aintravingr8

Can one trust ones wife when thousands of miles away. If so. How ? She's a virile woman with needs and a family to keep. Why is it that all seem to think that they're at home knitting socks. Get real.

Coventry, do you ever have anything postive to say?

All I say is positive. I see what I see, and say, on a day to day basis. You've been here a few times and got married . You're still seeing things through rose coloured spectacles It's people who live here that will confirm what I say is true. Try looking up www.mypattaya.com/151thaibargirls.asp. Look up myth 9. Without being too direct, aintravingr8, I'm trying to help you. If you want to just be left alone and stay ignorant then please say so ? The amount of times I've heard "I didn't know that" is too many. Have you read "Confessions of a Bangkok Private-Eye" by Warren Olsen yet as I've remarked on to you before ? Probably not. A highly recommended read that will educate all.

This forum is too tame and doesn't hit the nail on the head when it comes down to telling how it is. Try going on www.<URL Automatically Removed> and post all your posts from this forum and see if you get the same respopnse as here ? They will eat you.

Either way best of luck and our paths may cross in the coming weeks.

For as many references as you make to this Confessions of a Bangkok Private-Eye book, I would of sworn that you're the author. Maybe your making commission from the sales of this book. I wouldn't doubt it.

All these myths are all about money, well guess what I don't have any money.. What myth would that fall under?? I think you fall under myth #4, is it hot today?

Tell me Coventry, are you single or married? How many BG's have you took a spin with? Maybe your the reason these girls are looking elsewhere, thanks we all appreciate it.

Do you know my wife by chance? Maybe you know something I don't know? Does she really party while I'm away, does she go back to the bar to make money? Is the money I send to her not enough? Should I take out a loan for her and build her a new home, buy her a truck? Do you recommend that since it seems your spectacles are a bit clearer then mine?

If this forum is too tame and doesn't hit the nail on the head, why do you keep coming back then?

This thread has nothing to do with trust or money and I'm really not too sure why you even bothered.

My previous reply to this post was deleted due to breaching forum rules. So I'll try and be a little more subtle. Hyperthetical question. Not

I'm 8,000 miles away from my loyal bargirl wife who's gran is desprately ill, in intensive care, and my wife doesn't phone me, due to her phone not working properly. Also she's in attendance of her gran in I.C.U. So bless her for that.

Upon getting to her village I find out that she has, in fact, been entertaining a Farang of Arabic appearance all the time she was supposed to be looking after her gran. A guy in the village can varify all that has been said, plus more.

My question is do you think the guy in the village is a liar or is my wife ? I would dearly love to speak to the informant but I really have my head stuck up my **** and am to blind to see the truth anyway.

My spectales are more cleverer than yours because mine see what's really happening.

You have $40,000 in a US bank, so I'm told, so why don't you buy her the house she's pressurising you for ?

Yes I know something you don't and more.

I do know your wife I personally met her on 26th April along with a Farang who spoke very good English.

Yes I am married and no she isn't an ex BG

Been with loads of BG in my time in many country's around the world.

Maybe you're the reason why ex BG, wife carry on behind ones back when you're away. All this post is make believe and doesn't relate to anyone on this forum. Unless the cap fits.

Sorry but I couldn't be more subtle.

Coventry, sounds like you have your own problems so instead of worrying about others, you should worry about yourself.

If you want me to go into details I surely can and I have several sources that can confirm.

As far as my wifes personal finances, she is taken care of. She doesn't have to work and everything is fine. Surely we all don't get enough money each month but quite frankly her finances are none of anyones business. And you say that she's pressuring me into making a new home, obviously your hearing more hear say AGAIN.

This thread has nothing to do with your 'situation' so again really find a different thread to provide your infinite wisdom of Thailand life oK?

This town is full of bullsh*&t and you fuel that fire, thanks again.

Can one trust ones wife when thousands of miles away. If so. How ? She's a virile woman with needs and a family to keep. Why is it that all seem to think that they're at home knitting socks. Get real.

Coventry, do you ever have anything postive to say?

All I say is positive. I see what I see, and say, on a day to day basis. You've been here a few times and got married . You're still seeing things through rose coloured spectacles It's people who live here that will confirm what I say is true. Try looking up www.mypattaya.com/151thaibargirls.asp. Look up myth 9. Without being too direct, aintravingr8, I'm trying to help you. If you want to just be left alone and stay ignorant then please say so ? The amount of times I've heard "I didn't know that" is too many. Have you read "Confessions of a Bangkok Private-Eye" by Warren Olsen yet as I've remarked on to you before ? Probably not. A highly recommended read that will educate all.

This forum is too tame and doesn't hit the nail on the head when it comes down to telling how it is. Try going on www.<URL Automatically Removed> and post all your posts from this forum and see if you get the same respopnse as here ? They will eat you.

Either way best of luck and our paths may cross in the coming weeks.

For as many references as you make to this Confessions of a Bangkok Private-Eye book, I would of sworn that you're the author. Maybe your making commission from the sales of this book. I wouldn't doubt it.

All these myths are all about money, well guess what I don't have any money.. What myth would that fall under?? I think you fall under myth #4, is it hot today?

Tell me Coventry, are you single or married? How many BG's have you took a spin with? Maybe your the reason these girls are looking elsewhere, thanks we all appreciate it.

Do you know my wife by chance? Maybe you know something I don't know? Does she really party while I'm away, does she go back to the bar to make money? Is the money I send to her not enough? Should I take out a loan for her and build her a new home, buy her a truck? Do you recommend that since it seems your spectacles are a bit clearer then mine?

If this forum is too tame and doesn't hit the nail on the head, why do you keep coming back then?

This thread has nothing to do with trust or money and I'm really not too sure why you even bothered.

Can one trust ones wife when thousands of miles away. If so. How ? She's a virile woman with needs and a family to keep. Why is it that all seem to think that they're at home knitting socks. Get real.

Coventry, do you ever have anything postive to say?

Can one's wife trust one husband when thousands of miles away? It goes both way..

-- Mike, I'm from the Eastside.. I'm headed out tomorrow but us Seattle folks should get together sometime.

cheers

Great post Guemlum.

Thanks for sharing with all of us your experience and providing a small insight into the funeral process of northern Issan.

Much appreciated and much respect to you.

Thank you again.

We do talk almost everyday ( Jajah.com ). I think I pay about 4 cents US a minute.

Try Freeplanet.com; 1.8 cents/min (1000 min. plan) $17.95 per month

http://www.freecallplanet.com/thailand.html - sure beats $500.00 phone bin.

cheers

Spoke to my wife last night and this afternoon, I knew she was going to call as I had that feeling. Her cell phone has seen better days, a victim of Song Kran apparently. Good thing the SIM still works. Time to buy another cell phone I guess.

She has been staying in the hospital for several days now with her grandmother and she is not getting any better. Grandmother is in ICU in Buriram hospital. My wife had a dream last night of teeth going on holiday. Last time she had this dream, her mother passed away. Not good. I may need to take off to Thailand earlier then expected.

My wife was very apologetic today about being a "bad wife" in her words, not calling, no email, no SMS but I told her I understood, and that her primary responsibility at this time was to take care of her grandmother. She understood. I'm not by any means upset or angry with her, just a bit worried as we always talk everyday and it's uncommon for us to go a day without talking.

She is the best woman a guy could ever ask for and I'm lucky to have a wife as amazing, sincere, faithful and loyal as mine.

Hi aintravingr8

Im glad to hear your minor communication 'fears' are sorted. I hope all turns out well for you and your wives family.

Your worries remind me of times when I was back home working in the UK and now every night that I say to my Thai wife 'Goodnight, see you in the morning', that reminds me of how lucky I am and how unhappy I was.

I hope things turn out good for you

Dave

All sorted out, I'm very lucky to have a wife like her, but very unlucky that she is 8000 miles away from me. 14 days and counting.

Spoke to my wife last night and this afternoon, I knew she was going to call as I had that feeling. Her cell phone has seen better days, a victim of Song Kran apparently. Good thing the SIM still works. Time to buy another cell phone I guess.

She has been staying in the hospital for several days now with her grandmother and she is not getting any better. Grandmother is in ICU in Buriram hospital. My wife had a dream last night of teeth going on holiday. Last time she had this dream, her mother passed away. Not good. I may need to take off to Thailand earlier then expected.

My wife was very apologetic today about being a "bad wife" in her words, not calling, no email, no SMS but I told her I understood, and that her primary responsibility at this time was to take care of her grandmother. She understood. I'm not by any means upset or angry with her, just a bit worried as we always talk everyday and it's uncommon for us to go a day without talking.

She is the best woman a guy could ever ask for and I'm lucky to have a wife as amazing, sincere, faithful and loyal as mine.

And the weather we've been having up here in the Northwest doesn't make it any easier. I'm on 3 months two weeks now, have another month to go. I call everyday too, I hope this sickness your wife and in-law have isn't a veil for something darker. Not contacting by phone in a long-distance relationship is the supreme infraction. Do you suspect anything?

The weather has been miserable! Too much snow, too cold and way to wet!

I suspect that her grandmother is very sick, it's unlike her not to talk to me for longer then a day. I hope her grandma is ok. Just really wish that atleast she would call, send an email or something to let me know the status. I'm going to have to have a talk with her, if I ever hear from her soon.

It's been two months twelve days already and have just about less then a month to go before I see my wife again. The last time we were together, we had a wonderful engagement party in her village, and made it official a few days later in BKK. Since I've been gone away here in the states working, my wife was sick and was in the hospital for a few days. The worst feeling ever not knowning how your wife is doing, why her mobile phone is off and whether or not she is ok... The last time I spoke with her was a few days ago and now her grandmother is sick. I called the home phone and her brother picked up, exchanged a hello, and he mentioned something about BKK. Not sure if wife and grandma are in the hospital in BKK or not, my Thai is caputo! What can I do ... famous last words..

The best pool in Korat is at the Mall. An Olympic size pool. You can by a card for 100 baht which is good for a year and lets 2 people in the pool area for free. They have food and drink service there.

Curious if anyone knew if there was a certain dress code for this pool specifically if you have to cover your hair and obtain pre-approved swimming shorts?

For some reason I was convinced by my wife that I needed to buy some special swimming shorts which were a few sizes too small. Yes it was very scary! I plan on going again next month but I don't want to have to buy new, rather use my existing and yes I did have to buy one of those funny looking head condoms.

Also, was I severely hung over from the night before and might of been a bit delusional that day but does the temperature of the pool feel a bit cold?

We all know thats not true, but its true for him.

Just give your wife a joop and thank buddha how lucky you are that you have found such a gem.

I concur. I think he had one too many Chang's maybe. How could he not see the obvious signs?

I asked my wife last week and she said that "the lady ghost may come and get you if you were born on a Tuesday or Wednesday" she also said that the lady ghost prefers men, but would not rule out the ghost taking women. Men, women and children have made them in our village. My wife has yet to make hers, she was born on a wednesday. But more worrying than that, is that i dont know on what day i was born. I could look it up on the internet, but i think i may just take my chances

I just got off the phone with my wife and she was talking about ghosts. It was funny to hear her bring it up as I wasn't too sure what she was talking about at first, I just assumed she was talking about gold again. Apparently in her hometown recently a man in his early 30's was a victim of a ghost. She had mentioned it was a lady ghost. Wish I had more details, maybe next call.

Odd that I was reading about ghosts here on Thaivisa before she brought it up. I tried to explain to her about the scarecrow for protection and she didn't really understand what I was talking about.. Next time..

Very strange, wish I knew more..

Hello,

I'm an american citizen who just returned from Thailand and got married.

We registered our marriage with the ministry of foreign affairs and district office amphur in Bangkok so it's official.

My plan is to have her and eventually her son move to the states. I would like my wife to come ASAP.

What is the fastest, easiest and most efficient way of getting her here? I understand K3 visa would probably be best solution? Would it be best for her to start processing the visa in Thailand or should I do all of the work here in the states? Can you provide a list of all supporting documents that I would need to have processed?

Any information would be appreciated, thank you.

It has everything I need and I'm a farang.

Sure it's ok for farangs. I was there about 10 days ago or so and didn't have any problems.

Make sure to visit the mall and the swimming pool there, and the zoo was pretty interesting as well if your looking for something to do.

Cheers

So I just returned from 10 days in Non Suwan and there isn't really much going on but I did happen to make it to a large party at the temple which included many games, food stands, loud music and an outdoor inflatable movie theater screen. Not sure what the occasion was for the party but the whole town was was there I do believe and I happend to meet one farang who's name I don't remember. I'm not sure if he is on here or not but he was a nice guy.

Nick I think I passed by your house one day, Brian had given me directions? Nice places you both have. Maybe next time we can meet up for a drink?

I'm thinking the beach that I had mentioned earlier was more like a nature reserve then anything.

Did make it to Korat, went to the mall and watched some live performance of Milo cartoon, made it to the waterpark as well and the Zoo. Went to some discoteche in Buriram, visited the outdoor market in Nang Rong and of course did the engagement party thing.

So I will be in Non Suwan for 2+ weeks at the end of the month and was wondering if anyone of you had suggestions as to what to do for fun here. Last time I only spent a few days and we went to some beach (sorry I wish I knew the name of it) and visited Phanom Rung and stayed at home with family and friends.

I'm looking for some fun things to do. Do any of you have some recommendations as to what I should check out while I'm here?

Thanks

Guess there isn't much going on here? How about near by?

So I will be in Non Suwan for 2+ weeks at the end of the month and was wondering if anyone of you had suggestions as to what to do for fun here. Last time I only spent a few days and we went to some beach (sorry I wish I knew the name of it) and visited Phanom Rung and stayed at home with family and friends.

I'm looking for some fun things to do. Do any of you have some recommendations as to what I should check out while I'm here?

Thanks

you are dreaming, seeing as your intended lives in issan, wake up and smell the buffalo sh1t.

if as you say you clould have had any girl you wanted , why didnt you? instead you have lumbered yourself with a woman no thai man would take.

this girl has no skills to get a job in thailand, what transferable skills does she have that will make her employable in america.

how many thai woman have you actually been involved with, i am not talking about working girls or their friends. how many teachers, nurses, bank staff, etc etc have you dated.

what are you actually comparing this girl to, what is the benchmark, other girls from the same line of employment.

to put it bluntly seing as you asked, yes you are just another customer/walking atm machine, she has played you from day one, you dont even know the rules, these girls have phds in kidology, bullshit and anything to make you feel special, if she was so special why did no one else take her on.

what is she bringing to the table, a load of excess baggage, you aint even going to be second or third in her thoughts.

but never mind you can fool yourself, you cant fool us, best of luck to you, you sound like a genuine guy, if you can afford it then do it, please dont forget to come back in a few years and let us know if you feel the same.

Alright probably not any girl but you get what I'm saying. I stand corrected..

Thanks for your vote of confidence though I really appreciate it as it sounds like you know everything about our relationship.

Your right she may not have any skills, she may not be a rocket scientist but I know she has a good heart and you can't tell me differently.

Maybe you have been burnt one too many times and that's why your comments are very negative..

I appreciate all of the responses that I've received from each one of you thus far and thanks again for all of your input.

Let me state that the amount of money which I have been sending to her was my idea as I had really no clue as to how much daily expenses for a four person family would be in Buriram. A few hundred dollars a month sure doesn't really sound like much but apparently goes a long way in Isaan. She had never mentioned any specific amount but of course we talked and she did say 'up to you'.. Dreaded famous last Thai girl's words right??

Our last visit together back in Sept was great. She met me at the airport and had a taxi waiting for our journey to Buriram. I didn't have any idea on what I was about to experience after the 5 hour ride but knew grandmother, brother and son would be up and awaiting for our arrival when we got home. Everyone was really happy and excited to see a tall white farang and I was greeted with many smiles from the family. I was very nervous as I didn't know what to expect, I didn't know where I was going to sleep, or even for that matter what they were talking about but none the less, they made me feel very welcomed and a part of the family. I knew my sweet friend would take good care of me and she surely did.

We spent several nights together at her home in Buriram and had many bonding experiences with her and her family and friends. The last day was spent with her grandmother and she perfomed a ceremony for her deceased daughter which included candles, food, incense, and blessings of tequila? GF's mother passed away in an automobile accident some time ago. I'm not sure if it was a birthday or if this was something that I needed to see, a special day maybe? I also was blessed by the village elder who apparently was in town as he performed baa sai for me and my sweet friend. It's been several months now and yes the strings are still there.

Before leaving Buriram, I gave her brother 1000 baht and grandmother 10000 baht. I also bought my sweet friend a gold bracelet in Pattaya and gave her 10000 baht and sent her on her way back home as I went to the airport and she went to Buriram.

She no longer is working in Pattaya and is back home and taking care of her family with support from me. We agreed that she leave Pattaya, become my 'girlfriend', and me to take care of her and of course the family. I have been doing that for several months now and apparently her and the family are living like kings & queens now which I think is great news.

- I have no plans on paying sin sot or dowry, she's been there done that and I'm not from Thai culture

- Will propose to her next month with a gold-diamond ring. . I want her to have a diamond and she likes gold..

- We will go to the American Embassy, get paperwork done/translated, and then to the amphur office upon my arrival to BKK

- We will go through village ceremony, 30 guests, small party she says, 10-15k no problem

- I will return home and start processing her paperwork for fiancee visa for her to come to America

- She will get a job here and support her family in which we have already talked about

- We will process paperwork for her son's visa and return home for the BIG party and pickup of her son

- She has a job now paying 4500 baht a month cleaning house. She wants to work to save to buy me a ring.. One months pay to spend on me, that's very thoughtful of her. What I make in less than a day she makes in a month..

Am I really just a customer or walking ATM? Is this all a dream? Is she not lucky? Am I not lucky?

I could of had any Thai girl I wanted but I found one in a million. This is her story, our story.

how proud I am of her to get a job paying 5 USD a day or whatever ridiculously little amounts she makes working 10 hours a day

I've been sending upwards of 15-20k baht a month and I am by no means rich at all for a 30 year old.

Be careful, my friend. Most Isaan people earn around $5 a day, and support their family from that. Your future wife is receiving from you an additional 15-20K baht a month. Maybe you have not been to the family home, but on that sort of monthly money, they are living very very well!. A monthly top up from you of 5000bt would be more than sufficient, and still give them a combined income most likely in excess of any of their village neighbours.

Don't be taken for a ride. I suggest you find out where the money is going. If its all being spent, then cards, Hi-Lo, the lottery, and excessive tamboon are all likely to figure.

I can afford to take a bit more care of her and her family then to just pay $165 USD a month for a four person family.

I know where her money is going and what she needs to buy. We discuss finances on occasion over the phone. She does not like to talk much about money as she feels embarrassed or guilty for mentioning it?. She knows the importance of saving as I ask her how much money she has in her account when I know she might be low, as I don't send all the money at once each month.

I have been to her home as she met me at the airport and we took a 5 hour taxi ride to her home village in September 07. I told her I wanted to experience true traditional Thailand and get away from the tourist traps and she really wanted to share that experience with me. Her families house could use some work. Concrete living room floor with one large chair, electricity and TV but I'm not sure about running water. I do know they had some sort of water hook up in the front outside for washing off hands. Typical meals consisted of family eating outside on mats which layed on the concrete. The roof of the house was open-air, almost like the rain could get in on a rainy/windy day. Is that normal? It was a bit difficult to get used to the scoop shower and the toilet in the bathroom. No running water, typical thai toilet which sat on the floor. I know she is going to get the bathroom fixed up with some of the money which I think is a great idea, that and the purchase of the motorbike so now her son can be taken to school and they can take care of the things they need to do in town. I'm looking forward to going on a long motorbike ride through the country side.

I stayed for several days and met everyone in the immediate family, neighbors on the street, got blessed by the village elder, had many food experiences with family and neighbors, borrowed several beds, showers, intoxicated at 9am, rode a pink motorbike, walked up and down the main street smiling at everyone buying one of each, party with the neighbors. I even made it to Phanom Rung which was about 45 minute drive in the car from her village which was really spectacular. Am I lucky or does this happen to everyone? Everyone was so nice I couldn't believe it. Everyone wanted to offer me everything they had it seemed.

This place was nothing like Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, Kanchanburi or Sukhothai. Nothing imaginable in the states.

I think that's why I'm intrigued with her and her inner beauty. Yeah I know sounds kind of lame

- And thanks prakhonchai nick for your suggestions and input.

- Ron, she never enjoyed working as a bar-girl and she definetely doesn't like any other girl calling me a customer....

Cheers to all from Washington State.. *rings bell*

(PS. you are marrying a bar girl??? in your home country, would you marry a prostitute?)..take care my friend)

I would never of thought of marrying a bar girl or a prostitute at anytime in my life until I met her and got to know her.

Sometimes if your the only one capable of supporting your family, you have to do what you have to do to make ends meet and I respect her for what she had to do to take care of her family. Do I agree completely on the way she made a living, I don't think so but I do respect her very much for the things she went through in order to put food on the table for her son, her grandmother and her brother and to pay for the things necessary for her family to live day to day.

What would you do if you had no formal education or skills? How would you be able to get a respectable job to make enough money to support your family if your from Buriram?

Now she no longer works in the bar and I take care of her and her family. She need not worry about how she is going to make enough money to eat for the day or how some farang a$$hole is going to treat her like a piece of meat.

She reminds me daily how lucky she is to have me and I remind her daily of how lucky I am to have her, how proud I am of her to get a job paying 5 USD a day or whatever ridiculously little amounts she makes working 10 hours a day but I am none the less very proud of her.

This girl is one in a million, she is a great mother, she is very beautiful, smart, funny, sarcastic, great dancer, makes me laugh, makes me smile and takes really good care of me and her family.

The girls in USA have nothing to compare to her and believe me I've compared every single one of my ex-girlfriends (have to weight the positives with the negatives right ?

I've been sending upwards of 15-20k baht a month and I am by no means rich at all for a 30 year old.

She said 20-40 guests.. Close friends and family, village elder and some monks.. She has done this all before.

Hello to all at THAIVISA.com and hope all is well for all! Great place you have here.

I'm an American looking to marry an ex-bar girl who was previously married and now divorced with a 5 year old son living in Isaan.

I have been sending money to her to support her and her family (grandmother, son, brother) for the last several months since my return from Isaan. We have been talking almost on a daily basis since my arrival back home via phone.

I hope one of you knowledgable people will be able to help with a few questions.

Question 1. How much should I expect to pay in dowry to her grandmother if any? (mother and father passed away), she was married before and I understand first husband payed $100k baht.. I have been sending enough money for months now supporting her and her family and will continue to do so after the wedding. She has no formal education (college) nor trade skills.

Question 2. What should I expect at the village ceremony? She says small party (proposal to her and family, friends/family/neighbors/village elder/monks (maybe spend 10-20k baht on the party?) I will bring a ring for my proposal to her. Is that it, a ring, ceremony and party? Anything else I should expect? We plan to have a larger party later when we can do it the right way. I know this may include more gifts of baht, gold, food, drink, etc. etc). This will be done later next year upon our return from united states back home to Thailand.

Question 3. Is the Amphur or Registry Office easy as an affidavit form completed notarized and translated into Thai and after that is completed we are officially married in Thailand? Is there anything else I need to bring besides my passport and affidavit and how long should I expect this process to take?

I appreciate any input if anyone of you might have any. I want to ensure I have everything ready for my return to Thailand in January.

Thanks all, cheers, goodluck, thank you, chok dee kup, kop kun kup