Same same here, did live actually in the city but found it crowded, lacked public spaces in the city to sit and enjoy, heavy traffic on substandard streets, most neighborhood rife with chichens, rooster, crowing all hours,. Northern thai people generally not friendly , sort of stuck up I found. Little english spoken outside of the farang bar area and even there it is not very fluently spoken. The thai food not all that great, some good northern thai dishes and a few good western aiming restaurants, but covid has closed many. Moved to the country 25 km from city center. Not much of an improvement in most areas as little if any english spoken as Issan and Lao prominate here.
I look back on it all with quite a bit of regret now, only stay for my 13yr old daughter and she wants to go to America to live, she thinks!!!