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1 hour ago, Morch said:

 

Losing face is about being confronted, criticized, disagreed with.

If you are worried confronting her would result in violence of some sort, then drop the hosing option. Try the pepper, lime or whatever spraying. IMO, it's not going to make the problem go away, though.

 

Another way to deal with this is to take clips/pics of here doing her stuff, or catching interactions with her on video. If she gets out of line, even better.

 

Don't call the police, head over with materials (make copies, though) and file a complaint. Alternatively, resort to social media - but this would require good Thai language skills, and avoiding putting up details that may identify her. For both, more effective if neighbor is cooperative.

We got several video clips of her, on several occasions. 

3 minutes ago, RocketDog said:

Lime juice is pretty cheap. Just dump a bottle of it on the food she leaves every night. 

Or mix it with vodka and just get plastered so you don't care. 

I’ve already ordered half a kilo of white pepper powder. Maybe I’ll add to the cat food. At least it’s a bit hard to detect right? ????

love your vodka idea though hahahahahaa

2 hours ago, Morch said:

Had this here and in two other countries. The Thai version was harder to tackle as people here tend to react more aggressively when confronted or when losing face, so need to take care.

 

The two other times - one solved hosing food, feces, cats and cat lady. The cat lady was indignant, the cats more pragmatic. The other time, we added some sprinklers, that could be opened without stepping up to the gate. Whenever she'd came over or a cat fest began, open the tap and and soak them good. Not much words exchanged after the initial request of them to stop was ignored.

 

Pepper and the rest of that stuff only works if it doesn't rain, maybe better for car park.

 

IMO, there's no talking to these people. Especially the cat variety.

 

A dog works wonders, and doesn't have to be a large one. Just feisty enough to handle stray cats. It will soon pick up the vibes and bark it's head off the minute she draws near.

 

Another thing you may wish to do is contact one of the many NGO's concerned with stray animals, and seek their advice and/or help.

 

Oh, and the Thai version was ultimately a failure. Lived in an apartment, and other neighbors weren't too interested doing much about it themselves. Somehow failed to make the connection between cat lady's feeding them and the smell. Or the cats trying to have kittens in balconies of lower floors.

About loosing face... she had very thick face because she must have known by now we (and neighbours) do not like her putting cat food in front of our gates. She seems to us to be the kind who wants her way no matter what. I am actually quite worried if further conflicts with her happen, she may do something dangerous to us, like damage our cars or house in the middle of the night, or set fire to our house. Or worse, if she might even have weapons. I definitely do not want to find out.

there had been news in Thailand that neighbours killed another neighbour due to piling conflicts. ???? 

3 hours ago, Dumbastheycome said:

Often the motivation is for  "Merit" but knowing that dog poo outside your own gate is  not a desirable.

One word: selfish

1 hour ago, Andrew Dwyer said:

No

Garden Lime is crushed limestone 

or

Builders lime is hydrated Lime and in powder form.

Either are safe on gardens.

 

I used this:

 

Take care when using this as it can cause a burning sensation if touching the skin.

 

The theory is the cat crouches to “ do his business “ the powder touches his skin or fur , causes an unpleasant burning sensation and is never seen again !!

Thanks! Sprinkle around the garden where cats poop right? How to prevent powder being blown by wind? Or make into a paste?

13 hours ago, polpott said:

My wife does the same with chicken mixed with rice. She puts it outside her friends house 1/4 mile away. I'm saying nothing.

Why? I mean what is the logic of putting food outside somebody’s house????

14 hours ago, mushroomdave said:

I would just have someone with a dog who has the same time free, to come and sit right where she puts the food.....I am sure your neighbor would allow the person inside his gate and relax in a nice comfortable chair until she shows. If she realizes they won't come around to eat the food, she may stop. 

Also, I would just keep the watering the food down the drain trick once she leaves.  The only way she can solve that is she would have to stick around and make sure the strays come eat the food but if she is that imbalanced, she likely has other things to do lol!!!!

Once she found out we removed the food, she did stick around until the cats finished the food. And yeah she’s that imbalanced. But she couldn’t stick around every time after a few consecutive days. So now it’s a long battle between us and her. See who has more patience? 

16 hours ago, tifino said:

yes especially the pepper... it works well 

 

I had first heard of it a a kid, where mum would sprinkle table pepper over the garden. This stopped the cats (we has 11) from scratching thier poo, and disturbing her plants 

 

Best pepper is white, and the most Finest of thew powder that you can get your hands on 

 

be very liberal all of the old ladys discarded scraps

- but fingers crossed it doesn't rain to soon after... 

 

buy Bulk   (remember 'Not' Cracked or the like peppercorn) 

 

Ok, I’ll get a big bag. That will solve the cat poop problems. What about the crazy cat lady? Can pepper repel her too? ????

16 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Take the cat food and dump it at her house, feed the cats a bit while doing it so they follow you.

I don’t dare to do that given her aggressive nature. ????

17 hours ago, Oldie said:

These people feeding strays create a lot of problems. One of many is that dogs for instance will protect the area where they get their food. If you walk there as a stranger they might threaten you. I never forget when I walked here in Pattaya at the area where now Tree Town is and was suddenly surrounded and stopped by eight aggressive dogs. Luckily Thai people came to my rescue. Otherwise... 

that sounds really frightening... it’s the same problem as people keep puppies because they are so cute. Of course they are! And once the dog grows big and became a problem (often due to lack of training) they just put the dog at the temple. Because people will feed them right? They think they are being kind to the dogs. It breaks my heart hearing this kind of stories. Same with the cats. If the cat lady really loves them, take them to the vets, get vaccination and maybe get the procedure done so the cats cannot have more and more kittens and create more problems.

19 hours ago, kiwiinasia said:

I had this same problem with a dog lady a few years back in Bkk.

She fed them on the road outside my gate. I never spoke to her.

I watched her one day, picked up the food (it was put out on a nice piece of cardboard), followed her home and threw it over her gate, swore at her in english and walked home.

 

She never did it again.

Normally if you approached someone like that they get the message and won’t do it again. Yeah we also had a dog lady who did that some years ago. We just needed to tell her and that’s it.

but this cat lady... wow she’s from a different world or something. A world of no reason and no communication... 

19 hours ago, Oldie said:

I would say this lady has a mental disorder. Perhaps there are relatives that could talk to her. 

She’s 110% mental. And rude. And threatening.

19 hours ago, Mamasun said:

Instead of fighting and wash up the food of this poor cats,, Maybe can you first with an interpreter ask her if you can help ! and then instead of wash up the food can you wash up the <deleted> and others desagrements..will take you 5 mn !!! like this can you maybe slowly make her understand its better to find a safer place to put the cats food !!

Oh I have tried all you said. We were polite to her about feeding elsewhere. We also told her the poop problems. Then she still came back to do the same every night. So we waited until she’s gone, threw away the cat food, and she came back to check and found we threw it so she cursed loudly outside our house like want to pick a fight. I surely do not want to fight her. What if one day she comes round with a weapon? She’s already crazy as it is. And cannot talk reason with her. I must stress that we have never spoken rudely with her. We were always polite. Even when my neighbour had a full confrontation with her which became a verbal assault, they also never spoken rudely with her.

On 10/1/2020 at 5:43 AM, talahtnut said:

Get a big dog.

My house is too small to keep a big dog. ????

16 hours ago, squawkorama said:

No need to hurt the poor cats just because of one inconsiderate person's behavior. Better to find a way to get her to put the food in front of her own house.

Sadly that’s easier said than done. We have told her if she love the cats she should take them back to her house to feed them... and we promptly got a rude reactions from her. Everybody who spoke to her about feeding cats got the same treatment. She wouldn’t take the cats to her house but would come every night, rain or not, to feed the cats. Really mental...

12 hours ago, Andrew Dwyer said:

We had the stray cats khrapping on our flower bed, turns out our next door neighbour was putting food out for the cats in a bowl in our garden. I can only assume it was because she has a dog ????

 

Anyway I didn’t stop to ask and threw the bowl, c/w food, over the opposite fence onto some wasteland.

I think she got the message, it never happened again.

 

We used a bag of Lime from Homepro ( 19 baht for a 500gr bag ) to break the cats toilet habit , works well.

You mean the fresh lime fruit or...? I am interested to know more please. ????????

11 hours ago, JAS21 said:

And Moth Balls ...especially if ground up and spread around ... 

I sprayed lime liquid dishwashing liquid around. But I can’t keep spraying if she keeps coming to keep feeding the cats! ????

10 hours ago, Orton Rd said:

Daiso the Japanese 60 baht shop sells cat repellent tablets, put it around the car port. Cat came in the other night and messed all over my shoes, strays, so much for that idea

Has it worked well for you? I bought it once and didn’t notice any difference. ????

On 10/1/2020 at 6:05 AM, baansgr said:

Move it to outside her house...this is a common problem with these so called animal lovers feeding dogs etc....never do it near their house

I don’t know where her house is... it’s definitely not within 10 houses distance from ours!

Hi all,

I am wondering if you have any experience about what to do with a situation like this.

a few months ago this lady (Thai) came every night to feed some food to stray cats outside my house. And since then there are more and more stray cats coming to eat the food she put out every single night. These cats also do their smelly businesses around my house and my neighbour’s house. 
 

My husband and I had confronted her before to stop putting food out for the cats but she was really nasty and fierce. She scolded us in extremely rude words and still do as she likes. She said that she doesn’t put cat food in front of my gate. But she put the food in front and inside my neighbour’s gate. My neighbour told her off about it and got scolded about a month ago.

last week things were escalating. As she came to put food at neighbour’s gate my neighbour kicked away the food. Then she went into this crazy fierce mode who kept on scolding my neighbour, an old man. She even attempted to hit him, luckily his daughter was blocking her from hitting her dad. This crazy cat lady then called up her friends to come for support. About 4-5 people showed up. One of them joined in the verbal abuse. Fortunately nobody got hurt that night. Neighbour also called police but to nobody’s surprise police never show up. Neighbour’s wife has a video record of the quarrel.

since then when she came round every night to put cat food, she always scolded neighbor in her rude language. My neighbour’s daughter will wash the cat food down the drain as soon as crazy cat lady left.
 

Tonight when she found out that the cat food has been washed down the drain (it’s like she came back to check) she started scolding and kicking neighbour’s gate. Then she also kicked and broke some pots outside the house. My neighbours did not come out as they couldn’t hear. I told neighbour’s not to have another clash with her because they couldn’t fight her and her partner (she always come with somebody in a motorcycle).
 

I feel a bit unsafe in my own house. It’s annoying having to deal with the cat poops and pees, and the noises she made at night when she comes round to put out cat food. The cat lady lives somewhere deep down the soi and she’s not even around our house. We and many people have always told her that if she loves the cats so much why not she bring them home to look after? All we ever received was her scolding.

Is there anything we could do? Advice please?