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I suppose there are some ways to mitigate that risk. If one has a monthly pension and decides not to invest in a house or even a condo, he retains more freedom. But ultimately, one can get stuck through family, children, health issues or old age. Ultimately, it is true that doing stuff like going to the gym, reading, exploring nature, learning about astrophysics or the Thai language is also a means to mitigate,

Is there some wildlife to get familiar with in Thailand (apart from reptiles and insects…)? I imagine there’d some interesting birds perhaps,

… the desire “to invest” in a condo comes from the idea of leaving something to someone, doesn’t it? That indeed should come only after having explored many different provinces and locations. That is how I would proceed. But I have no intention to buy at this point, Do you feel comfortable and safe on the roads or do you only ride in specific kind of areas?

Is it fun to explore Isaan on a motorbike?

I see. I’ll move to Thailand in about three and a half years or so. It’s critical to choose or move to a location where we feel comfortable and balanced,

Yes, I wouldn’t feel comfortable to go and live in my girlfriend’s village. I think for her, it means to stay stuck in the past … and this enmeshment among the community. She has to move on a bit,

@Hummin … you could move back to Huan Hin or to some other new city, couldn’t you?

@BritManToo Does she pay 90% of the monthly instalment every month or is it only a safeguard for you in case of divorce? Are you married or just living together?

… @Cameroni … perhaps, you should try to talk to PG, and find a compromise on location and lifestyle for your future. The location is one thing, the lifestyle is another. I thought to have her agreeing to start a « normal » part-time job (3 or 4 days a week?) could be reasonable, and helpful to orient and focus her mindset on standard stuff. She wouldn’t earn much money but the effort would be meaningful. It would provide some breathing space for both, and help you focus on your job. She could spend half the money on herself and half on helping her mother (you could complement with a small allowance, around 9000 to 11000 bahts). Working part-time would help her acquire a sense a purpose, plus legit and useful experience.

Wouldn’t it make sense to have her working part-time? Would it help her to stay in touch with reality ?

@hummin So your choice was still to rent, right?

@Hummin Would it not be reasonable to make a small allowance, contingent on her working part-time (2 or 3 days a week)? Would it not help to keep them “grounded” into some sort of reality? It may provide some breathing distance which might be beneficial on some level !?

Thanks for the insight. I have still to read through your whole thread. I’ve only read perhaps 15% as yet… 🙂

Are you actually with the CM girl at your place in CM?

Hi… I see but she’s being honest. Technically, when she comes to CM for two weeks, you’d probably keep on talking to your 3 or so other girls, behind her back, am I right? Because you can’t just disappear from their lives for two weeks !? So, actually, she chooses to share information and look for understanding and compromise with you. Wouldn’t it work for you to tell her that you’re also talking with two or three girls. From this new starting point and “trust”, you could perhaps start to talk and share in a more thorough manner, and from there, understand her mindset. Mind-bending journey though, perhaps She’d like to keep talking to other men like you’d like to keep talking to your girlfriends. From there, the whole talk could be more honest

I feel the same about my perspectives in Europe. I don’t even have family left. Not strong social connections either here. I feel that boredom would be overwhelming while I can see more opportunities to move around and explore in Thailand. It’s like starting a new episode…

Yes, it’s true You may have been living in Thailand for some time. I’d like to ask a question (you don’t have to answer). If you compare your life as an expatriate in Thailand to what it could have been in your home country (US, Europe, or …), what are the upsides you still can see of living abroad?

I see…

How do you see “Thailand these days” ?

I see… I’m not much aware of how the situation has evolved since the COVID crisis. I hope it’s still a good country to live in. Moving from one country to another can be a recipe to stay curious and chase boredom, imo. Life is cheaper than in Europe as well and I believe that with a monthly 65K baths pension, my standard of living might be a bit better. I’ll try to check out more the information about Thailand since after COVID,

Well, I can see your feedbacks are mostly critical or dismissive. I’ll have to find my bearings and adapt on the fly

I don’t really know. It depends on the people I meet

Settling in a different land and culture, I don’t believe the “relationship pattern” should be my immediate option. I feel that taking my time would have benefits, allowing me to find my bearings

Is it the MEETUP App you’re talking about?

I’ll answer her that I’m living there … I’ll retire at 64 yo there. I’ll have no reason to rush.