I've noticed most posters on this forum are males. So your opinions on Thai females are also welcome.
The reason I'm asking this, is that a friend of mine, this Japanese girl(I call her Shion, who was in the same high school abroad) had been dating a Thai man for the last few years. Recently they had a fallen-out. So she moved on and is now on her own in Bangkok. However the Thai guy seemed very eager to get her back. But she's been telling me about her serious concerns regarding this man. But this is the first Thai she met/dated, so the stuff she says about him might not apply to the other Thais in general.
So the biggest concern of hers is his dishonesty ><. Like many Thais(her BF was Chinese Thai born and raised in Thailand), he seems very polite and caring. But often when things don't go so smoothly he would still try to cover things up instead of talking things out with her. This frustrates her a lot. His family also insisted on sweeping things under the carpet whenever something bad(usually for her) happens. And this doesn't help preventing future misfortunes happening to her at all. She finds herself being lied to by her bf, his family, over and over. Sometimes over the pettiest things. It almost seems like they just love to <deleted> with her head.
Another big issue is domestic abuse. When a problem rises and he refuses to face it with any intention of solve it, rather he would try to postpone whatever he needs to do(laziness and unreliability are two other serious flaws in him). Shion, the girl who grew up in a western society, would confront him. This really angered him, and to her surprise he eventually resorted to physical violence. Not a single slap in the face but, getting on top of her and beating the shit out of her kind of violence.
Last, he seems poorly educated with very limited intellect. To be fair, he is very good at his profession when he actually chooses to work. But most of the time it's trash TVs for him etc. In a way she's helped him expand his horizon by teaching him about the Japanese and western cultures. He seemed to be appreciating it at the time. But on his own, he would go back to his old route.
To to make this sound like I'm bashing the guy, here are the pros. He's very tentative and submissive. He would prefer more than anything to take orders(not really a pro but at least he's easy-going). He would help her to the best of his abilities whenever she needs it. He tells her that he loves her everyday and keeps saying he could not live one day without her. He does have a lot of patience which really is a virtue in modern guys.
So I hope people won't read this the wrong way and assume I'm just doing this to put down Thais. I'm not. I don't know them well. But I wish to seek out some opinions from you fine people who may know Thais better than us. I wish to help her make the right decision whether to stay or leave.
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I've noticed most posters on this forum are males. So your opinions on Thai females are also welcome.
The reason I'm asking this, is that a friend of mine, this Japanese girl(I call her Shion, who was in the same high school abroad) had been dating a Thai man for the last few years. Recently they had a fallen-out. So she moved on and is now on her own in Bangkok. However the Thai guy seemed very eager to get her back. But she's been telling me about her serious concerns regarding this man. But this is the first Thai she met/dated, so the stuff she says about him might not apply to the other Thais in general.
So the biggest concern of hers is his dishonesty ><. Like many Thais(her BF was Chinese Thai born and raised in Thailand), he seems very polite and caring. But often when things don't go so smoothly he would still try to cover things up instead of talking things out with her. This frustrates her a lot. His family also insisted on sweeping things under the carpet whenever something bad(usually for her) happens. And this doesn't help preventing future misfortunes happening to her at all. She finds herself being lied to by her bf, his family, over and over. Sometimes over the pettiest things. It almost seems like they just love to <deleted> with her head.
Another big issue is domestic abuse. When a problem rises and he refuses to face it with any intention of solve it, rather he would try to postpone whatever he needs to do(laziness and unreliability are two other serious flaws in him). Shion, the girl who grew up in a western society, would confront him. This really angered him, and to her surprise he eventually resorted to physical violence. Not a single slap in the face but, getting on top of her and beating the shit out of her kind of violence.
Last, he seems poorly educated with very limited intellect. To be fair, he is very good at his profession when he actually chooses to work. But most of the time it's trash TVs for him etc. In a way she's helped him expand his horizon by teaching him about the Japanese and western cultures. He seemed to be appreciating it at the time. But on his own, he would go back to his old route.
To to make this sound like I'm bashing the guy, here are the pros. He's very tentative and submissive. He would prefer more than anything to take orders(not really a pro but at least he's easy-going). He would help her to the best of his abilities whenever she needs it. He tells her that he loves her everyday and keeps saying he could not live one day without her. He does have a lot of patience which really is a virtue in modern guys.
So I hope people won't read this the wrong way and assume I'm just doing this to put down Thais. I'm not. I don't know them well. But I wish to seek out some opinions from you fine people who may know Thais better than us. I wish to help her make the right decision whether to stay or leave.
Thank you.