Johnny69

I hope Jet isn't advocating partner abuse here, as well all know that men are far more abused than women and tend to suffer from violent death at the hands of their wife in far more cases than women ever do

I sincerely doubt anyone here is advocating partner abuse, but in case some posters have failed to read the forum rules:

The messages express the views of the author of the message, not necessarily the views of thaivisa.com or any entity associated with thaivisa.com.

Good point. And yes infact children are far more likely to die in the custody of their mother than their father, but violence is violence, even nagging (mostly by women) is domestic violence.

don't worry, chances are he will feel really stupid down the road when he realized he gave up his family for a hooker and his bad karma hits. forget about him. take care of your baby and make a good life. success is the best revenge. good luck!

He may regret the lost time and experiences with his child (you will never love your spouse as much as you do your own flesh and blood), but a wife or companion can easily be replaced. I guess it a matter of being true to himself, if its what he really wants then I guess he has to travel that road. Whether it turns out good or bad it is his bed and he will have to lie in it.

Not hijacking anything just raised a few points, as for my ref: to Aust, thats because its where I am. I don't think women are in any position to dictate what a decent or real man would do, as they have no practical experience to base it on, more so it just a ruse used to gain compliance from men.

But thats another story, peace out.

ame='sbk' date='2007-07-13 20:10:30' post='1416424']

We've had this discussion about a men's forum already and you will not hijack the thread with your agenda here.

And how many times has someone said, "I'm going to kill him (her, whatever)" and you believed they meant it? If so, then you need to get a reality check on language.

Not sure why you are so fixated on Australia as neither poster with marital issues has ever stated she is residing in Australia. If they were, then perhaps your dogged persistence of bringing Australian law up would have some relevance, but for now, it doesn't.

I am not sure what your issues are here but may I suggest that if you have some relevant HELPFUL advice to offer then do so.

I don't find domestic violence against men or women funny at all. The support aspect is based on what a spouse has to legally pay, if your wife kicked you out I doubt many would pay more (directly to her anyway), the aditional needs of the child can be covered if the man so choses, but here in Australia he owes no support to his spouse at all. He is assessed for the childrens needs only (if they are indeed his at all). Every country is different.

I take it then that if this is a women forum that you would not be concerned if men had man only exclusive clubs? Just a thought.

Infidelity is not a crime, domeatic violence is. How many on here would find domestic violence towards women in a joke funny?

How about what do you tell a women with two black eyes?

Nothing you told her twice already.

Funny?

Johnny69, I think you need to develop your sense of humor. This is the women's forum and if you don't like the jokes that women tell to give each other comfort and support, then don't read them. But to take them seriously makes me wonder.

As for the idea that he only owes child support, again each person is entitled to their opinion but I am of the opinion that when a man cheats on his newly pregnant wife he should have some consideration for the woman who has sacrificed and the child he has procreated. Ensuring that his child by his legal wife has a decent home is the only thing a decent man could want for his family. But then, I guess, decent men don't think cheating on your pregnant wife is acceptable.

Also I dont think just turfing out the man from his house is right either, it is both their residence. He has a right to be their too. But I noted the first thing someone asked if the girl moved out was who is going to pay all your bills. So the man appears to be nothing more than a walking ATM to some on here.

Here in Australia it would be much better to leave for the man, he would then only have to pay his child support, which would not cover much beyond her rent. So I think she may need to be a bit more diplomatic if she wants more support than that.

Johnny69

There are definitely some disturbing comments and advice on this thread.

Killing the husband or cutting off his penis is domestic violence. If it was a women the suggested target of such reprisals then am sure they would be up in arms. Also a women (wife or otherwise) cannot control where her husband goes nor who he see's, this controlling of freedom is also covered under domestic violence. I am sure a women would not appreciate being controlled in such a way.

In the end all we can control is our own actions, not the actions of others, even our spouses. You cannot force someone to love you and be faithful. Infidelity is not a crime in Australia atleast. So all she can do is confront her husband and attempt to work it out, or divorce. Revenge will only eat away at you, the best revenge is living well.

Johnny69