Notsosmart

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

Good for you, you paid for the "service", I am sure you that you both didn't agreed to have a child at the time of your service, and both of you should have taken precautions, you a condom, her the pill, s-h-i-t happens if you both didn't take precautions, she knows the drill, to get rid of it as cruel as it sounds, i.e. if she is in fact pregnant, e.g. my sister-in-law had an abortion twice, she was a bargirl as was my wife of 13 years.

 

How convenient for you, a couple of weeks later, wow, she got you while you were still warm.

 

That was your biggest mistake, perhaps Covid-19 was a blessing in disquise, STOP sending money, if you haven't !

 

Wow, listen to the little Princes, she reacted badly, sending you on a guilt trip, doesn't want anything thing to do with you because you "not send her money", boo-hoo, "you not good father", but you still have to send money, what a power tripper, SHUT HER DOWN, quicksmart !

 

Run Forest run, wants your passport for the birth certificate....lol, and you have no say, well there it is in the fine print, your future wife from hell, go for it, if you want it and you are a p-u-s-s-y.

 

So you went with her for a couple of times, and before you lost your job she was sweet and "she" wanted to get married, oh I'm sorry, I feel like I am going to vomit. What did you want to do ?

 

While your at it, send her your credit card with the pin number to look after all of the BS costs she has stated for the free hospital delivery or 30,000 baht private hospital cesarean delivery my other sister-in-law had, compliments of her ex farang partner, sucker born every minute, he even built her a house for the baby that he never sees.

 

Let me ask you something, did you ever discuss having a baby with this bar girl that you went with a couple of times, if not, wake up, Mr knight in shining armour before she will pierce your soft spot, ooops, sounds like she has already.

 

Why bother, there is no baby, if there is, she won't get a DNA because it's 99.99% probably not yours, probably her Thai husbands or boyfriends and you have been paying for it until you stopped sending her money.

 

Jesus man, get a life, relocate, or bring this wench to the UK, sorry, the sweet girl who turned when you stopped sending her money because you lost your job, oh, you are going to have a happy life with this one.

 

Ask me what I would do if it were me, number blocked, why, because she can do what she would normally do, but she has worked out how weak you are, because you sent her money, she has thrown the guilt trip on you, like putting bait on a hook, wait for the fish to bite, I have your baby Tiruk, my kid, OMG, and you went weak at the knee's, money, money, money, send, send, send, I love you long time.

 

So you think I am being a little hard on you, maybe for your own good because if this black widow gets you any further into her web as others have done, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

 

There are good bar girls, I met my wife of 13 years in a bar, no sweat, but oi, a woman is a woman is a woman, and if your not man enough to know how to handle a woman, then she will turn on you, enough said, maybe your better off being single until you find miss right, but this little Princes, is not right for you, trust me and the others here on TVF, we don't wear our hearts on our sleeves, because maybe some of us have been where you are coming from, or experienced woman in other ways to know better.....giddy up....moving along !

You don't mince your words but you're right in what you're saying and it's the reality that I needed to hear.  I thought she was different,  but I guess I was kidding myself.  She wasn't actually working at the bar but was well known to all the staff who had a lot of respect for her and she had a lot of contacts.  I never paid her,  nor did she ask for anything at the time and always seemed to have plenty of cash.  More fool me.

Thanks for replying bud.

36 minutes ago, Aussiepeter said:

Mate - get a grip on yourself. You have absolutely no proof at all that this girl is even pregnant at all ! Sorry, but you sound very young and totally inexperienced in the scheming, nasty, liar ways of a greater majority of Thai bar girls.

I knew one bar girl in Chiang Mai in the early 1990's who was engaged to eight different guys at the same time and was being sent money by all of them, plus about half a dozen more, every month ! We locals called her "Miss International" at the time. I was in C Mai last year and ran into her - now nearly fifty, but still running a bar and still 'playing the game' of business as usual. That's just the way they are my friend. In her case, Miss "I" made sure to never date any two blokes from the same country. Of course, she eventually got found out - her geography failed her as it were. (Two nearby Scandinavians who were mates). Firstly, they ALL play emotional blackmail and you fell for it. I know I certainly did thirty years ago - that is how you learn. She is a hooker - it is her job to lie. Do NOT look for love in a bar in Asia, 'cos it sure ain't there, 99% of the time. You owe her nothing. If and when you can get back to Thailand and if she will even see you (chances are high that she is probably not pregnant at all) then you can get a DNA test on the child, if, that is, she has one (a 'new' one that is) at all. You and thousands of others have lost their jobs due to Covid-19. You were 'an easy mark' and a meal ticket - now the money has stopped she is showing her real tigers' teeth. By my calculations you will be about the one millionth bod to have even believed this scam, by the way. Of course, she may just be in the other 1% - but as someone heavily involved in horse racing - "the odds are weighted against you". Move on. You had a bonk or two, nothing else. (Hope I did not waste 30 minutes on a troll) ...

I'm embarrassed to say I am in my early 50's and should know better.  I'm aware of the scams but this seemed to be genuine until the money stopped.  Again probably totally naive on my part.  I really appreciate your response and you've not wasted time writing that. It's helping me see sense.

I admit I've been naive.  She clearly has sources of income from somewhere but also doesn't work.  I've no doubt she is pregnant.  I've been send scans and hospital receipts however these could of course be false documents.

11 minutes ago, DE Land said:

I just read it again and I missed the part that you said there's no proof. Don't send your passport, because there's really no use of that before the child is born. I mean only after a child is born then the parents can register, and the registration must take place within 30 days after the birth, which means.. there's plenty of time to do it after the baby's born.

Thank you.  That's something I was unaware of.

10 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Wordy 'trouble with Thai women' troll back again with a new account.

If this were real why would you even communicate with such a woman.

PS. Health care is free for Thai citizens, having a baby = zero cost to the lady.

Hi,  this is my first ever post and I am not here to troll.  I'm really in need of advice.  I've been told childbirth will cost around 100k baht.  That was from a friend of mine who is English with a Thai wife and has lived in thailand for 6 years now.  

It's due at the end of August.  When she did a test originally at the beginning of the year,  she bought abortion pills on the black market.  These were clearly not safe and we both had a pro life view.  I told her to throw the pills away and not risk her or the baby's life.  I want to do the right thing.  She's cut me off from all decisions and choices about the baby, just wants money.  

I've ended up in a situation here and want to do what is right but I'm struggling with some of the facts.

I went with a thai girl from a bar a couple of time (yes I know),  and after returning home to the UK she told me a few weeks later she was pregnant and it was mine.  I am not 100% certain that it is but in the absence of proof decided I would help and started sending money every month until I lost my job due to Covid.  I explained the situation to her and that I would be back on my feet asap but she has reacted badly and says she wants nothing to do with me and I can't be a good father but have to still send money to take care of the baby.

She has asked for my passport for the child's birth certificate.  She has also told me I have no say over anything and she will choose someone better.

Before losing my job she was sweet,  wanted to get married for the sake of the baby etc.  Her reaction since leads me to believe the baby is possibly not mine.  I'm stuck knowing whether I should send my passport or not.  If it is my baby then 100% I will take care of her.  But if not I don't want someone else's child registered as mine.  Clearly we cannot do a DNA test until after the child is born,  but if this proves to be negative can I get me name removed.

I'm not someone who will do a runner btw,   I have offered to either relocate to thailand or bring them to the UK.  I really don't want someone else to bring up the child if it is mine.