djb687

@still kicking Does your Thai wife consult with you before going or just say "i'm going next week" and goes? I think you are right when you say "Let her go if she does not come back it just means she does not love you." thats a good test of relationship I suppose.

I would have expected us (as a married couple) to talk about going to Thailand, not for her to just decide she's going... or what is the general experience of other couples?

This is a genuine situation I am facing right now with my wife. Can you explain why I am the child? I have honestly been wondering if I have been overthinking her behaviour here, hence the post here.

She has a job so she's paying for the ticket herself (she said this) and she claims she's buying a return... even if she proves she got a return, what does that say anyway?

She does have some friends in the UK but she never goes to meet them as they're a 4-5 hours away, I suppose I could help her to see them. We only have 8 years age difference between us. We always agreed in the future we would move to Thailand but its too far away for her I guess.

I know she misses food, despite cooking Thai food every single day she says its not the same as in Thailand.

We were together for a year and then married for a year.

She's lived here for about a year now. No children together and there is intimacy but not very much like once a week.

So what do you suggest I do about this? Clearly talking to her doesn't appear to work.

Me and my Thai wife has been together for 2 years living in the UK, we recently moved to a bigger house and now she appears to spend a lot of time in the bedroom on her own while I am downstairs, almost like she’s avoiding me, this has been going on for months now. She also does the same when my two older children come to stay at the weekend and they think it’s weird she doesn’t interact with them at all. She has also recently told me she’s going to Thailand to party with her family for two weeks, just dropped it on me, no discussion whatsoever - didn’t even ask me if I wanted to come. When I talk to her about these things all I get is the standard “it’s up to me”, “my life” responses. Are these normal behaviours within a Thai/Western marriage? It certainly isn’t something I would say was normal in a Western marriage.