and seems the way they do it here.

Good luck

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Teddy Bare

I am confused, since when did it become impolite to ask about a ladies marital status?? I think you will find that those who are happily married have no problem with this at all, are very proud to be married and yes, also flattered (but not intersted b'cos married) if a guy is asking for any other reason than making general conversation

Cheers

By the way, K&M International Counsellors in Law have American, British and Thai legal experts working for them.

They can be contacted here.

18th floor

Regent House

183 Rajardamri Road

Pathumwan

Bangkok 10330

Tel. 02556496

www.kittmurray.com

You may want to check out some of the threads regarding this company on TV if my memory serves me well.......

I don't care, I've not seen it before and I needed a good laugh, cheers!! And yes, it is that funny....

I just never cared for John Cleese. He was ok collectively with Monty Python, but I never took a liking to him solo. I did, however, think Benny Hill was hilarious!

Maybe my sense of humor needs calibration.

No, your sense of humor is alright. Monty Python is just not that funny, save for a couple of their movies, which were very good. They have good comedic talent but the writing was generally subpar for television. They took the time to get it right for cinema. One keeps hearing about them being Britains great gift to world humor, but it just isn't so.

Still don't care, JC just make me laugh even just lookin at him, it's all about the timing...but then again it's what ever floats your boat...

It wasn't that great when it was posted here the first time...

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/index.php?sh...91&view=new

Oops! Sorry Buckwheat, I missed it! But it is a good one!

I don't care, I've not seen it before and I needed a good laugh, cheers!! And yes, it is that funny....

Whats the better option for traveling to Ko samui?

Train or Bus ?

Or any thing other?

The train is cool, only done it from Samui to Bangkok, I would recommend you get the best carriage available and is a nice scenic option

Bus (no thanks, not a chance)

Bangkok Airways is the quick, if expensive option

Disco,

I know how you feel about Thailand being your home. My boyfriend died, so I haven't got the same problems as you (from having my marriage break down before, I know that the constant "can we try again, am I doing the right thing?" feeling is a big problem, and that isn't an option when someone dies)

However, being here, reminds me constantly of him and it can be really hard. But I wouldn't be anywhere else. Congratulations on having enrolled on your course & positively going ahead with your life, whatever the outcome with your marriage may be. You're obviously a strong lady. I wish you all the best in whatever you decide. Good luck

November Rain, that's such a terrible thing to hear, I hope it's something you can deal with over time, but you must feel that something has been stolen from you. Thanks for the good luck message, it does put things more into context.....

Hi All

I start the Intensive Thai Programme at Chula Uni after New Year (v excited but a tad nervous). Is there anybody out in TV land that either attends this Uni or studies elsewhere in Bangkok?

BTW thanks to all those who have commented on various schools and language courses on the forum as it helped make my final decision.

Disco

disco, do you have any children? there is a possibility of extension based on caring for one's Thai children. Check the visas forum for more info if applicable.

Sorry to hear it didn't work out, hopefully you can get your life sorted and carry on with a minimum of difficulty

It is the same as a visa for a guy married to a Thai. New regulations are 40,000 baht per month income, and formal evidence of parenthood.

Hi Dr Pat Pong

I ma in a v v difficult financial position coming out of this, however I am a proffesional person that allows me to be able to earn excellent income...like I say if one has to start all over again then that's just the way it is.....it could be worse (just)

I am very sorry for you. The same happened to me (including breathing problems, sudden homelessness and all). I just hope that your in-laws don't make your life more miserable - as was the case with me. For me it helped to tell myself I was at a low point of my life. So I did not fight feeling miserable, but now things are improving. I so much hope the best for you.

Hi Sparkle

I'm very lucky with the family, they all support me BUT my husband is the oldest boy and therefore they can't really have much influence on his actions even though they want to. They are lovely people and I miss them very much....xxx

it might sound silly but you should try taking a yoga course while you are in bangkok too. yoga has helped me deal with stress in an amazing way. i learned tantra yoga, which isn't as sleazy or sex-oriented as it has a reputation for being in the west, but rather is combined with a lot of intensive meditation and breathing. works wonders. i know there is a good one near chitlom, yoga elements i think it is?

That's a great idea, thanx, I shall try all ideas posted here. The yoga will also help to eliminate said chocolate truffle overdose as well

p.s. think I may be turning into Bridget Jones.......

In a similar vein, I highly recommend a Vipassana meditation retreat. Offered twice a month at an excellent facility in Prachinburi. If you are interested go to website www.dhamma.org for general information, for the Thailand schedule click on Asia then Prachinburi, Thailand.

It will give you a whole new perspective and start.

Hi Sheryl

Another excellent idea, like i said before I will try all recommendations...

disco, do you have any children? there is a possibility of extension based on caring for one's Thai children. Check the visas forum for more info if applicable.

Sorry to hear it didn't work out, hopefully you can get your life sorted and carry on with a minimum of difficulty

Hi again SBK

No I don't have any children yet, we were just trying to start a family when everthing when tits up, I'm a career women and have just got to a point where I had everything in place to be stable for life....now I'm worried that it's goin to be too late, I'm not that old yet, but not so far off, before I met my husband I never wanted childred, then fell in love and then deceided I wanted to give them the best opportunities in life that I waited, and now I realise how important it is it might be too late for me to find someone else to share the same experiences with...at least I'm a 'God Mother' in farangland and she's is as cute as...and will hopefully be a partner in crime later in years...

Thx

Sorry to hear things aren't looking good, I hope they work out whichever way is best for you.

In the mean time, do a google image search of ducklings, that always helps me!

Hi Bellatrix

I so tried to google ducklings, i either didn't do it right or missed the point, thanx for your support xx

Hi All

Thanks for your messages (and pm's from meme) was having a bit of a bad day yesterday and feeling sorry for myself

Had a long chat with one of my BF's from Farang land and feel much better (under the circumstances), your support is v. much appreciated

Girl friends can be the best medicine! Glad to hear you are feeling better.

Take care,

Meme.

Hi Meme

What can I say, thank you for your kind emails, it rally is appreciated xx

Hi Disco, sorry to hear things aren't working out. If you feel the need to talk, but don't want to do so openly you are welcome to PM me.

the the start

I, too, am married to a Thai man. Happily, fortunately, but you are right, it is difficult to involve other farang women who are married to Thais. I have seen the dissolution of a few friends marriages. But, luckily for me, my husband is capable of seeing the difference between a decent guy whose marriage doesn't work out and a sh!theel who treats his wife like dirt.

Good luck to you and remember to take care of yourself!

Hi SBK

I don't think (Island wise) that we are that far apart, in fact we probably know some of the same people between us!! Yes, I hope to think I married the right person who, for whatever reasons, took a different path and therefore had a huge impact on my life. I've asked my friends in Farangland what they thought about said husband when we 1st had difficulties hoping not to to hear "I told you so" and in fact everyone from all different walks of life were absoloutly gobsmacked when I told them, so that made me feel a lot better (well, sorta of , you know what I mean). Maybe it would've been easier if he was a b@#$%d from the start...but then I would've never gone out with him let alone married him...

Thanks again SBK xxx

As mother would say:

Make sure that you have enough money to take care of yourself in Thailand or to return home.

Don't worry about leaving things behind that are not of great importance.

There are more fish in the sea.

Hi Elijeque

'Home' is Thailand....even before I was with my future husband, I knew Thailand would be my home, I've just got to get my head round things and maybe it will still be home (cos nowhere else is in comparison)

Easy to say more fish in the sea, but is it possible to love that much and it's taken away from you that you will find it again or it doesn't really provide you with the baggage you promised yourself you would never carry.....

Thanks again for taking the time to reply

If I can help, I will: located in Chiang Mai. Please feel free to PM me or to post any relevant info to all on this thread. As Sheryl has said, stay strong, and know you are among sympathetic women here.

Hi Fruittbatt

Thnx to you as well. As I say I am starting new life in Bangkok (for now) and the only time I have travelled to your part of the country is with my husband, so maybe it will be a good time to arrange a TV or ladies evening sometime in the New Year to catch up...hopefully by then I will have lots of good news...but then again with my luck I might just have a few more stories to tell (hopefully none of them caused by loss of skin through drinking injuries as should be more mature than that by now

Thx again xx

Sorry to hear about your troubles. We're here to lend a sympathetic ear and moral support...so vent away!

You are going to need your friends all the more if your marriage breaks up so I would suggest you go ahead and confide in the close friends you referred to. You can do that without asking them to take sides, if that is what concerns you.

Chin up!!!

Hi Sheryl

Thx for your message. Your right of course, you need your friends but I'm not very good at sharing such details, probably too proud for my own good, but like I say, it probably helped that I'd had a couple (!!) of vino's. I'm used to being with a supportive husband and normally others come to us for advice...so by even admitting there was a problem was a problem in itself...head in sand type of approach which is really bizarre as I normally tacle things head on....in fact am rather well known for it in a nice way of course....

Anway thanks for you reply it was to be the start.....

Hi All

I hope you won't mind all the posts coming up, but as you've all taken the time to read this and reply, I think it's the very least I can do.....

Thx all

I am very sorry for you. The same happened to me (including breathing problems, sudden homelessness and all). I just hope that your in-laws don't make your life more miserable - as was the case with me. For me it helped to tell myself I was at a low point of my life. So I did not fight feeling miserable, but now things are improving. I so much hope the best for you.

Well Ladies

It never rains but only pours.......

Your gonna like this, I've just been told that due to corporate cost reduction requirements I've lost my contract and have only been given 2 weeks notice......

Absolutely bl**dy fantastically marvelous……

p.s. If I was a troll I couldn’t make this stuff up….

it might sound silly but you should try taking a yoga course while you are in bangkok too. yoga has helped me deal with stress in an amazing way. i learned tantra yoga, which isn't as sleazy or sex-oriented as it has a reputation for being in the west, but rather is combined with a lot of intensive meditation and breathing. works wonders. i know there is a good one near chitlom, yoga elements i think it is?

That's a great idea, thanx, I shall try all ideas posted here. The yoga will also help to eliminate said chocolate truffle overdose as well

p.s. think I may be turning into Bridget Jones.......

disco...I do hope you are doing ok? let us know if u need some venting or if theres anything else we might be able to help with

stay strong

a hug.......

Hi Girls

Thanks for checking up on me, to be quite honest I was more than a little embarrassed that I'd made a post in the 1st place (not very good at sharing this kind of stuff) and then I saw a post saying that maybe these kind of posts were from Trollers......

Anyway, no word from said husband, still gutted, know I have to move on, but as I didn't have any control over the situation it makes me feel pretty pants to say the least....really thought it would last and last.....blah, blah, blah

I need to keep myself busy so have enrolled at Chulongkorn University for the Intensive Thai Program starting 8th Jan which I was going to do anyway but have just moved it forward. This means moving to Bangkok and trying to start all over again but hey, I gotta start somewhere.

Don't suppose any of you know how I can find out about apartment/house share? I hate living on my own and am looking at the high end of the market so any advice would be appreciated.

Then of course, there's the visa renewal, which I can't do without my husband. Home is/was (not so sure at the moment) on one of the Islands which means having to immigration every month for 5-6 months with my husband before they give me the 1 year renewal so that's out of the question it seems....is there are visa agency that I could pay to arrange it for me without having to take my husband. I'm a bit p'd off as I managed to get him the farangland passport and whole 9 yards....

Wish I could be stronger, normally I am but this has just turned my whole life upside down. When it 1st happened I couldn't eat, sleep, think or generally do anything, it was just hard to even breathe but now I try not to think about it as much as possible. There's still times when it just overwhelms me and sometimes it's at really inappropriate time. The people at work (currently working in another part of Asia) don't know and most of the people on the Islands in Thailand always ask where my husband is so it's always in my face...

I have bad PMS at the moment so maybe just feeling worse, I have however been using this as excuse to consume as many free chocolate truffles at the hotel as possible