Chestnut

This is funny. I live in NKP. This is not the worst storm in 20 years. Where we are there has been very little wind or rain. Nakae district is dry. I think the goverment officials are just lining their pockets again.

I guess you were lucky then. We have a house near the Nakhon Phanom City and on one side of the house almost all windows broke (the house has lots of windows). A roof from another house landed behind the house of my father in law. From what I hear (we werent there) quite a few houses in the village were affected. Big tree nearby just fell down so the wind must have been pretty strong.

There are far more Thai ladies in Thailand than there are farang ladies, so it's no surprise that most farang guys here for any length of time will end up with a Thai partner rather than a farang partner. Sure there are personal preferences and all the other things, but simple numbers means a farang guy who stays here will more than likely end up with a Thai lady.

I didn't set out to choose a Thai wife: simply that for every nice farang lady, there's a thousand nice Thai ladies - farang ladies need to appreciate this.

What the author and many other farang ladies should realise is that for every farang guy there are also a thousand Thai guys. When they complain that they can't find a "good man" - the real question is therefore nothing to do with farang men at all. It's why they can't find a decent Thai guy as 99.9% of guys here are Thai?

Some women do find a Thai guy and live happily ever after. As the author and many other farang women lament though, a great many don't.

Unfortunately though, instead of looking at the dynamics between themselves and Thai guys, many farang ladies start having a go at farang guys and their relationships with Thai women and the fact that many farang men are "more interested" in Thai women (which they overlook again the simple numbers), or pointing out flaws in other people's relationships. Why have a go at farang guys in Thailand for being happy, finding a partner and getting on with their own lives?

If you're unhappy with your relationship situation the best person to change it is yourself.

Cheers

Fletch

While I can agree with the overall sentiment of your comment, the fact is that Thailand has more women than men in the 25 - 54 age group. (https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/fields/2018.html). Compare that to the US which has a 1:1 ratio or the UK which has 1.03 men for every woman.

Now factor in the seemingly large transgender and gay population of males and it whittles down the chances of a Thai woman meeting a Thai guy down even further.

When you factor in things like job prospects, high mortality rate due to dangerous jobs, as well as alcoholism, and other negative factors the number of eligible men available for each Thai woman runs even lower.

This is one of (though certainly not the only) reasons why Thai women take a more aggressive attitude towards finding a man. They can't just sit back and wait for a guy to come find them. The numbers aren't in their favor.

But if you come from a western upbringing which has the numbers working in her favor that is going to put the western woman at a clear disadvantage when placed in an environment where the same dating/courting strategies don't work.

But like you said at the end:

If you're unhappy with your relationship situation the best person to change it is yourself.

Being something of a statistics man myself I hear your points, and they may have a minor influence, but I think the actual impact of such factors is small. Also bear in mind that there are factors which swing it the other way, eg guys who have several "mia"s so even the stats can move a bit the other way. Mia nois can often remain remarkably faithful to a guy how already has a major wife - not to say some don't have another guy too, but many don't and the "husband" would often kick them into touch if they were found out.

In addition to stats, I'm also somewhat of a visual character too. So when I saw the picture associated with the article, there was also a fair bit to read into that. Miserable western woman with a slob of a western guy in his underwear and socks. A pretty common stereotype from western women (obviously not all) of western men in Thailand if you ask me.

Given there are a thousand Thai guys for every western guy, one has to wonder why the picture picks a stereotype minority to highlight the author's inability to find a good man. Shouldn't that really have been you're average Thai guy on the bottom bunk instead.

Thanks Fletch, it is exactly what I am thinking everytime this discussion comes up. It is so logical, that you will have a hard time finding a non-asian guy in an asian country (Duh!).

Btw, the statistics male/female ration seems pretty balanced and not as far off as one might expect. For every gay guy/ladyboy there is also a tomboy/tom dee girl.

Beautiful thread topic (I love reading successful stories like this!) which took a very sad and eventually utterly shocking turn.

Carry, I’d like to express my condolences to you and your daughter for your loss. I am still in disbelief of what that Thai “family” of yours was *trying* to do (I’m happy they didn’t succeed taking over the place, but they still destroyed a lot…). I guess I’d understand if their life and well-being depended on it, but since it doesn’t I just can’t understand it. It sounds like the plot of one of those Thai soap operas…

It actually really scares me that anyone who you’ve known for years could act so immoral. I wonder if “my” Thai Family (my boyfriend and I aren’t married, but are planning to sometime in the future) could act that way.

However I think you sound like a very strong person. I wouldn’t have been able to cope as well in your situation and I am very glad you stood in and fought for what is rightfully yours and your daughter’s! I wonder how the relationship between you and them is now… I hope they keep the hell away from your place.

Best of luck!

Nut

I think times are slowly changing. Although I hear a lot of the old Gig-Stories and women - kind of - seem to accept it, many young women do not. They might put up with it for a while, but for most women I know the relationship failed sooner or later.

I don't know many Men who have Mia Nois... that might be because most of friends or aquaintances of me or my boyfriend aren't married yet. The only man with a Mia Noi (he got her pregnant) already split up with his wife, because of that. When his wife she accepted it at first, but finally broke things off. Her parents even moved to a different village (or so I heard) because they were embarrassed of the whole situation.

I know there is a lot of cheating going on in Thailand and of course I dislike it, but I would say my western male friends are just as bad... none of them having a Mia Noi, but many of them going to get an occasional massage or having a gig here and there.

To be on the bright side, I also know a few good (thai) guys, that don't cheat at all.

But yes, there are many situations in which women are not treated equally to men and Thailand, also, has brought up a feminism in me that I never thought I have!

Oh my god, I can't believe how this story effects me emotionally. I really hope the relatives and Canadian Authorities do EVERYTHING to find the real cause. It makes me angry how the Thai police "concludes" that there were pills in the room and it's the victims own fault etc.

I feel really sorry for them and their parents and my condolences to all the relatives and friends of these two girls.

One of the most useful threads. Was looking for information like this for hours. If you have pictures, please add them! First hand pictures are so much better than most news pics.

Ramkhamhaeng University area is dry.

Hi Tim,

Thanks for the answer. I went to a few of those branches and they all said I should go to an Eyehospital.

I did go to a big Top Charoen Eyehospital but all they did is measure the eyesight and my BC. I think I need more

than one measurement to get good fitting contact lenses (and I have no idea what that BC is good for anyways).

I don't have any kind of prescription, so that's what I need.

Pity u live in Nakhon Sawan, so I can't go to your optician.

Any concrete place in Bangkok anyone?

Nut

Hello Everyone,

I hope someone knows, as I really have no idea!

I want to measure my eyes to find fitting contact lenses (that won't harm my eyes on the long run).

But... where to go?

A few years ago I had a proper fitting back in Germany and they took a lot of time to measure my eyes, test the lenses and then

measure again how good they fit on my eye. I left with the feeling having a good fitting lens and nothing to worry about.

I guess it would be the same procedure in America.

I tried to find such in Thailand but haven't been successful. Most opticians (like Top Charoen) didn't know what I am talking

about. Most people don't seem to worry about those things, but i do.

Anyone ever been to a proper fitting here? (similar to the fittings they have in Europe and America preferably, where you get all the data

you need for the contacts)

Where can I find it and how much is it (approx.)?

I highly appreciate any answer. :jap:

Nut

Thanks for your advice girls. Actually my brother lives here so they know each other and he met my Mum when she visited. I'm not close to anyone else. Many friends have also been. He does seem interested as he asks about it alot but something about actually going there seems to scare him. I've considered paying for his flight because I'm sure he won't allow it go to waste knowing I've spent that much!

It would bother me too, if my bf didn't want to see where I came from. I would want to know the reason.

Didn't you ask him what he is scared of or why he doesn't want to go? Maybe the flight?

Maybe he doesn't want to spend so much money on a trip? Maybe he can't take off work?

Maybe he doesn't like western food?

Actually, my Bf also wasn't too excited of going to see Germany either, but I dragged him along nontheless.

In general he liked it but he wouldn't go with me again anytime soon, mainly because of the travel costs.

Maybe you could convince him if you told him how important it was for you

After all, if money isn't an issue, it's just a few weeks.

I think there are plenty of things you can do in Bangkok besides drinking - but to be honest I can't think of much.

Having Lunch/Dinner, Picnic, Bowling, doing Sports are the only things I can think of.

Friends of mine went wake boarding and go kart racing - I've never tried it though, but it sounds like fun.

Maybe anyone has better ideas?

Personally I don't like partying and most young girls or guys in Bangkok seem to be only about that.

I guess it's all about finding friends with similar interests which can be hard at times.

I found my friends at Uni, so I can't give you any good tips on how to meet people. I totally agree with you that it's

a little hard to find foreign friends with similar interests.

Chestnut

On an extension of stay the rule is that when the reason for the extension is no longer there, your permission to stay exipres the same day. So the day you finish oyur study would be the day you have to cancel your permission to stay.

You can go to Vientianne and apply for a double entry tourist visa, that means two entries of 60 days each. Both entries can be extended by 30 days.

Fistly, thank you for your reply.

So my permission expires the same day and I would have to leave the country the same day? Or do I have a 7-day-time-frame like for work-permits?

Isn't there also a 1-year-tourist-Visa where I can leave the country each 3 months?

If not, each extension would be 1,900 Baht at immigration office, I assume?

Sorry, for asking so much, but I've never done border-runs or lived here on a tourist Visa and I don't know anyone who currently does.

Chestnut.

Hi There!

I hope someone can help me here, as I can not find any information about it in the Internet (how does the immigration expect us to know this?).

Anyways, I've been a student in Bangkok for 3 years now and I'll be graduating next semester. I'm German, 22 yrs.

What are the rules for my ED-Visa after graduation?

I will graduate in March 2010, but I have to renew my Visa in January 2010, therefore giving me another year, until Jan. 2011 (officially).

My friend just has/had problems with renewing his Visa, as he finished his bachelor last March and now studies master at another University a few months later - but didn't inform

the immigration about his graduation.

So what are the rules? Do I have to inform the Immigration at the day of my graduation or last class or something?

Are they gonna cancel my visa immediately?

If anyone knows any information about this online, I'd be really thankful for the link.

Another question at the side - can someone link me to a how-to-border-runs or living here on a tourist visa.

After Graduating (expecting my Visa will be cancelled on graduation) I still need some time to stay in Thailand to find work (or marry )

so I just hope living here on a tourist-visa going out of the country every 3 months is still possible? If yes, what visa do I need, where can I apply for it and how much

would that be? (links are appreciated but as i've never done a border run I really need detailed information for "beginners")

Thanks!

Chestnut

How about you'd join a volunteer program for 6 month or 1 year first. I think they have those in the north.

I once did a 2-week-volunteer-program teaching english. It was fun, since we were in an international group of people.

Though It was only for two weeks but there I met a girl from Norway who just came to Thailand for the first time for a

1 year volunteer program. If I remember right, she was going to teach in different provinces.

So that could be an alternative.

You could also go for a degree here. Friends of mine study B.A. English here at an International Program (Bangkok), just so they

can get a Bachelors degree and teach. Though you'd need the means to finance it somehow - on a study Visa you're not legally

allowed to work.

If people also have to request a new visa because ppl need to change their dates because of the Volcano Erruption... at least someone makes a bit of money of this desaster. Im supposed to fly in 9 days to germany. Finally got Visa for BF and everthing else ready. Great...

In the time i lived here, i've been called "uan", "uab" and "dua yai" a lot times, and I am neither tall, nor fat. I'd be an M size in Europe, I'm XL here. In the beginning I was really offended, but now I see it a little more relaxed (okay, I'm still a little self conscious when I hear a comment about my body)

Thais really don't mean it in a mean way (most times, though I came across situations where I thought it was really mean, like friends making fun of other fat/short etc. friends), although my thai friend didn't dare to go out during songkran, cause she put on some extra kilos and everyone of her old friends would exclaim how fat she was when seeing her.

In the beginning I wanted to tell any girl that told me I'm fat that she has small boobs or something alike. I never did. Maybe I'm going to use "mai suay lor?" next time.

Last thing my BF's friend said about me, let me really go like "what was he thinking?"

His wife recently had a baby and he made a comment that I probably would give birth easily, because I was "dua yai".

As it was said before - sometimes they just say what they're thinking and it is much less a taboo as it is in Europe/America.

Question: Could i also apply in Nakhon Phanom Provice for the Drivers License although I live in Bangkok?

Family of my BF lives there, and they have a car. In BKK we don't have a car, but we plan on getting one, so

it would be nice to have a Drivers License before we actually get one.

I never had a drivers License but I learned how to drive a Pick Up recently at BF's Hometown, would be nice to

have a license though and make everything nice and legal.

The Residency Certificate is something I've never heard of. Is it easy to get at Immigration in BKK?

Thanks in advance,

Nut

Yes, i heard that, but thank you. i always have some ugly pics with me

Thank you for the quick answer, that's all i needed to know

Just wanted to be sure.

Nut

Hey There!

Didnt really want to open a new topic for my question, but i really couldnt find the answer. Sorry

I got my (single) re entry permit a few weeks ago, as i am planning to go home to germany at the end of the month.

However, my plans changed a bit and now i also plan to leave to laos and vietnam over songkran.

When i applied for my re entry, i specified the dates for the end of the month and germany, of course, and not laos.

So, Can i just use the re-entry permit i already have for my laos trip and apply for another re entry permit for my trip to germany (again)

when I'm back in Bangkok?

I dont really think it matters, but I just want to make sure.

A short answer would be nice.

thanks,

Nut

oh great, thanks for the tip! i'll definatly see what they have.

sorry, i forgot to mention that i live in bangkok.

Hello Everyone!

I have an "hair" issue and maybe someone here in the ladys forum knows some advice.

For an extra main job in some advertisement or whatever I've been told i should change my haircolor to dark brown, the way it was last year. Well, I prefer my natural color and it finally came back to the way it was after i made the mistake of changing it to a dark brown last year. My natural color is a kind of brown-blonde-red-tone.

I dont really want to turn the one-day-job down, as I'd like to have the extra money. Haha.

I had the idea of using hair tint, but I don't even know if it is sold in Thailand? Do hair dressers ever use hair tint? as i'd imagine the demand

wouldn't be that high cause it doesnt stick on dark thai hair?

I used color on my hair like twice during my life so i have no idea and i'm scared it'll turn out orange if i do it myself - haha. Anyone here that has some advice for me?

Chestnut

oho, difficult question, looking for them myself but i bet they are out there... somewhere (dating thai guys ;P).

hey! downt yo maik fun of mai akzent, ja! lol

unfortunally i have a bf already but i don't mind looking for one with belle