jdmill

While many of the westrners looking for an Isaan wife seem to be uncomfortable with gender roles in modern society, they seem to be similarily uncapable of adjusting to Thai values without permanently moaning about what is expected of them.

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AMEN you said a mouthful brother...

JD

I give my Isaan girl a reasonable monthly allowance... more than enough for her and her 2 kids. She recently told me about her Brother getting his girlfriend up the duff, meaning they must marry urgently. Her Mother instructed her to ask me for 30,000 baht to help pay the dowry for him.

My response of 'F@cj 6ff xxx amndk w@@';;.,fsf-e' conveyed the fact that there was no way I was going to bail the stupid &lt;deleted&gt; for not wearing a condom and that it wasn't my problem.

Did I do the right thing?

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I also have married an Isaan lady and can say she is an angel. We have lived here in the USA now for 4 years and my life has never been happier. I also knew when I married her that I also married the family. Yes, I have helped out when some of the family members are in need, but I would do this for any of my family. A major part of Thai Culture and especially Isaan families is those that have in the family help those who do not have. It's your family and if that's the way you deal with it fine, but as for me.. I will always extend the helping hand. There is always help not only for the widows son, but also my family.

JD

I brought my now wife here to the USA with a Fiancee Visa. You muxt apply for it in the USA and once all of the paperwork has been approved and the fee paid they will send a packet to the embassy in Bangkok. Then they will call your lady in for some more paperwork to be filled out. Some pictures. fingerprints, and a medical exam. After that they will call her back for an interview and if all is kosher they will grant the Visa. ( Good for 6 months). You must then bring her to the USA and marry her within 90 days. Married in USA... We were married twice. Once in Thailand ( religous ceremony and once in USA legal ceremony.) Then you have to go through the process of getting her a Green Card. Conditional for the first two years and after that a 10 year Green Card. Fiancee Visa took me 5 months. Applied in April, received in August. Green card applied in September same year received August of following year. Applied now for 10 year card must wait one year to get that. Yes, they are backed up a whole year and you thing Thai immigration takes a long time. Hopes this helps...