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On 8/18/2020 at 6:57 PM, bwpage3 said:

Why isn't the one in your bed a witness to what happened with your ex?

 

Did she go to the police and support you?

 

Does she support your claim you did not assault her?

 

Seems to me, you would have a viable witness if you are telling the truth?

 

 

Of course she would support me if I filed a report. But this will mean more drama, more time, potentially more lawyer fees, and in the end I prefer to not waste my time and energy on the whole thing. its just not worth my time and effort. plus, in these cases, something always sticks - so she wins simply by having these allegations circulated... 

the girl I was with is also not particularly excited about the prospect of having to go to courts, police, etc.... its simply an unpleasant situation 

3 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

Yes, it always amazes me how people communicate in these situations via email, or social media leaving a permanent record of their actions, apologies, etc.  Also, if you meet ask to see her phone to make sure she is not recording your conversation.  Lots of tricky people who enjoy setting up traps that in the long run could cost you $.

yes, i do apologize for bringing back a lady so shortly after she moved out, i understand it was disturbing for her to see it, even though she shouldn't have cause she shouldn't have been there in the first place. i made it clear that i reject her version of anything that took place. 

i'm just wondering if i should file a report now, with the danger of it making the whole thing gain traction in some way, or just ignore it, and in case I do get something official, respond with my version of the events, and file a report at this stage if necessary. 

hi everyone, thanks again for the helpful replies. There is a report, she sent a (partial) picture of it to a mutual friend of ours, it clearly states my name and address. so yes I am worried about the embarassment of them showing up here, or worse, at my work, it would simply be as they say here a "massive loss of face" even though she was clearly the one who entered my premises without my consent.

so its clear I won't go to the police station to sign anything, it might be just an ambush of some sort. i'm not sure however, if I should a) report the incident as well (without necessarily pressing charges, I just want her to leave me alone), and b) get a lawyer (it'll just waste a lot of money that would be better spend elsewhere - but I am willing to do it, if it will help the whole thing go away quicker)? I just fear if I react at all at this point, it might just make the case gain more traction, which is not what i want - i just want her to p*ss off, to be fully honest. so its just completely insane she wants me to sign a restraining order, after she was the one breaking and entering just a few days ago.

2 minutes ago, Skallywag said:

If Ex-Gf had no key, how did she "film you in bed"???

Never met a Thai lady that would sleep or be anywhere in a house with curtains open for others to look in.  Sorry, this makes no sense.   

i live in a house, and she climbed across the fence. the door to the house itself is never locked, as I have a yard with two dogs outside.

opening the windows is referring to my ex, who came to the bedroom i was sleeping in with the other woman, opening the windows and filming me with her. 

8 minutes ago, 2 is 1 said:

Lol i have many times wondering , how people who have move to other coundry can be so ignorant!

Ask here this kind ( ok maybe don't happen offen) , some ask where buy washing machine  or repair car. Many visa question! Ask also so many pasic life question what you should know when you live or stay in other coundry than your own!

thanks for the helpful comment, I'm usually not involved in domestic violence disputes, neither here, nor in my home country.... so I'm not exactly sure about the best way how to deal with these matters. i would usually just get a lawyer if it wasn't a touchy subject that I don't want my colleagues and neighbors to talk about, so if I get a lawyer etc invovled, it will just drag on, and in these cases something always "sticks".

Hi guys, 

thanks everyone for the reply. I still have contact with that girl she filmed me with, not sure if she would be particularly inclined to go to the police with me to file a report, but if push comes to shove I'm sure she will confirm my version of the story, as its also the truth. 

I didn't assault her, at least that's not my understanding of an assult. I told her multiple times to leave and stop filming, and as she kept doing it, yes, I did push her out of the bedroom, given the fact that she was filming me and that lady half naked, threatening, if I remember correctly, to send this video around. 

The whole thing is just completely out of control, she might have some old videos of me with some alleged substance abuse, which of course I would dispute are showing anything illegal, but it just adds to the fact that I really don't want things to go any further and potentially lead to a nasty court fight which will also impact my reputation at work etc. 

But so to recap what most posters here suggested: 1) i'll stop all contact and block her on all channels (already done since yesterday), 2) i'll either (a) not do anything for now, and wait until i receive something offical, or (b) go to the police station and lay out my version of the story (without her being present there or signing anything. I just think that 2(b) might have the disadvantage that i will give the whole story more weight - I can always file a report later against her, right? 

Thanks in advance again for your help, really appreciate it, I've never neen in this kind of situation/being accused of hitting a woman....

4 minutes ago, marko kok prong said:

So your area is very local,is there a local shop in your local area ,for local people i wonder? ps; Any condoms in the 'relief package?

sorry a bit rusty doing these forum threads; haven't posted in ages. Just sharing this as I don't think they will do this in condos on Suk 11. 

and no condoms sadly ????