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Scully

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  1. Ok, but shouldn't one be able to perceive how their words will potentially hurt someone's feelings?

    Must admit it does seem harsh but some Thai's are just brutally honest, you're too fat, too skiny etc. Don't think there's any malice meant, it's just they presume you will be aware of their observation. 99% of the time you are aware and they are right.

  2. Even if the house is in your wife's name always expect it to be her parents until they pass. This will likely mean free run for all family and sometimes close friends, forget your privacy. Your wife being the youngest has been given the obligation to look after the parents and her sister who got the loan knows it. It sounds like the sister is taking the mick and hoping little sis and her farang hubby will come along and bail them out.

    Having myself lived in a house with an ex and her parents, I have to say you really need to want to do it yourself, because your wife's decisions will be swayed by family.

    If you have made up your mind and are doing it, then I sure hope you have plans for a little privacy. Being the youngest daughter of a poorer family is a crap deal and they've often been groomed to forget about themselves. If it was me I would run, but maybe its too late for you.

  3. As I said much earlier, I am more concerned of others who might choose a similar course of action which caused you and your family great inconvenience and which could have ended up even worse. Given the prevalence of the self-insured, self-medicated crowd elsewhere on these Forums, there is no shortage of those who might.

    When, and if I get to the OPs age I really hope I can take a calculated risk for the benefit of family. If not then its surely time to chuck the towel in.

    Thanks op nice story.

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  4. This could well be disastrous for the tourist industry, if this gets plenty of coverage from the international press then people will stay away.

    Thailand has plenty to pull in visitors but as soon as its perceived to be unsafe its game over. I'm surprised it's tucked away in the local forum, this is huge news.

  5. Cape I don't know what your mate has been telling this girl but in her mind she's married and living happily ever after. She's building her nest way too early, that would certainly worry me.

    She isn't doing it out of greed or malice but because he's done the parent thing, had the marriage discussion just not the marriage.

    It's not a bad thing if that's what he wants, but in some Thai girls minds if all the ground work has been done then it's a done deal.

  6. I think lot of it is due to understanding more about your surroundings.

    When you jump off the plane for the first time you think wow everything is so cheap, beautiful girls want to talk to me and Somchai just spoke to me in Thai with a big smile on his face.

    Fast forward five years and you realise that you were paying double what the locals were paying when you first arrived, the beautiful Thai girl who wants to talk to you has three Western boyfriend's that visit at different times and Somchai was insulting you with a big smile on his face.

    Thailand is a great country but far from perfect, Thai visa is a good place to vent but some think its solely for Thai bashing. If the positives stop outweighing the negatives then move on.

  7. This is wonderful news and an end to the terrible ordeal of the girl`s family.

    As a concerned parent myself, I would like to ask the OP, what if their daughter decides to go globe trotting again? Although she is an adult is it possible to obtain some kind of court supervision order under the mental health acts that would be for her own protection and safety?

    What future plans does this family have for the well being of their daughter? Because now looking ahead is an all important factor to avoid a repeat of something like this happening again.

    Ps: Just to say that I ask these questions as a parent of a daughter of similar age myself, I have no knowledge of this family`s situation or their relationship with their daughter. I fully respect their wishes if they decide to ignore my concerns and inquiries.

    Good news for this family, very nice of the mom to express her thanks here, and even nice of you, at least in the first line of your post, to join in the board's congratulations.

    Why you posted the rest of that - asking what future plans they have for the well being of their daughter, making some comment about mental health acts, and asking the mother to splay all of that publicly on this message board or anywhere else - is beyond me. Frankly, it's none of your business and you've no right to ask it.

    I dis-agree. How are we supposed to learn anything if only bits of a story are told.

    Having a mentally ill child will unlikely affect the vast majority of board members, if we did Thai visa is the last place you'd want to share it.

    At 21 many of us weren't living with our parents so I don't judge this mother as her daughters an adult and she clearly cares abut her.

    I just appreciated her thanks and wouldn't dream of baiting her with highly personal questions.

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  8. Martial law is here to stay till the red activists are reformed and understand what is good for Thailand and not only for their pockets or the pockets of their infamous leaders.

    The Thai people have started already distancing themselves from these clowns as they have the brain to understand what they represent.

    Of course there will be many farangs here concerned about martial law as they can't drink their beer at all times in the seedy bars they occupy.

    What I have to say to them is...........Hard Luck.

    I know your hearts in the right place and you want Thailand peaceful, however this isn't the way to do it. This just sets an example for future general's to carry out the perfect coup. It's a never ending cycle.

    I'm no fan of the red's but instead of taking over with an iron fist, they should've been working with the government in power to protect the Thai people. You may be a fan of the PM but next time you maybe not so lucky, but the Thai people will have no say, so again they'll just have to lump it.

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