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21 minutes ago, Denim said:

Skip the butter. Not needed for dumplings.

Also, when making the dumpling mix add as little milk as possible. The wetter the mix the worse the dumpling.

Finally,the exact amount of baking powder is critical. Too little and your dumplings will be to small and chewy. Too much and they will balloon up andbe too big.

 

Unfortunately,in my experience the exact measures for good results can mean as many as 5 attempts before you get the feel for it. Easy on the baking powder and ditch the butter.

 

 

That's the problem. I only make them once in a blue moon and never get a chance to develop it. So cook for 15 minutes on simmer you think? I got the feeling putting a lid on the pot didn't do them any good

Made some dumplings tonight. Mix looked really good. Recipe said drop them in liquid when simmering then cover pot and cook for 15 minutes at a simmer. Lucky I did them in a sperate pot because half of them seemed to dissolve in a gluggy liquid looked like porridge. I have had the same thing happen repeatedly with different mixes. Basically cup flour, 2 ts baking powder, 1/2 cup milk, 2 tablespoons melted butter. the mix felt the consistency of scone dough. Very pliable.

When I initially dropped them in they puffed up really nicely, looked like they should look, but gradually got worse as I cooked them. I must be doing something wrong.....too long cooking time? Putting the pot lid on? Would appreciate any help. Britman Too I am sure you will know the answer ????

Thanks all for the advice guys, I'm off to delete 100 emails

6 minutes ago, Bangkok Barry said:

My wife is from a small village in Isaan. For the first few years we based ourselves in the UK although we travelled a lot for my job as a journalist that took us around Europe, to the USA and Australia. We then based ourselves in Thailand, as the expenses were high for two to travel and my working hours weren't kind to her and of course she missed her family. That is where I made a sacrifice, I guess.

 

After living with her in Bangkok for 15 years, which is where she had moved to to attend university, and where she later studied to teach English, we moved close - about 1 km - from her village where we have lived for around seven or eight years. She wasn't looking for Disneyland or a free condo, rather someone who was reliable and wasn't a drunken, gambling womanising Thai I suppose. She comes from a decent family who all have good jobs.

 

So I do know about Isaan, the whole different story. Again, why do you keep picking the wrong ones, those looking for Disneyland and a free condo, time after time after time? There are plenty out there who aren't.

I see it as a numbers / waiting game. Waiting to see if they are genuine or not. Most have unrealistic expectations in my experience, information passed on by the wise ones in their village, who have never met or had anything to do with a foreigner. There are still guys getting cleaned out here every day, happy to entrust / squander their lifesavings on a person with a 12yo education. While that is happening I guess the situation will continue. In a lot of cases even if the girl is half decent her friends or family will screw things up for her in different ways. Crab in a bucket syndrome. One crab makes it to the top and is nearly out....the others pull the escapee back in

Just now, RocketDog said:

The OP doesn't really want to change the relationship. He just wants to talk about it. 

He's been around enough to answer his own questions. 

I think he's just lonely. 

Probably venting more than anything. So what does that make you with your even more inane reply to my lonely post lol?   

Just now, Bangkok Barry said:

It seems, then, that you are extraordinarily inept at picking partners, if you constantly choose one and then you feel you need to 'move them on'. I married my Thai wife over 30 years ago, two weeks after meeting her. Sometimes, now and then, I have to count to 50 over something, occasionally to 100, because of the different cultures, but I have never felt the need to 'move her on'. Try it. The world, her world, whoever she is and what work she does, doesn't only revolve around you. If you are constantly feeling the need to change partners then I would suggest that you might like to look in the mirror for the problem.

I think 30 years ago they weren't expecting to go from near poverty to something akin to Disneyland with a free condo thrown in. I assume you have a Bangkok wife "Bangkok Baz"? I am talking about Isaan, a whole different story

6 minutes ago, Leaver said:

 

Your experience is a very common one, but with so much information out that warning you against doing what you did, why did you still do it?  Was it the "my girl is different" syndrome?  

The problem is they are always good, often amazing at first. The cracks usually start to show after a couple of weeks to a month and if you have any experience here you can spot this pretty quickly. The really dangerous ones that play the long game can put on a good front for years, until you see their real colors. I now three or 4 guys here living now in misery. Spent nearly all they had to make the women happy. Probably thought they would get set up and could live on a budget. Unfortunately put all the assets in the wife's name and now dancing to her tune. She knows the golden gooses a$$ is spent and would like nothing better than they Foxtrot Oscar. All unable to return home and live off only their pension or what they have left, nor start again with someone else here. And my girl is different. She's not a psycho or a money grubber but a weirdo

49 minutes ago, Brick Top said:

I identify everything in your post , it feels like there thd ones doing you a favour.

One example is , I had a Thai girlfriend who was working in a massage shop , earning about 100 baht for giving an hour massage. I did everything for this lady , she wasnt young , aged 55 , I built her a house , new motorbike , gave her a salary off 13,000 a month so she didn't need to work. 

When I asked her to give me a massage , it was met with a refusal and told me to go to a massage shop. She prefaired to lay on the sofa and play her smartphone.

In the end I cut my losses and left her to it.

I thought at one time I might be better off with a middle aged lady, but have seen many mates have just as many problems with them. One in particular at the moment he's done the buy the house, cars thing (in her name) and just discovered the numerous daily disappearances are the result of a gambling problem. The other thing that has disappeared are the land deeds. And as everything in her name already the act is over and its "like it or lump it"

6 hours ago, Berkshire said:

I've heard some farangs mention that their Thai female "brings nothing to the table."  Have you ever considered what YOU bring to the table?  I'm not talking about money or other material things.  I'm talking about a decent conversation, wit, charm, and sense of humor....in the Thai language of course.  This is really what moves most Thai women...beyond the financial security.  And this is why some dirt poor Thai guy can have multiple women and never pay for it.

What a lot of rot lol. Do you live in Thailand or ever lived in a village? A dirt poor guy gas multiple women lol.

41 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I'm trying to impress on this young chap that his woman would probably sleep with Quasimodo's granddad for a few dollars. I know the youngsters like to think they get a better deal, 'cos they're slim and handsome, but in reality we're all buying the same product.

If you are referring to me I am more like you describe yourself than the latter lol. It doesn't matter here. I know a few really decent looking young guys here, and good guys too seem to have all the same issues. I have been here long enough to know the difference with what you're describing. I don't doubt her love, it's the chip on the shoulder and urge to win at all costs thing, and it doesn't matter how petty the topic. Like fight / deflect / debate for an hour over something that would take 5 minutes to complete. You haven't seen this in (some / many) Thai women? 

57 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I suspect it's more to do with living with a guy she doesn't like, but I may be wrong.

When you wake up in the morning, is she pressed against you or as far from you as possible without falling off the bed?

Actually sleeps on top of me but I know what you mean. Like they would rather be in another country 6 feet away clinging to the opposite edge of the bed. This one is like bi polar. Affection way over the top, needy then angry and moody. I'm wondering which one is the real person or if there are 2 of them in there

7 minutes ago, ProbPossConf said:

Will she take care, help, assist when you are later in your years, or even if now you might have an accident or medical issue that may render you inept?

Well that's the hope. But I have seen that go pear shaped many times. More concerning is the plan is for her to take care of my son. But you know Thais, it's buy now pay later. Aka no worry, I take care you sure. I knew of a blokes wife here didn't even go to her husbands funeral, been together 20 years. I think she would be ok in as much as I think any Thai would be ok, but there is always the question mark. I would hope so, I have taken care of her twice lengthy periods she was hospitalized and then at home incapacitated. She's not a bad person as such. Not coniving and sly like some. It's mainly the attitude. I honestly think the quick temper, moodiness and wanting to sleep all the time has something to do with their diet. Liter cups of coke, Milk teas, all the rice and sticky rice, snacks....and sugar in nearly everything they eat. they eat enough sugar in a day to kill an elephant. 

10 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Ask  yours if she'd like 10k/month?

It's more than she'd get for 6x 10hr shifts a week in 7-11 or any of the other stores.

Well she does get 10k a week from her little business, for very little effort / hours, while I take care of her son and everything else 

13 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

My rented gf brings her firm young body to the table bed, which to this 65 year old ,fat, saggy, balding grandpa is well worth the 10kbht/month I pay her.

And more power to you if that's your thing. I don't know how many would be happy with 10k though

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

How could you possibly know?

Women lie you know.

No where more true than here but I really don't think so. I am pretty familiar with her history, she's an accountant. But who knows. 

5 minutes ago, Pmbkk said:

 

They probably don't, they may just see you as a stepping stone ????

 

I think your view of Issan women maybe wrong though - my wife has never asked me for a penny...

That is one of her good points, she doesn't actually ask me for money, not unreasonably anyway. But having said that I provide a nice lifestyle for her and she has money when she needs it.  She the attitude that she doesn't want to owe me anything, but does take all I provide for granted. Its not really about that it is about the entitled attitude.  I've spent a considerable amount of time and money setting something up for her future as well, which seems to be of no value to her.

She doesn't seem to value family or future that much either which is all I ever talk about. Which is strange as her mum and dad both dead and she doesn't really have anyone else. I am forever telling her how lucky she is to have 2 wonderful young boys to take care of her in the future and she shrugs that off. She is constantly moaning she not do bad, why she never lucky, in front of the kids. I say you're not lucky to have this lovely family? She doesn't do bad things but she doesn't particularly do anything good either. I know at least 6 old GF I have had here that probably thought many more fish in the sea but still don't have anyone, apart from a few 2 week holiday boyfriends. And still chase me around. its the same as the way they drive. They just don't consider what's ahead, just go hard and of course sorry after.

As far as my view of Isaan women goes I am sure they are not all that bad. And great you are happy but these traits are quite common, anyone thinks different has never met many of them

29 minutes ago, simon43 said:

The best thing that I ever did for my sanity, my bank account and my happiness was to get rid of my Issan wives and buy a sex doll.... ????

I in all honesty would be single here if it wasn't that I want to have some sort of family for my son. It's just too hard.