Pat83

"I have serious money issues and I love you and you just happen to be a foreigner with money".  I hear this all too often.  Just think about how much you can lose right now and she can just as easily as she found you find another foreigner.  Don't be a simp and get the hell out of this.

Just get the Buddha village wedding.  Over half of Thais marry without ever registering their marriage.  Why should you?  Just get yourself a retirement visa or find some other way to stay in the country aside from this.

Please read as many Thai marriage horror stories as you possibly can before you make this commitment.

Remember that if the registered marriage falls apart, if you like to live in Thailand, you may not want to, or even be able to live in the country safely.

9 hours ago, Golden Triangle said:

I wish you well with your health and really hope that you get remission or even cured from what ails you.

 

I wouldn't worry at all about this woman, I just can't see her pursuing you all the way to the US to get her hands on none existent cash or other assets, did she clear you out of everything you had at the beginning of your relationship ? An honest question I think. And where were you married / meet her ? I want to avoid the place like the plague. I was also of the belief that divorces were pretty quick and inexpensive, turn up at the Amphur office, pay 500 Baht and the jobs done, although it might require both parties to attend.

 

Could you also explain this term ?, Praiya Suriya con artist, thanks & good luck for the future mate.

Oh, you are uninitiated then!  You are going to have some fun with this.  Seriously, even as cold hearted as this stuff is, and as brutal as the consequences of this behavior was for me, even I had some laughs:

Here's the facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/praiyasuriya/

This was in my "wife's" likes and her friends page.  On all of her four facebook accounts.  Happy times, friends.  Laughs on me.  ????

12 minutes ago, scorecard said:

OK, but does she have your SS numbe, passport number, or bank book numers, etc?

 

If she does have your passport number I guess it would be easy enough to 'lose' that passport and get a new one, but whether that would totally stop finding you maybe doubtful.

 

I guess changing you SS number not possible?

 

Did you make a will in her favour or does she have any documented details of your assets / income etc., in the US?

 

Do you have a will in the US stating that your NOK is your father, or brother, etc and stating clearly that all of your assets now and into the future go to your father, brother etc? 

 

If you do have a will made in the US is it dated more recently than any document in existence in Thailand? 

 

If there is a will in the US does it say that that will supercedes and make void any other will or similar document made anywhere in the world?

She does have a copy of my passport but not to my knowledge my ss.  I left that card in the USA.  The VA or social security cannot divulge my address without a court order, and that's only if she can make it into the United States to petition for that for divorce case proceeding.  Even then I am not sure the VA or ss would divulge my whereabouts.  Also I can always list my address as with my parents since I do spend about half the year with them and keep a room there with my stuff in there.  Technically I have two addresses and the only person who knows my official address is my parents.  I rented an apartment in a state I never lived in before.  I was in two big hospitals and I got transferred for the third time and had to move again.  I leave next month.  I think that tracking me down would be pretty difficult.  The car I drive isn't even registered in the state my apartment is in.  Since she spends all the money she gets very quickly and her history and "prostitute appearance" I highly doubt that she will ever get a visa to the usa.  I think I'm safe in that regard.  It would just be wonderful to know when she finally moved on to her next saddo.  Thanks for all the support folks

16 minutes ago, scorecard said:

Does your wife know your full contact details in the US?

No not anymore.  She did but I have already moved twice since then.  Cancer tends to move you.

1 hour ago, Puchaiyank said:

Why don't you ask her...?

 

If I am still coherent enough to do so in about two years, I guess I will.  It sounds like it will take her at least 1.5 years in order to file a divorce.  I don't imagine she'll file until she meets her next victim, though.  And I feel bad for that man, I really and truly do.  Because it is impossible for this person to feel any real love or compassion or any feelings at all towards her partners.  They're ATMs only to her.  I think she's going to be searching and searching hard and fast though because that big age 35 is hanging over her head.  She's up against "the wall", in the dating world, if you know what I am talking about.  I guess she could still take some geezer up, but even most of the geezers are looking for girls in their 20s, not girls in their mid-30s... Its going to be an uphill battle from here for her.  And I do not feel sorry for her at all.

Anyway - just a quick side note.  There's no major money or assets to worry about here in this case.  Its my damn burial.  She has all of the legal rights to make decisions about what happens to my BODY right now when I die.   That is what is freaking out my relatives.

1 hour ago, Tagged said:

If you are a person who do not lie, you do not lie. Simple as that, but sometimes to tell the truth will give you trouble, and so would if you lie. 

Actually based on US law we are considered separated, so in that case, I can say that.  Some government agencies though, have only a "married" and "single" option, there is no gray area.  In the cases that I could say that I was "separated" though, I did so, based on the legal definition of "separated" in the state in which I reside.

1 hour ago, bkk6060 said:

If I were her I would not divorce you until I sought legal council.  She will be eligible for half your assets in the US, especially if the marriage is registered.

All of my government benefits go to a prepaid card, not even a bank.  Theres no way at all for her to come to the US to have any Thai court's ruling enforced here in America.  Its another reason why, even if I were healthy, I will not go back to Thailand.  And good luck to her to get the US State Department etc to intervene on her behalf.  I have no assets except for disability benefits.  She would literally have to petition a US court to have my disability benefits divided and paid out to her.  Do you have any idea how much that would cost her, even if she did make it to US soil?  She can stay there in Thailand and rot for all that I really care. 

Also yes the marriage is registered.. Otherwise there'd be no point to my question.  I just want to know if there's some way someone in Thailand can "check" to see if she's successfully divorced me or not.  She will have more victims.  I wasn't her first.

13 minutes ago, Tagged said:

How does your authorities know about your marriage? Did you register your marriage at all? Your documentations provided on embassy, do not register the marriage in US or ? 

 

However, you and her going have status married until you both sign the documents with withnesses at amphur together in Thailand. If not I see no way you are legally divorced. 

A few facts I do know about thai law.

One of those is after 1 year with no contact or money year a woman can file for divorce based on the grounds of abandonment.

Also, because of my health status, they have to ask if I am divorced or married.  So I answered married, because I didn't want to lie to the government.  Its generally a bad idea.  Now theyre saying I can't take her off unless I provide a divorce certificate.

Anyway I am stuck here.  Theres no possible way I can go to Thailand and I married a professionally trained Praiya Suriya con artist.  So even if I could go, I will not go, because I will not be robbed anymore by she or her family.

I'll be dead in 2-3 years and I am housebound.  No way I can go to Thailand.  I have no desire to ever go back there either.

Hello,

I got married almost a year ago in "the land of smiles".  Anyway, it didn't go well, and a WEEK after the marriage, I bailed.  Anyway, due to some major health issues, I am unable to come back to Thailand to check to see if I am divorced or not.  This isn't going to change.  Anyway, I am probably going to die very soon.  So naturally my family here in the USA is very concerned about my Thai marriage.  US authorities here know about the marriage.  How can I find out if she dissolved the marriage based on abandonment without actually going to Thailand?  I asked two law firms already and they said they cannot provide this service. 

Thanks in advance.