BatteringRam

Obvious to whom, boy? Just in your fantasy. You think going to the gym made you a man? I did that and competed at a high level in more than one sport. But as you grow, you learn new things. You sound as if you have been doing the same things for fifty years, Now stuck in your ways. You paid. Every single time. Dress it up anyway you like. Where are they now? They took your money and ran.

So you are still 'sharing' but not really sharing. Afraid to come out of your shell?

That was a useful post to no one but yourself. Several nicknames? Is Hummin your real name? What difference does a nickname make, if the same person is behind it? You are winding yourself up over minutiae. Creating a fuss for the sake of trying to score a point to salve your bruised ego. Spend your time with your mum, not here. I have no time for you. You might have had my respect, but you lost that a long time ago. So I won't waste my time in further discussion until you have some useful purpose other than to display your anger. Be gone.

I've not ever seen you use the word 'spineless' before. That tells me that it likely came from @Hummin via PM. That is spineless. Calling people names behind their back. I tell you to your face. I said exactly what I meant. If you think you are more manly, then I don't know what to tell you. You spend your time in the gym to build a shell around you because you are weak. You pay to keep a woman because none will stay with you if you don't and then convince yourself that is what men do. I don't not include family in this. You are no more men than I am. Just big ego but really weak people inside.

Some people don't really want to look too deep inside themselves. It will be their downfall.

You are doing that right now. But just unpleasantly. So you seem to be an unpleasant person.

Your mind appears infantile. It's like arguing with a girl. Tit for tat. At your age you should already understand that that my faults are a completely separate matter. With your mindset, how can anything get solved? You deal with one thing and then you can deal with the other thing. You are too caught up in wanting to be the Alpha and so don't want to accept any criticism. I don't care about that. If you think you see something that may be hindering my progress and want to discuss it, I would not be so childish as to try to turn it back on you. But that is your modus operandi. It's predictable and so I expected you. That's why I don't waste time trying to converse with you. Childish and boring.

Forget about the taunts. I already told you that why they happen. You get abusive when people tell you what they see. So let's move on from that. Do you ever assume things about people? Yes or no will do.

You insist that you do not ever assume. Am I lying? Please answer the question honestly. But you do assume quite a lot, don't you? Please answer the question honestly.

Tell us about it. Why not contribute instead of being a sourpuss?

Just out of interest, what have you achieved today?

Having control over yourself has it's benefits. You can direct energy to where it is needed.

You are just posting a lot of nonsense. You don't know what you are talking about. Go and take care of your mum. I already explained what was happening. If your mind cannot accept it, you'll just have to live with it. You are just an angry man.

This is your perception. If you assume that your perception is everyone's reality that would be erroneous. I dedicated my time towards a particular goal. During the dialogue, I made lunch, had a siesta, communicated with my friends via LINE and WhatsApp and now soon to go out for the evening. What else should I be doing on a Sunday? Your perception is your perception. My perception of 'fred' is based on patterns of behaviour, rather than a projection of my own emotions. Someone who never admits that they are wrong and imagines that they win every argument is delusional. It's not a one-off. That will have a serious effect on relationships. I don't need to be this challenging in my normal life. The whole point was to challenge his behaviour. I don't feel my Sunday was wasted. I did everything as normal.

I expected you to pop up at this point. I saw you lurking earlier. This is your MO. I told you about it before. Predictable. It's not blame. We are helping each other, but you have also have problems inside your head, so you interpret it differently. Where have you ever seen me state that I am not ever wrong and do not ever assume? There is no mirror effect, but just your tendency to react in a certain way. I've observed the pattern and will continue to do so. Psychology in action.

Pity yourself. There was a point to all the madness. It just went over your head.

In all honesty, I have no negative feeling about your situation. Life is life and we have to deal with what comes. My issue with you is your ridiculous not ever admitting that you are wrong or even could be wrong. It's a very poor character trait. To outsiders here, your behaviour borders on the narcissistic. Harsh words to your ears I'm sure, but we aren't lying and it's not just three people. The fact that you clearly assume A LOT of the time but deny you ever do, makes you seem delusional. Again. this is not name calling, but a reaction to this kind of behaviour. If anyone other than you did it, the perception would be the same. If you stopped that, people would stop accusing you of that. There's no personal enmity, just incredulity that you actually believe what you are asserting. Stop it and I be rooting for you all the way.

That you can count is equally impressive. Bored? 😊

But assuming is exactly what you do. Can you admit that you do so? You cannot. Simple truths evade you. That's what makes you obnoxious and makes people press you to admit your faults. But you are so delusional, you tell yourself and anyone who will listen, than you aren't ever wrong and don't assume. Can you not see that? Really?

Thank for for your thoughts. Your family think you are overbearing, don't they? 😊 I haven't been married three times and am still in contact and friendly with many of my exes. That means able to maintain a good relationship. Even with people who you might have deemed as narcissistic. I worked with them and found middle ground, but that doesn't mean they would be the person with whom I would choose to live together. Doesn't sound like a description of a disturbed individual. does it? But married three times and now stuck in the middle of nowhere, seemingly almost entirely delusional, seems a fair description of someone who might be a little disturbed by their life experiences. What I hoped that you might have learned is to discuss calmly or at least in good humour without getting nasty, as if you do, others will respond in kind. You will get wound up. You should have learned that by now. Show that you are the adult in the room. You are the oldest person, yet you act like a child.

Do you think the words uttered are likely to come from a highly educated individual? I know when I'm challenging. I'm not in the dark about it. But you...

Making more money than I've ever made... you are funny, in a childish and sad kind of way. That's another assumption, isn't it? Since you claim to be an expert on Psychology, you do understand Projection, don't you? All the things of which you accuse others, are actually just you.

So what have you learned from all this @fredwiggy?

He's just another lower class individual. That is how they express themselves.

That's a weird imagination you have there. You should talk to someone about that. Doesn't seem...normal.