bennylee

Thanks sbk.... but the big head's as confused as the small one...

Yes, yes, yes... I am perfectly aware of the shit I am into... I know having an intimate relationship with 2 partners will not work and it's just a matter of time before I get screwed... Call me shit if you want to, but I can't help falling in love with two lovely ladies...

What can I do?

G'day Chris, any greeting is ok here in Singapore, the lil' red dot on the map.

Amazing Thailand isn't it....??? khrai khrai ruk thai.

Never had really relaxing and peaceful feeling here, a different world altogether in my few days in Phetchabun. Only setback is the afternoon heat when I was there. Heavenly weather at night.

Thank you, will definitely give u a buzz when I come back to Phetchabun. Cheers.

Definitely NOT! She is not aware... It would not be a problem if she's cool about it...

I came to Phetchabun for the first time on the 8th to 11th May. Not at the city of Phetachabun but about 30km north in Lom Sak, where I stayed in Grand Nattirat hotel, which is quite decent, old but clean and price was really reasonable. My GF lives in Lom Kao, so there's a little bit of travelling between this two places. I did not plan to go to Phetchabun because of time constraint but I do wish to meet farangs living in Thailand because my relationship with my GF is getting stronger. but I do wish to meet ppl in phetchabun to hear their stories, especially Chris, who has been contributing a lot in this forum. I am not from the west side of the world, but I am as good as any farang in thailand.

Hope to meet you guys one day, and when I come to phetchabun again, I will make plans to go to Phetchabun city and meet you all. Drinks will be on me!

OK... here is my story on my trip in Phetchabun. I was staying in Lom Sak, but my GF lives in Wangban, Lom Kao (5km from Lom Kao town). Lom Sak is about 10km from Lom Kao. So, that one day, I took a public transport (mini lorry type) from Lom Sak to Lom Kao and my GF was to pick me up at Lom Kao with her motorcycle when I arrive in Lom Kao bus station. When I arrived at the bus station, called my GF and asked her to come. While waiting for her to come, I sat at the bus stop.

Then, an old lady, who has a stall nearby walked to me and spoked to me in Thai (We, Singaporeans looked like Thai). I think she knows that I am not from around, with my sunglassed on and odd clothing (bermuda khakis and a polo T). She was asking me where I was going and I told her I am going home, in Thai. Then, she started to talk to me more and I could not understand what she was saying and I told her that I am not Thai and I can only speak and understand a little and I told here that I am from Singapore. Then her face suddenly changes and heard her talk about me looking like thai, and like what I am doing here to her daughter who is manning the stall... I think it's her daughter.... and she's average looking. She asked me more, but I told her I can't understand. The she began to speak to her daughter and I do not know what she said to her daughter. She kept on talking to her daughter as though she is asking here to do something and suddenly the daughter came by and sat next to me.

Her daughter start to speak to me in english like "where you come from", "where am I going", "Am I on holiday" with of course broken English. I replied but do not know whether she understands. Then she is trying really hard to ask me but I think she do now know how to say it in English. Her mother (I assumed it's here mother) keeps on talking to her in Thai which most parts I do not understand. Then my GF came with her bike. Told both the ladies goodbye and went off... And also, i get that "look" from both of them when my GF came. not only at me but at my GF also.

And of course I explained to my GF what the girl is doing right beside me..

So, what were the 2 ladies (mother and daughter) thinking? I do not know....maybe they are just curious... may be the mother thinks this is an opportunity for her daughter....maybe her daughter thinks I am handsome...maybe they both think that I am they way out to their normal lives.... maybe they are just concerned and wanted to help me out. I don't know. But What I know is that as a foreigner, I attracted attention. I would not have that kind of look or much attention, if I am a Thai...maybe..

I am 33 Male from Singapore (So, I do look like a Thai) and have this relationship with this girl who used to work in a bar in Bangkok. I go to Bangkok for work once in a while. I have been to many bars (mostly the local type, not the one one in Nana, Sukhumvit, ratchadapisek etc) and been with many thai girls before (meaning, paying them to accompany you). Each of them have different backgrounds but most of them are students, so they claimed. All of them are in for the money, but having different objectives. Some are in for the glamour (they drive nice cars and wear branded clothes/handbags) to work, things they can never afford to have working in a normal job. Some are in to pay their tuition fees. Some to support their family.

There are many thai girls who are not from main cities whom a lured to this easy money making opportunity. My GF is one of them. Many of these girls have an unfortunate family background (parents divorced leaving children to relatives, normally because of their father's fault). These girls who come from this background often think that Thai men are bad and with no parents to love and feed them, they become independent. My GF has two younger sisters. She used to work in a factory in Chonburi after high school but found out that it was not enough to pay for her sister's school fees, food etc etc and her grandma who looks after her sisters. So, she decided to go to Bangkok to try out as a Bar girl, her relative who works as a BG brought her in, and that's how I met her.

I always see her whenever I am in Bangkok, no more going after other girls. She is not that super-good-looking, but sweet (naruk) and petite. Whenever we meet, we talked a lot (her english is fairly ok, and may thai is getting a little better everyday) and our relationship grew deeper. whenever I see her, I offer her money, although she insist that I do not pay her because she treats me as her BF, but I told her that the money for her is not for her services but to help her with her burdens. At first i thought "Oh boy.... am I falling into becoming a victim of this "love your for your money only trap" because I have hear a lot of stories about this". After about a year working as a BG, my GF thinks that she can't do it anymore (I am not sure whether this is because of me) but she said she does not like doing it anymore and she got an offer to babysit a baby back home (with a huge pay cut), and in the meantime can take care of her grandmother and sister. She said that the money is good enough for her to pay her expenses. I am not sure whether to believe her story. I also offered to help her financially (not a lot, but just enough for the daily expenses of my GF and her three sisters.

She now lives in Lom Kao, Phetchabun since March. She can't come to Bangkok to see me if I am around because she is babysitting. We keep ourselves updated through SMS almost everyday. I told her that if I come to Bangkok, I am going to meet her in her home (which is a 6-hour bus ride from Bangkok). I wanted to see her reaction because I was wondering whether all the things she had said about her and her family were true, and by asking this question, I am not sure whether I will ever see her again, and also, by asking this question, she would think that I am serious. She replied happily. Now, we are really serious. So, I went to meet her (with so much anxiety - as if I am going there to "meet the parents") at her home in Lom Kao, staying in a hotel in Lom Sak for a few days. Whatever she told me is what I have expected. I too was happy.

However, I have another big challenge. I already have a long term relationship with this girl in Singapore, and now I have a long-distant relationship with this girl from Thailand. My Thai girl already knew about this relationship i have in Singapore, and she even said she does not need all my love, but just a little will keep her happy. So friends, watch out for this soap-opera, and I will try to update it once there is an episode worth telling. in the meantime, please feel free to give your opinions. Whatever I said here is true, you can meet me if you want when I am in Bangkok. But hey, I do need your advice. So, please feel free to message or PM me.

Well, I've gone off-topic but what I am trying to say is we cannot generalize Thai women from what we observe in the entertainment industry, which Thailand is famous for, especially if we are tourists who normally seeks entertainment in Thailand (this is a fact!). We judge them by what we see. But what I know is that generally most thai girls are humble and nice, something that we can not see in our world where we live, even in Singapore. My Thai girl somehow offers me a feeling that my girl in Singapore cannot offer, and please, it is not all about sex!. And what I know is that every girl have their own dreams - whether to live a high society lifestyle, or having just a simple loving family, which many of them are being deprived of.

So, please do not generalize or have any prejudice against any thai, especially the ladies. they may look at you differently but there is definitely a reason why they do so, especially if the couple is a farang/thai or old/young.... Sometimes it's just out of curiosity. It's like something that you cannot miss looking at. I am an Asian and whenever I see an odd couple (meaning couple with different races, old/young, gays etc), it will grab my attention, and of course I will ask questions like "what the hel_l is that attractive looking girl going out with an old man?" or "why is that girl so cheap"... or "how can this happen", or even "look at them....how lovely", or "<deleted>".... Odd things always get into our attention. Like if we men walk pass in front of a lady with big boobs that is being revealed in her sexy clothes, will we not, automatically stare at her breasts? So, what is in these lady minds? How the hel_l do I know, but what I know is that we (the odd ones) are the ones who forced them to look at us and they will have their thoughts, like the big breasted lady wanting out attention.

BTW... i have another encounter with this "what do Thai women think" during my trip to Lom Kao, Phetachabun. Will post it in another reply. Hope this reply does not make you sleepy. Cheers!

CONGRATULATIONS!

I wish you both lovely couple eternal happiness.

Thank you so much, Puschl.

Now i have a clearer picture...

kop koon mak krub!

I am planning to go there in end May. I hope there will be more suggestions on the guests house here in Phetchabun. The Kosit Hill resort seems to be a better choice at the moment.

BTW, my GF lives in Wangban, LomKao. Is it far from Phetchabun town? Are there accomodation in LomKao? My geography on this part of thailand is really really weak, sorry.