Boomhauer

2 minutes ago, BestB said:

Not to sure what exactly you puzzled about. 

 

You were chosen and married to to support her and her parents which you clearly not doing in their minds and expectations.

 

either start to pay more or trade her in for a new one, unless you still delusional enough to think she married you and stay with you for love when you old enough to be her grandfather

 

her parents are not going to ease up but intensify the pressure until either you pay up or she dumps you to look for bigger and better paying fish.

 

sorry sounds harsh, but such as life 

I paid 3 mil sin sod and I pay 50,000 baht monthly to them..

should I be paying more u think?

5 minutes ago, brokenbone said:

how much sin sod did you pay ?

2 million baht cash and 1 million in gold.

why do you ask?

8 minutes ago, madmen said:

Your old enough to be mums father. They tolerate you because you provide a service as does your wife. Try telling them Your out of $ and see them all run for the hills. Personally i wouldn't visit the in laws, just send your wife

Yes. They still take my money every month.(substantial amounts)

they used to smile as i gave it to them, now they dont even look at me.

1 minute ago, baansgr said:

Not criticising your relationship but I can only imagine how I would feel if a man 40 years senior married my daughter....Maybe the honeymoon period of sin sod etc has worn off and the reality has hit home.

Either way I cant win can I?

Too young - They don't respect me.

Too old - They don't respect me.

What's a man to do?

3 minutes ago, petermik said:

I,m sorry but with the "so now what" tone of your reply to a perfectly acceptable question leads me to understand why you have difficulty with your in-laws

I was responding to the tone of his previous post where he asked "so please answer the question." and "do I know anything about Thai status and class." I found that tone to be rather condescending.. 

8 minutes ago, NCC1701A said:

do you know anything about Thai status and class? parents are automatically of a higher status because of their age.

 

so please answer the question. what is their age? how old are you? 

I am 62. My wife is 23 and her mum is 42 and dad 48. 

So now what?

1 minute ago, NCC1701A said:

you are lower status than the parents. are you younger than the parents?

How am I lower status than the parents and how does that relate to my current problems?

We don't get on anymore. We used to, but our relationship has massively deteriorated, partly due to miscommunication and cultural differences. Now when I am in their vicinity I tend to ignore them totally and be kind of standoffish in my demeanor. Please don't think this is a harsh stance to take, they have given me more than enough reason to behave in this manner.

Anyone else had trouble with the in laws? It doesn't faze me much but I would prefer we had a constructive relationship instead of ignoring each other and not making eye contact etc.. I am willing to change and have tried many times to put things right but they are very stubborn and set in their ways, possibly a cultural thing, not sure. I worry that my child will suffer in the long run from the toxic environment that this kind of a relationship naturally creates. 

7 minutes ago, malibukid said:

don't drink.  makes you stupid.  don't understand why people like it?

I like it because it relaxes me. I haven't been drunk/hungover for years.

I find that used in moderation and at a calm pace it is a very pleasant experience.

7 minutes ago, possum1931 said:

If you need to drink every day then you have a problem.

I drink because it relaxes me. As stated before I have two small bottles of beer per day and that does it for me. I can start my drinking at 8pm and make each small bottle last an hour. 

I personally do not see that as a problem.

13 minutes ago, pgrahmm said:

Imagine, Pattaya, Patpong, Soi Cowboy, & similar places without being alcohol fueled....

Yes. They would be even more unbearable than they currently are ????

It's a trap dude. I have yet to hear a happy ending about a guy that meets a girl in a bar. All of these stories share one basic similarity: They all end in disaster.

Good luck and be careful out there!

Definitely time for imported brakes I reckon. 

23 minutes ago, brewsterbudgen said:

 The current restrictions on alcohol during Buddha days and elections are not new, nor are they restricted to Thailand.  This is a fairly ridiculous thread.

You are right. The restrictions regarding the sale of alcohol are nothing new on religious holiday's. What is new, however, is the rise of anti-alcohol groups and campaigners pushing for laws to be implemented based on road deaths and other sensationalized horror stories in the Thai news media involving alcohol. Wasn't alcohol banned on trains a while back due to an incident involving a young girl? So due to one isolated incident, now the whole country cannot enjoy a relaxing can of beer on a long train journey to ease the tension.

This type of action is out of proportion IMO.

5 minutes ago, robblok said:

That is too bad for them, and if they can't live without alcohol for a day they got a serious problem. If they let something like that spoil their holiday they got a problem. I mean that is just something minor. 

 

My parents and brother did not like it got caught out a few times but did not make much of a problem about it. Joked about it being a crazy country and forgot about it and enjoyed their holiday. That would have been different had they been dependent on alcohol.

 

Contrary to me my family does like to drink, mom with gin tonic, dad with beer and rum cola and my brother with beer. They all have been here many times and got caught out.. made a comment and a joke about it and went on enjoying their holiday.

 

I seen this argument before from people who live here  using tourist as an excuse.

The answer is not more alcohol free days but more stringent checks by the authorities and better education on the effects of alcohol and the dangers of drink driving. Can we agree on that, robblok?

15 minutes ago, robblok said:

I disagree with your reasoning, there should be many more roadside controls. That is the only way to change things. You can't say hide the fact that alcohol is dangerous. They should combat drunk driving and not alcohol. Your reasoning does not make sense.

 

What I meant by that was when the doctors perform tests on a dead body to see if he/she was drunk or not.

13 minutes ago, robblok said:

 

You worry too much and those dry days learn to live with them plan ahead. Just make sure you always got 6 bottles in the fridge.. stock up with you hit that limit. That way you never get caught out.

 

How about when I go on holiday with my family who fly in from Europe and they can't order a glass of wine with a meal at a restaurant? How do you think they feel? And how does one plan ahead for that?

8 minutes ago, robblok said:

I disagree with your reasoning, there should be many more roadside controls. That is the only way to change things. You can't say hide the fact that alcohol is dangerous. They should combat drunk driving and not alcohol. Your reasoning does not make sense.

 

I am for alcohol use (to each his own) but I am also for loads and loads more checks. Otherwise the only way to stop drunk driving is to ban alcohol. 

 

You worry too much and those dry days learn to live with them plan ahead. Just make sure you always got 6 bottles in the fridge.. stock up with you hit that limit. That way you never get caught out.

 

I don't drink much but I always got a bottle of rum  and vodka and gin in my home. 

 

You made a remark about mango juice with vodka.. i do when i want to get drunk.. but i still think without tastes better. Do you really like the taste or getting drunk.k

I am all for more checks and harsher penalties for drunk drivers. 

I am just not for some state telling me when I can drink and when I can't.

8 minutes ago, Berkshire said:

Hmmmm....since no one else will say it, here goes.  What a ridiculous question.  Why ponder something that will never happen?  It's like asking "what if they banned fast food".....or "what if they banned air conditioning"....or "what if they ban farangs from dating Thai women."  I hope the OP is not losing sleep over this because it's really an absurd notion. 

It's not such an absurd notion these days.. There is talk of the government proposing to ban the sale of alcohol throughout the entire Songkran period. This is just the tip of the iceberg IMO. If these young Thais keep on killing themselves on their dad's Honda scooters and they keep testing positive for alcohol, then that will only add fuel to the activists fire.

I have also noticed in recent years a general negative feeling by many locals about the consumption of alcohol, particularly the younger generation seem to have a deep dislike of alcohol and those that consume it.

I also don't think their will be an outright ban tomorrow, but their will definitely be more and more dry days added to the calendar in years to come.

2 minutes ago, brokenbone said:

it helps a lot if shes a nympho

Definitely! That is point 6 on my list ????