huemakmak

Make sure you know what she REALLY wants before tying the knot. 

Here's my story,

I dont work or live in Thailand, i'm from its neighboring country, I myself is an Asian-Canadian as well,  I"ve adored Thai ladies all of my life. 

Now i'm back in Asian and I thought about searching my life partner, so I ended up on TInder, (I know right, who would have guessed), and hold and behold I met my wife (soon to be ex) on Tinder, we dated only for about a month and half, we discussed and laid out our future plans during the dates, over Line app, over phone, etc.

Everything went smooth sailing and we decided to get married on paper first, then planned for the wedding a year or two later (sin sod was discussed several times). We were never been married before.

But in the meantime I supported her financially, she got her majority of her savings from me, I send her some potion of my salary every month. We've travelled together to Korea and planned to go to Japan but didn't make it for some reason. 

Now, it's been just a little over a year, I've asked for a divorce the other day.

Here's what happened, since we're in a LDR, I have no clue of knowing what she's been up to. Yes, we talked almost every single day to make sure we are properly communicated and share our daily activities.

Not long after we've married, out of the blue I've got that gut feeling that I have to check her out of Tinder, so I created a fake profile and dropped the location pin on her exact position. Low and behold, there she is, proudly displaying her bikini picture I took of her at a beach. 

I subtly confronted her about this, and the reason I was given was this " she wanted to check on her ex", that's it.  Ok, I sort of ambivalently brushed of my doubts and  told her to delete her profile, and Ive tried to forget about this for a few months. I was hoping she would change for the better as I've been a good supporting husband physically, emotionally, and financially. 

And every now and then I kept doing the same thing and she kept popping up on Tinder under different name and pictures. It has been more than 4 times now I've caught her on Tinder. Later on, every time I give her serious warnings and hints she will break out into tears and blame me for not trusting her. <deleted>, she expects me to trust her after I caught her trying to score a quickie with a strangers on the interweb. Not long after , she started to lie about her work schedule and our communication was deteriorated dramatically. She started to lose interest in my life and it became a mundane relationship. 

Now, a year and a few months later I just gave her an ultimatum on the Whatsapp, no more support from me in any shape or form. Im going to be divorcing her when I can travel to Thailand again. That's it, i've invested my life, time and money in that woman and all i get in return is a new title ' divorce' which I never had before. 

Life lesson learned.

I'm 37 and she's 30. 

So please take my life for a lesson, make sure what you guys want for the end goal. Take time before getting married.

DO NOT become her financial obligation.