Pollie

Yes, do tell- where can I get one? It sounds like a great option when a trip to the Humiliation Chamber (waxing studio) is too much to muster.

Does it work one hair at a time (in which case you may as well use tweezers), or larger areas?

I'd give my right arm to be ambidextrous.

I just sold some stock in Europe and have a banker's draft in US dollars that is enough to pay my rent and expenses in Thailand for about nine months. My question is, how to do so. Should I deposit the entire draft into my Thai baht account? (if it takes 90 days to clear, do they calculate the exchange rate today, or 90 days from now?) Or should I put it into my dollar account in the US, and bring in a month's baht at a time? I guess the question really is, which direction is the baht headed over the next year? Any good advice out there?

I won't let myself imagine it will be anything more than it was. I think you are all right about the hunt, and maybe now that I was "caught" he won't be back.

Time will tell.

To anyone who cares to hear the outcome of their good advice: New Lover came to town, and left already. We had a wonderful dinner at a roof-top restaurant (so romantic), then back to his room. I left when he fell asleep, came back the next day at noon, he wondering whether or not I would. I have no idea if that enhanced things by adding that bit of "coy", but I do know that we then spent the next 26 hours in bed. Came out for a meal once. It was all together mind-blowing and therapeutic. I have a bit of a spring in my step this week, and I guess that is really what it is all about, right?

Thanks again to all who weighed in.

On the subject of Brazilians....

Robert Gate is giving the president his daily briefing. He concludes by saying: "Yesterday, 3 Brazilian soldiers were killed."

"OH NO!" the President exclaims. "That's terrible!"

His staff sits stunned at this display of emotion, nervously watching as the President sits, head in hands.

Finally, the President looks up and asks, "How many is a brazillion?"

I believe the original question was a practical one, about the details of having your nether regions waxed: where, how, etc. This thread has been knotted around a bit.

I have only recently gone "beyond bikini" and couldn't be happier. Not just that it makes my lover happier (though guys really do seem quite fascinated by it), but the enhancement in sensitivity really makes it worth it to me too.

I have had both the Hollywood (everything off), and the Brazilian (a small triangle left in front). I find it doesn't really matter, sensitivity-wise, because for that the important thing is further back: you want the labia smooth. If that makes you squirm, you are right to do so. It hurts. It HURTS. It is excruciating, especially the first time. After that the hair grows back softer and it hurts less.

Not only is there the pain factor, but it is likely the most intimate experience you may ever have with another person, man or woman. Her face is inches from your most private place, her finger are everywhere, pulling and prodding, stretching and smoothing. The indignity is indescribable. You do best to take a magazine: partly to distract yourself, partly to cover your bright red face, and partly to block hers from your view.

I have had two different types: one using cloths and one using a thicker wax that is peeled off without cloths. I found the cloth method left fewer red bumps. Still, with both methods, you leave looking like plucked poultry. In fact, the first time you see yourself in the mirror you long for the fringe curtain that so demurely hid the details all those years. But I promise you, the first time you have sex (esp oral, if I can say that on this forum), it is so, so worth it.

It itches like crazy when it starts to grow back. I loofah (or use a net-scrubbie thing) every day in the shower and tweeze hairs that ingrow. This is worst the first time, gets better each time after.

I take 1000 mg of Tylenol an hour before I go in. They have a nice shower when you first arrive, which helps you to relax. If I feel splurgy I do a body scrub first (I find it helps with the modesty factor. Once she's scrubbed your entire body you don't mind so much her touching your bits). After, I always tip well: it lessons my guilt over what I just subjected the poor woman to.

I go to Zense of Joy on Suk Soi 23 (below the California fitness place). 02 261 4500. Cost 1000 baht.

Hope this helps.

The best color I have had in BKK is from a woman named Narisa who used to be at First Avenue on Sukhumvit Soi 1 and recently moved to the Capital Club between Soi 4 and 6. She speaks excellent English and seems to really understand farang hair (even my extremely curly, rapidly greying, very dry hair).

Her number is 089 167 4277

Thanks to all for a nice mixed bag of responses.... I think I will take all the advice and mix it up together. It isn't in me to play games and pretend to be something I am not (including "busy") but I do think there is something to be said for keeping some of the mystery, ie, there is no reason for him to hear me snore yet, or smell my morning breath! I think leaving in the wee hours is a good plan, if indeed things end up where they left off last time.

Now for more practical details.... anyone have any recommendations for hotels, restaurants, maybe a couple's spa?

RIght, I see where you are going with the questions. Here are some more details: Me: recently divorced, newly in the dating scene, trying to figure out the rules. I live in BKK with my kids, so no intiinterest in bringing him home. He: never married, bit of a "player", works internationally, travels through BKK every 2-3 months for a few days. I know he has other lovers. We: both British. Both like sports, bit of night life. We met through a mutual friend, spent many hours together talking and siteseeing, and one very passionate night together. This was 4 months, and probably half a dozen steamy emails ago. I don't expect to be the one to "settle him down", nor do I want to settle down now either. I would love to see this carry on, though, for several occasional visits a year. So.... with that in mind, I don't want to overwhelm him or scare him off, but I also don't want to waste the little time we have together by playing games and pretending to be tied up with other things when I am not (I have arranged for my kids to be with their father for those days).

BTW: I would love to hear a guy's opinion on this topic. Do you agree with Bina and the mystery, or can we get away with more honesty?

I have a new-ish, long-distance lover coming to town for 3 days. Any suggestions on where to stay, what to do... I want to keep him interested but not come over as way over the top for these early days. Any advice welcome (from hotels, spas, restaurants to how to manage the emotional side: ie, do I stay all night, or leave just after? Meet for lunch the next day, or wait til dinner?).... I want to be sure he wants to come back for another visit.