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We have a young child too (now almost 4 years old).. I was in a very dark place around 2 years ago and did threaten wife to leave because I felt helpless and beaten and she apologized time and time again and cried in the morning after every incidents. But nothing changed, we were back in the same pattern after a week or two, I did a lot of reading  and searching to find ways came across many different diagnosis that I thought likely to be her condition, at that point I didn't know for sure what it was, but I know for sure that she is sick and it took so long to slowly convince her that she had been 'sick', (she kept blaming her past and other people as reasons for her condition, outbursts, etc) requires extreme patience, understanding, redefining of the meaning of 'sick' to her. Also distancing herself from some people that she often had friction with definitely helped, especially during recovery period.

And for myself, in my mind I keep telling myself those things and that helped me to overcome my own anger and dissatisfaction which has been the key to her recovery and my own sanity.

It was the last straw, going to the clinic. I thought, to myself that if this doesn't work. I'm leaving and taking my daughter with me because I got enough evidence here (I secretly recorded audio of many many incidents in our household) I was positive I would win the custody battle.

I remember the morning before going to clinic I told her to open her mind, and trust this journey to recovery, because "I love our family" and want our daughter to grow in a loving family. I showed her positive attitude, but inside I was completely torn apart.

Luckily she did open her mind that day, and walked the journey. After that day we still had pitfalls and failings but periodically getting better and better and more stable.

And now, compared to two years ago, she is like a different person, generally more calm and we don't fight often at all. She came to a better understanding of her condition and the causes.

I would say we are a very happy family now. But we are still very cautious and she is still taking her meds regularly. We used to go to Dr Paul at first almost every 2 weeks. Now we go there once every 2 months and soon every 3 months if we get zero incidents and if she generally feels very little disturbance.

I don't know for certain what will work for you and your wife.. I can only share my own experiences. Wish your family the best!

Hi,

I just registered, to reply to you. Because I feel you. I've had similar problem with my wife and.. substance use was involved as well as anger and more. Went to many many psychiatrist in Bangkok.. many psychiatrists just don't really care much, they just want to give medicines and get the sessions over fast.

Until I found this psychiatrist, Dr. Paul Thisayakorn. He is the one that over the course of a year and a half, has saved our family from the brink of destruction.. he speaks very good English, cares, and professional, he's quite young but very smart. We've been to a few other psychiatrists who are much older and they think they know a lot and kind of arrogant in their approach. But we feel different and better approach with Dr Paul. I highly recommend him. The first session we had with him we sat down around 1 to 1 and a half hours (don't really remember exact length). Where he listened to our problems and took notes. The subsequent sessions are more or less 30 minutes long.

Dr. Paul is at Bangkok Hospital, but he also practice at his own clinic called "Body and Mind" clinic at Chamchuri Square.

You can Google the clinic, and ask me further if you need more info. I want to help you.

Best Regards,

Dominic