PicBuddy

Hope to see an update from Mobi soon as this has been an interesting chain to follow. As mentioned, there's not a whole lot of information to be found on the Internet about "NECK" sweats as opposed to the more common general "night" sweats. I have been looking for months as I have the exact same thing;

Only my neck sweats and it's a lot! Soaks pillows, gotta flip em, etc. Same thing. I sleep with nothing but shorts or nud_e, rarely under blankets fully or at all, AC, ceiling fan and heck, recently I added a direct fan right on my neck which was great but my wife doesn't like that much wind. When we met 3 years ago getting her used to the ceiling fan was tuff enough as they don't use them in Japan.

I'm not really concerned about solving the issue as the sweating doesn't bother either of us other than having to change bedding every day. Also have to bring more water to bed as the sweating makes me wake up thirsty several times a night. I don't think I have diabetes but if I do I don't care to know, but I do have sleep apnea. It can get severe after drinking right before bed, so I cut down on doing that to perhaps two nights a week, less or none at all. Helps cut down on the choking from apnea big time, but I still have the sweaty neck.

The really strange thing about it, is that something in my body is triggering for the neck to start sweating when I sleep, because I can lay down at night or even for a quick nap during the day, start reading a book and as my body starts to go to sleep, even when I am awake, the neck will heat up and start to pour sweat just in the anticipation of sleep. I've had to change a shirt during the day before going somewhere when I didn't actually get to take a nap, my body just thought I was going to.

Will try some cooling talcum powder, but ultimately I'd just like to know what's causing it. I'm a 41 year old male from California and Texas, drink, smoke, just a tad heavy for my age (216lbs for 6" 5' height) yet excercise at least a few hours a week, some of the time much more than that. It seemed when getting a -lot- of excercise like walking 20+ miles a day for a week, both the apnea and sweating went away, but I have not had that much excercise since to be able to double check and see if it really did go away, or if my wife was too deeply asleep to take note of the apnea.... Guess we may have to check again on our next excercise and massive walking vacation...

I think rather than call it a fear of flying, since it's actually a fear of the unknown or more specifically crashing, perhaps saying and doing nothing about it could be best.

If she's afraid of death that's going to be involved in other acts such as high places, trains, the list goes on. Not a simple problem to solve.

Once I personally came to realize that if I die, "so what" I lost my fear of flying. That was well over 30 years ago and now I don't really care about what sounds the plane makes. I don't control fate.

I would guess that her fear is more likely of the "unknown". My best advice is to be supporting, keep her smiling, talk a lot more than normal, tell some jokes, most certainly have some drinks and just explain the plane sounds when they happen, like it's nothing. After a flight or two neither one of you will probably remember that she was ever concerned about it.

This approach worked fine for me when flying with a lady in her early 50s that had never flown ever in her life. I gotta admit, that was fun. I could see how my demeanor and description of the sounds and what to expect, seemed to help immensely.

Good luck.

PicBuddy