Sorry , but I wonder before marrying , how long have you been dating with her .
In your situation . I think it is difficult to adapt for difference culture .
In your case . Why do you ask for advice from your both parents . But I think you have dicieded your choice already . In many asaian culture if parent dicided to divorce . Many poor children were sent to grandparent or lived with mother . You can sent money for your child . However if you want to foster your child . You can send your child to nursery or kindergarden and pick them in evening .