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  1. This smog is an absolute disgrace. I spoke about this to a high ranking local official last year and was told that it was almost impossible to find and prosecute fire setters. When I suggested that the law ought to be reframed to make the owners on whose land the fire is set, responsible, I was met with an incredulous gawp. Apparently, this angle had not been considered.

  2. Hello!

    My name is James Barnes and I am the editor of Thai Spice magazine.

    www.thai-spice-magazine.com and if you click on the top right hand corner of the home page, you can see the online version of our current issue.

    If I can help you in any way, please email me: [email protected]

    I may also want to write about your magazine in my magazine!

    Best wishes,

    James Barnes.

  3. Takes two to play, JT- you do like to have the last word, you know... :P

    Seems like this thread HAS gone off topic- to remind everyone, it's supposed to be about gay life in Thailand (presumably outside the main cities). Yup, it's there. And there are also all manner of people across the spectrum to meet, looking, acting, dressing every-which-way.

    I FAN Q!

  4. This one is a bit difficult for Westerners to get their heads round. There is no Gay Life in rural Thailand - just Life. And that includes all the categories that we keep separate and distinct in the West. I live around 300km from BK in a rural farming community. We're simply part of the family, live in the main family house, take part in bringing the kids up, all the things that families normally do. Everybody in the village knows us, Police, Wat etc etc. Simply no issues - except perhaps the pitty they won't have children one. There are at least two other gays in reasonably close parts of the family, similarely a non issue.

    So how do you meet them? Well you won't except completely by accident. Relationships are formed through knowing your school buddies, family connections etc. Plus Thailand has a feature unlike any other country. There is really only one city - BKK. So all Thai's count "Home" as the rural village they were born and brought up in; But, they all spend time in their twenties working in Bangkok. So an awfull lot of relationships are formed away from the prying eyes of family in BKK and then exported home when all parties are sure its a keeper. That goes for straight as well as gay.

    So if you are looking for Thai Gay Life as opposed to commercial gays - who are often straight - then BKK is the place. But expect to have a really exciting time visiting all sorts of dives that you wouldn't have dreamt of going to! My personal recommendation would be to visit some of the gay sauna's that are not frequented by westerners. Go in the late afternoon early evening and simply wait and see what happens. Let them approach you, not the other way around. Then you might find yourself on a rollercoaster evening out to all sorts of weird places. Expect it to involve Karaoke - the Thai version is reallly brilliant, not at all like the west - and expect it to go to at least 5 am. View the sauna as a meeting point, not a destination.

    Elsewhere in the country, just go and lurk somewhere for a while - perhaps a few days, for people to get used to the fact you are there and for the word to get round.

    Chris

    Many thanks. I have sent you a personal message so please check your inbox.

  5. Homophobia, Jim, but not as we know it.

    My BF comes from a small place in Isaan. He says that his dad would have killed him, if he had been out. He still can't tell his old uni pals; his degree was a macho one in science, and not arts.

    As a single westerner in the boonies, look at the gay guides. Sure, sure, you can meet nice boys on the street--but some will just smile in a friendly way, without wanting love. We are spoiled in BKK...so many boys and bars and etc.

    OK, OK, so Thailand is not Idaho, but there is still some redneck stuff.

    Eddy

    You give a very one-sided impression of rural Thailand! I live with my partner in a small place in Isaan, 100m. from his parents. The whole family is well-known and respected in the community, and having a gay 'son-in-law' doesn't worry them in the slightest. And I have a katoey brother-in-law!

    But OP, you're in a foreign country, and you don't know the rules; stick to the bars and places you can find in the gay websites. Not all of them are commercial.

    Where are you in Isaan, Isanbirder?

  6. Homophobia, Jim, but not as we know it.

    My BF comes from a small place in Isaan. He says that his dad would have killed him, if he had been out. He still can't tell his old uni pals; his degree was a macho one in science, and not arts.

    I didn't realise that degrees had degrees of gayness? :P

    'Fraid so, especially with young Thais. If you do Comm. Arts at Chula, then many of your class will be happy and gay. If you do mechanical engineering (anywhere), then you will be kinda xpected to be a jock and talk about titties. Some stay closeted. My BF went for a meal with his old classmates last week. Science bunch. Only one knows about him. The rest wanted to go to a brothel after supper, and he was teased (again) for not going.

    This thread seems to have strayed a little from my original question, which is and interesting but surely there are bars etc for gay people away from the tourist areas even though there is a strong vein of homophobia in Thai society?

  7. I suggest that you browse through gayromeo to see what is out there in the backwoods! Alternatively you might try chatting to boys in Bangkok who are from the provinces.

    There is, of course, gay life in the provinces, although because of the language issue it tends to be a bit 'sticky rice'.

    I suggest if you are travelling alone, that you tread carefully.

    Thanks for this.

    Where are you rodentwarrior and 'tread carefully' to guard against what?

  8. I sure wished that was true.. free tickets out..

    I find all these freebies good for tourism, but I live here and went to the ATM machine yesterday and was told the exchange rate was 32.14. I proceeded to get money from the machine and lo and behold the ATM exchange rate was 30.48 and there was an almost 5$ fee plus 150.00 badt to use the ATM. What kind of rip off are the banks here pulling now. They have always taken money off the top, but this is too much. Who could you complain to about this outrage. Just last week they were not doing this at my bank and now they are. I now have to figue out how to git around using the ATM machines here as I don't intend to pay this rip off amount for money exchange.

    I don't know of any atm's that do not charge the 150 THB fee.

  9. I read Mr Carr's book many years ago (even before Carr had died of lung cancer) and it did not help me at all. The only real message within the pages was that in order to quit, the smoker has to make the decision to never smoke again. Not just to wish it or desire it or want it, a cast iron decision has to be made.

    In my case, hypnotism lasted 10 days.

    Nicotine gum gave me hic-coughs.

    I even resorted to accupuncture where pins were left in my ears and I was instructed to press on them when the desire for a smoke arose. That lasted less than two hours- which was the time that it took me to work out that the only logic to the whole business was that it is impossible to light up with your fingers stuck in your ears.

    I couldn't keep the nicotine patches alight.

    2 years ago, I was admitted to a hospital in Phuket, unable to breathe because my lungs had siezed up when inhaling my first fag of the day.

    I have not smoked since.

    A cast iron decision was made for me.

    Good luck to all who decide to stop.

  10. To label Buddhism as a religion is merely a convenience. All religions demand 'faith' which I understand is not required in Buddhism. The Buddha provided tools to discover truths for the individual and does not involve having to accept abstract deities.

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