Violet Fonce

Hmm….let see

She got preggy before married, and got involved with you while still legally married.

Seems she’s jumping now, because after 14 months with you, she can see you‘re a bigger fish.

Before she didn’t have this option, that’s why she haven’t got around of divorcing him for good.

So….you can’t be sure, she won’t do the same thing to you.

Knowingly being in a relationship with a married woman is a dangerous and stupid thing to do, Thailand or not.

If I were you I would stay away from her or let her sort out her own problem about the divorce, before someone hitting your head with something, or empty your atm box.

Basically, it’s her problem to begin with, so let her take care of it,…don’t get involved.

Btw, here is what I look like incase you see me out on the town and want to buy me a shot of rye.

Hmm…the forehead is a bit too big for me, and I don't like a smoker..I can see a ciggy there

Can't see the bottom half well, for all I know it could look like a butterball.

Also…you do look a bit stuck-up, all-that!!…with the "SP" personality (judging from the pix and posts)……a bit turn off - for me.

Btw…not everyone is poor, and throwing ourselves at any first available farang we see. Many of us do have better pick among our own local boys…..better looking, loving, considerate, caring, not a butterfly, not full of themselves,…similar ages & socioeconomic…..etcs

There are plenty of them, single & available!!!

And

Ooh you would be quite surprised how many of us (both white and darker skin tone…also anything in between)…are much richer than a lot of farangs over here.

So don't flatter yourself too much when in thailand…yeah

Those are also another side of the real Thailand, and want to pass them along

Just in case you don't understand the local language well, and some looks you may be getting.

Well you did ask…about the real Thailand.

Just want to contribute something..

Lady, the guy is joking around.

Dude…chill out…I was just joking about his pix, couldn’t you tell?… (but not the rest of my post tho)

Ofcourse I know that’s not him. In a matter of fact, I haven’t seen any farangs here even come close to “THAT” around "a real thailand".

A specimen like that just don’t normally drop from the sky over Thailand looking for “a pretty woman”, if you get my drift.

Btw, here is what I look like incase you see me out on the town and want to buy me a shot of rye.

Hmm…the forehead is a bit too big for me, and I don’t like a smoker..I can see a ciggy there

Can’t see the bottom half well, for all I know it could look like a butterball.

Also…you do look a bit stuck-up, all-that!!…with the “SP” personality (judging from the pix and posts)……a bit turn off - for me.

Btw…not everyone is poor, and throwing ourselves at any first available farang we see. Many of us do have better pick among our own local boys…..better looking, loving, considerate, caring, not a butterfly, not full of themselves,…similar ages & socioeconomic…..etcs

There are plenty of them, single & available!!!

And

Ooh you would be quite surprised how many of us (both white and darker skin tone…also anything in between)…are much richer than a lot of farangs over here.

So don’t flatter yourself too much when in thailand…yeah

Those are also another side of the real Thailand, and want to pass them along

Just in case you don’t understand the local language well, and some looks you may be getting.

Well you did ask…about the real Thailand.

Just want to contribute something..

indian flute-timbaland & magoo......awwwee very sexy and exotic

Come & Go.......by 50 Cent

Marshall Mathers……. by Eminem

Look Away…… S.P. by Hydrogyn

I Never Talk To Strangers…… by Bette Midler

SORRY......for dbl posted

My mouse is not agreeing w/me lately

Same goes for those kids from a well-to-do family - non-issan - who don’t expect everything to be handed out to them on a silver spoon,…. but would rather study hard, work smartly and make it on their own.

You can get the similar story from both sides, really….nothing new and too surprising. There are many exceptions everywhere.

As long as you don’t pre-judge and get sucked up by many negative stereotyping of the said group milling around. I always try to judge people on his/her own merit, until proven otherwise.

Also…

I firmly believe on investing in “education”…that having education is one of the main keys in solving many problems in life. Even though it can’t guarantee you will be rich, but at least you won’t be too poor…generally

Kudos to your niece as well

Chan Roo ...........Moss - H.J Chocolate

Chan Roo ...........Moss - H.J Chocolate

Just a question for the OP:

Do you see yourself as a “city”, “suburb”, or “rural” person mostly?

For me, I’m definitely always identified myself as a “city person”, and wouldn’t live anywhere else other than Bkk. I love living in Bkk with all the amenities, even if I have to wear a gasmask everyday, and I know my life will be shorten by 5 years….so be it. The tradeoff is well worth it for me.

But of course I can live without women falling off my arms,, but can’t live without shopping malls!!…the more the merrier.

So you need to look a bit deeper within yourself and know/tell us some of your favorite activities you can see yourself doing everyday. Those should help you/us narrowing your field range a bit more.

Unfortunately, women seem to be the rationers of sexual favors, often to the detriment of their own relationships.

I've said the same thing many times. If a woman keeps her man happy in bed then he is unlikely to stray.

Which brings us to that old saying that has proven to be untrue... "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"

To make it true it should read... "Absence makes the heart grow fonder FOR SOMEBODY ELSE!"

ahh..humm....cough cough

I don‘t think all men are like that, only those that are scum to begin with. Me think here.

A lot of men out there, with a gentleman at heart, do have morals and would never hurt their wife/gf feeling by wondering off, no matter how much sex they got or didn't get. And it's called having a respect for the one you love.

Love is about the respect for each other feeling in everything you do and say, and if one can satisfy your partner BOTH emotionally and physically, then he will stick with you and you will stick with him. But unfortunately too many people focus on only one and not the other(s) also….then they bitch about how they neither could find nor experience a true love… love is a sham concept.

Well then Instead of “absent makes your heart grows fonder”, it becomes “out of sight, out of mind” for me and GOOD RIDDANCE!!

I, for one, believe in “you reap what you sow”, and don’t blame someone else entirely for your own unhappiness or downfall, YOU are “a part” of the equation/ problem too.

Just my own little thoughts here

Get the poor people off the road. Stop letting them drive these 10 year old cars. Get them into buses. Singapore has a very good road system to keep the roads clear for the wealthy.

Although that would help pollution and traffic its a pompess selfish comment. maybe you should take the bus

Oii…I don’t want to sit next to him either, plus don‘t think there will be a room big enough for his ego. I will ask the driver to strap him on the top.

Oh “the godfather“, I advice you not shooshoo 2 much hair spray

That "might" be true, but if that were so then would in not also be the case that once the passion for that individual wore off then love is now dead and buried?

What you’re describing is a relationship based on needs, ex physical passion, money, etcs

True love is not only about physical passion, just one element of it,…… but it’s also a mental passion and feeling of emotional fulfillment that what true love is all about….well from my personal belief and experiences anyway.

Well for me true love is when I can see myself talking to that person even tho he’s 80 yrs old and all worn and wrinkled ….AND eventho he may not be able to talk at the time, there always will be ways to communicate and feel our attraction to each other through our eyes and through our smiles.

I’m a very lucky one that I have found my soul mate and yes my love is well received with the same returned by him. I look no farther…we are the same age, similar socio economic background, beliefs, common values, and how we see things the world over…even down to our fighting style LOL

We grew up next door to each other practically, went to the uni in the US together, and have grown and changed together throughout these years. We didn’t really FALL IN LOVE until when we were at the university. Well we might have a little Violet next year or two….will see..hmm

Yes we know each other quite well like 2 peas in a pod, and a very best of friend to each other.

NO-ONE-CAN-COME-BETWEEN-US!!! …X 10 repeats......b/c I'm a one man woman! (you may find this a bit strange in your belief, since I'm a thai..haha)

errr...again NO-ONE-CAN-COME-BETWEEN-US!!! ........Not even YOU

To the OP

I believe that when you truly love someone you could never love someone else “the same and equal“ at the same time… because others just don’t compare, unless the first person is dead/gone forever.

But if he insists it’s love / or wants to hang on to both of them, then he doesn’t really "love" either of them. Basically by wanting both, he loves neither of them enough, and if he’s not careful, “someone/or everyone” will get hurt in the process. If you truly love someone, you wouldn’t want to hurt that person you love in anyway shape or form.

I KNOW the feeling of …what is like to be truly IN LOVE , but seems your friend hasn’t really know its meaning/feeling YET. It’s hard to explain to someone who hasn’t experienced or doesn’t believe that true love exists.

Or may be he’s confused a sex with love, then any number is possible until you are finished/satisfied.

Simple advice…before making the move

You both should have a solid financial plan & backup plan, very strong marriage/commitment to each other, and a lot of street smart commonsense ….to be able to live in those farang ghettos,-----because those places are full of sordid people (both thais & farangs) who will try to tear you both apart….both emotionally and financially.

If you don’t have the solid foundation of the said above, DO-NOT-MAKE-THE MOVE!!!…otherwise you will be writing your own lyrics of heartache , sadness, distress, anguish, despair, despondency, misery, and/or being broke….in a few years or even months to come.

Be very weary of those so called “paradise”, they usually come with hidden prices of the “real” images behind the sun, sea, and beautiful smiles…you will see them soon enough.

Proceed with CAUTIONS

Chokdee and welcome to my country

FRIENDS-FOR-EVER....... by Vitamin C

a graduation song

Do You Remember .. Your Very First Day In Thailand ?, What stands OUT for you .. on that FIRST day ??

Very First Day In Thailand?

Oooh…YES YES I remember!

Of …..having someone feed me, sucking boobs, and being carried to bed.

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Well I was a wee wee baby…….of being just born!

However ALL CAPS IRRITATES ME MORE, including run-on sentences with no comma, or full stop in the right places.

Edit:

Opps...I mean....."or a fullstop in the wrong places"

Spellings and minor grammatical errors don’t matter to me much, as long as the matter is understood. It’s the subject that really matters.

However ALL CAPS IRRITATES ME MORE, including run-on sentences with no comma, or full stop in the right places.

Hmm…may be those that can’t write properly, should be using the pictures or drawings to communicate their thoughts instead….just an idea here.

And

I would assume most of the good writers probably found a better place elsewhere to get advices and feedbacks, so they wouldn‘t be so irritated in what you‘re talking about. Or even if they haven't, after a look through here it doesn't seem like a place they want to put any writing in. That’s why you don’t see them around here that often, I think.

@Ekk: Oh Violet..that was fantastic!

Ahhh….great minds think alike…yeah

@meelousee..."If you want it down then by all means put it down"

You won’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down, for sure

@Gram F

Err…since no one, including you is willing to do the survey of let’s say 100 samples on the average “amount” and “frequency” of each sex, so it’s impossible to draw the different conclusion other than mine!…hehe

Would you leave the fridge door open, if you plan to get your beer 10x/day?

Look….

It's like if we were to open the fridge, we would make sure it gets closed too, not leave it open for someone else to close it. Would you?

Plus if someone drops by your house we don’t want them to see the remnants of what you just did in there! …SO Seat DOWN… looks better, neater, and is much more positively feng shui - very auspicious.

Ok over to you all, once again

Violet Fonce……blip blip

Girls opinion only huh?….well I AM one, post-op that is

So far that I know,…a toilet has 2 basic uses.

Men

Pee pee ….UP

Poo poo….DOWN

Women

Pee pee….DOWN

Poo poo….DOWN

Since 3/4 of "the actions" performed by men and women when the seat is DOWN, ….then why would you “the men” want the seat to be UP…at all times?

Me think the majority should rule

So this is a Non-debate issue….it’s a CLEAR-CUT to me, if you follow the logic

I have thought about it and here is my takes

I don’t mix career with kids.

Sorry I don’t go to the higher education to be staying home …or balancing my dream and babysitting. Call me selfish but that’s what I am, I don’t lie to myself that I can do it all…however I admire those who are making it tho.

I want to be well satisfied with my marriage and self-achievement/accomplishment first (however long it may take), ...before I can raise a little violet and teach her to have a backbone or help her along with her chosen path. I can’t do that well in raising her, if she doesn’t see me succeed in the real world, as an example ( my own opinion here - strictly).

If I am well satisfied with my marriage and career at early 30s, then I will have kid at early 30s. But if I won’t make it until 40s, then I will have kid in the 40s. You will find ways to have them somehow, whenever you’re ready….financially, emotionally, and physically. Having a kid is not like walking in-and-out through 7-11, it will take a great deal of commitment in all 3 (financially, emotionally, and physically), me think here.

I will not bring another life into this world if I can’t even make it myself first …in both marriage and career. I see it this way….if I am not happy with myself, I can’t raise a happy child. Especially I wouldn’t have one, just because I want “a mini me”.

And there are also options of fostering and adopting of course….no problem for me, if those are the only options left at the time.

There are plenty of *women*, but most farangs here are walking around with *girls*…lol

The fact is ….

There's plenty of non-stinky fish in the sea, YES here in Thailand too….. but they all won't come to you, and especially “Good girls” won't fall in your lap easily.

From my observation, many farangs here do not like/or take the time to search for a good thai woman,.. just a hot chick that says ….“I will cook for you, clean for you, tease you, even do laundry if your REAL good. And if you ask, I even ROLL over and lay down…”...ruff... ruff

This is where majority of your problems and the wrong perceptions of the thai women generally come from when the relationship doesn’t work out.

Here in thailand, 90% of “hot chick”..is the party girl, and even thai guys won’t take them home to meet the parents.

Try cooking or dancing classes. You will have higher probability in finding more honest and decent women at these places. Just a common sense here, isn’t it?

You just need to cut the crap of ….. “I got to have you NOW” attitude,

or

Stop believing in the fiction LUCK of “the 2 weeks whirlwind romance prior to the nuptial”….

You can definitely find them. They are everywhere, …but it will take times and your due diligence, just like back in your home country.

Disclaimer:

Don’t look in my way, …even though I’m good and perfect in every ways

Coz I’m not interest in a farang and I already found my Thong-aek.

Just want to share some of my thoughts on the subject, from a thai girl's points of view.

Violet Fonce

To the OP

I think “many women” here in Thailand …”generally”

care more about the glass slippers, than the glass ceiling,...even for the cooperate chics.