LadyHeather

I have heard from a very good source that the Australian honourary consulate will no longer be offering notarial services either

Looks great, could use the credit!

Am I the only one that noticed this line in the news report?

complaints stemmed from foreign tourists from Europe, America, and Asia but especially the large influx of Chinese tourists that don’t follow traffic signs, drive the wrong way and cause traffic jams and accidents.

Given some of the behaviours of our Chinese visitors that I and my friends have witnessed around Chiang Mai this is well overdue.

I am afraid I can't really speak for Bangkok but as a professional woman I can tell you that I do meet men at networking functions; Chamber events are good as are any other professional events along those lines. Unfortunately most of the men are married so that doesn't help you but I can assure you that there are single western women out there who would find an outgoing guy attractive.

That must have been quite terrifying, I probably would have called the police were I to ever see something like that However, I cannot say that I have. The only place something like that would happen in Chiang Mai is Spicy but I still can't see there being a large group of foreign women willing to get into a brawl. But strangers things have happened certainly.

This seems more like an attempt to be a BKK style Bridget Jones to me.

She says she only goes out once a week and already has, what I understand is called a "<deleted> buddy". Therefore I'd suggest she tries socialising a little more or makes things more serious with her lover.

Cities are by their very nature hard and often lonely places for many of their denizens. Why should BKK be any different to that? There isn't something in the water which makes people fall in love at first sight with everyone they meet.

My advice to the writer of this navel gazing dross would be to apply the same rules as per finding a bloke as you would in your homeland and crack on with it.

Yours HD (Thai Visa Agony Uncle)

Please do everyone a favor and take this wonderfully pragmatic "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" sort of advice and apply it the seemingly endless line of men whinging about Thai women that do post on Thai visa,

I for one do not see that she is actually saying she wants to be in a relationship, I know many women who do not, in fact. To paraphrase another poster "It is better to be single than to be in an unhappy relationship".

My experience has been that the truly shameless ones do not care if you mention their wives or children, they simply think that they are irresistible and as a woman I should be thrilled to bits to receive their attentions

I agree, that any man who refuses to accept no as an answer is behaving in an aggressive manner. It is a pity that some men cannot grasp that no does not mean yes, and that go away does not mean I am interested, but there it is. It does occur.

Thank you for the input and the suggestions and whilst I appreciate the idea of telling a man I have a boyfriend it seems to me that I should not have to say this in order for my "no" to be accepted. Sadly, that seems to be the fact.

I am not sure if this will help you or not but a store just opened in the new Promenada shopping mall here in Chiang Mai that has AHA/BHA facial products. I must confess I am not sure what it is but when I saw the product on the shelves today, I recalled this posting.

The store is called Tsuruha and it sells mainly Japanese products , including AHA/BHA.

I took a photo for you, this is a facial cleanser but the sales clerk told me she had other products too

They have a website

http://tsuruha.co.th/

Sheryl is correct, whilst not workmates they are people I see every day. I do not have this problem with the Western men with Western wives here so that is really a moot point

F* off, although tempting is not an option. Someone who ignores, "No thank you I am not interested" is behaving in an aggressive manner I believe. A simple "No" should suffice but often it does not.

I do like the "You?" suggestion but again, these are people I must deal with socially from time to time so polite is best. I have so far never had a Thai man that I meet with socially that behaves in the same way as the Western men. Perhaps they do believe the hype and can't fathom why a woman would be uninterested.

As for the poster who calls my veracity into question, I did ask for polite suggestions. Perhaps you are not aware of that request or do not comprehend it's meaning.

I do not think threatening to tell the wife would have much effect. I imagine most wives prefer to believe their man over some woman.

Telling them I don't approve of adultery could work on the married men but not the ones with girlfriends. Some can be very persistent and it is quite surprising that a simple "No thank you, you have a wife or you have a girlfriend" does not suffice

More than a few times I have had married men come on to me very strongly. I try to be polite, its a relatively small place after all, but how do I tell these men, all Westerners with Thai wives I should point out, that I am not interested in a fling with a married man?

I welcome polite suggestions from both men and women but I am more interested in what the women have found to be the most successful means of managing this issue.

Yesterday a Thai male colleague of mine (he is a few years older than myself) and I ate lunch together at the local Khao Mun Gai shop. He insisted on paying. In fact, every time we eat together he insists. He is not interested in me, is happily married and it is certainly nothing more than two colleagues catching a quick bite. I certainly make more money than he does, which he must be aware of, and I have tried to pay for our meals in the past but he gets quite offended if I insist. So I stopped.

So, I asked him and he said, at least for his generation, the man always pays for the woman, older pays for younger. He said it goes against everything he was ever taught to allow me to pay.

So, I say thank you, and make sure we never eat anywhere expensive together and make certain to bring him food at the office, or snacks as a way of making up for it.

Police have been routinely clamping cars on Nimmanhaemin at peak traffic time for some weeks now. There are clearly marked signs that say no parking after 4 PM. I almost took a photo of the policeman clamping the car parked directly under the sign at 5 pm. Even he was shaking his head.

I don't know if they are clamping vehicles on the sois, they are supposed to be enforcing the even/odd days of parking there but I haven't seen it yet.

I have AIS as well and have had no problems at all today. Perhaps it is your phone.

I know quite a few women in Chiang Mai who have had successful and happy marriages with Thai men for a very long time. In all cases the men are educated and interested in the world. The news article posted certainly has some points but then I am not sure that the writer has much experience beyond beach romances. They are not the same thing as a man and a woman coming from similar sorts of backgrounds having a real relationship.

But again, the article does refer to "dating" and not "marriage"

http://jezebel.com/5...and-predictable

"I DJay sometimes but I am lucky because my close circle of girlfriends are so successful and inspiring".

Its a hoot

She doesn't buy you birthday presents and so, on the advice of more than a few bitter men you decide to dump her clothes in the parking lot. And people say the Thais are amazing.

What would you suggest LadyHeather ?? Come-on OP: Man Up, suck-it-up and deal with it. Learn to be taken advantage of like a real man !!!...

Op: No need to be scared - IF you feel she is taking advantage of you wish simply break up with her and ask her to leave, do so. There is no nice ways to break up with someone, but you can find a respectful way of doing this if it is what you choose.

Precisely that. Man up as you say.

A friend of mine got some great old movie posters from the second hand market near the British Council, I believe it is every Saturday morning.

CMCC email classifieds is the best. They even list garage sales

I just received their weekly email today so you are in luck

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She doesn't buy you birthday presents and so, on the advice of more than a few bitter men you decide to dump her clothes in the parking lot. And people say the Thais are amazing.

I was at the opening of the new Lanna History museum behind the Art & Culture Centre yesterday here in Chiang Mai and they had the famous photos of Boonserm Satrabhaya on the wall. A woman told me there was a section devoted to his and others old photos on the CMU website.

http://library.cmu.a...ture_trails.php

http://library.cmu.a...hp?creator_id=1 for just his photos.

Flood at the Train Station 1952

A friend of a friend was killed by someone doing just this, he drove into the door, went flying and broke his neck. And yes he was wearing a helmet, just some passenger who didn't care to look and see if there was anyone coming. He was only 23 years old.

You have no sympathy here either, I must say.